Greybird

I have been incontinent for a long while and in the early days I was embarrassed. The last two times I was in hospital (for a new knee and a prostatectomy as I had cancer) I was at a private hospital and they offered me any nappy I wanted. I declined and said I would bring my own. I took Tykables cammies which I was able to change myself. Nobody said a word except the prostate surgeon who mentioned how big it was. He also told me that if I had been incontinent before the prostate operation, then I would most likely be inco for ever. He was surprised when I told him I did not mind and that I had been in nappies for so long I was used to them. He told me that most men who were losing their prostate were mostly worried about wetting themselves rather than all the other side effects.

I think that I still have a childish wonder of the world even though I am 74!. I have always been able to ‘adult’ when needed, indeed I think my childishness has helped me in my creative work and has given me freedom of thought untainted by many adult norms. I watch my older friends being very serious and want to say to them “jump into that puddle, or put on a cartoon t-shirt and let yourself go a bit, buy yourself a toy or a stuffie (actually I read that 65% of adults still have stuffed animals hidden in their bedrooms!).

I hate the medical white nappies as I like to think of my incontinence as a childish habit that I might ‘grow out of’! I have over the years become more DL than AB and that has morphed into Adult Kid. So I do like the more childish nappies. What I would like to see is more ‘older child’ designs rather than all the baby designs. I would love for my pull-ups (Abena M3) to have a childish design on them. I make my own shaped terry nappies that have a brushed cotton layer that goes next to my skin. I always buy little boy themed fabrics like cars or boats, the latest are sharks!!!

I was a bedwetter until I was 12. No nappies just a very wet bed every day. I am convinced that it was because my bladder did not grow at the same pace as the rest of me. I was (more or less) continent during the day but at boarding school I still wet, just less frequently. We had a dormitory with 6 bedwetters! I hated feeling a failure for my parents but they were not that concerned. A few doctors visits with the platitude “he’ll grow out of it”. Well I did but it returned at about 28/30, and went back to nightly wetting. Now I have had my prostate removed for cancer, the surgeon said that if I was incontinent before the operation, I would probably be incontinent forever. I don’t mind as I have a life to get on with and this is just a minor inconvenience. The joy is that I don’t need to look for toilets when out and about

I had a situation like this a few months ago. I needed an ultrasound for a possible DVT. I was wearing a ‘medical’ pull-up which was a bit wet so I wen to change and found that the only nappy I had brought was a Kiddo’s ‘Let’s build’. I was wearing dungarees and did not anticipate having to take them off but roll the leg up for the scan. When she said ‘we need to get right up to your crotch’, I was a bit stuffed and explained in a very embarrased way that I was wearing a very ‘colourful’ nappy. They were both very serious, but I hope they had a laugh after I left!! I also had a situation where I was called into the doctor’s surgery while out shopping. When it is hot I like to wear my home made terry nappies with plastic pants as they let a bit more air circulate where needed. I had called that morning as I had dreadful nappy rash. She was very impressed by my ‘green’ credentials but said that disposables wick the wee away better so mix them up during the day. No embarrassment at all, just completely ‘matter-of-fact’.

I was in France recently and decided to improve my spoken French. I was told one of the best ways was to read Tintin or Asterix books in their original French. I bought a few and love them, and my French is certainly a lot better

Dreadful, I hated it. My father was a bedwetter in his youth and I am sure my parents were less troubled by my bedwetting because of it. I did not have a dry night until I was 12. My mother was a distant kind of woman and took away my nappies when I was about 3/4. I had a plastic sheet on the bed and one cotton sheet on top, but I never got a good night’s sleep. I asked for nappies when I was ten but was turned down. She would get me up in the morning and stand me on the old wooden toilet seat and wash me down before dressing me for school. I was desperate to be dry as were all my friends. At my UK boarding school I wet but less frequently, I was put in a small dormitory with six other bedwetters and hated that too. As I am very dyslexic, which was unheard of in those days (1960s), I was written off as stupid and spent a lot of time on my own, which I think gave me strength, and an enjoyment in my own company. I have had a successful life and continue so to do, even to the extent now of enjoying my incontinence (I have always been a bit of an ABDL). I never let it stop me from doing what I want and never shall. Nappies are great, I make my own and always have!!

