Does your Doctor know?

[DailyDi]

Does your doctor know you wear diapers?

I don't know. I wear a pull-on washable or pull-up to appointments, but he hasn't seen me with my pants off. The Nurses I am sure have seen my protection when administering shots in the backside, but nothing has been said.

[Lil Leo]

I take furosomide to help kidney function. So life is interesting after taking it. The only comment I hear is something about the print I may be wearing at the time. We have a good working relationship on the subject ?. The fun ones are I never get the same ultrasound techs,  they always get a surprise ? when they get to that "region" they are very professional but I joke about the childish prints and they loosen up a little. Life is good and what you gonna do. 

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[rusty pins]

No.  Never wear to doctor appointments (once to the dentist though), and never to work or around friends.  I'm not 24/7 but wear a few times a week when I have the day off work and the house to myself.  I have worn when getting a back massage from a therapist, but I let them know ahead of time.  I have a 35 minute drive to get there and I often have to pee every 45 minutes to an hour.   With a massage lasting more than that, it's better safe than sorry.  There have been times when massaging my lower back that I have needed to pee suddenly so while not totally necessary, I think it's a good idea.

[le Hollandais]

I never wear a diaper to the doctor's office nor the dentist's. As I'm not a permanent diaper wearer, I don't feel the loss. I only wear when I have the house to myself for a day or two.

[BabyJune]

No way! I don't wear to medical appointments except when I take my mother for her appointments. I do wear to the dentist, however (just last week, actually) because he doesn't look "down there." Mom and I have the same primary care doctor, although I know he's sworn to confidentiality.

[Dookey]

I don’t wear to doctor appointments, I only wear for fun. I have worn a pull-up to a dentist appointment. 

[Stroller]

It got close last Tuesday, as I had to go in for a consultation as I had a urinary tract infection - the second since I've been wearing full-time.  It's quite rare for a biological male to get a UTI, apparently, so he was a bit surprised.  The conversation didn't quite get round to asking me whether I'd been doing anything that may have contributed to the risk of a UTI, but it easily could have done.  If it had I'd have told him I had an incontinence problem and was now wearing protection full-time and had over the years given up trying to control wetting.  All of which is true, apart from that I don't regard it as a problem.

[ValentinesStuff]

While my doctor doesn't know, I have mentioned it to other medical professionals at the hospital. A Urology PA, that inquired about the type of underwear I normally wore, and an X-ray tech that said he saw something odd on an X-ray. 

[Little Sherri]

So I've worn diapers to doctor's appointments with my primary care physician a few times since I went 24/7, because I don't possess any other kind of underwear and I wasn't about to go shopping, or, go commando. However, I was pretty sure in all cases that my pants would not be coming off. This guy has been my doctor since I was in my late teens, so at this point (in my 40's), he'd have questions if I just showed up in a diaper, apropos of nothing. My "plan" on this file, such as it is, is to wait for him to retire, which I imagine he'll be doing in the next few years, and then when I get a new doctor, I'm just going to tell him or her that I've been wearing diapers for a long time for urgency issues, I talked it through with my previous doctor, and I don't want to take medication or pursue any other avenues, I'm managing it and I'm fine, nothing to see here, next question please. 

I did have an appointment with a specialist this year, where I was pretty sure that "the area" was going to come under scrutiny, and for that, I wore one of those dark grey Depends men's pull-ups, thinking that a big ABDL diaper might raise eyebrows. I ended up getting examined by the doctor and a resident, and both of them saw the pull-up, but it wasn't part of their line of inquiry and they didn't even mention it. Which was interesting to me, because this was a urologist, although the reason I was there had nothing to do with leaky plumbing. I was glad not to have to answer any questions about it. 

[Kif]

I've mentioned some of the wetting issues to my Doc...but not the rest yet. Especially the most recent developments. 

I plan to...just...not right now. Mostly out of embarrassment, if you can believe it. At some point I'll come forward about it and rip off the bandaid...I want to make sure I don't have some other real issue underneath most of all.

[PuraVidaDip]

All my docs know. I told them all of my issues. They saw my wet pull-ups, which I only wear to medical appointments unless I am at the pool or something.

[~Brian~]

On 10/1/2022 at 10:42 AM, DailyDi said:

Does your doctor know you wear diapers?

I don't know. I wear a pull-on washable or pull-up to appointments, but he hasn't seen me with my pants off. The Nurses I am sure have seen my protection when administering shots in the backside, but nothing has been said.

