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I have been wearing adequate night time protection for several years now, improving on the absorbency of it after my last prostrate surgery left me voiding heavily through the night. My daytime dribbles have gotten much better after that procedure, but I do need to be looking for a toilet on a regular basis throughout the day, as once my bladder gets full and I recognize the slight indicators of that, it is time for a sit down. Back to my topic, I was having a nice talk with my wife the other night, following some married activities, and discussing her reluctance to allow the more serious activities that we used to have, because she was concerned she would lose her bladder if I got to frisky with her. I tried to explain that we could use precautions to keep our bed dry, but she insisted that if she lost control, the sudden flow would be hard to contain. Following that, I asked why she was using only heavy pads at night instead of some more absorbent protection like I have, and she said she did not want to give up her little control at night, even as she always tells me she is so tired in the morning. I pointed out that her getting up at the slightest urge to go is likely the cause as she can't be sleeping soundly under these conditions. I also pointed out that I faced the same thoughts after my last surgery, until I upgraded my protection, giving me peace of mind that our bed would not get wet, and I started sleeping better than ever after that. Well, she still insisted that she did not want to give up her control over night, and I told her that she was no different than me, and since I was well padded over nights, she may as well be too? Not sure where this will end up at but we did have a good conversation about our feelings with regard to our leaky bladders, and I hope eventually she understands that a good nights sleep is well worth waking up to a soggy diaper, but a dry bed

Age is certainly an issue, but there are underlying conditions in almost every case. This case almost demands the oversight of a qualified urologist. While I suffered some of these same symptoms but much latter in life, I have mitigating circumstances as well, considering my diabetes along with my once very enlarged prostrate, which has been resolved now through surgery. Of course one has to wear adequate protection especially during travel as I learned the hard way as well, but still you have to get in touch with a specialist to ensure everything that can be done will be done-I have witnessed several of my relatives suffer because they did not take care of these problems earlier, and losing a bladder or all continence is not the better choice!

I can see play dates coming up

I think it would have been better if she had been told to bring a zip lock bag to work with her, and use it to bring her wet panty's home with her as proof of what she did. It would have been too easy to simply take off her panty's use the potty, and toss them into the trash at work?

I really enjoy reading about a powerful woman and her control of her man. In this case, what she wants now from her man. I expect there will be some serious changes coming up, not only in how he is dressed. but in how his controlling wife manages their love life? Can't wait to read how this will transpire!

That would be the acid test for any diaper, and I have had several issues of same with only a pad on-not much help for that. The problem for me, is that I never know when this may happen, and I only wear diapers for my night time issues, which have never involved diarrhea/

It seems that our dear wife is about to become a mommy?

I have some recollection of my early days and the cloth diapers my mother used, but they are vague, maybe remembering my brothers and sisters use since I was the oldest. Fast forward about 50 years, and with a bunch of prostrate meds, and the onset of pre diabetes, I started to develop OAB and stress symptoms, and finally dribbling, prior to and after urination. After my first prostrate surgery, these conditions worsened, and after an afternoon of drinking and BBQ festivities, I had my first bed wetting occasion. Of course this was reported to my urologist so my medical file was updated, and I was down the path of multiple drugs to alleviate these issues, none of which really helped a lot but lead to other side effects After a second more serious prostrate surgery, I was forced to use much better diapers at night, and that led me to where I am now, diapers every night. My wife tells me that I can get back to something less, but I tell her that when I do, I never sleep well, as I have to wake every time I feel the slightest bladder twitch and as a result, have a poor night of sleep as opposed to being well padded and sleep the entire night. So to the point of this forum, do I love my diapers? What I can say is that I love a good nights sleep, and if that takes diapers, than it goes without saying that I love to be a bedwetter

Prior to my retirement, while still traveling a lot for business, I always stayed in similar hotels where I had a good track record and profile and I always took precautions with me to protect my bed and room. I always had a mattress or bed pad I put under me prior to getting into bed, and I would always leave it in the bed if I was staying another night. The staff as mentioned had my profile, and always made up the bed with this nicely in place. I always had an extra good diaper cover on when I retired for the night, and it never failed me- if staying over again, I would often rinse it out and hang it to dry in the bathroom. On occasion, I would find it folded on my return, lying on the foot of my bed or on top of my suite case waiting for me again. I always had extra plastic bags with me to seal my used diapers up in the morning, prior to leaving them in the rooms trash container, and they were always gone that evening when I would return. My diapers were typically well used as well, but very seldom messy, but if they were, these were double bagged and taken out of my room by me in the morning, to a bin away from my hotel. The point, you can need diapers at night, but you can also be an adult about taken care of hour hosts bed and sleeping quarters!

Very well written and what an understanding mom! After residing in Calif on the coast most of a couple years some time back, I understand exactly what June Gloom is and this author depicts it perfectly, bringing back old memory's to me

I for one, really enjoy stories where the wife is the controlling one in the relationship. In this case, she is also the realistic one so the story hits close to home as well, very realistic!

Interesting post above, and I can verify the facts of that as my first wet bed was with the help of an evening of drinking, maybe one or two to many. In any case, that may have pushed me over the cliff, but I was already diagnosed with OAB and starting to dribble during the day due to prostrate issues, so this may have been the straw that broke the camels back as they say on that fateful night. Since that point, I have been wearing protection of various degrees to bed every night, to satisfy my wife. I have had a few minor leaks since, adjusting my level of protection a bit as a result up until my last, and most aggressive prostrate surgery, where the majority of it was removed using laser. After that, my night time protection increased to full time diapers, initially cloth with boosters to manage the night, as I had no control of my urine during the night as I slept, and in the day, I had short notice to find a potty, or flood my daytime pads. After about 6 mos, my day time issues got better, but night was still the same, if I wanted to get any sleep that is. These days, I still have a drink or maybe two at dinner or in the evening, so that I can sleep well through the night, but every morning I wake with very wet diapers, but a dry bed due to the level of protection I have adopted to keep my wife happy.

As someone who has had a couple of prostrate procedures done now, I can attest to the lack of continence following the procedures. In the first procedure, the REZUME that I had done, a smaller portion of my prostrate was removed, and the incontinence was mild, lasting only a few days. The second more recent and more radical procedure removing most of my prostrate was a Green light laser, very similar to a TURP, and the incontinence lasted months, with the night time wetting continuing more than a year latter, and I expect lasting rest of my life. I should add that I am an old fart, well through my 7th decade, so that may be part of this issue as well!

For the past several months, I have been using up all my older products that were tried, and failed to give me enough protection, as boosters in my overnight diaper. Its amazing how much these thin pullups add to my diaper package capacity. I also use my day pad if not too wet, so I sometimes have a package of pullup, pad, and Tena super under my urethane diaper cover. Some mornings this diaper seems like it weighs 8 lbs, but that would be about a gallon of wee, and even on worst nights, doubt that could happen.

During the day, its pads inside my panties. If traveling, its a good pullup sometimes with a PUL cover over it. At night when home, I use a heavy diaper package with urethane bloomer covering it for protection even on the wettest nights. When traveling, I use an overnight pullup with a good PUL cover over it and force myself to get up several times at night to avoid heavy wetting.