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I'm not sure of this and I understand your feelings of insecurity. Your embarrassment of asking for help or a job could stem from your feelings of being rejected. No likes being rejected but you have to stop thinking it's all you. Maybe the employer wasn't hiring at the time. Maybe the person you ask for help really wasn't available at your time of need. Point is its not you. It took a while for me to come to terms with those same feelings but eventually I did. So what if the employer didn't hire me...their loss cause they missed out on the opportunity of having a great employee. So what if the person I ask to help couldn't. I'll ask someone else. You say your in college. Doesn't the college have guidance counselors? Support groups? If they do check them out. Your ABDL probability plays a significant role in your insecurities and fear of rejection but if you counsel on those two things you might get a better understanding of how to balance this without outing yourself as an ABDL. Point is you don't have to out yourself as an ABDL.

How come nobody here is talking about it? I have never had an acct with Facebook and seeing what's going on lately I'm damn glad I never did. I have some social media like Pinterest and Flipboard. But as far as Twitter, snapchat, Instagram, no freaking way. I have absolutely no use for them. To me they are way to intrusive and ppl are far too willing to offer up so much of their lives to support these institutions that are constantly using that data for their own gains. And now the new thing from Google is they are saving data from users incognito searches and using it for target advertising. So much for incognito. And today we find out that Mark Zuckerberg had all his messages unsended which no Facebook user is able to do. How is that fair to the 2 billion plus that have accts with Facebook? I just dont get it. We need to go back to rotary phones.

It was an interesting read. No one knows for sure if his ABDL is gone for good and as to whether God had any participation in his shift of mindset. He writes of how this kink consumed him and how it has held him back from becoming more in life and I believe he speaks the truth and I feel many here, including myself can relate to it. I will never and I mean never question his faith in God, but i have to ask myself was this a form of reverse psychology, you know give him what he desires and once he had those desires fulfilled he is no longer a prisoner to those intrusive thoughts and somehow he is slowly being transformed to normalcy. I wonder if there was some form of subconscious trigger that had a play in it. Consciously none of us had made the decision to become ABDL. Just my thoughts.

I'm 52 years old and I don't see myself in a nursing home or needing a caretaker. Longevity runs in my family and none of my elders were ever in a nursing home and they all lived to be in their late 80s to mid 90s and still had all their faculties except my grandfather on my father's side died of Alzheimer's at 86. So will I ever grow out of this? Don't know, but if I end up being the unfortunate family member that needs round the clock care then I hope I'm like my grandfather and diagnosed with Alzheimer's, this way I won't know or have a care what happens to me. Watching my grandfather in the end....he seemed really peaceful.

Relaxing

Good for you. Give yourself a high five. As far as the work situation goes remember some things are just out of your control. Everybody has a bad day at work. Take it day by day and always think positive it will get better.

I'm agree with Bettypooh. Physical activity or movement goes a very long way. I'm not one to get depressed but I do have my moments of getting down and out. My cure is a walk. A nice long, quiet walk. I don't know where you live but if you live close to a wooded area or a place near a waterway or both I implore you to motivate yourself and take advantage of it. A quiet walk in the woods with a slight breeze rustling through the leaves will do you wonders. Better yet if you walk along a stream and listen to the water gently flowing can be so calming. I know it works for me. But I also know the longer I sit around and wallow in my own self pity the longer it takes for me to snap out of it.

Bingo! Well said. Life sucked when I was younger. Even though I've excepted this kink there's still a very large part of me that wants it out of my life.

MarkSmith that's a great way, but how do you explain your pink diapers and sissy outfits. No matter how careful one thinks they are kids snoop and sooner or later we all drop our guards. Being discovered wearing a diaper by your kids or your kids discovering your diapers is one thing and easy to explain away as having a medical need for them......but pink sissy looking diapers? Well thats a conversation I like to be a fly on the wall for. My kid might know but I've never told. My kid was raised to respect ones personal space and has always done that. My kid is now 23 and still lives at home but if the topic ever came up (which I seriously doubt it ever would) I would kindly ask to drop the subject and knowing the respectful child I my wife and I raised the subject would be dropped. End of discussion. My kid can draw their on conclusions.

No but remember to throw the used one's away. Btw they are kinda neat looking. Something I'd like to see in an adult pull up.

C'mon post the link.

I answered yes. If it was possible, this kink of being a DL would be out of my life in a heartbeat especially if I could go back to the beginning when it all started. Here's how I coped with being a DL. Growing up in the 70s and 80s was a very trying time. It was before the internet and social media and no understanding whatsoever of why I was afflicted with the want and desire to wear diapers like a baby. This had made my life miserable. I was withdrawn, made me socially awkward and a recluse. I had no friends and I had no desires to have any for fear of them finding out my secret. As far as girlfriends that was not even a thought. Other boys my age were dating and I was hiding in the woods longing to never be found. I just wanted to disappear from everyone. The sneaking of buying, stealing and stashing diapers was just another stone on the pile of my life, a stone that added even more weight that held me down from being something more. Being a DL basically disabled me as a chlid and adolescent. It was something I had no control over. It wasn't the embarrassment it was more the fear of being found out that disabled me socially. I was already being bullied relentlessly in school, which started in grade school and continued til I turned 18 when signed my own papers to quit. I'm not saying that was the smartest move I made but I will say I became much happier afterwards. I no longer had to deal with the bullies and that was one place that my fears of being discovered was gone for good. After leaving high school I put all my focus into doing what I loved best and that was working, and I worked. There isn't one employer in my past that could give me a bad reference. This made me feel good about myself. Although diapers were still part of my life I wasn't living in as much fear of being discovered. I had for the first time in my life some sort of purpose. I eventually went back to school and earned my GED then made the best decision of my life. At 20 yrs old I joined the military. Although diapers followed me through the military but for the first time in my life I had structure and learned to be sociable and how to properly balance my life. I was truly happy for the first time and it felt so good. I served 3 yrs active and 5 yrs reserve. I was an outstanding soldier. And expert shot, highly decorated, received my rank in half the time that most took to get theirs, and was highly respected by my ranking NCOs and commanding officers. Today I could take it or leave it. I am no longer consumed by the intrusive thoughts of wanting to wear or why I want to wear a diaper. I don't wear everyday and I have no desire to. Sometimes the mood just strikes me.

