deewet

The remedy to this seems so simple, just wear a good, long lasting diaper under a nice full skirt. Not hard to find these days, and it solves all these problems. Maybe have to get a larger purse as well to carry changing supplies, but not a problem for a 30's something gal these days?

I mentioned above the need to have enough protection on overnight to not worry- I didn't explain why my needs changed quickly a while ago. I will say now that I have had occasional bedwetting issues for years now, but that changed almost 2 years ago now when I had most of my prostrate removed during surgery to increase my flow, and more important reduce my PSA values What it did was put me into day time diapers for about 6mos and change my nighttime issues form occasional to expected and from a light wetter to a heavy wetter, several times nightly. While my day time issues have gotten much better, and I have gained back bladder capacity, this full bladder capacity does not translate to night time control, as when sleeping, I don't get the same indications I do during the day, so when my bladder empty's, its a larger volume to manage. Earlier this summer, I had some back issues, and had to sleep in a recliner overnight. I was able to wear overnight pullups as I was up multiple times due to soreness and had to stretch, so could use the bathroom as well. My wife thought that this was a sign that I could continue with this level of protection when returning to bed, but I had to explain that would not work unless I was up several times overnight like when I was on the recliner. Bottom line, if I want to get a good nights sleep without disruption, it is vital that I prepare for sleep with adequate protection, or my bed will be wet for sure in the morning. If not securely protected, I will not be well rested as will be awaken and up several times overnight. Simple choice, sleep well with good protection, or have a restless night with plans to be up several times, no sound sleeping at all!

Agreed with wnw-- I wear cloth diapers overnight and I pick a pair of PUL diaper cover that is very snug to keep diaper in place. Some time back I added a bloomer style urethane pant as insurance as I had a small leak once due to a heavy wetting, and wife was not happy. Insurance was well worth it as no matter how wet I get, I can rest assured the bed stays dry!

I would guess that sitting in a dirty diaper for a good while does more to convince Lucy to listen to and follow the example of grandma than anything else that grandma could do to her! Nothing like stewing in your own waste to put things into perspective and bring one down a few notches and to accept the care of another that has control over when you get changed.

One of the key points made above is that once you feel adequately protected at night, your hesitancy to wet disappears quickly. After my last surgery on my prostrate, I had little control of my wetting, and learned how to add plenty of protection when getting into bed, as my wife really hatted any wet spots in our bed. I found that a good diaper cover to hold things in place is one thing, but even more important is a larger diaper cover over that to insure that any top or side leaks are contained. This works as well on disposables that do not do well with side wetting, and the reusable cloth diapers, that on occasion do not get layered enough for a really wet night. The last thing learned after a minor leak at the top of my package from rolling around in bed after being very wet, was that a bloomer style pant is the best as it is very high waisted, and long leg so even with a lot of movement, nothing escapes its borders! Learn what works for you and sleep well after!

Davoli said it well, but I want to clarify a bit. If you wear a diaper to bed because you may have an accident, and most of the time you wet when you wake but before you get up, are you still a bedwetter? I have had accidents in the past, and my medical file says I am a bedwetter but many days I am awake when I wet in the morning, but I am still what I am, a bedwetter!

Thanks for the note, notes, I understand your thoughts! I have already done this, as I use these overnight pull ups when we travel, and try to get up in the night to use the bathroom to be safe. I offered these originally to my wife as well, and they are available in the bedroom if needed. See still see's these as "diapers" even as I point out the differences to what I use on regular basis. Eventually I would expect her to come over to my logic, but she has to do it in her own time, as she is a very independent woman, and I can't change that, and wouldn't want to.

Over time, I have come to understand that if you are wearing diapers to bed (for the right reasons) you should not take half measures. I have learned that it is not good for a night of uninterrupted sleep to go to bed with any thing other than what is sure to contain what ever you put into it. As I moved from occasional night wetting to expecting to be wet in the mornings, I also started to anticipate more than one wetting each night, and after upgrading my protection to something that will allow for that with no concern for leaking, my sleep improved tremendously. These days when I prepare for sleep, I use enough layers to do the job overnight, and enough insurance covers over that to insure no leaking, so sleep "like a baby" as they say with no concerns about my diapers doing their job, and a happy wife in the morning!

Why is this in the completed story section when it is clearly not?

I have been wearing adequate night time protection for several years now, improving on the absorbency of it after my last prostrate surgery left me voiding heavily through the night. My daytime dribbles have gotten much better after that procedure, but I do need to be looking for a toilet on a regular basis throughout the day, as once my bladder gets full and I recognize the slight indicators of that, it is time for a sit down. Back to my topic, I was having a nice talk with my wife the other night, following some married activities, and discussing her reluctance to allow the more serious activities that we used to have, because she was concerned she would lose her bladder if I got to frisky with her. I tried to explain that we could use precautions to keep our bed dry, but she insisted that if she lost control, the sudden flow would be hard to contain. Following that, I asked why she was using only heavy pads at night instead of some more absorbent protection like I have, and she said she did not want to give up her little control at night, even as she always tells me she is so tired in the morning. I pointed out that her getting up at the slightest urge to go is likely the cause as she can't be sleeping soundly under these conditions. I also pointed out that I faced the same thoughts after my last surgery, until I upgraded my protection, giving me peace of mind that our bed would not get wet, and I started sleeping better than ever after that. Well, she still insisted that she did not want to give up her control over night, and I told her that she was no different than me, and since I was well padded over nights, she may as well be too? Not sure where this will end up at but we did have a good conversation about our feelings with regard to our leaky bladders, and I hope eventually she understands that a good nights sleep is well worth waking up to a soggy diaper, but a dry bed

Age is certainly an issue, but there are underlying conditions in almost every case. This case almost demands the oversight of a qualified urologist. While I suffered some of these same symptoms but much latter in life, I have mitigating circumstances as well, considering my diabetes along with my once very enlarged prostrate, which has been resolved now through surgery. Of course one has to wear adequate protection especially during travel as I learned the hard way as well, but still you have to get in touch with a specialist to ensure everything that can be done will be done-I have witnessed several of my relatives suffer because they did not take care of these problems earlier, and losing a bladder or all continence is not the better choice!

I can see play dates coming up

I think it would have been better if she had been told to bring a zip lock bag to work with her, and use it to bring her wet panty's home with her as proof of what she did. It would have been too easy to simply take off her panty's use the potty, and toss them into the trash at work?

I really enjoy reading about a powerful woman and her control of her man. In this case, what she wants now from her man. I expect there will be some serious changes coming up, not only in how he is dressed. but in how his controlling wife manages their love life? Can't wait to read how this will transpire!

That would be the acid test for any diaper, and I have had several issues of same with only a pad on-not much help for that. The problem for me, is that I never know when this may happen, and I only wear diapers for my night time issues, which have never involved diarrhea/