rubbersheetmike

That's a very sad and alarming story. I wonder though whether the basic problem is that fetishes like this are being treated like an illness. Im not fan of psychiatry and have seen a few of them starting in my mid teens. I think they have a tendency to psychiatrize (if thats a word) issues that are simply variations on normal human behavior. Fetishes are normal human behavior as about half of all adult males are believed to have a fetish of some sort. Are these illnesses then? I think the story suggests that the persons psychological needs werent being met particularly within his relationship and I think counselling should have included his wife and looked for ways his fetish could be accommodated. The idea of "curing" fetishes seems ridiculous to me. Ive sometimes felt over the years that Id like to ditch my fetishes as it would make life easier but even when Ive taken "breaks" Ive always returned to them. No amount of medication has changed that. I remember reading a story several years ago in a medical advice column where a woman wrote that she couldnt stop urinating during intercourse and felt this prevented her from having a healthy and meaningful relationship. The doctor who responded was amazing saying there was nothing wrong with urinating during intercourse provided it wasnt due to a medical problem and he told her to seek a partner or partners who shared similar interests. He told her to make it part of her sex life instead of viewing it as a problem. I thought it was great advice.

I wonder if its this excitement that contributes to our fetish? I remember being horrified when waking up wet when I was young and feeling too embarassed to tell my mom I wet the bed again. But as I got older and my bedwetting started to combine with other needs I couldnt disconnect the two. My accidents slowed to a trickle by the time I reached mid puberty but I kept the rubber sheet on my bed until I was 17. And then in my mid 40s I had to start to use mattress protection again.

It started again out of the blue. Of course I quickly identified the stressors that were leading to it that the same ones that affected me when I was in my late teens and early 20s and especially partying. I also have a muscle condition that apparently affects the bladder sphincter and as I got older my bladder control became weaker leading to urge IC although at first this mainly affected me in the daytime.

When I started to wet the bed again in my 50s after being mainly dry for almost three decades the 'not being able to trust yourself at night' thing became a big psychological hurdle for me to overcome. Now I don't really think about it except that if I'm away from home I always make sure I'm wearing a good overnight diaper. At home I know my mattress is well protected one way or the other.

Nice pic. A good wetting soaks the bed from my knees to my pillow.

Keeping it hidden was an issue for lots of us. I wouldn't allow any friends into my room for most of my school years. And my mom sometimes hung the wet sheets out on the clothesline to dry when the weather was nice. Everybody knew the houses where the bedwetters lived in the poor neighborhood where I grew up.

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The good side for me is that the loss of control makes me feel decades younger. But hey, I'm old now. When I was bedwetting in my late teens and 20s it was more like having a feeling of freedom that I didnt really need to grow up. The bad side, and you have to measure this based on your own lifestyle, is that if you start to wet the bed habitually you often cant stop. Thats not always convenient if your travelling or even visiting people unless they are aware of your situation. Once you get to be an old dude like me wearing a diaper at night when your away from home is like any old Tuesday, like 'Oh yeah, uncle Mike's got that issue'.

I got spanked more when I was younger and less often as I got older. By hand and hairbrush was the most common when I was young and the belt when I got to high school.

What site are you posting your vids on?

Ive had discussions with people about this. After my parents took my older brother and me out of cloth diapers at about 7 or 8 we just wet our pjs and sheets although there was a rubber sheet and absorbing pad on each of our twin beds. I cant recall that disposable products were available at the time although others have since then told me there were. Back then bedwetting meant actually wetting the bed for most overage bedwetters I knew of and the the laundry was probably a big chore for a lot of parents - well mostly moms as was the experience in our house.

When I attended school many decades ago pants wetting wasnt uncommon. I had a few incidents myself. The standard response was to call my mother to come to the school to pick me up to take me home to change. After the second accident in less than a month in 5th grade though I had to wear plastic pants over training pants. It wasn't a perfect solution.

For me its usually one or the other - a wet diaper or wet sheets. But I have experienced diaper leaks. If your diaper is loose for any reason a full stream can result in leakage.

Starting bedwetting at 14 indicates a possible psychological or stress related problem. But continuing into your adult years for a long period of time makes me think something else is going on. Do you have any other health problems like diabetes or are you on any meds that might explain it?

I agree with you on this. Me and my siblings were spanked as kids and we grew up to be responsible adults.