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As I wear support hose for poor leg circulation except on very hot days, I learned many years ago that typical men's underwear do not work well with these support hose- the extra fabric in the front to create the fly is not comfortable under compression. My wife suggested woman's full fit nylon panties 40 some years ago, and I have not changed from that since. Only panties in my drawer now. What has happened is that my only white or beige choices are now more pastel. Earlier this year I had a major prostrate reduction surgery and was wearing diapers during the day for about 2 months, but now I am back to thick pads in my panties during the day, and diapers only at night.

Since my prostrate reduction surgery early this year, I have had a difficult time getting up to pee at night, even as my day time accidents have been resolved after a couple months. While I can manage to stay dry during the day now, I still wear heavy pads just in case I an not close to a potty when the need arrives. At night, not the case as if I am sleeping soundly, I will be wetting before I can get out of bed so it is adequate protection to avoid a wet bed. After a month of this, I looked at the price of the night time disposables I was using and made the decision to switch to cloth reusables and now don't even try to get to bathroom at night as it is too difficult to get my diapers back on properly when half asleep. What I have found is that as I have gotten used to simply using my diapers at night, I am waking less often, getting back to sleep quickly even when I do, and waking up the next morning much more rested that I can remember for some time. Wet yes, bed dry, and well rested!

Loads of good info here, but I will add my thoughts as well I have found that the overnight prefold diapers require a long dry cycle to get dried completely, so I have started to use the large flat diapers, with several good boosters overnight, these dry in just over half the time and can be layered as needed. I also found that the PUL diaper covers do not work as well over cloth as others do, as they tend to allow more odor to escape and after 5-6 hours, can start to get damp-some of my day time active wear pants I use to help hold the diaper at night, but still use a good extended length vinyl cover to keep my bedding dry and smelling clean I have not had good luck with the "snappy" fasteners, as they tend to fall off in the night, and I found that they were damaging my cloth. I also tried the large adult pins but find they are not sharp enough for most of my diapers- I use some good quality std size pins as they are sharp and strong and work as expected.

I have adopted an interesting process for my cloth overnight diapers. Every morning I take off my typically soaked diaper in the shower, and leave it there while I shampoo my hair and wash myself. I ring out these diapers after the shower (no urine smell) and keep them in a dry covered pail until it is filled, 3-4 days. I wash in a hot 60C cycle with regular HE detergent, and add an additional rinse, as well as laundry sanitizer for the last step (started the sanitizer after noticing a bit of smell after drying) I dry only my diapers(diaper covers are air dried) in my gas fired cloths dryer on hot cycle. Several points of interest very important to have washer at least 1/2 full the use of a good laundry sanitizer is the trick to eliminate any lingering odor I never use any oxy with wash if diaper covers are in it, but if washed separately, use it to control stains

I have been going to a urologist for decades now and early this year, was advised to do a laser reduction of my prostrate due to increased PSA values and other issues. He told me after the procedure, that he had to remove much more of it than anticipated Long story shortened, it left me with a situation requiring daily good protection for about three months, and a night time wetting problem far worse than I ever had, that has me now in cloth diapers nightly to avoid leaks, and a slow recovery of feelings of going at night, something my wife tells me is related to my use of these thick diapers at night, rather that the effects of removing most of my prostrate? Well, my PSA numbers are the lowest I have ever seen, I am able to get by with heavy day time pads, but am certainly a certified bed wetter as opposed to occasional, but it could be worse, as this cancer in males is nothing to mess around with!!

My wife thinks that I should switch back to pullups at night so that I can get to the bathroom to pee if I wake up with that needing to go feeling. Even while I do use this method when traveling, I explained to her that as a result I have a poor nights sleep as am constantly waking up with the slightest urge to go, and typically make multiple trips into the bathroom to keep my pullup dry. ( I did get some really good overnight ones, but just recently as we are going on a cruise early next year and plan to use them for that) When I pin my cloth diapers on for a night, I do not plan to go into a bathroom as they are too difficult to get off and back on properly, so I just roll over and wet if I wake with that feeling, not always the case when diapered as mentioned I sleep much better and deeper when diapered. My wife doesn't understand this exactly, as she is also up several times for the bathroom, and always complains about how poor she sleeps. I should add that I have had a CPAP system for decades now, and my doctor tells me that the best thing for me is a good sound nights sleep, so that is why she has little to argue about me using diapers at night. At some point, I hope she understands that maybe that would be the best thing for her as well??

