Does it get less sexual?

[DailyDi]

So, as an asexual DL, I'm curious. Does wearing diapers become less sexual to you, and more normal or borring? Seems like it would be hard (teehee) to keep it exciting all the time.

[TigerTy]

It definitely does over time, but it becomes more of a normal thing to do and a comfort activity. I probably enjoy it more this way, especially since I don't have any partners.   

[2sail2]

For years I wore pull ups.  I just started wearing diapers once in a while and have  reached a new level of excitement for a couple reasons.   

[Dubious]

Diapers aren't really sexual for me anymore.
I scroll through pictures on tumblr and other sites a few times a week and its nice to watch, but it doesn't really do anything.

Reading stories is completely different, as my fantasy can roam free. 

[Little Sherri]

I would say definitely yes. This "fascination" arose within me long before I was a sexual being; I recall being drawn to diapers and other vestiges of babyhood when I was as young as four or five years old. Indeed, I have practically no memories of those times, EXCEPT for some vague memories relating to wearing diapers, or being around others who wore diapers, which is an indication of the psychological weight that the topic carried for me, even then. So, the love/hate relationship and social anxiety I had over wearing diapers existed in me way before puberty, but, once puberty hit, wearing diapers, and/or fantasizing about wearing them, became a big turn-on for sure. I later repressed that side of me for a really long time - over 20 years - so, diapers were not part of my adolescent or adult sexual experiences with girlfriends or my wife. Once I rediscovered them, though, they became both a turn on, and also a source of deep, contented relaxation for me, but those two aspects of the experience were sometimes in conflict. I wanted to be able to relax and just "be" in diapers sometimes, to enjoy the Zen of it, to truly live life that way, and one isn't relaxed or striving for a long-term experience when one is preoccupied with the lustier aspects of the indulgence. I think part of my mission in going 24/7 was to normalize wearing diapers to the point that it wasn't a turn-on anymore, or at least, not all the time. I have achieved that. It's impossible to be turned-on all the time, but what comes afterwards is perhaps a deeper satisfaction. 

[Little Cub Pants]

6 hours ago, DailyDi said:

So, as an asexual DL, I'm curious. Does wearing diapers become less sexual to you, and more normal or borring? Seems like it would be hard (teehee) to keep it exciting all the time.

I am also an asexual ABDL Mikey. So for me, wearing diapies and liking baby stuff has never been sexual. Like I've said in other forums before, it's really just about being and feeling little and Having Dada change me and then feed me my baba! Being a good baby and playing with toys and talking baby talk. Being super cute so I can get LOTS of snuggles & cuddles & big hugs & kisses!???❤️❤️❤️❤️?????☺️?????????? And having that baby-soft skin I love so much! And most importantly feeling loved and loving others! (My second family)????☺️?????❤️

[oznl]

My nappy-thing was with me long before a sex drive appeared, during it, and now in late middle age, it looks like it will outlive my sex drive.

It can be conflated with sex for sure and in my 20s, 30s and 40s, that was a pretty fun thing to do.  I thought it was a fetish but it wasn't though.

  For me it’s some strange emotional comfort thing. 

I don’t think anybody could practice a sexual fetish 24/7 for years on end…  They could practice a dysphoria though, just saying...

[square_duck]

This is kind of subjective, in that diapers mean something different to different people. When I was younger.. ( MUCH younger) I used to get really.....errrrmmmm.....ummmm... "Aroused" while pinning myself into my makeshift diapers. It used to happen when I started using disposables as well, buuuuuuuuuttt..... Not so much any more, which is actually nice, in a way.... Since being in a state of arousal made pinning/taping much more difficult, and getting a good fit almost impossible! ??

Now it's no issue, no problem....which possibly comes from getting old ?... Or just being so used to wearing when I want.....for the last....what?.....50 years!!!!??

So, it really depends on what "you" like, and what turns you on with regards to diapers...it is all at that kind of personal level.....??

