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I think I'm in much the same position, which is hardly surprising I suppose. Maybe I think about it a bit less than you do though. I just roll with what happens, and long ago gave up on connecting whether I was wearing a nappy or not, or whether it would hold whatever came its way with the need to change myself every so often. Wetting just happens with no control, and often I've no warning it's going to happen. That's fine with me because it's where I always wanted to be. So I've still no idea whether I could stop wetting starting, or whether I could stop mid-stream. They're just not options on my menu because I don't want them to exist. Of course that means I have to be properly nappied at all times, unless I'm in the bathroom, but I always am, and I just don't worry about the possible consequences of an unexpected wetting. I've got little idea of what my bladder capacity is either. I'll maybe wet 2 or 3 times in the night, always when I'm awake or (more likely) half awake. I don't know how often I wet during the day, but it must be quite a few times, as the quantity is rarely great. Mostly I hardly notice it happening, and when I do I've forgotten almost instantly. Sometimes I get surprised by how heavy my nappy's become, and sometimes I suspect my nappy's dry (but it rarely is if I check it out).

Well actually you can. I used to wear these a lot, although I switched to ABDL disposables a while back (when I'm not in cloth). They're good nappies imho, and the best medical-style nappies I've ever used. I've still got one in the boot of my car, for emergencies. You can get them from Dotty Diapers here, and I'm sure elsewhere too.

You could try sockshop, or sockdreams. I generally buy my socks from sockshop - they've got a lot of child-appropriate socks in adult sizes. Good luck!

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It happens to me every night, but then it also happens in the day. It's what happened to me after being 24/7 for a while, and wishing for no control. These days wetting just happens if I'm awake or half awake. But as far as I know I've never wet in my sleep. No idea why not.

For the past couple of months I've been I wearing velcro Dotty Diaper nappies during the day, with 3 or 4 terry soakers. These get me through the day without generally needing a change. Occasionally I'll max one out before bedtime, and I can tell it's happening because the elastic on my plastic pants leg gets wet. Or it may also leak slightly. This doesn't happen often though. I may go back to terry during the day as some point, but at the moment it's the velcro nappies. During the summer months I can't really get away with so much bulk under cargo shorts, particularly if it's T-shirt weather. Then I'll use less soaker power and change more often. Night's a terry nappy with a couple of soakers, and that does fine. Very occasionally my plastic pants pull over the edge of the nappy & I can get some wicking into the bedding, but it's rare, I notice it, and the quantity is minimal. I don't max out overnight, although I can sometimes in the morning if I stay in it too long. For example it's now 8am here, and I'm in my overnight nappy still. I know it's got plenty of spare capacity, but I can't really tell you how I'm so sure.

Sounds like an epic way to come out! Or go out, if it turns out to be terminal.

Methinks you worry too much about this. I just wear vanilla disposable protection (pull-up or tape-up nappy) and say I've got bladder issues. The medics just roll with it. I draw the line at my protection being visible to the other punters, but the medics will always help with that if necessary. After my last colonoscopy they wheeled me into the tea and biscuits room & pulled curtains round a bed so I could get back in my pull-up & clothes in privacy. I long ago stopped worrying about it. Nobody's ever suggested setting up an appointment with a urologist by the way, and I'd turn down the offer if I got one, on the grounds that it's all under control as far as I'm concerned.

Dummy in, Teddy to cuddle, Mummy to cuddle. That's what works for me. And sometimes I'll go for a walk along the riverbank. Always fully padded of course.

The biggest difference I'm aware of between the UK and most other places for ABs is the thriving social scene here. Come along to the Little Lock-in in Derby a week on Sunday to find out! See fetlife for details.

My cunning plan is to clean my teeth before my nappy change. This appears to work OK for me. Unless my nappy is already maxed out, in which case I have to be careful in case a puddle has accumulated in my plastic pants while I thought I was just polishing my molars.

A face flannel, no wipes.

Nothing. Just the nappies. A cheap plastic bucket with a lid sits in the bathroom. At bedtime I put my daytime nappy in the bucket. In the morning I add my nighttime nappy & take the bucket down to sit by the washing machine. I then take a second bucket up to the bathroom. And repeat. when I've got 2 full buckets, i.e. two days of nappies, they go in the wash at 60 degrees. I never let wet nappies hang around in the house for over 24 hours, or by the washing machine for over 48 hours (it's in an outhouse). I manage with 2 nappies a day generally. I've never had problems with odours (which doesn't mean nobody has notice anything of course - maybe they're just being polite). Covid pretty much destroyed my sense of smell, so I'm unable to spot problems here. Mummy's not said anything though. I suspect that a vegetarian diet and not drinking coffee help.

I checked mine out yesterday. A Molicare Maxi (I didn't know I still had one). A Tena Maxi pull-up. Two plastic-headed nappy pins and a Snappi. And a couple of plastic bags. All apparently still in working order. And no, I've never used mine either. I totally share your concern about nappy pins. I've still got a handful of metal ones, but they don't last forever. The heads aren't stainless & they rust away eventually. Then it'll be plastic ones or a different solution using Snappis I suppose. I don't trust the plastic heads any more than you do.

Hmm. Better check out my emergency kit too. I imagine it's still serviceable but I've not looked for a while. Just a drybag with a disposable (a Betterdry I think), and a plastic bag as a nappy sack. Probably spare plastic pants too. It's under the car boot floor next to my charging cable, or was last time I looked. Maybe spare pins? Sounds like I'm getting sloppy in my emergency planning...