~Brian~

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@FretaBWet Looks like the "Diaper Spa" has run afoul of the Board of Medicine in New Hampshire: One thing i have learned about the Vermont State Boards that deal with licensing is that they take a DIM view of claiming something that you are NOT, and they WILL sanction you if you are doing something against the Laws and Rules of your profession. If she is somehow stating that what she is doing is providing things is medical in nature, or she is practicing medicine without a license in New Hampshire, then she will have to deal with the consequences of that. I remember one time when I was working with the Office of Professional Regulation, and we had a Licensee that let her License LAPSE: She was running her Cosmetology Shop and personal Cosmetology License on an expired license. When she tried to RENEW it, my boss ran it, and then found it EXPIRED. Normally, you just pay your License Fees for the Licenses (1 shop, 1 cosmetology), and they send you a renewed license for BOTH. HOWEVER: If you let your license LAPSE for a specific time period, and you don't renew it within the grace period, once it lapses and passes that point (I think maybe 1 year, but not sure). You CAN renew, but you have to pay your FEES and RETAKE all your practicals as if you were a new applicant! That Day I got a call from this licensee, she wanted to renew BOTH, but after my boss logged into the system, and ran her licenses, they had been expired for so LONG that I was informed that she would have to retake the practical test for her profession. I was asked to relay that information: I DID! The Licensee was PISSED, and was YELLING at me, so I had to have my boss take the call and tell her that what I said was according to the Laws and Rules, and my boss did NOT back down: She had to retake the practical, and she was NOT happy: I told her that she had to do that, and that I was doing things that I was supposed to do, and NOT to shoot the messenger. If the law says you have to do something, the law says what it says! I think the owner of this spa is gonna have more trouble then just trying to OPEN the Spa in the State of New Hampshire: You DON'T Want to mess with the law or say something that that you are NOT, or elude to the fact that you are something you are NOT by representing you are providing services that the medical board has jurisdiction over. I think, that if she was a Licensed Individual in New Hampshire, then she may be OK, but if the medical board FINED her $10,000, she must have done something to Irk them. That is within their pervue to make decision like this. Brian

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@WriteAndLeft as @Drownedinpstated, that font is hard to read, and not only that, but i actually thought that my screen was messed up Brian