@DailyDi@PuraVidaDip@Kif

Yes - My My Primary Care Physician, as well as anyone who has access to my medical records know of my incontinence.  My dentist is also aware of it, because there have been times when I have to do a visit to their office, and anyone who provides me with medical services knows as well.  ALL of them know, and ALL of them have been quite professional with regard to this.  I have not had any problems with this, and I spent a lot of 2020 trying to make sure that I don't have my Prior Authorizations die and be forgotten. 

What happened was that I had asked the doctor to renew the PA in 2019, and when it became time in 2020 to order products, I was told that the PA was EXPIRED, and it took them 7 MONTHS, during which time I am glad I ordered extra supply of diapers, and I FINALLY had the thing renewed in August of 2020, and ever since then, my supplier knows what the deal is, and she renews the PA in PLENTY of time for it NOT to expire, and I don't worry about it anymore.  I just want to make sure I have what I need, since my supplier has taken over the renewals, I don't have a problem at all

Brian

[rusty pins]

2 hours ago, Little Sherri said:

 My "plan" on this file, such as it is, is to wait for him to retire, which I imagine he'll be doing in the next few years, and then when I get a new doctor, I'm just going to tell him or her that I've been wearing diapers for a long time for urgency issues, I talked it through with my previous doctor, and I don't want to take medication or pursue any other avenues, I'm managing it and I'm fine, nothing to see here, next question please. 

Just make sure that is what you want to tell the new doctor.  A new doctor will have access to your medical records, even if it's not a doctor who has taken over the practice and patients from your current doctor.  Medical records can be shared among doctors all across the country, although in most cases a person would need a medical release.  Doctor's may not for several reasons.  If you are brought in unconscious or unable to talk or communicate that well, it may be necessary to access your records for a hospital or doctor without a release of information.  It may even be in an agreement you sign when changing to a new doctor.  The new doctor might be reviewing your records and see no information about incontinence and wearing diapers and wonder why it's not in there.  He may even contact your old doctor's office if someone else has taken over that practice for information.  HIPPA rules may not apply between doctor's and hospitals.  Personally I don't think I would tell a new doctor I had discussed a situation with my old doctor if I hadn't.  Too easy for them to check up on it.

[~Brian~]

39 minutes ago, rusty pins said:

Just make sure that is what you want to tell the new doctor.  A new doctor will have access to your medical records, even if it's not a doctor who has taken over the practice and patients from your current doctor.  Medical records can be shared among doctors all across the country, although in most cases a person would need a medical release.  Doctor's may not for several reasons.  If you are brought in unconscious or unable to talk or communicate that well, it may be necessary to access your records for a hospital or doctor without a release of information. 

@Little Sherri

I would agree, that any records that are in your file would be available regardless of what doctor you have.  This is because any information you have in the file would be stored somewhere, and could be accessible to anyone who deals with your medical history.  I have had medical records for 50 years, but probably most of those deal with my CP and other associated conditions.  I think that once I turned 21, enough records were maintained to prove my disability status, but the lion share of these records were probably archived, and probably do NOT exist anymore, and I say that, because the records, if they existed, are probably microfilmed/micofeiched and I am an adult, and Pediatric Orthopedic Records would not really be needed, because proof is and has been used to prove disability status, so any records  that are very dated probably are not needed, because my Adult Medical Records Probably cover any situation from 14 to now.

I discussed my concerns with my doctor, and he told me that he would make sure that he would add enough information to my records so that no one could say that I am NOT incontinent:  I had them do that so that the state cannot try to "backstep" on me, and then say I don't need something that I do need:  I have been having problems like this for a while, and I don't and didn't want them to somehow give me any issues, so my medical records indicate "Fecal Incontinence with Fecal Urgency and Continuous Leakage of Urine."  This way, NO one can tell me that I am NOT incontinent, and I have been dealing with this for WAY too long, and diapers will and have helped me, and I can't deny that fact, and I am NOT going to worry anymore, because I have the proper information to prove necessity.

I would definitely make sure that you discuss something with your doctor:  This is because a doctor who KNOWS you wear, and is aware of it, is less likely to have a problem - If you don't discuss it, you may end up where you are in a position where non disclosure could backfire on you, and as @rusty pinssays, if you have a new doctor, and nothing about wearing or using diapers on your record(s), and you have to remove your clothing, and are wearing diapers, and they don't have any record of it, the new doctor may ask you some questions, and you may not know how to deal with this.  I am not sure how you will deal with it, but you should probably discuss this with your current doctor before he retires, so you have it on your records - Otherwise: You may end up having the new doctor sending you to specialists that could cause you to have to spend money that you don't want to.  You could probably say to your doctor that you have functional incontinence, since you have been wearing and using diapers for as long as you have - Hopefully, you will be able to figure out a way to continue to deal with this, because you may want to talk to @Enthusi about what he did, but his doctor apparently wrote something like:

"wears diapers, does not wish to do anything about it......refuses treatment......" which makes it sound like he is wearing for reasons that may not be medical in nature.......I am not gonna try to analyze this, so you may want to talk to him about how he was able to get what he needed.

