Kingdark

what's the deal with all the colours? It's distracting to read like this, not to mention a bit confusing to keep track of who says what.

Interesting story so far I like it a lot, the only criticism I have (If I have to give one) is to pay attention to when you need to write capital letters. There are several places where you wrote a small letter. It's not a big deal though, but if you're like me, and you're a perfectionist when it comes to writing... Kingdark

Hi steven, You don't have to wear 24/7 to enjoy a diaper. It can be hard, trying to wear (and use?) them in peace when you still live at home or just with anyone that doesn't know. In fact, I would say that you shouldn't wear 24/7 for plenty of reasons. It's expensive, it's smelly and it's bound to get noticed. Now, most people won't be looking around, asking themselves; is that person wearing a diaper? No? How about that one? That one isn't either. How about that dude over there? oh, yea, he IS wearing a diaper! That doesn't really happen. Even if someone were to notice, they would either pretend they didn't see anything, or they would say something mean. Suffice it to say, that anyone doing the latter isn't worth listening to. Anyway, a good day to you! Kingdark

Have you really thought about what it would mean to be in diapers for real?

Now I do an enema before bed every night and that has eliminated the majority of my night time messes. -------------------------- Isn't that unhealthy? I heard doing it on occasion is okay but every day? Verstuurd vanaf mijn SM-G935F met Tapatalk

Let me clarify, when my doctor prescribes me something, doesn't matter what really, but basically something you need to have a doctors prescription for, it's cheaper to buy them. I guess our health insurance are very, very different, because my health ensurance pays me back roughly 90% of whatever I need.

and you couldn't simply ask your doctor, well the urologist, to prescribe you diapers and be done with it?

Hey all, I don't have any kids myself, but I am a very proud uncle of two of the cutest children you could imagine. Anyway, I have worried a few times when they visited, and I was wearing under my jeans. The youngest likes to sit on my lap, and I 've worried what I should do if they ever asked about it. I mean, I sure as heck don't want my brother to know. Far too many awkward questions if that were to happen. Also, telling them that it's something private and that it's 'our secret' can lead to misunderstandings if they ever mentioned it. That's why I tried to put a pillow on my lap, on which the youngest sits. Or the oldest, depending on their mood. Anyway, should I be worried? Neither of them are in diapers anymore and haven't been for some time. The oldest (six) and the youngest (four) always surprise me with surprise visits. (I'm their neighbour.) Kingdark

Hey Thomas, I just wanted to ask what an "HSA allocation" is? Also, I don't know how it is wherever you live, but in Belgium, when we have medical issues, we can send it in and have part of what we paid for medicine, etc returned to us. Isn't that true for you? If you really can't help it, then can't your doctor prescribe you diapers and wouldn't that mean its cheaper? I mean, if you just woke up in a soaked bed without a single warning, then clearly that's something beyond your power right? Also, I agree with you that a lot of "us" don't really understand the consequences of wanting to be incontinent or wanting to wear diapers the whole time. I sure as heck wouldn't want it. I don't know what it's like to be in your situation but I hope that you get good news in January. Kingdark

Hello, MrMazzo, otherwise known as Adrian When you say that your wife is about to be in diapers full time, does that mean literally full time, as in 24/7/365? Is she incontinent or is there another reason that she has to wear diapers? I ask because you said that you and your wife have no experience in the lifestyle and it seems a bit odd to just jump into the deep, just like that if you get what I mean. But anyway, what you would probably want are the basics. Cream against diaper rashes and baby powder. The rest kinds of depends on you. Is she in a baby mentality? Then you want to get a couple of adult sized pacifiers. Plastic pants to protect against leaks is useful as well. Onesies and sleepers might be something to consider as well. As to the rest... It depends on how big of a budget you have really. There's diapers and then there are abdl diapers which are expensive and a luxury really. For the money you spend on some of them you can get 'normal' adult diapers. Several packages even. Depending on the brand ofcourse. Anyway, I hope this was a bit useful, if not, feel free to message me for any questions yo may have. Kingdark

I remember somewhere that the 'training yourself to be incontinent' is a myth. You can get something 'close' but you can never really train yourself to be really, genuinely incontinent. Are you sure your urologist wasn't messing with you?

