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By cute little kokiri girl · Posted
The rest of the day went well they had dinner which was rice, chicken and broccoli, Madison's parents said their goodbyes and left the dad promising they could return but with the whole family. When they were finally gone both Madison and Camilla felt exhausted. "Madison I'm going to upstairs to get a bath running for us how about you go pick out some nice pajamas to wear." Camilla said before heading up into the bathroom, when Madison was in her room she picked out a nice pair of pajamas and a diaper to wear before immediately undressing herself, unfortunately she discovered that her underwear was slightly wet not enough to cause an actual huge stain but it was obvious. -
By Wittlebabiboi · Posted
Paul was GREEN. He stayed green through the excitement, the thrill-seeker run and even the crash. He's clearly Big Paul and making a pretty logical argument for another run. He even recognizes that Lilly keeps saying “we'll see” while basically treating it like a no. Which was a no. She chose not to listen to him or be reasonable with his big self and decided that her plan was the only way It's while he's trying to get Lilly to actually hear him that he starts going yellow/orange and eventually bright orange. He's not illogical or wrong but she doesn't want to hear it. Then Mommy takes over. His logical argument gets reframed as a tantrum, the pacifier goes in, he gets swatted and shushed, Lilly pushes him toward Little space, and eventually she regulates him. But he wasn't dysregulated when she decided he needed the reset. He was green. And that's where Mindy's care plan gets really interesting.Part Twelve almost feels like we're seeing how that kinder cage works. Paul can be Big and have independence, but Mindy's plan also gives the people caring for him permission to decide that sometimes Big Paul needs Little space even when Big Paul doesn't agree. Mindy has established that Paul needs Big and Little space to regulate, including times when Big Paul may want to stay Big but needs Little time anyway. We've seen plenty of evidence that Little space genuinely helps him. But doesn't that create a beautiful trap? If Big Paul saying “I don't want this right now” can be interpreted as him resisting Little space that he needs, how does he actually say no? Because Part Twelve almost creates a self-reinforcing loop: Big Paul disagrees → Lilly decides he needs a reset → Paul gets frustrated because he isn't being heard → tracker goes orange → his frustration gets interpreted as a tantrum → Mommy takes control → Paul eventually regulates → everyone gets confirmation that Mommy was right to take control. Meanwhile Big Paul's original argument disappears. Dannyl bringing back Paul's earlier “they didn't ask me” moment really made that stand out. Paul can genuinely need Little space and still deserve to have Big Paul taken seriously when he's present. But I'm also starting to wonder about something further back: how much of Mindy's care plan was actually developed before Paul's appointment? Kim has now admitted she was doing a lot more steering behind the scenes than Paul realized. She identified as making the right call earlier about his little space. She connected Lilly and Mindy. She's introduced Lilly and Paul to Andy. She's been pushing them towards this. Meanwhile she's also been the one to catch Savvy and even caution her from steering Paul yet she she Lilly are already doing so. She basically says to Savvy Your feelings can be real.Your desire to care for him can be real.You can believe a relationship with him would be good for both of you. And she kind of summerized it with But none of that means you get to construct that outcome for Paul. However we don't see her tell Lily that. Maybe as Lillys oldest friend whose literally rescued her from a ditch, Kim knows how much Lilly needs this at a soul level. Lilly had already discovered how effectively Little space worked on Paul, and she'd also discovered that she genuinely enjoys being Mommy—the caregiving, being needed, and yes, the control that comes with it. She's always been about control since she got hurt. So was Mindy independently evaluating Paul and arriving at this framework from scratch? Or had Lilly, Kim and Mindy already discussed some version of what they believed Paul needed before Paul ever walked into that appointment? I don't think we know that answer yet. But it matters because Lilly isn't just reluctantly intervening because she's afraid Paul might crash. She seems to enjoy taking control of him when she believes he needs a reset. And now she has a care plan telling her there are times when Big Paul may need Little space even when Big Paul doesn't want it. Which brings me back to the title: Mommy Influencer. Originally Lilly was literally an influencer controlling the narrative around everyone and everything in her world . She was at odds with Paul and found through content she could control him and it feed her fame. But now Mommy is increasingly influencing Paul himself—his environment, presentation, regulation and even when Big or Little Paul gets control. Kim has been steering from behind the scenes, Mindy's plan gives the whole thing a therapeutic framework, and Paul has voluntarily given Lilly enormous trust and authority by choosing her as Mom and agreeing to the adoption. None of that means Little Paul isn't real or that Lilly doesn't genuinely love him. That's actually what makes this so layered. The care genuinely helps him. Paul genuinely feels safe with Lilly. Lilly genuinely loves being his Mom. But people can genuinely love Paul while still struggling with the line between caring for Paul, influencing Paul and deciding for Paul. So now I'm wondering two things: How much did Paul actually participate in creating the rules that determine when Big Paul's judgment can be overridden? And when Big Paul says “No, I'm okay and I don't want to be Little right now,” what would he actually have to do for that no to count? Also... Harley bought him a present. Given Harley's history and everything she wants for Little Paul, I'm sure that's completely innocent and isn't going to test any of these boundaries whatsoever. 😂 -
It just hit a chord for me, because of personal stuff I've been going through. I hate being "helped" when I'm doing fine, it's the quickest way to make me angry and defensive. So I think I empathized with Paul too much there. Also, "let's talk about it later" does typically mean "no". It means, "I don't want to let you down just yet, so I'm going to let you down, but do it later, and a bit more gently." So, I probably would have reacted similarly to him (perhaps not as dramatically, but I can't honestly say that I wouldn't). And agency and choice is a big thing to Paul. The whole thing where he was in deep littlespace, and wrote that they didn't ask him. Did they learn nothing from that? Because they weren't listening when he said he didn't want the pacifier. If they think he needs time to decompress, tell him that, and let it be gentle. Don't try and force a pacifier. Caring for (or about) someone doesn't mean you get to discard their agency or right to choose. Yes, they have reason to worry, based on past actions. But also, peoppe should try and listen to what each other is saying. Lilly wasn't listening to Paul, and wasn't budging. I'm probably being too harsh on her, because she is trying. -
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I know I've generally just been a lurker (and was actually away from this site for quite a few years). I've definitely noticed that there were more comments in some of the previous completed stories, and stories by certain authors. I think there is something to say about some of the community having moved to private spaces, like Discord servers. But also, there have always been more people who lurk than who actually comment. So, if any of the active commenter are no longer around (for whatever reason), it's likely noticeable. And I think there's been a cultural shift, where most people just consume (and don't even comment), rather than create. I've noticed that I've been reading more stories here than I used to, but I don't comment or even like most of them. And if that's what I'm doing, I imagine there's others who are the same. So, I'm going to try and make an active effort to comment (no promises, though).
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