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More serious, less diapers, and weighs into a somewhat controversial ABDL topic of public accidents. Part Eight: The Elephant in the Room Jacob had one last therapy session a few days before school started. His parents had thought it was a good idea for him to talk with his counselor before the transition from a summer in diapers back to school. Prior to the session, Maria had given a short description of the pants pooping incident in the patient portal (she warned Jacob before she did so). At the beginning of the session, Stephanie and Jacob just talked about how Jacob was nervous about the start of the school year, not just for what it would mean for his diapers, but also because he knew this year would be the first year he would have real homework and would even switch classes some during the day. About halfway through the session, Stephanie asked him if he wanted to talk about his accident. Jacob sat silently for a moment – he knew his mom had told Stephanie, and he actually did have some questions. Still, it was really hard to talk about. They had talked about his diapers and even that he used them, but talking about going potty in his pants was still awkward. He started by asking Stephanie a question. “When we started therapy, you said that if there was something I didn’t want you to tell my parents you wouldn’t. Is that true?” Stephanie answered carefully. “That’s mostly true. If you tell me something that I think I need to share with your parents for your safety, or if you tell me someone else is in danger, I have to tell them. But I will make sure you know that I told them.” Jacob sat silent for a moment longer, absent-mindedly coloring a picture of a soccer player kicking the ball. “What did mom tell you about the accident?” Stephanie shared what little she knew. Jacob had chosen not to use the bathroom in a store, pooped his pants, and then, when given a choice, chose to wear a diaper home. Jacob said, “There was a little more than that. I didn’t use the bathroom because it was really gross. I thought I could make it home. Then, after I pooped my pants, my mom looked in the back of my shorts in the middle of the store, then took me to the diaper aisle to buy wipes and a bag of diapers. And then at the bathroom, a little girl told her mom she thought I had pooped my pants because of the smell. Mom also let that family go first because it was too late for us anyway. At first, I was really upset that she did all that stuff. But then in the bathroom, she let me pick whether I wanted to wear underwear or a diaper. And I really wanted to wear the diaper.” Stephanie responded, “It sounds like you’re saying you were really embarrassed at first, but that you were then glad your mom grabbed the diapers.” “Yeah, I just didn’t want anyone to know I’d had an accident. But then I really liked being in the diaper. It made me feel safe.” Jacob hesitated. Jacob stopped again. Stephanie said, “It sounds like you want to say something else. You can share with me if you want to, but I’m not going to make you talk about this more if you don’t want to today.” Jacob continued. “I’m worried there’s something wrong with me because I keep thinking about the accident. It was really embarrassing, but I also kind of liked it. Even having a few people at the store know I was in a diaper is kind of exciting. I just keep thinking about it. I wouldn’t be sad if it happened again.” Stephanie chose her next words carefully. “Jacob, there are a few things we need to talk about, just you and me to start. First, we really don’t know why we enjoy certain things. Some things, lots of people enjoy, like ice cream and movies. But even then, different people like different flavors and different types of movies. Do you understand what I’m saying?” Jacob nodded, “I think so – we all like different things.” Stephanie continued. “I don’t know why you like to wear diapers. It also sounds like you like the feeling when you have an accident. I don’t know why you like that either. But if you aren’t hurting anyone else and liking diapers doesn’t hurt your performance at things that are important like school or other things you love like soccer, then that’s ok. So I don’t want you to think something is wrong with you just because you like something most people don’t.” Stephanie handed Jacob a tissue as she saw some tears starting to form. “Now, Jacob, I need you to tell me what those two conditions were of me saying diapers are ok.” “As long as I’m still doing good at other stuff and I don’t hurt someone, then I’m ok?” Stephanie said, “that’s right. Now we may add more stuff later, but that’s the basics. I think we need to talk about the not hurting other people a little bit more. I’m going to use an analogy to start.” Jacob piped up, “what’s an analogy?” Stephanie smiled, “It’s always good to ask questions when you don’t understand something – an analogy is just a similar situation we can use to understand something else. Let’s start by thinking about playing games with your brother. What happens when you want to play a game your brother doesn’t want to? Is he happy if you try to make him?” “No – he doesn’t like that. Mom makes us talk it out and pick something we both want to do or to take turns.” “That sounds like a good strategy. Some things that are enjoyable to us are not enjoyable to others.” Jacob was a little confused. “I’m not trying to make anyone else wear diapers.” “But are there times when wearing diapers or having accidents involve others?” Jacob thought for a moment “I guess my parents have to buy my diapers and they put them on me and change me when I use them.” Stephanie smiled. “That’s right – your parents help you with your diapers. And they’ve both said that’s ok, at least for now. Is there anything they’ve asked you to think about with your diaper changes? Maybe something they’ve asked you not to do?” Jacob turned a little red and