So I haven't read all the responses in this thread, but I will say bedwetting unknowingly was 100% mental in my situation. I've been a DL/ wetting enthusiast since I was young, but never once wet the bed no matter how much I drank or how hammered I was.....That is until I finally came out to my wife about my diaper and pee interests. After I broke the news and told her everything, she was extremely understanding. She chose not to participate, but said I was free to wear and wet my diapers around her. After that conversation was had, it's like subconsciously my body said it's ok to pee when I'm sleeping. That said, nowadays if I've had anything alcoholic to drink, there's a 50/50 chance I'll wake up wet whether I'm diapererd or not. It was pretty exhilarating at first and I still relish waking up wet with no recollection, but now I'm nervous to ever sleep away from.home if there's a chance I'll be drinking. I've soaked multiple hotel and Air B&B beds at bachelor parties, but have managed to get away with it undetected. But if I'm staying at a friend's house, I'll always make sure I'm diapererd. I've never woken up dry in those scenarios. I secretly kinda love it, but it's stressful knowing I may leak on their bed or be caught diapered.
Just my two cents 🤷♂️
I've also had a number of sleep wettings with no alcohol involved. I don't hate it as long as it's my bed.