~Brian~

Obital

Right now I am in my second clean dry white mega max. About a half hour ago I put one on nice and clean and then flooded it out so I had to change it. Probably by the end of the night it won't be dry any more but that's to be expected.

Belt

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I wouldn't worry so much about the writing, because I used to use just my computer to type messages, and then I realized that it would be a lot easier sometimes if I wanted to be involved in a conversation that I want to either be in my bed on a nice even surface to be able to chat for example, versus having to always be at my computer console where I'm setting up straight and my back gets very very tired. About five years ago, I bought myself another ipad and I've been using that for one way of doing posting, but there are limitations to it because of the way it acts. Ipads for some reason will also put things in that I didn't say because of the way the microphone picks it up, or will end up somehow posting half of your post and then you have to go in and edit it or it will double or triple post paragraphs and I don't know why that happens. The last time I updated my online devices, I finally decided to get a Windows tablet. Came with Windows 10 and then I upload it with Windows 11 so that I have everything I need. When I use this particular tablet I have as much power in my hand as if I were sitting in front of either my Mac or my PC. Way I can quickly take care of things that need to be taken care of and I don't have to worry about things that happen. Times things that are said may end up making the post not make sense but this is why I put in my signature a warning so people can understand that sometimes my devices can go wonky and some things that are posted are things that I don't want to have posted whether they're doubled or tripled or a few words are repeated or something like this. Since I have over 8000 posts, it's impossible for me to go back in every single time I find a mistake and then try to manually edit it, but I always try to if I find a glaring admission or a glaring error I try to correct it and then I put it with an edit notation telling someone that I edited it. I don't worry too much about spelling mistakes because I've been online ever since I was 22, and that shows a lot of online experience, and if I went in and edited everything that I posted it would take me years to be able to create things that make sense, but as I said I ask for indulgence sometimes because sometimes I might not pick up on it. I remember somebody telling me in school that it is important that you know how to write. The reason that they did this is because there are individuals that will write something and will not put any punctuation into a document! This makes it almost impossible to read and understand, because it won't make sense. I asked the teacher to give us an example of this. A period is like a stop sign, a comma is like having to slow down and then come to a stop an exclamation mark is a dead stop or something that would get your attention as somebody yelled fire!. The teacher had some sort of a paper that had been turned in by a student as she would not name for obvious reasons. teachers told us that it's important that you have proper punctuation in what you write because then it was hard to understand and hard to read. A comet tells a person to take a breath before proceeding where the exclamation mark tells him to hard stop like slamming on your brakes in your car before you hit something or telling someone there's something that's exciting or dangerous that's ahead and you need to pay attention. To illustrate the point that the teacher was trying to make: the way this was done was she read something that this person wrote. Punctuation marks make it so people know when to pause when to breathe or whatever. Without these punctuation marks, it would be like if I called someone on the phone and I kept on reading something and I kept on having to read and read and read and read without a break or without a period to tell me to stop or to slow down, and I would continue to read and tell my voice was hoarse or I was totally unable to speak. It's like having a constant run on sentence going 100 miles an hour and it sounds really stupid, but it was funny for a lot of us but the point was well taken. Punctuation marks placed in the right place makes it so people know when to take those breaks or to read something with more force or less force or whatever it is. I am not going to hold you accountable Dee Cee, If you have trouble writing information and use punctuation in funny ways, because I know that sometimes if you are writing something it's the idea that you're trying to bring forward and it's not your fault for example if a punctuation mark is out of place or whatever. I used to have problems myself with writing and I don't know how many times I would have to rewrite assignments because someone couldn't read my writing. That's that was solved several years after that because a computer was ordered for me on my IEP in school so I never had to write a paper like that in ink again but if I ever had to write I was always allowed to print, in fact it was something that was required on my IEP because otherwise that would stop me from being able to learn and be able to communicate effectively. Depending on how you communicate that is the way it is and I'm not gonna hold you accountable for that if you have trouble with writing because some people do. I used to have problems writing and I had to go all the way back to a first grade level pencil in order to be able to write in an appropriate way so somebody could read my writing, but it took a hell of a lot of screaming by my parents to get them to understand that I was having trouble comment and when they realized what trouble was going on thank God my 3rd grade teacher picked it up, he was able to get me to a situation where I could function and get my work done and do well in school, and then when I went to 4th grade I went to a different school and that was because of the fact that I had a disability and they needed me to be in a place where I could get more assistance. These people helped me to be able to write read and be able to do math and other types of things even though I had weaknesses. Sometimes writing is a weakness and that is not something that I would Hold against someone because of the way they were brought up or the way they were taught things. Luckily most times your body is in tune with what's going on your senses can determine what's going on and be able to compensate. What I mean is if I read something and it is hard to understand or it has the wrong punctuation, most times you can just have your body or your visual sensors help your brain put it back into a proper way so it can be understood. As I stated, some people have trouble with writing, I did myself along with math those are two things that I had problems with, and I don't know how many times I ended up having to write things over simply because they weren't able to be read, it's like when you write something in a post. If it's not exactly the way they want it they want you to do it again, but when I got my computer I was able to use that computer or a typewriter, and be able to submit papers that were a hell of a lot better, and then when I went to English class I learned the way to use words punctuation marks and other things to make my communications better. All of my life I have used a computer or a typewriter to make those communications and very rarely what I write something today, but I do on occasion do that especially if let's say I have to write a list or I have to do my bills and I have to write down how much I have and do the math and subtract or add or whatever it is, but most of the time if I have to write something I throw it on my computer and run it off my printer. This way, what I will be able to produce would be a hell of a lot better because I have spell check and I have the ability to have it know what may be missing which is why I don't hold people's ability to type or write against them, because as I said there are people that have difficulty writing, or they might not remember grammar or whatever, but they have a general idea of how to do it and how to communicate. So as has been stated above don't worry about trying to be like William Shakespeare trying to make a point, as long as you can get your point across then I think you're doing well. There are also 71 year old individuals who may not have ever touched a computer, and in that case you have to go slow and you teach them at a rate they can understand some people can learn faster than others, and I believe I have taught senior citizens up to 95 years old how to use word perfect or a word processor, I think you're doing darn good considering what you're trying to do and I commend you. As long as I can understand what it is that you're trying to say I won't have a problem and most of the time I don't because I have adapted to understand what it is that you're saying and I can make adjustments so that I can understand what you're trying to say, so don't worry about being a reporter for the New York Times trying to write an article here, just get your point across like others have stated and I think you'll do fine. Respectfully, Brian