answered, “Yeah – dad has said he doesn’t want to change messy diapers, and mom said she’d do it sometimes, but asked me not to do it too often.” “That’s a really good example – they’ve shared what we call a boundary with you. And would your mom be happy if she had to clean up your poopy diapers every day?” Jacob shook his head no. “Ok, let’s think about having an accident around other people. I know you were embarrassed, but how were other people affected?” “Well, my mom was upset – and I know she told me she doesn’t want to have to wash poopy clothes. And she may have been embarrassed too.” “Right – your mom doesn’t want you to have accidents in public if you can prevent it, which it sounds like you could have in this case with different choices. Was anyone else affected?” “I don’t know what you mean.” “Well, you said another family smelled your accident. You said when you think about the accident, that you kind of liked that other people knew. Do you think those people would agree to smell your poopy underwear?” Jacob was bright red now. “I guess not – but this was an accident!” “You’re right, this time was an accident. But it would be different if you had an accident on purpose that affected other people. Does that make sense? It’s one thing to have an actual accident or for people to smell stinky things where they expect to like in the bathroom, but it would be different if you had an on purpose accident around people who didn’t agree to it.” Jacob nodded. Stephanie finished, “Sometimes we have to make sure that stuff we do for fun doesn’t hurt other people.” Jacob then asked, “I know I shouldn’t try to have an accident around people, but how do I stop thinking about it?” Stephanie simply said, “It can be hard to do. We can work on some tools to help. I also think it’s ok to talk to your parents about this. You don’t have to tell them all you told me, but your parents have been really understanding. “During our debrief, I’m going to suggest to your parents that they talk to you about accidents and some strategies that may help you deal with dirty bathrooms. Sometimes, having a good plan of what to do if a bathroom is gross can help. Is that ok?” Jacob answered, “I guess, but you’re not going to tell them I liked having the accident?” “No, that is between us. But if it continues to be a challenge for you, we may need to bring them into the conversation. And it seems your parents, especially your mom, already understand that you like going potty in your pants. I can help you talk to them if you like.” Jacob just said, “I understand.” That night in her debrief, Stephanie started the conversation with Jacob in the room. Together with his parents, they came up with some strategies to use if he thought a bathroom was too gross. They considered trying to get an accommodation put in place for Jacob regarding bathrooms at school, but decided to table it for the moment. Then Stephanie asked Jacob if it was ok if she and Rebecca talked to his parents alone for a minute; an assistant walked him to the daycare area. Stephanie had a simple message for Maria and James. “Jacob is a thoughtful kid, but he is facing a number of stressors right now. I think it is a good idea to have a clear conversation with him about where you anticipate diapers fitting in with school starting. It may also be necessary to revisit conversations about what you are ok with and what you are not ok with; it’s ok if that changes over time. You just need to make sure to keep the communication with Jacob open. “I’d like to see Jacob a week or two after school starts. I know that’s before when his next appointment was going to be, but it sounds like this school year could be a little stressful. I just want to chat with him.” Maria and James nodded and made an appointment for mid-way through the first week of school. -
By little_madd · Posted
Maddison tried to push away all thoughts of Alice; she didn't want to be treated like a helpless baby. However, Camilla was different from Ana; she would respect their agreement and wouldn't let things devolve into full-blown babying, as Camilla was sweet, caring, and affectionate. Maddison knew the changing table would be a huge help to Camilla, so that was non-negotiable—she would accept it. The crib, however, was an interesting matter. Maddison came up with a solution: she still wanted the freedom to get out of bed at night, but on some nights, she would agree to sleep in a portable crib or the crib itself. -
By pamper4014 · Posted
Andrea. 😂 "He peed his pants like a little baby boy." Not long after she needs to go potty. "Looks like I will be doing the same thing baby boy. You like watching us wet ourselves don't you?" Me "yes I do" Jennifer starts laughing and tinkles while doing it -
By ValentinesStuff · Posted
@CptKirk On July 30 i had emergency triple bypass and a mechanical permanent heart valve replacement surgery done. Fortunately one of the Top Cardiac Surgeons in the World works out of the small nearby hospital. One of his team described me as a "walking miracle." I am feeling better now, it's been a month. It still sucks at times. I am staying with my mom and sister while I recover. I do have diabetes, but that wasn't truly why I lost the toe. You can't have any infections before heart surgery. So instead of treating the bone infection, a months long process, it was easier to amputate. To be honest, as bad as the crappy Depends are, they were better than nothing, which was what I had on before them. Plus part of my therapy was getting up to use the potty. -
By Draco_Americanus · Posted
I typically wear the thin stuff; I'm not an AB so there is no goal to look like a baby, so I am stuck at some other point. I wear thinker stuff when I am not going to be more mobile, binge-watching stuff, political live pod cats, movies and car trips. For normal stuff its plastic Depends, easy to mod and even hike/camp in them
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