I have worn nappies to meetings with doctors and hospitals. I had a knee replaced and wore Tykables ‘cammies’ all the time. I had a nappy rash and was called into my doctor at very short notice, too short to change from my terry nappy I wear with plastic pants. She gave me a thorough examination and just told me to change often. I explained that I like terry nappies and she was very impressed even though they are quite childish (I think it appealed to her ‘green’ credentials). More recently I wore a Kiddos ‘let’s build’ to a hospital for a scan as I was above the waist but down my back. I forgot that I was wearing dungarees (my woodworking uniform) and had to strip down to my nappy. If I am asked I just say that life is too short for dull undies, and yes, I am incontinent. I like wearing more childish clothes and it offends no one, just make sure it is a clean nappy/diaper for the meeting.

Mine was a magazine I found in a sex shop in Soho London circa 1968. I was so excited, there was a man being put into a nappy by this ‘motherly’ looking woman. My absolute dream at the time!. So the search was on for more printed material (very much pre-internet times) I cannot remember when I found ‘Wetset’ magazine from Australia, it was probably many years later.

Thank you for that, I shall give them a try. I shall also have a look at the Attends. I am. Happy to start off the day with a pull-up but when a change is necessary the disrobing is a real issue.

With that ‘changing’ problem in mind, has anyone tried Tena’s Flex? I too find the problem of changing a real problem and almost impossible unless I am in shorts. The Tena Flex look to be a compromise between a pull-up and a full nappy.

Yes, the Queen would be a hard act to follow, she was an exceptional lady, but your ‘gorilla’ comment is unnecessary, she is a very gracious lady who works in the background behind King Charles, so I doubt you have much of an idea as to what she does. Don’t dismiss Charles so quickly. It has been he who has tried to get the world to listen re climate change. He has encouraged thousands of kids, many from troubled backgrounds, to better themselves and learn new skills, through the Prince Trust. He is no slouch! As for Diana, you say ‘people loved Diana’, but I did not, she did not behave so well her self while Charles gets all the blame. She has been put on some pedestal because she died in a car crash. Look at the times that Queen Elizabeth lived in. World war, IRA bombings, etc, we don’t have those events to contend with at the moment, but if we did King Charles and the whole royal family would behave in the same way, (except possibly Harry and Megan). I would hope that the rest of the nation would also, but I am not sure. Unfortunatly the ‘republicans’ among us do not understand what the royal family stand for and how they unite this country through their longevity and the history of the UK. It is not a perfect history, but who’s is? Just look at France, Russia, Germany, Spain, Italy etc, but through it all the Royal family have given the UK gravitas and status. Many are jealous of the wealth or the fact that they are unelected, but we have an elected head/government that operate the state, but we have a bonus of our history. ‘The Firm’ as it is know, bring in fantastic wealth to the country from tourism. People come to see the great artworks, palaces, military pagentry etc, which you don’t see anywhere else in the world. These things did not happen over night, they have been created over considerable time, through ages when we all behaved differently. If they had not been collected and collated we would not be able to see/enjoy them now. I wish King Charles a long and happy reign. I thank Her Majesty Queen Elizabeth for all her long reign, wisdom, stoicism and optimism.

Interesting, but whereas I know who the Royal family are, I have never heard of ‘theJefferson’s’. Rather telling don’t you think. You could educate yourself by reading some history and you may understand their significance to the UK and the world.

What an ignorant, stupid post. They are not a ‘drain on the economy’, far from it. They generate huge income for the country and cost almost nothing. If you really want three things, The Duke of Edinburgh’s Award, The Princes Trust and the preservation of the amazing history of our great country. Do us all a favour and go and read something about the Royal family and the history of the UK, good and bad, then make you judgement, then keep it to yourself.

Like AbabeBil I wear Suprima pants. The best place that I have found to get them is https://www.saveexpress.de. Yes, they are in Germany but have sent pants to me in New Zealand and I am sure they would send them to the USA. They also have their own range of ABDL pants and nappies etc.