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@deewet I don't understand that either: Most people that deal with incontinence have probably decided that the best way to handle it is the way that you are handling it. Truth be Told, I'd rather have Medicaid in Vermont Pay $400 a month for Diapers for me, than try medicines that would cause bad side effects, like heartburn, dry mouth, etc - and cost hundreds and thousands of dollars AFTER insurance: Wearing Diapers is cheaper, and I am NOT taking any more meds than I have to because I NEED it: $227 is I believe what they pay for them whenever I order, so as long as the state is willing to pay for that, I'm not changing what I do, as it works well for me. The State KNOWS I need them for IC. so they said I would NEVER have to worry about it again, because, having severe incontinence BOTH ways, plastic backed diapers that last as long as possible are what i need, and the doctor and medicaid knows I need them, and they said if they found the products that work for ME, that they would not change it, but they TRIED to do that to me last summer, but I was able to talk to someone at the state, and they kept the pricing contract I use, and I can continue to use what works, as I proved that I need what I need, and what they Did was work with ActivStyle, and they, as well as ANY other company have CLOTH BACKED diapers that are TRASH, and I've Tried every one of them (Cloth backed products that are made, from EVERY company) and they don't work for me! Hell: I'm 51, and I've dealt with incontinence on and off since I was born: My brother Richard was disabled, non verbal, and non mobile, and was disabled as a result of an accident that my parents had when they were going somewhere. Mom was holding him in her lap, and he and Dad went through the windshield. Dad was seriously injured as a result of the accident, and mom and Grammy and Grampa took care of him as he healed at home. So, because of Richard's accident he was disabled, and had to wear diapers for the rest of his life, so I and my family know about them, and have used them as needed: I am glad I have the Megamaxes, and I am NOT gonna get railroaded into cheaper products: Plastic Backed Diapers have absorbancy and CAPACITY and ODOR Control, and when I TRIED the cheap Cloth backed stuff, I might just as well NOT use a diaper and PEE and MESS all over the floor: additionally the diapers that I had to try were sub par, did not have much capacity or odor control, and my skin was irritated because the diaper gave off a foul smell and was FLOODED when I used it, and that wasn't my fault - I use diapers, not Bounty Paper Towels with Tabs! At least with my Megamaxes, I can be ASSURED that I CAN use them as INTENDED for #1, #2 and #3: and the padding can take it, and if I have a messy accident the Northshore's HOLD for me until I can get home and change. For the Record: I have Medicare Parts A, B, and D, and I can't Apparently GET Part C. First and foremost, they said that it would make my medical costs increase, and I don't have to do any copays unless it's meds or dental services, and that costs me $3/visit - Second, I would end up NOT being able to get the VISION coverage i need, as my Eye Doctor is NOT in the network that accepts the plan that they wanted to sell me, but my next set of glasses will cost me $300, so I don't know how I am gonna be able to get my new ones when I need to. Insurance Companies decide what they cover and what they will not cover: The problem is that some decisions are not based on the person's NEED of the products or services: Decisions are based on COST and if it costs them $500 for something you need, and they can get away with paying $50, they are gonna DENY the claim at $500, and "cheap out", and I would be surprised if the Insurance Company denials they throw at you DID NOT CAUSE the death of someone - Insurance is always trying to spend the LEAST that they CAN and HAVE to, because that saves them money, when some products you may need may COST HIGHER, and for that, you need to ask for a waiver or whatever they call a Prior Auth for the services you NEED - I think my doctor can Justify what I use, so I'm not as worried, but one of these days theur decision will cause harm to the insured party, and then it will be hell for him/her and the families dealing with the medical needs of the insured: Sometimes I think Private insurance is a RIPOFF - and the State can say "We don't cover this or that anymore.......due to Medicaid rules", and then they tell me to go read it, and it's TECHNICAL, wordy, and makes NO sense That is the problem nowadays: We hear that the Government "takes care of" those that are/were Veterans, and they say that they can get what they may need if you go to the V A - Truth is, I HIGHLY doubt that we do ENOUGH to help or Veterans, and people that need the healthcare coverage, or those that are disabled or elderly: WE NEED to do MORE for those that are vulnerable, as they can't afford to pay for a lot of things, and Veterans and their families should be able to be covered as well, and if a Veteran serves our country, and DIES, the government should be able to help the spouse of a Veteran: That's only fair in my opinion: You help the spouse and family Brian

@ValentinesStuff YIKES!! If @Brown Owlhas to do that, I would hope he would be able to link only the parts he would have to, that deal with ISP's and laws that pertain to online services Having to include all that if not needed, would be as silly as me asking a question of Vermont Medicaid, and they link to the Medicaid Manual for Vermont, which is technical, and overly wordy and I told them that when they sent me there, as I am not a doctor, a lawyer, a nurse, or other medical professional, and those people are USUALLY the ones who write and edit that stuff Brian

@Brown Owl Thank You for the clarification!! I can almost guarantee that I would NOT do that: In fact, you would probably get a message from me if i felt something was NOT right Brian