It is always a GOOD idea to have a GOOD and SOLID relationship with your doctor(s):  I am sure that you could probably get what you need, but it is advisable to have it dealt with, and understood before he retires, and any doctor that you deal with afterwards, if in the same practice, you should have no problem there, but if you have to move to another practice on his retirement, it would be a good idea, either way to make sure that you have a discussion with him before he retires

Good Luck, My Friend, and Keep us Advised

Brian

[Little Sherri]

It's an interesting thought, @rusty pins, @~Brian~. I am not going to worry about it too much, however, because this doesn't, in my apprehension, rise to the level of, say, an undisclosed opioid addiction history or something like that. 

"I checked your records and there's no mention of any urinary urgency issues."

"That's interesting. I spoke with my previous physician about it years ago, but I guess it wasn't a formal conversation. Anyway, I wear diapers. Here we are."  

Since I'm not asking anyone to pay for anything, that should be about as far as it goes. If someone wants to open a further investigation, I am well within my rights to say "Nope, don't want to talk about it."  One thing that would be in my records, I guess, if they go back far enough, would be my bedwetting from childhood, because my parents took me to a pediatrician specifically for that. However, nothing was digitized back then - we're talking about the early 1980's. So I'd be amazed if my new 30-something-year-old family physician dug that up. But good for him or her if they do. 

[Kawaharu]

My doctors know I need them and they also know I am adult baby as well. My doctors knows I am medically required to be in them and they know when they see me they do a diaper check on me as well.

[~Brian~]

@Kawaharu

23 hours ago, Kawaharu said:

My doctors know I need them and they also know I am adult baby as well. My doctors knows I am medically required to be in them and they know when they see me they do a diaper check on me as well.

My doctor knows I need them as well, as well as everyone that has access to my medical records! As you know, I don't take chances anymore with my continence. There are many times when it's just as easy to let go in a diaper as it is to go into the bathroom and deal with it that way, but sometimes you may have to do that. To me, the only place that I would have to deal with that situation would be if I had an accident at work, or I ended up filling my britches while I was working period in that case, I can go into a fully accessible bathroom, and then be able to change myself out. The thing I have to be careful of is that I am not making a mess all over everything in the bathroom, and that I keep my self clean down below, because if you forget to do something and cleaned down below, you will have a reminder of that when you are burning and itching down below as you know.

I've never had a doctor do a diaper check on me, but he does ask questions about how they are working for me. I've also worn diapers while I am in diagnostic imaging, or any type of place where they are doing testing or procedures. My doctor is very well aware of the fact that I am incontinent, that I need my diapers, and I was the one who asked for them, and I had to wait almost two months before asking Medicaid for better diapers. Once I was able to prove my medical necessity and need, the door opened and I was able to get a choice. I chose my mega Max diapers because they were the best around. I even ordered some more this month, so I should have plenty, and I know I need them because I keep using them, and I need to continue to do so.

So far, I haven't had any reason to release in the doctor's office. When I get up in the morning I always check to make sure before I put a diaper on that my system is clear. There is nothing more embarrassing than to have yourself be clear of everything else in your system, only to have your stomach start doing somersaults and growling at you and then the next thing it is you deal with is a dirty diaper. I don't mind dealing with dirty ones, I don't mind dealing with wet ones, but if you can avoid having an incident before you put your diaper on, because you can visualize what's going to happen, you can save yourself a lot of grief. Most times, I'm able to hold off doing a BM, but if I drink a lot of liquid, you can bet that my diaper is going to be wet. The one I'm wearing right now is totally drenched, and I just let my body release everything within it.