Hello Brian, welcome to DD. I hope you'll make many contacts on the forum. You probably shouldn't share your (real?) first name straight from the get go though. But hey, it isn't like it is THAT big of a risk. In any case, welcome again

In my eyes 'diapers' are and will always be with tapes. Pullups are, like people have already stated, meant for people who are capable of using the toilet. For toddlers, its easy for parents to pull it down and let the child do its business, but if an accident happens, then it isn't that big of a deal. For adults, the same is true except that there are no parents involved. It is for people, who tend to pee if they laugh, sneeze or even if somebody scares them as a prank. (or something) When I was younger, I bought the 'pants/pullup' variety because those were the only thing I had available to buy. So my preference will always be diapers with tapes and not pullups. edit: by the way, I've noticed over the years that a lot of 'us' in the abdl communities always prefer plastic backed diapers, but I never really cared which it was. The plastic ones, tend to tear if you want to reposition the tapes unlike the other diapers. But my question is, why do so many of 'us' prefer diapers with plastic backing?

I disagree partly with what you said. First of all, people WILL notice sooner or later. They'll notice you aren't going to the bathroom.They will notice a smell. They wil notice a bulge in your pants. There are dozens of ways that they could figure out something is weird. And regardless of how you put it, for most people, it will always be embarassing and or humiliating when it is noticed they are wearing diapers. There is a sort of exception to this though. If you are genuinenly incontinent and can't help it, in other words, if it's something beyond your power to change and not something you did yourself, then I agree that the embarassment will possibly be less and if people you thought of as friends drop you, then yhea, you're right, then they aren't worth being friends with. HOWEVER! If you made yourself incontinent or you are wearing diapers volontuarily, then that's a whole differnet kettle of fish. People will be far less understanding if it is something you did yourself. That's what I meant. Also, most people will care what people think because if people in public notice, there is a high chance that there will be those that will try to embarass you in public. Hell, just to give you a good example. I live in Belgium. It was on the news that a gay person, who owned a store/shop. This person didn't hide the fact he was gay and that he was in a relationship with another guy. Anyway, some random hateful person rang his doorbel, beat the poor guy up JUST because he was gay. Just consider that and keep in mind that homosexuality is far more accepted today than it was a few decades ago. Now, think of our 'thing.' How do you think people will respond to people that wear and use diapers voluntarily? Those same people that ring a doorbel, beat a gay person up without being provoked whatsoever. Just. Like. That. Personally, I don't understand how anyone could do that. Gay, straight, lesbian what does it matter? (takes a deep breath.) Sorry, but this kind of pointless and senseless violence pisses me off. But the point I'm trying to make is that you SHOULD care if people in public notice. Especially if it gets out that you aren't genuinenly incontinent. That's the point I'm trying to make. edit: Also, the right clothing or not, if you got some bad luck, people still might notice a bulge.

Ehm, honestly, I agree with DiaerboyEddie12. I sort of kinda, accidentally on purpose pee'd my pants but I only did that once. I mean, that's what the diaper is for, right? I prefer wearing a diaper then just doing it in my pants. I don't have any right critizing another person's 'thing' since I like to use my diaper completely myself, I have no room to speak, but I just don't see the point. But to each their own. Also, to reply to the OP, if you really are inco, then I can fully understand why it isn't as enjoyable anymore. Part of why 'we' like wearing diapers is also because we can pick and choose when and where we wear the diaper. I had a chance to wear 24/7/10 for ten days and while it was enjoyable at first, I quickly got tired of it. Now normally, I try to wear the diaper for awhile, but because I kept my hygiene in mind, I changed more often. And let me tell you, it's a lot more work to change into a fresh diaper then it is to go to the toilet. I mean, it has its advantages if you're feeling lazy and are enjoying a marvel marathon. But the point I'm trying to make is that you quickly get a large heap of soiled diapers in various states that you need to get rid off. Moreover they stink and they weigh. Like a lot! I wouldn't want to be Inco myself. I don't think I would be upset a whole lot, but that does not mean I would try to become it. For various reasons. a) it costs way too much money. b) people will notice c) it'll be embarssing and or humiliating when people notice d) if it isn't a for a medical reason, and people find out about it, they will be far less understanding. and E) they WILL find out about it if they know you as a person. After all, you just don't become incontinent from one day to another. But my reply is getting a bit long, so I'm cutting it off here Kingdark

Just check a pharmacy and buy them there. Verstuurd vanaf mijn SM-G935F met Tapatalk