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@Brown Owl I don't know to much about the old site, or what happened. (Other than what was posted). I understand that management was a little crazy on the old site, and that mods had the power to use to delete/lock threads that they thought were "not kosher" but they did NOT use their power to do that, because they would get grief for doing it. A Mod/Admin SHOULD be able to, and DOES have the ability to do that - There are many times where you would have to moderate threads: Failure to do that because someone tells you that "You'd better have justification for each one you deleted" is ridiculous: If there are users that you have to speak to or deal with, you CAN do it, and you DO have the justification for doing so. Being the owner of 5 domains and my own server, and having to do work as an admin, I KNOW that having the power to manipulate users, files, directories, web content and system maintenance,is a BIG Responsability! I only use the power of root when and IF I need to do work as the superuser: other than those times when my terminal reads: "root@cardinal:/#". My user account 'brian@cardinal~$" is used, and 'sudo' prefixes most of the commands that need root permissions. (I also learned to be CAREFUL with permissions, because once from my Tallahassee Free-Net terminal shell I did "chmod 000" which LOCKED me out of my directory, and the admin had to set my directory "chmod 755 /home/bsbaker.") I have learned much since that mistake a LONG time ago: You use your power when you need it, and you only use enough of a deterrent to correct errant behavior: for example: we would ban a user from an IRC channel for a few minutes to a max of 24 hours, then allow them back, and each time they did bad things, we would up the punishment, and the ULTIMATE punishment that we would use would be a /KILL <user> [REASON] If they continue you would KILL LINE the user@host or user@IP. The ban of the IRC user would be dependent on the admins or the server IRC Operators: whoever bans someone decides the length of the ban, and whether it would be removed, and the admins or the user that did the ban would be responsible for UNDOING it: we RESPECTED that, because Opers had a reason for the ban. If a user was doing things that would be a detriment to the system or the users, we could DELETE the users account, and that would be an Admin decision, and it was only used in the most dire of situations, where someone had something in their home directory that they shouldn't, or if they ran C scripts like flash.c (that, when run, would flash the screen of the whole IRC server, OR when someone was connected to TFN as a user which meant NO ONE could see anything, and it messed up the screen of everyone on the server. I would have banned the idiots that were causing the problems, and delete the stories that are of questionable nature, because that is the right thing to do. If you are only dealing with "'Half a Dozen Users'" THEY should be the ones that get the ban hammer. From 1995-2007, I was an IRC Operator, and I remember one dude that was breaking the rules: It was BLATANT and WILLFUL misconduct. I had a decision to make, and I resisted the temptation to do it, and I had people messaging me asking me WHY I hadn't done what I should have done: I was told I would have support for my Kline, and I did. I executed my FIRST and ONLY K-line against the user. and guess what?: I had to JUSTIFY my kline to the admin team, and I did, but: The admin REVERSED my kline, and told me that I "had to apologize to the user I klined". I KNEW I was in the right: I almost got CANNED as a staffer because of it, and that was NOT fair, as many opers have K-Lined users without a penalty...... Soon after that, the admin told me I was RIGHT, and he apologized to ME for HIS accusing me of misconduct by banning a troublemaker. I bring this to your attention because: I had made mistakes on TFN, and I was able to have them help me when I needed it, and most times, they don't delete you for mistakes you make: Being 'Paranoid' about stories that are inappropriate for the site, or ones that may not be posted with permission is something you have to be CAREFUL of, but I question something, and it bothers me a little: When you have a "One and Done/Nuke someone Policy" for ANYBODY that makes even MINOR mistake on scriptorium: The reason you use a penalty is because the person is doing something that the admin feels is inappropriate, and I respect that, but I wonder if the right thing to do would be to issue a WARNING first, and THEN if they do it AGAIN you may want to throw the hammer? I made a mistake once in chat, I didn't ask permission to PM someone: @spoonchickenthrew the hammer for 15 MINUTES: I talked to @DailyDi and then we straightened out the problem: They did NOT "NUKE me" for that mistake, and I would NOT do anything here that would be a violation of the rules: I would ASK the admins first, that is the way I roll: If PM'ing someone the FIRST time they are violating the rules is a "Nuke level offense, as you say, I would have been BANNED FOREVER from this site, and I would also be Nuked at scriptorium! @spoonchickenbeing an admin, HE COULD have banned me from DD, but he DID NOT do it, even through I messed up For the Record: I read the rules over there, and I respect them, and I wouldn't: a) post anything that was NOT mine, or that I did NOT have permission to post. b). post anything that has ANYONE in the story that is NOT an ADULT (18+), or anything that has anything to do with MINORS, or anything that would NOT be appropriate for posting: I KNOW better than that! c) INTENTIONALLY break any of the rules of the Scriptorium - I LIKE to read stories, and I've written one myself, and LOVE to read stories: The