As I said before: I'm not ashamed are worried about my diapers anymore: like you I need them, and I'm not going to change that assessment Colin when I ended up scheduling my colonoscopy, I made sure to tell the doctor in no uncertain terms that I don't want to end up doing the prep work for it myself. Furthermore, I ended up having him say in records that it was necessary for me to be admitted for this or any other type of test where I must be sedated for long periods of time, or for something where someone will need to help me. I can't afford to have any injuries to my body my legs my arms or anything like that. If I lose my legs then that would be a pain in the **** and I would not be able to do what I need. I scheduled my colonoscopy already, but I must wait until next year to have it done. This is partially because of the COVID pandemic and everything that has to do with it. It'll be interesting to see what they find, but I think what they're going to find is that I am clear. we'll have to see what they say

Have a great Day!

Brian

Edited October 5, 2022 by ~Brian~
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[Kawaharu]

My doctors do a diaper check on me all the time. That's just to make sure I am using them and not developing a diaper rash. My doctors are very aware I am incontinent and it's also on my medical records as well. They also have it on my medical records that I need diapers and I need to be in them. It's also why my doctors knows I am an adult baby and they know being an adult baby helps me cope with being incontinent.

 

[ken2988]

I really don't have a choice in regards to wearing diapers when visiting my doctor or anyone else.  If I don't wear diapers I am 100% sure I will end up peeing in my pants or shorts.  Being incontinent forces you into diapers, wearing diapers gets your body use to going whenever you feel the urge, so now I tend to leak all of the time! 

[stevewet]

10 hours ago, ken2988 said:

I really don't have a choice in regards to wearing diapers when visiting my doctor or anyone else.  If I don't wear diapers I am 100% sure I will end up peeing in my pants or shorts.  Being incontinent forces you into diapers, wearing diapers gets your body use to going whenever you feel the urge, so now I tend to leak all of the time! 

Same here

[Little Sherri]

21 hours ago, ~Brian~ said:

I've also worn diapers while I am in diagnostic imaging, or any type of place where they are doing testing or procedures.

I've worn diapers for various diagnostic imaging appointments, and they never came into the picture, metaphorically or literally, except for one memorable occasion during the height of the pandemic. My downtown university-affiliated giant medical center decided that switching over to disposable hospital gowns would provide greater infection control, although why that was never done before, and has not been done since, still baffles me, since the regular hospital gowns have been in use for a century, and people have had surgery in them, suffered every known and unknown illness in them, lived and died in them, and then they were run through an industrial laundering process and deemed fit for reuse. But Covid, for some reason, was being treated like Ebola early on.

Anyway, I was issued a disposable gown, and I went into a changing stall that had a burned out florescent bulb above it. I took my clothes off, except my diaper and my socks. The diaper was a Rearz Elite Hybrid, a (thankfully) plain white plastic diaper with hook/loop tabs. I pulled the paper gown over myself, looked in the mirror in the somewhat shadowy stall, thought everything was fine, and then walked out of the changing area and back into the public waiting room where the lockers for your belongings are, and where you sit and wait to get called into the inner sanctum waiting area, just before your scan. 

All of a sudden, one of the receptionists jumped up from behind the desk, tore open another disposable gown, and rushed it over to me, holding it open like a jacket and inviting me to put it on. Slightly bewildered, and now becoming concerned, I donned the second gown, which she then tied up for me. I jammed my stuff in a locker and sat down and watched CNN with the sound off until it was time to go to the inner waiting area. While in there, I became curious as what the issue was with the gown, so I went into the washroom and took the outer gown off... and realized that under functional florescent lights, like the ones in the waiting room, my bright white diaper more or less glowed under the single layer of gown. I haven't been back since, but if they're still using the disposable gowns the next time I go, I will definitely be asking for two. 

[ppdude]

23 hours ago, Kawaharu said:

My doctors know I need them and they also know I am adult baby as well. My doctors knows I am medically required to be in them and they know when they see me they do a diaper check on me as well.

Same here. I don't make it a centerpiece of conversation... They see it and may or may not comment on it. It's in my records as non-functioning bladder sphincter. Not a big deal. The diaper is functioning 24/7; if I don't have a diaper on, then I'm naked. The diaper goes all places at all times -- no exceptions. It's the good, the bad, and the ugly.

 

 

 

[~Brian~]

20 hours ago, Kawaharu said:

My doctors do a diaper check on me all the time. That's just to make sure I am using them and not developing a diaper rash. My doctors are very aware I am incontinent and it's also on my medical records as well. They also have it on my medical records that I need diapers and I need to be in them. It's also why my doctors knows I am an adult baby and they know being an adult baby helps me cope with being incontinent.