Independant

@DailyDi What size are you using mikey? I've seen them be like a size 10 which would be like a humongous Teat On it, and those things can be huge and sometimes they can be uncomfortable. I believe they have him as nuk Fives or sixes, and I know of somewhere you stated that a 10 is huge, and sometimes won't fit in people's mouth or maybe I've heard that from @Little Sherri I have a black one and I have a purple one and I may end up getting another but I'm not sure yet. Brian

@Tom Personal @Little Sherri Is right on the money! At no point should you be embarrassed or ashamed of your status whether it be because of your autism or your incontinence or any other disability that you deal with. If you are embarrassed because of your disability, I can understand that some people are, but the most important thing is to realize that whatever we do, we only have one life to live, and the life we live is important because my parents always taught me that the most important thing is to give 110% as much as you can and do as much for yourself as you can. Take responsibility for what you can or what you know comment get help for those things that you don't know or you don't know how to do, but never never never say to yourself that your disability for some reason because of what happens. I say it that way because I was also born with cp which is a disability, and it's the only life I've ever known for 52 years. I've had to deal with a lot of setbacks and I've had to deal with a lot of let downs, but when you have a positive or you have something that is helpful, or something is happy for you or you have an experience that makes you happy, that's a good thing, even if sometimes it takes a long time for you to get to the point where you can enjoy it. Accepting your incontinence is probably the easiest way to deal with at least one of your disabilities. Many people in the world that wear diapers for whatever reason, and there are plenty of us that could tell you that they are helpful in many ways, ....rs twenty four seven and if we didn't Have a diaper on we'd probably pee all over something, or deal with wet clothing. Dealing with having incontinence is one of the easiest of your disabilities to deal with, and the reason I say that is because I have many disabilities that may be as approximate cause of my main disability of cerebral palsy. Regardless of what happens, I will not let my disability get the best of me they say that I have cerebral palsy, but I say it doesn't have me and I will keep on fighting 120 per cent all the way to the wall until I can't fight any more or do anything for myself. Hopefully by that time, I will have people that will be able to help me to be able to do the things that I need to do, but as long as I can continue to do those things on my own I will continue to do that. Wearing diapers is, and should not be a "big deal" You should also not be ashamed of who you are and what you are or what you deal with. I had a friend of mine that had CP worse than I did. Always went to summer camp and she went to a place called Vermont Achievement Center which was one place that I went to in rehab and I'll tell you stories about that in other posts, but it was hell for me because it was just crazy things were happening that weren't supposed to and adults were taking advantage of us, but regardless of what happens I was always trying to do the right thing. My friends name was Amy, and she always used to make people laugh, and regardless of how hard it got, she always seemed to have a positive attitude. Could make you laugh almost pee your pants for God's sakes, because she was just so lovable and so amiable and just an all around good person to be with. She would take the littlest problems and then basically say the heck with it i'm just going to roll with it. My aunt used to say, make lemonade Mommy or Daddy, and she is right. Basically what she is trying to tell us is that you don't have to worry, if something is making you nervous, you always try to find a way to make lemonade. Doing that will hopefully remove the problem or at least lessen the severity of the problem for a small time. If you're dealing with multiple disabilities I can understand where you would be a small quandary because you're not sure exactly how to handle it. Wearing diapers is like a zero on a scale of 1 to 10 for me, because it's the least problematic of my disabilities. Sure I'll wet myself or I'll mess myself and I'll have to do extra laundry, but as long as that is the least of my worries, that is not a big deal and it becomes very low priority on the scale. Because I know how to handle it. Having a good supply of diapers that will work for you is paramount. Like I said to several people a diaper that works for me may not work for somebody else, and you need to find the diaper that works for you the best. Find that diaper, make sure you can get that diaper, or get a hold of your supplier to make sure it's available, because once you find the right diaper, you will always remember it. You may also want to find an alternate diaper just in case you cannot get one that you use on a regular basis. Not sure how tariffs will affect trying to bring in diapers from overseas if that is something that you do or if a company does that, but the cost of them could be a problem if they become too expensive. However, don't worry about having to wear diapers