After switching to cloth at night, about 6-7 months ago, I was not concerned about a rash as never had one using disposables. Within a few weeks, that changed when I started to wake up with a bit of an issue. I started to use a good strong diaper rash cream and soon forgot about this problem. Fast forward to now, I seldom use this rash cream as my skin seems to have gotten used to wet night time diapers. When I wake up, always in a wet, sometimes soaked diaper, I go into my office and do computer time for an hour or so prior to doing my bathroom routine, which involves my daily shower and rinsing out my night time protection in the shower before it goes into my pail prior to laundry. Point is, as advised by a friend of mine, who has been using diapers a lot longer than I have, he said that "your skin will become accustomed to being in this wet environment, but avoid staying in a messy diaper for long, and continue to drink a lot of water even in the evening to keep your urine from getting concentrated." Wise words!!

I would think that now that she knows how much better she can sleep with protection on, that she will also realize that the small leak she experienced was because she needs something better than the goodnight and will actually accept that and go shopping for the appropriate night time diapers for her.

I have had two medical procedures in past month, and in each case was very open with nurses, not to mention my medical charts with these locations clearly list my incontinence. In first case of MRI, I wore a thick pullup to appointment and nurse insured that I got into the bathroom prior to and immediately after the process, not to mention the extra pad under me going into the machine. This last procedure, my colonoscopy involved removal of my pullup, but also a quick trip to potty prior to and after the process with another chux under me through the procedure. In every case, I advised the nurse attending that I would probably dribble during the procedure, and they assured me that was very common anymore, and not to worry as I was covered from harming any equipment in any case.

I switched to cloth diapers about 8 mos ago and don't worry much about leaks anymore as the cloth is so much better at wicking moisture up than the disposables I have used. My only concern is getting enough diaper on in the evening to avoid getting completely saturated, which than can leak if the plastic pants are not perfect in the legs and waist.

My first knee surgery was done with a catheter in and only removed after the first day in bed, when I could get up again to use the bathroom. It took me several days to recover from the catheter and I was not happy about that. I had my second knee done about a year latter and specified that I did not want a catheter used again because of problems I had in past, that I was fine with diapers, and that is what I got, even as they were not very good ones but the nurses got me changed as soon as I wet even a bit. Once I was able to get up and around again, the nurses made sure that I had a bathroom trip first thing out of bed and last thing before going back into bed. Much better experience than first time around!

Had to do a MRI earlier this month and as a precaution, wore a heavy duty pull up which I told the nurse about when I arrived. Of course she had seen my medical chart which listed IC on it as well as my other problems so she was prepared with a chux for the MRI table. When getting undressed, she told me to leave my pants on less my belt and anything in my pockets, so I told her the chux was not necessary as I had no other pants to wear home if they got peed on but still was concerned and was wanting me to lie on it in any case. Not sure why she wanted me to keep my pants on as I had on a hospital gown as well? As a precaution, she had me in the potty just prior to going to the test room, and as I was coming off the table at the end, same thing. Even as it went over an hour, all these precautions kept my pull up dry, and she gave me a thumbs up for a "job well done" at the end. I have to admit, I was really ready for the toilet when I came out of the test, glad it didn't go 15 min more or I may not have gotten the complement at the end!

I found out a couple of weeks ago that your diaper covers are really important if you need to keep your bedding dry. As mentioned prior, I have gone to cloth overnight diapers earlier this year, and have been using some heavy duty covers that I have had for some time. Unfortunately they don't last forever, and even as the plastic hasn't cracked, the elastic will wear out and as a result, you will get a wet bed if sleeping on your side IE; replace these as needed and avoid the wrath of an unhappy wife washing bedding. There are some great choices now with the urethane covers and the longer leg higher waist versions of plastic and they are not that expensive when considering the peace of mind and happy wife cost!

Last night I had a bad leak, probably while sleeping on my side. I was in one of my pre-fold overnight cloth diapers with a PUL cover on, but I find that these covers tend to move down during the night, probably what happened allowing the leak. Wife was not happy this morning washing the bedding, and I got the lecture about not having any alcohol at night, only had a couple drinks prior to dinner? In any event, I dug out my leakmaster high waist plastic covers again, telling her that I will wear these again as they are much higher in the waist, even as they are noisy and a fair bit warmer. As this was my first major leak in several years, I thought that the cloth diapers made the difference, but now believe it is a proper waterproof pantie that is the answer.

Wow, I hope this info doesn't get too public or there will be a few guys sent there by their spiteful wives for punishment I suspect?