[dlnoir]

Diapers aren't sexual for me anymore. I remember quite well during puberty they used to be to a certain extent but not anymore, getting old.

[Whatsthatsmell]

I’ve got almost 30 years of diaper exp.   it has not for me. 

[rusty pins]

Lots of factors can be at hand here.  Sometimes a person's sex drive is very strong in their teens and 20's when they are young and as they get older it can start to decline a bit due to many different factors.  Age, weight, diabetes, hormone imbalances, low testosterone, many things.

In my case, I have sometimes noticed a slight decline sexually over the years when it comes to wearing diapers, but I think in my case it has to do with the above mentioned factors.  Another thing to think about is how often a person wears.  Those who are 24/7 might get so used to being in them all the time that their sexuality about diapers wanes.  What is there to get excited about anymore when it's just your normal everyday way of life?  For example, I enjoy the very few times I have gone to Disney world over the years and it's always fun and exciting, but if I worked there 40 hours a week full time, I'm sure after a while I would be ready to get out of there the minute I clocked out.

I wear maybe once or twice a week for a few hours early morning when I get up on days I don't have to work and once or twice a month I get the house to myself on a Saturday off and I can wear diapers for most of the day.  Just the fact that I only wear once or twice a week keeps the excitement up, especially when I look at my work schedule and can plan ahead in anticipation of that day off with the house to myself.

[le Hollandais]

On 9/17/2021 at 10:52 AM, DailyDi said:

So, as an asexual DL, I'm curious. Does wearing diapers become less sexual to you, and more normal or borring? Seems like it would be hard (teehee) to keep it exciting all the time.

As I get older, I often wonder about the effects of ageing. I don't get raging erections like I did when I was 20. And putting on a diaper doesn't produce the instant hard-on it once did. But there is still something sexual about wetting and messing a diaper. So I don't think it will ever become normal or boring.

The other aspect that keeps diaper boredom away is that I only wear once in a while, when I have the house to myself for a day or two. 

Edited September 18, 2021 by le Hollandais

[spark]

As I've moved from in-frequent diaper wearing to nearly full-time, there is far less 'thrill' than there was when I was in my 20's.   I don't think that's a bad thing, and I don't worry about diaper boredom because it doesn't really apply anymore.

[Pamperbum_uk]

I'm essentially asexual. But I'm more complicated then that.

When I was in denial about being trans my nappy lover side was very sexual.

When I came to terms with who I was, the sexual dimension started to wear off...

[Rachael-Little]

Mostly for me it has become less so, but it seems lately now that I’m single again it has become a little more sexual 

I’m sure a lot of that goes back to the first real time I bought my first box of pampers when I was just out of HS and had the house to myself. Well yep it was quite exciting and I suspect that kinda imprinted on me 

I also have always liked the forced regression and such while in little mode so that can bring it on too

 Unfortunately  It’s all solo  

[diaperguy85]

i think for me diapers were always more comfort than sexual. yes, seeing a lovely lady in a diaper is a turn on for me, and have (and do) pleasure myself in them, but it seldom was the main focus. it has fluctuated as the years went on, of course, but it has always been more focused on comfort, relaxation and happiness than as something sexual. 

i heard it said best on the love in brief podcast (highly recommend, btw) in an episode where they focused on the diaper lover aspect of ABDL, their guest said it best:

 --when i was younger, diapers were more viagra, and now that i'm older they're more prozac--

to which the other guests whole-heartily agreed! as do i! but for me it does seem to fluctuate depending however i'm feeling. 

[triggernum2]

On 9/17/2021 at 5:22 PM, TigerTy said:

It definitely does over time, but it becomes more of a normal thing to do and a comfort activity. I probably enjoy it more this way, especially since I don't have any partners.   

Exactly right. Nappies used to be a huge turn on for me in my late teens and twenties. 

I'm now mid thirties and it's usually a comfort thing now with just the occasional turn on by wearing. 