because that is the least of your worries. However if you're dealing with sleep apnea or you're dealing with a cpap, and you need to deal with your sucking reflex or your chewing reflex, or you need to have a sensory object to help you, then I can understand that you would want to get maybe a pacifier. Don't feel bad if you have to do that, because everyone will understand if you're dealing with a situation. You may not want to take your pacifier out and use it in public, but if you have ways to deal with situations when they get stressful that will help you in m foo re ways than one and I can tell you that I have five very very soft rabbits. I bought every single one of them from the same company, and I thank @TinyBunny for that: I take one bunny with me if there's going to be a situation where I feel that there is going to be something that is stressful that will cause me not to be calm or be able to deal with a situation. Anxiety is something that is really really hard to deal with and if you have your anxiety cranked to maximum it's almost as bad as having spasticity and you are so tight you feel like you're gonna snap like a rubber band. I have my bunnies because they help me deal with stress and they help me deal with situations that might cause me to have issues. If you use a pacifier or you use any type of equipment that would be appropriate for an AB, don't feel bad about it because there are situations where I've seen people that are disabled, and they use a pacifier every day. I've seen it on youtube but I can't remember what channel it was but I believe it was somewhere in Australia. The daughter in this case was in a wheelchair and was severely disabled, and she used 14 years old and uses a pacifier every day at the last time I checked she was at least 14 but now it's probably a lot older than that. If you have a reason to use a pacifier comment and it helps you to relax use it. You use a baby bottle or you use other equipment don't feel guilty because if they can help you to relax and maintain the semblance of calm then it's worth every minute of it and it's worth every dollar. I have been living with cerebral palsy all my life 52 years worth, so I know what it's like: however I can tell you from experience I don't really know what autism is like other than to say that I have dealt with individuals who have autism both on daily diapers and In real life. Each person that has autism is unique and they have their ways of dealing with situations. I'm not sure exactly what you may deal with Tom, but from what I understand there are people that have differing levels of autism and they have differing ways of dealing with it like a sensory room or a place where they can go if they get overloaded and they needed to relax or they need to calm down or they need to be in a quiet place. Depends on the individual, but I do understand that it can be embarrassing sometimes it can be annoying to you it can make you mad and it can make you feel like you are somehow different because of something that you can't control. I couldn't control having cerebral palsy, but I've had to learn ways of dealing with what I'm dealing with, because regardless of what happens it's not going to change the person I am, and I'm not going to be able to deal with it any other way. It's the only thing I know and it's the life I lead, so just like I would say, wearing diapers is no big deal, it's a part of life and I accept it and you might as well have fun with what you have to do you might as well look good or look cute or whatever it is that you want to be, because that's what you've got, and you only got one shot at it my friend. As I said it's very important that you understand that it is not your fault that you have the disabilities that you have it is not your fault that you have Found ways to deal with it that may not be in the mainstream. Big deal if you have to use a pacifier, big deal if you have to wear a diaper, big deal if you like soft objects or you like bunny rabbits like me, I carry one almost everywhere I go because it is a lot easier to deal with stress that way and I don't feel like I'm going to have an issue if I have a friend to give a hug to. Talk to several individuals including my doctor and my support teams and they assure me that it is normal and it is OK, so all you have to do is realize that what you're dealing with is OK to deal with and it's OK to use the types of ways that you wish to Used to be able to solve the problem. It is your consideration it is your issue and no one is going to really give you a lot of grief unless you let it get to you. It's bad enough to have cerebral palsy or it's bad enough to have some sort of a disorder or a disability that you have trouble dealing with, or when you don't have a way of effectively communicating your feelings. At a situation where I had a friend that was trying to tell me how she felt or how he felt and there's no way I could help that person unless I sat and watched the person tell me using an augmentative communication device or a communication board where you have to point out every single letter of a particular sentence, those are kind of hard to deal with but I have ways of dealing with those type of situations because that's what has to happen. I don't quite fully understand autism because there are so many different types of it in my opinion and there's so many different