 

@Kawaharu

I am glad that they keep good track of you!  I am sure that they are also aware that Diaper Rash is NOT something that you or they want!  You also don't want any problems that you BOTH are not aware of, and by checking with you, and making diaper checks, they can make sure that they don't SEE anything wrong, because having problems like this is NOT fun, which includes UTI's, prostate issues (guys of course), RED IRRITATED SKIN, Constipation, Foul Odor or discharge, broken skin, etc.

My doctor knows that I am incontinent, and that diapers have helped me with my stress, which has at times, been OFF THE MAP, and have made changes so things do not worry me so much: I don't HAVE to worry about most things now, and what I can change, I make the change to, what I CAN'T change, I sometimes try to, but if I can't change it, I don't worry anymore:  Diapers help me deal with the stress and feelings that I have had to keep locked away for years, because I had to do that:  I am incontinent, and I am a Diaper Lover (But I don't think I would TELL the doctor about the DL part, as he knows that they help me with incontinence, and stress) but he doesn't need to know that part, even though I think he may know it anyway

@Little Sherri

2 hours ago, Little Sherri said:

Anyway, I was issued a disposable gown, and I went into a changing stall that had a burned out florescent bulb above it. I took my clothes off, except my diaper and my socks. The diaper was a Rearz Elite Hybrid, a (thankfully) plain white plastic diaper with hook/loop tabs. I pulled the paper gown over myself, looked in the mirror in the somewhat shadowy stall, thought everything was fine, and then walked out of the changing area and back into the public waiting room where the lockers for your belongings are, and where you sit and wait to get called into the inner sanctum waiting area, just before your scan. 

All of a sudden, one of the receptionists jumped up from behind the desk, tore open another disposable gown, and rushed it over to me, holding it open like a jacket and inviting me to put it on. Slightly bewildered, and now becoming concerned, I donned the second gown, which she then tied up for me. I jammed my stuff in a locker and sat down and watched CNN with the sound off until it was time to go to the inner waiting area. While in there, I became curious as what the issue was with the gown, so I went into the washroom and took the outer gown off... and realized that under functional florescent lights, like the ones in the waiting room, my bright white diaper more or less glowed under the single layer of gown. I haven't been back since, but if they're still using the disposable gowns the next time I go, I will definitely be asking for two. 

I prefer to have the type of gown where you can just ask for a pair of PJ Bottoms and a Robe over top of it.  I would not really mind having a diaper on, but it is kind of silly to have a paper robe that shows what you have on, when they want you to have a gown on.  Thank God that someone was paying attention, noticed this issue, and gave you another gown to cover the diaper for you!  I have had many diagnostic procedures, and that includes MRI's and Full Body Scans, and I think for the most part I've had PJ's on below the waist, and Johnnys on in the doctor's office:  He even has forgone that, when he asks me to just take my pants off, and he does the standard checks that are done below stairs

I KNOW why they need the disposable gowns, but I agree with you that for many years, we have had the old robes and johnnies, and we didn't HAVE disposable hospital ware, so it was put in a "Soiled Linen" Bin and trucked off to the laundry

Brian

 

[Kawaharu]

12 hours ago, ppdude said:

Same here. I don't make it a centerpiece of conversation... They see it and may or may not comment on it. It's in my records as non-functioning bladder sphincter. Not a big deal. The diaper is functioning 24/7; if I don't have a diaper on, then I'm naked. The diaper goes all places at all times -- no exceptions. It's the good, the bad, and the ugly.

 

I'm the same way too. My doctors always conducts a diaper check on me to make sure I am using them properly and I don't develop any diaper rashes. It's on my medical records that I wear diapers and they know that I need them all the time.

12 hours ago, ~Brian~ said:

I am glad that they keep good track of you!  I am sure that they are also aware that Diaper Rash is NOT something that you or they want!  You also don't want any problems that you BOTH are not aware of, and by checking with you, and making diaper checks, they can make sure that they don't SEE anything wrong, because having problems like this is NOT fun, which includes UTI's, prostate issues (guys of course), RED IRRITATED SKIN, Constipation, Foul Odor or discharge, broken skin, etc.

That's why whenever I go to my doctors appointments, they always conduct a diaper check on me and they make sure I am using them and not developing any issues. Being an adult baby, I wouldn't want to develop any diaper related problems.

[diapered_jeff48801]

She does not know, at least it's not in my chart, though I have worn at least a pull up to a visit before. 

I don't regularly see my doctor; the last time was prior to COVID when I was Diagnosed with IBS-C, that was probably back in 2018. 

I did make a tele-appointment to be referred for ADHD testing in 2020 but not with her.

I know at some point I will have to bring it up when I do become diaper dependent.