problem is, that many sites that you could do that at are NO LONGER active, and as far as I know, scriptorium was created so that the INTENT of the site could be maintained, and the Mods/Admins have been empowered to 'do their jobs' and that is cool, but i would hate to be a guy that got nuked because I misunderstood something: THAT is why I ask FIRST: That way, no one has to GUESS whether something is allowed or is NOT. d) Do anything that would be inappropriate: such as Name calling, flaming, shaming or putting someone down, or use racial slurs or references that would put a particular class of individuals: That is WRONG, and unacceptable! However: While I RESPECT the rules of your server and I **do understand** WHY some rules are there, I question whether some of these "rules" may cause an individual to question whether or not they want to be a member of your site. When you want to attract people to be a part of the community you don't set it up so that when reading the rules, you feel as if you are gonna get the equivalent of getting BURNED by a FLAME THROWER or SHOT with a Glock 9 handgun if you screw up - meaning they get nuked, and that is that! The atmosphere that you set up, and the way you guys and gals do what you do is important: If someone breaks the rules like posting something that is not theirs, or if they post stories that don't belong, or they do a story that has sexual overtones, and you don't want that, I would ban them AFTER giving a warning, pointing them to the rule that they broke: Sometimes a "nuke forever" sanction is NOT appropriate, and i would be the first one to "ask you what the heck I did to get banned" if I was banned due to a misunderstanding. In my example, I almost got banned and deleted because of doing MY JOB, and I would fight TOOTH and NAIL and do ANYTHING I could to clear my NAME and get unbanned or restored to the system: That is the way I am! Being an admin, I am aware that your staff is paranoid about something happening when someone breaks the rules - I GET that, and I would be the first one to do what I HAD to do to keep the place free of content that is inappropriate, or that would cause the law enforcement authorities to have to visit you and deal with something that puts the scriptorium or its staff or mission in jeopardy! I have friends I've known since I was SIX years old, and while some of them are no longer with us, they have my respect, and they know my character and my beliefs and I've made mistakes online, and some I have regretted: I would NEVER hurt any site - I own 5 domains and a server, and I know that you have to make decisions that are easy ones sometimes, and hard ones other times, and that you want to protect the server and the staff of your site as much as possible. My philosophy is that: Any site I am a member of is like being in someones "electronic house" whether it be on TFN, or Geeks to Go, or Besttechie, or DD, or any other site: You are allowed to be there at the will and discretion of the mods/admins: I would ASK first, about ANYTHING I am not sure of, because, like you, you said you and your staff are "paranoid" about getting into trouble, so you set up the rules the best you can. Its your house, your rules - and I respect and understand that, BUT: If you are all "paranoid" about things happening on your site, I understand that: Quite Frankly sir, I am paranoid that if I join the scriptorium, and make **ANY** mistakes at all, I get NUKED with no recourse: The way the rules come across to me is "I screw up, I DIE, even for the smallest transgression!" That does NOT sound welcoming or Fair for someone who makes a mistake - I've been banned before, and it is no fun! System Security and Board Security are ONE thing, use of your banning tools when someone makes a minor mistake, instead of talking to that individual and finding out WHAT happened from their perspective is one thing I would do: What if someone did something, like say "Mod X did this to me" and you BAN them for the infraction, according to your rules, THEN you find out that someone LIED to you, and "Mod X" did NOT do anything..... would you then keep that mod banned if you relied on someone that told you a lie, or made "Mod X" look like he did something when he in actuallity did NOT do it - would look bad if someone somebody didn't like was NUKED because someone lied and made someone look bad..... I beg you to adopt a philosophy that says you will NOT nuke anyone for a MINOR infraction: Guys like me, well, I WANT to follow the rules and do the right things, but what happens if I make a mistake? My sense is that the rules make it sound like I am "nuked with no recourse". Is that fair or right? No, but even we admins make mistakes At this time, I will NOT join Scriptorium: The mere idea that I could "mess up somehow and be "nuked" is troubling, especially if it is a minor infraction: Major infractions should be those that you make clear Like messing with the boards, LYING to staff, posting inappropriate content, etc. If someone can assure me that I can USE the site as intended without fear of being banned, I would join willingly: sometimes people make mistakes, and I am one that has, and i am sure that you have! We all have, and we should be able to use discretion when someone violates the rules: NOT just ban them outright: Save that for the WORST offenders. You are the ADMIN: YOU have the ability to NOT use certain powers, and you have the ability to USE certain powers: I didn't LIKE to ban ANYONE, but, if I felt that it was warranted, I would ban Like @spoonchickendid to me when I made a mistake and messaged without permission - He used discretion, and did NOT ban me outright, but HE CAN do that! The point is that he didn't, and for that, i am grateful! Respectfully, Brian