I welcome you as well. There are plenty of other forums and places like this one, but you should always be cautious about what you tell about yourself But that's probably common sense and you most likely know this already. ? I do have a question though, if you would like to answer it. Right now, I'm going 10 days with no toilet, so I'm wearing 24/10 and so far, I've mostly followed it. The thing is that I feel it gets a bit... Bothersome after a while. I've probably changed into fresh diapers a little bit too quick, so I'm going through my stash a bit quicker than I would like. Also, I'm a bit worried about the amount of trash I've gathered so far. I can only dump the used diapers into public trash bins so many times before it gets suspicious. So, how do you handle it? I can't just throw it into the trash and do it like that, which would of course be the most logical solution. Long story short, my parents are on vacation to Spain right now and I'm alone at home for ten days. Unfortunately, they won't pick up the trash three days AFTER they get back home and I don't have enough trash by a long shot to just 'hide' it more or less. So I'm forced to dump the diapers into public trashcans to get rid of them, and I've got at least five or six of them already and I'm only at day six! So basically, doesn't it get tiresome to keep changing the diaper, do you just throw it in the trash the 'normal' way? I most certainly do not wish real incontinence on anyone. Kingdark

My story is somewhat similar as the rest of you. My mum used to be a... ehm Well, I don't know what the English version is, but basically, she took care of the baby's of other parents for the whole day (got paid for it naturally) anyway, I remember being curious and trying one of the diapers out on myself, but even as young as I was, younger than ten but older as five, I couldn't figure out how to put it on. And i put them back. Then I 'forgot' about it for a long while, until I got internet access. Then I got reminded about them, bought me some of those pants (the first time) because they were easier to put on, but I wasn't satisfied with them, so I bought 'normal' diapers after that and I never stopped having some ever since.

That's what I had wanted to say Feel free to ask about anything and I have no doubt that someone will respond, sooner or later.

Hey, This is sort of relevant to the topic, but nurses / caring staff / ? Not doing a really proper job isn't something limited to America, but it's also true here in Belgium. My grandmother is suffering from dementia, thankfully it isn't too bad yet, she still knows us, but she doesn't know what she had for dinner. Anyway, I'm paraphrasing here, but my grandmother is still perfectly able to go to the bathroom on her own.But what did they do? They stuck a fucking diaper on her. I'm offended in her place. If she were still 'all there' she would be giving the nurses / staff a tongue lashing like you wouldn't believe, but now she appears not to care. But trust me, we (as in her family) are very offended that they did that. My point is that the staff takes advantage of the patients (my grandma is in a retirements home) and the staff don't do what they are supposed to do. Some of them shouldn't even be working their in the first place, but because of "connections" they can't fire her which is a god-damned disgrace. But what I don't understand is how a hospital wouldn't have any diapers. That's like a café without a beer. Or a place that sells french fries without any god damned fries! I don't get it. Surely this hospital has patients who are genuinely incontinent (like you?) and require diapers to deal with it? HOW can they not 'do' any of that? I really don't get it. Is there something wrong with the logic unit in America for doctors or something? (no offense) after edit: Oh, and cruiser 3? I had a really hard time understanding your message. I don't know if that's because you were in a hurry writing it or if English isn't your first language, but you might want to clean that up, because while I got the general picture, a lot of what you said is very confusing and odd to read.

When you say that you found your old pacifier... When you say old, just how old are we talking about here? Old from your literal baby days, or old as in 'I lost it a few months back and found it again' kind of old?

I think that you shouldn't be too worried. First of all, even if your dentist DOES notice, s/he'll be professional enough not to say anything about it. All medical personnel are legally obliged to keep anything they are being told, secret. So your dentist will not be telling anyone. If wearing a diaper will make you calm and better able to take it, then do so. I wouldn't hesitate if I were you. But I do wonder at the competence of your dentist though. Was there any pain? Because if there was, then you should've asked for something stronger. Again, a dentist is a medical professional (obviously) and cannot under any circumstances tell anyone and unless you say something about it, I sincerely doubt that he or she will even say something about it. And even if he or she DOES, you don't have to defend yourself. You're there for your mouth hygiene not for anything else.

Will be contacting you soon. Verstuurd vanaf mijn SM-G935F met Tapatalk

Heya! I bid you welcome! I would like to ask you what kind of roleplays you do or have done already? I have a very wild imagination and I love creating stories with people making decisions and inserting randomness to it :)

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