LMFAO Elfy! Well said. I'll be checking the internet news over the summer I'm sure there will be a headline somewhere.

Nothing here. Don't have any of the above mentioned diagnosed disorders. I don't have ADHD but I multitask like you wouldn't believe. I have an excellent memory. My boss can rattle off 6 or more tasks that need to be done and I'll accomplish them in a very timely manner, usually with time to spare. I very, very, very, seldom have to write things down. I'm a very happy individual who's happily married for almost 21 yrs, got a good kid, a great job, great friends, bosses and coworkers. I am financially stable with retirement, and pension when the time comes. I own 2 homes 1800 miles apart and I balance my life very well seeing I'm working in one state and my wife works in another state. Oh did I mention that I smoke like a chimney and drink like a fish? Just had a complete work up over the winter and my chloresteral is a little high, nothing to be concerned about though. Organs are all fine and I feel fucking awesome, physically and mentally for being 52.

Oh yeah, there's a fucking burn you'll never forget....lmfao! Desitine works fine for me and some air. Depending on my severity mine is usually gone withina day. But if it's at a spot where leakguards or leg gathers rub then I would forgo the diaper for the rest of the day or else your just going to irritate even more.

I personally hated diaper doublers. Got no use for them. The ABDL diapers out are just fine for my needs and wants.

Try going back 20 yrs when there were no options.

Yeah I'd line to try the new Cuddlz line of diapers but there ain't no way I'm paying that shipping cost. I would also like to purchase a couple of onsies from there but that's out too.

I got the large duck diaper pins too. I also bought the contour diaper but I have a hell of time getting the pins through the cloth. I even sharpened the points and still can't get them through without a struggle, and I mean a struggle to the point where my thumb cramps up. I washed and dried the diaper several times too. Is there something I'm doing wrong?

Just got an email from ABU. My order has shipped. I ordered on the 29th of January knowing they wouldn't ship to after February 6. I chose ABU economy shipping which was only $8.00 but was surprised that they are being shipped thru FedEx. Still 7 to 10 days wait but no big deal. Like Rob110, I always leave a buffer zone.

Tape up for me cuz pull ups suck period.

Yeah 6 to 7 days for my order also. But if you looked at the shipping options standard shipping is USPS. Not UPS. If you want faster shipping your gonna pay as the rates for FedEx and UPS have increased. If your selecting USPS you just have to order sooner. I don't mind waiting as their products never disappoint.

Tykables needs to back off. They need to find their own way in the ADL world. Maybe it's just me but I honestly think this guy who runs tykables has made a laughing stock out of this community by his blatantly opening a shop in the suburbs of Chicago and openly advertising it like it'll get a new customer base. We as a community were hardly known to begin with but I feel that those who read and seen the live broadcast of his little adventure did us more harm than good, as with anyone trying to get exposure for being ABDL. I can't imagine his business doing so well just cuz of the fact that that those who would have been willing and wanting to go there wouldn't for fear of exposure themselves. To me he's just a selfish individual who has no regards for the community as a whole. On the other hand Casey has put a lot of hard work and effort to bring a failing company back from the brink and has catered to us,as a community and he deserves just credit. ABU will always have my business and I carry a great deal of respect for Casey and the company as a whole.

Yeah you won't be disappointed with BabyPants. Get the My First Trainers. Super thick and absolutely comfortable. Please check out the sizing chart. Assuming shrinkage I ordered the 2xl figuring it would shrink to my size like their onsies but I really should have ordered the xl. After several washings they are still too big. I only use them to lounge around in anyway but would like them to be,a little more snug. I plan on ordering 2 more pair in the near future, proper sizing mind you.

Nobody can use the word Pampers, Luvs, Or Huggies for Ian infant diaper line. What the hell do you think Proctor and Gamble and Kimberly Clark did? Even Depends is a trademark. ABU was first to produce a space themed adult diaper and they were fucking smart enough to cover their asses so no one else could infringe on it. That is ABU's argument here. In the business world it's called copywriting, patenting, and trademarketing. And here's another thought. The guy who runs tykables has been all over sites like this and has seen read what interest we as a community have in certain diapers. Why didn't he come up with his own concept? Cuz he probably saw the sales ABU and the feedback from those who use the product and figured " what the hell".To me he's too stupid to come up with his own concept so he'll borrow from those who were. What about the hook and loop fasteners on his current diapers. Bambino was the first. To me he's just living vicariously through the hard work of others. He will never get my business.