Also the amount I wear has decreased alot over time. In my younger days I could of wore 24/7 365. But now it's more of a binge purge cycle. I'm currently on a binge cycle but have not worn over the last 18 months so I was more than ready to dig my stash out a few days ago. The first time was a turn on.???

[Kaliborio]

On 9/18/2021 at 1:52 AM, DailyDi said:

Does wearing diapers become less sexual to you, and more normal or borring?

It did, yeah. I think to an extent, compressing the need to be in diapers 24/7 forced it to express itself through my sexuality. Indulging it removed that and just made it a normal and commonplace part of my life. It's still a bit sexual, but not much.

[gmcchamp99]

I enjoy diapers both non sexually and sexually, I have for years. I haven't noticed a decline in sexual habits or play wants or needs. I do share this with my wife who I also call my mommy and both of us take good advantage of each others sexual needs while wearing diapers. While it doesn't dominate our whole play time we do enjoy diaper play very much.

[ppdude]

On 9/18/2021 at 8:52 AM, rusty pins said:

Lots of factors can be at hand here.  Sometimes a person's sex drive is very strong in their teens and 20's when they are young and as they get older it can start to decline a bit due to many different factors.  Age, weight, diabetes, hormone imbalances, low testosterone, many things.

In my case, I have sometimes noticed a slight decline sexually over the years when it comes to wearing diapers, but I think in my case it has to do with the above mentioned factors.  Another thing to think about is how often a person wears.  Those who are 24/7 might get so used to being in them all the time that their sexuality about diapers wanes.  What is there to get excited about anymore when it's just your normal everyday way of life?  For example, I enjoy the very few times I have gone to Disney world over the years and it's always fun and exciting, but if I worked there 40 hours a week full time, I'm sure after a while I would be ready to get out of there the minute I clocked out.

I wear maybe once or twice a week for a few hours early morning when I get up on days I don't have to work and once or twice a month I get the house to myself on a Saturday off and I can wear diapers for most of the day.  Just the fact that I only wear once or twice a week keeps the excitement up, especially when I look at my work schedule and can plan ahead in anticipation of that day off with the house to myself.

The older I get, the hornier I get. Diapers really never really turned me on, the plastic panties sure do.... They're the love of my life....

 

 

[Snugglebear_69]

I certainly hope it doesn't get less sexual. My Daddy and I love sexual and non-sexual diaper play together. Losing the sexual side would be a big downer, not the e d of the world but certainly less than desirable.

[LilFozzyJ5]

As i hit puberty it did indeed become sexual, probably 50%, and remained 50% comfort, mentally connected to safe etc.

Thinking about it now, the ratio is still the same. I guess its different for all of us and our cirumstances and body can change over time. I dont have the intensity i experienced when i was a teen or twenties, but it is still there.

[rusty pins]

13 hours ago, LilFozzyJ5 said:

As i hit puberty it did indeed become sexual, probably 50%, and remained 50% comfort, mentally connected to safe etc.

I can see that.  My first orgasm when I was 11 going through puberty was in a wet diaper.  If I hadn't already have been hooked on diapers, I sure would have after that!

[LilFozzyJ5]

Yeah that will certainly cement into your brain

[Diapered Butt]

Since I became a diaper wearer out of necessity from having a Stroke and becoming incontinent to both bowel and bladder it was never a sexual thing for me at all. It was something that just happened to me and something I learned to deal with. I later (3 years ago) found out about the Adult Baby Lifestyle and since my Stroke I have been cared for like a child by a caregiver so I was like why not try and have a bit of fun with it. I am treated and cared for like a toddler in most things anyway. My caregiver is a live in CNA who has been with me since the beginning of all this 10 years ago and I hand picked her as she is a certified CNA and also a college friend from way back. There is nothing sexual between us as she is not at all interested in men, but she takes care of me wonderfully, 3 years ago we talked about introducing the Adult baby aspect and slowly added things into my daily life to where it currently is now.  It adds fun to what is basically a medical condition that I have to deal with.