cathdiap

Yes, life becomes very difficult when you are incontinent. It is almost impossible not to feel embarrassed when you have to take your diaper stuff with you to the toilet. Especially when your pants can no longer hide the diaper and you feel wet and dirty when you walk away from your colleagues. Imagine if there was no stent to remove and your incontinence was permanent. Would you be able to handle that?

That's so cool. Always nice to get confirmation that you are incontinent, without you asking for it.

I've decided not to experiment and just stick with my old stent design. It gives me the most comfortable and continuous incontinence in all positions. It only migrates if I am sleeping on my side, but that never happens. Never change a winning team. 😎 Oh, and light-colored jeans seem to make a diaper a bit more visible. 😏

Let @DailyDi be the judge. Should I delete my previous posts where I tried to investigate whether TS is fully aware of the impact of total incontinence? This in view of Reddy's experiences in another topic.

Have you ever tried sitting on a bicycle saddle with this stent? If not, would you be so kind to try it out and report on your findings? But the fact that your newest stent doesn’t move when sleeping on your side is enough for me to try one myself. I’ve been depressed 🤣 ever since I noticed my stent migrates when I lie on my side, even though I never sleep on my side. I just want my stent to stay in place under all circumstances. If this stent works for me as well as it does for you and @Spargano, I think this could be a stent for everyone. And easier to make as well. Well done sir! 👏👏

A little over a year ago Reddy gave the same Impression.... How is warning for possible unforseen consequences not supportive? And I am here to tell TS that there is a big difference between a desire to become incontinent (fantasy) and actually being incontinent. Like Reddy said "it is so different being on the other side". And don't tell me to shut up. I think it's weak when you can't handle an opposing opinion.

So if you see someone about to jump off a building and he doesn't ask for your advice, you just let him jump?

If someone decides to share their decision to have incontinence surgery on this forum, should we all cheer them on? Should we only comment if we support their decision? I think it is human nature to protect our fellow man or prevent him from doing things he might regret later. In fact, it is your moral duty as a human being to protect your fellow man from harm, injury or worse. So if you don't want disapproval or negative advice, keep it to yourself and don't let anyone know. In fact, the mere fact that someone shares such decisions on this forum makes me suspect that person is using it to draw attention to it. And that is fine, but negative attention is also part of it. So..... If TS doesn't know what it is like to ALWAYS leak urine, I highly recommend that he deal with it for at least 6 months using a reversible technique. As a long-term stent user, I can't tell you how happy I have been at times that I could still reverse my incontinence, even though I wear it almost all the time. Weddings, funerals, days at the beach, mountain hikes, etc. Incontinence can suddenly be very annoying, embarrassing and burdensome. It is not hard to say that this will be fun and exciting to experience, but after a few weeks, months or years, even incontinence can become boring and annoying. We all know from another topic how TS was completely surprised by the impact of incontinence. I still regret that I so easily went along with his naive belief that he would absolutely love it.

For those of us who know what it’s like to be incontinent and diaper dependent, would you still enjoy wearing diapers when you don’t really need them? I don’t. Wearing diapers when I don’t need them is boring to me. I really like the feeling of helpless peeing and knowing that my diaper is there to save me from insane embarrassment.

That sounds promising. Let's hope this is the breakthrough you've been hoping for. I love being a bedwetter, especially when I wake up with a soaked diaper and can't remember when it happened. I often experience this too. I start wondering whether the pee I felt flowing into my diaper was the result of my incontinence or of a conscious decision. Very strange. But if I then take off my diaper and realize I cannot prevent further leakage, then I feel really incontinent. It seems a diaper dampens the conscious awareness of being incontinent. A diaper is made to pee in and if you do then it doesn't seem to matter too much whether you were able to stop it or not.

I have to say that it really pains me to see that you still haven't managed to make a comfortable, well-draining and non-migrating stent. I would love to give you the all-saving tip, but I don't have it, despite all my experience. I really hope that the incontinence I experience with my stent will soon be as natural to you as it is to me.

I wake up at night when my diaper is really wet. So yes, apparently I prefer dry diapers.

Same. I haven't been this excited since my children were born. And it's those same children that are holding me back the most from having that surgery. That is a very good reason. You're a good son. It is true that the most common activities can also be done while wearing diapers. But simple things like showering at the gym, swimming with friends, going to the sauna, taking long walks in busy open areas, running etc. are almost impossible to do if you are incontinent and wearing a diaper. Getting hired for a job that requires a physical test becomes impossible.

Hi! I thought it would be fun and maybe even interesting to start a thread where any member who experiences real or self-induced incontinence can post a report describing 24 hours of their incontinent life. To keep the reports somewhat readable and comparable, I suggest we all start our report at bedtime on the first day and end at bedtime the next day. Any noteworthy moments in between are noted with the date and time they happened. Interesting facts to describe might be all the gear you wear and use to manage your incontinence, all diaper changes, diaper leaks, difficult situations due to incontinence and diaper wearing, embarrassing situations etc. Including snapshots of your diapered self, your gear, your stash and other typical visual evidence of your incontinent life would be great too. Feel free to create and post multiple reports. I'll start my report tonight and hopefully post it in about 28 hours from now. Grtz, Cathdiap