ways people can be affected. Just like with cerebral palsy you can have somebody that has very acute cerebral palsy that isn't very noticeable, to a person like me that has moderate cerebral palsy that has mobility issues, where you could have some of that is severely profound and that means the person either cannot communicate by using words, has trouble communicating words or has no way of communicating without using augmentative communication devices and is wheelchair abound. In some cases the person also wears diapers or has assistance taken care of situations like that by using pcas or other types of aids that go with the person 24 hours a day. Acceptance of your situation is something that you make have to come to after awhile. What I'm saying is that you may not be able to accept what's going on right off the bat, and the reason why I say that is because when I had to deal with my tendencies of having ABDL or whatever they were, I had to come to the realization that acceptance takes a while, but in my case, it was something that I was able to accept after talking to so many people, and be able to hear them say that it was OK for me to be who and what I am, and also that there's no problem wearing diapers and there's nobody else that's going to say anything other than someone who may not agree with that way of dealing with things. If you have a person who wears diapers or you live with a person that wears diapers or you have a friend that wears diapers or whatever, most people understand the reasoning for that decision or the need. Have to question it they don't have to ask you a million questions they just accept you for who you are and what you are. I am very lucky in the fact that I have friends that automatically know that I'm disabled and that I wear diapers, and when I asked them the question if they had a problem with it, they just automatically assumed that it was okay and it wasn't a big deal. Having friends like that is awesome because regardless of what happens they're there for you 110% and will back you to the wall. In closing let me just say that your disability is something that you deal with every day. Your autism is something that you deal with every day, and you deal with your support staff and the people that help you on a regular basis. Long as you're able to keep an open communication line to these individuals you will be able to function very highly and you'll be able to do almost anything you want, you just have to make allowances for things that you may not have total control of. Don't worry if you have to use your diaper don't worry if you have to change your diaper because that's where they're there for, everybody has to use the bathroom my friend it's just a matter of where you use the bathroom and when you use the bathroom, and if you're ready to be able to deal what you need to deal with after doing so. Don't be afraid to be yourself don't be afraid of your disability and don't worry about what people will think: the reason I say that is because there are people that would understand you if you had certain people around for example that were your closest friends, if they knew all of the things that were going on, they wouldn't question you they wouldn't give you the third degree, they understand what's going on. So as I said don't worry about your disability: all you have to do is accept that you have the disabilities you have and that you have to deal with the situations you deal with. Mean that you have to deal with the situations and everything you deal with all by yourself, rather it means that you have these things that you deal with every day like having to get up having to brush your teeth having to take a shower and do rudimentary things that you do in order to like say go somewhere and enjoy yourself. Those are things that happen your disability may end up throwing you a curveball and you might have for example maybe arthritic knees arthritic neck whatever else, or something hurts but those are things that you deal with as a disabled individual. You have to use a scooter or a wheelchair or whatever, then at least you are still able to move around and you're still able to get around. I have been very lucky that I have the ability to still be able to navigate a lot of things with my wheelchair and that I'm able to get on and off busses with no trouble. This is why I'm doing so well is because I've had 30 years of practice plus I have good people that help me from the start to finish. Have some sort of a medical issue, and I can call my brother, or I can call my doctor or my case management team and I can ask them a question and they can help me. I don't let my disability worry me and there are things that I used to worry about that I don't anymore because I have my soft rabbit and other objects to deal with this trouble. Have a pacifier that I use I have two of them, I use them basically when I get very very angry and I get very very emotional because I don't want to hurt myself and I don't want to cause a problem, and sometimes it just really bothers me, but if I have the right type of tools available, I can calm myself down quite easily. If there's anything else I can help you with or if you have any questions, please don't hesitate to ask me or one of the crew on daily diapers i'm sure that there will be plenty of people that can give you information that can help you. Good luck! Brian