@Miss Mummy I am interested and will check it out I certainly will do that!! It's GOOD that there are podcasts and members in our community that can provide TRUE and accurate information about our being who we are and what we are, without throwing us into the negative light that many sites and people do, when they do NOT UNDERSTAND the fetish and/or the lifestyle we live. When people that do not understand why we do what we do, they can have ideas about what they THINK being an AB/DL is, and what it is not, and we have to be able to EDUCATE people about the fetish/lifestyle itself, because we DO have our reasons and beliefs and while someone may READ or POST videos and such that show us in the negative light, it makes people think we are something we are NOT, and that is where podcasts and posts and other media sources can let people know that there are GOOD things about being who and what we are, and people should NOT assume that being AB/DL is BAD. - because it's NOT - I have learned a LOT from people on DD about what this fetish and lifestyle IS and what it is NOT, and I can tell you that for example: I wear diapers because of my disability, and my mobility issues, as well as because of incontinence BOTH ways: I KNOW for a fact that wearing diapers and using them is also a comfort for me, and they are stress relievers as well: When I have a diaper on, I don't worry about if I am going to use it, I just KNOW that I WILL use it, so I am prepared when I go out - I have learned that being an AB or DL, or whatever we identify as, is NOT bad, it's the way we are "wired" and that is something you cannot change: I was a DL since the age of 8, and I tried to suppress the urges I was dealing with, and the feelings that wearing diapers gave me, and I did so, and it was hard sometimes. When I started having problems with incontinence and accidents, IBS, and diverticulitis. in 2019 and 2020, I sought help, and decided that because of these issues, that I would wear diapers and see what happens. What happened was, I was STILL having problems with Incontinence, IBS, and Diverticulitis, and on top of that, I wasn't sleeping very well, and I noticed that when I have a diaper on, I don't have to worry, because the diaper is there to HELP me, and I CAN and DO use it when it happens. In 2020, i went to see my doctor, and told HIM that I had decided to go 24/7/365 in diapers, because they help me with my issues, and while the diapers do that, they also help me deal with the urges and feelings that I get when I have them on: and the BEST thing: I DON'T HAVE to HIDE my Incontinence anymore, and I can legitimately Wear and Use diapers, because I NEED them, and I have been diagnosed as Incontinent, and there are people with CP and other disabilities that may have to deal with incontinence issues throughout their lives. Because of this, and because of several people on DD, and in my support team, I made the decision I did, for my health, well being, physical and mental health and sanity - I am more relaxed and I do not worry about this now, unlike when I was younger, when wearing diapers may illicit a response that is NOT favorable: because of my disability, I understand that diapers can/will/have been used to help those who deal with incontinence, and any conditions that may necessitate use of diapers. I also wore them while in pediatric rehab stints, where they did NOT want to get up and move around without the staff helping us, and I wore because they were NOT too keen on taking us to the bathroom in time, so they would diaper us, and change us as needed, because they said it was "'Easier to change a diaper and clean you up, than having to take us out of bed, and transfer to wheelchair(s) or walking aids to get to the bathroom." I would NOT change my decision, and I don't regret or try to second guess it either: It was easier for me to accept the decision and implement that decision. I told the people who I thought should know about the decision I made in 2020 and it was they understood and supported my decision and choice: I worry about things that I shouldn't worry about sometimes, and incontinence has gone from a 10 on the list of worries down to a 0 (Zero), and I don't sweat it anymore. If you are interested in my Journey Thread about how I started as a young kid, and dealing with that, and other issues, please don't hesitate to click on it and read it, and if you want to comment on it, that would be OK too Thank you for letting us know about your podcast Brian

@Little BabyDoll Christine It could indeed be a DNS issue: Sometimes it can take anywhere from 5-10 minutes to a full 24 hours to go through the DNS servers on the internet when you change your IP address. or you add a website. They Call That TTL (Time To Live). I would still recommend that you have your ISP and your web hosting company check it out, because your website should come up whether it is https:// or http://. The fact that sandralyn.net resolves to the same address as that porn site is something I would check out, as @DailyDisays because you certainly do NOT want to have someone visit you, and be "surprised" as He was or I was. We know that you would not have that type of content, so when I saw that, I was like "WOAH!! Christine would NEVER serve that content, that is NOT like her at all: I better check this out". The Clue I got was when you did not have a match on your certificate, and when @tuffydid the 'host sandralyn.net' command and it came back as the same IP address as sandralyn.net, I checked it myself, and it came back the same as his output I would give it til morning to see if there is a change: when I did the "test" you did, I got the page that you gave, in BOTH http:// and https:// so at least that worked for me now. When I do the other.sandralyn.net address, NOW I get:

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