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NICE STORY - keep it UP Brian

@Dorothy McDonald Welcome to daily diapers I hope you are able to join us and also make a lot of good friends: we will be glad to help you anywhere we can answer any questions that you have and we Also have our chat server where you can get an interesting conversation at certain times. If there is anything that I can do for you please do not hesitate to ask me or others! Brian

@Demon-hunter As I have stated to others, there are two specific audiences: one that uses the pull-ups, one that uses the full tape on diapers because they cannot just dribble. I were to use a pull up, every single time that I would use it, I would flood myself and I might as well be peeing on the floor. This is part of the reason why I won my argument with the state. I need a diaper that I can rely on, not one that I just keep on peeing in seventeen times all day long and then I have to change it once. Have to use it, I have to unload all of it, and even when I have a mega max on, I still have to be careful because even if you have a dry mega max, if you have to hold it and then release everything all at once, you will flood. I would not want diaper manufacturers to just get rid of The heavy duty tape on tab style mega max diaper. I also want to make sure that the quality of the diaper that comes from China is as good as or better than what should come from the United States. I'm not sure why they have to change the way AUSA diaper is made versus 1 from China and that is what I'm afraid of. 47 will make that happen because he will not want China to have any easy way out, but there are some of us that require some of these types of products that come in from overseas and that's what I'm afraid of, that they'll be so expensive that I won't be able to get the quality that I'm used to. I remember one time when I talked to N Shore myself, they told me that there was a difference between the North Shore air, which is a cloth version of a mega Max, versus the tape briefs that I wear. I was automatically told that " Mega Max Air Diapers are not designed for people who are Fully incontinent." My dream is that whoever needs whatever they need will be able to get it, because if there were three of us at Mike's house and we're all standing in the same room we all wear diapers for the same reason, each of us would wear diapers that are all different, because what may work for Mikey for example may not work for me what may work for Elfie may not work for me or something else, it all depends on what happened, so we have to be able to have the ability to make choices and not be locked into one particular style or locked out of one particular need because of high cost or tariff. Brian

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