R682

If you are suffering diarrhoea that severely, I'd say it's beginning to sound serious enough to consult medical advice. I don't want to be melodramatic, but do be careful of drinking too much pure water. What's being lost from your body will include all kinds of essential salts, and pure water could then further dilute what is left in your system. This can affect your nerve, muscle and heart function. People have had heart failures as a result of drinking too much water, and dropping too much salt too quickly. If you get chest pain, severe feeling of weakness or fatigue, severe muscle cramping, or feel confused, you should take these as very serious warning signs indeed (all symptomatic of critically low salt levels) it might even be time to call 999 (or 911, depending on where you live) - especially in the case of chest pain or confusion - don't ignore those! One thing you can do to guard against this is to drink 'isotonic' drinks, such as lucozaid, or similar drinks that include sodium and potassium salts (both of which are vitally needed by your heart and nerves) and glucose, rather than pure water. You should also make sure you are eating something in small doses, even if you're feeling unwell, or you think it will just lead to more diarrhoea. Something like bananas, salted peanuts, trail mix or cereal bars would be good. Of course, most of the time, the situation is unlikely to be anywhere near as big a deal as I might reference above. If the shops are relatively close, I'd try and get out in between accidents. Getting some medicine into your system might at least give you some temporary respite to eat and drink normally, and stabilise yourself. At least you do have the security of a diaper, should an accident happen while you're out. I really hope you feel better soon. R682

1&2./ I'd like to see a kind of combi-diaper. A reusable outer layer and waterproof shell, but with disposable inserts that would offer the SAP-gel style of absorbancy and retention as the diaper's main property. The outer shell would have a plastic or rubber layer, but as a core, with a cloth inner and outer for best feel. 3./ I'm not normally very girly (at all) - but there's something strangely appealing about pink fabric when it comes to the idea of a custom diaper. 4./ I do, however, like nice clean and efficiently plain designs myself - cute, simple and utilitarian. 5./ Non-scented, in keeping with the simple clean utility of design - but definitely with deodourising qualities. 6./ Thinking about it - I think Pull-up style might have it, in the case of a perfect design. But again, some kind of combination would be cool - something you could put on easily like underwear, but then cinch tight up against yourself with tabs or ties. Not to mention release or open just as easily, for simple 'lift-away' style changing. 7./ Something to make pooing neater and easier to accomplish - perhaps if there was padding for passing urine, but some kind of simple bag or stocking that was very precisely in place to receive from the anus. How to achieve this without adhesives is hard to say, but it would be an interesting idea to be able to go into a sealed collection area that didn't come into contact with the rest of one's rear. Modern diapers are very good at 'locking away' urine, so you don't have to sit in it. If they could achieve the same kind of thing with faeces, it would be very agreeable. 8./ Some kind of 'overpressure' valve, so that any leaks happened in a controlled and detectable way (perhaps to a tube vent) rather than abruptly via the sides. 9./ High tech electrical sensors. I would imagine that some electrodes in the outer diaper layer might not only be able to detect when it was wet, and how much, but maybe even provide some analysis of the urine concentration and makeup, with data potentially being fed to one's smartphone on demand.

I'd love to write somebody's dream story for them, if it was something I could 'enjoy' writing myself. I think there's a lot of pleasure to be had from being able to imagine the enjoyment somebody else might get out of what you are writing, as you are writing it. If I was enjoying it enough for the writing to ring true, I don't think I'd need paying to be motivated. In fact - I think the idea the OP suggests would work really well as a diaper story. The only thing for me is that I would probably want to make the diapered character female, just as personal preference! I don't know if that would still work for you, perhaps? Or maybe two bosses, one of each gender, as a workable compromise? Anybody else who has any such ideas, I know I'd love to hear them, or see them posted in the story and art forum. I doubt I'm the only person who writes for fun who might like to take on a clever request and see what they can do with it, just for kicks. In fact, it might be quite cool to see a whole bunch of people take on the same idea and synopsis, and how they could all develop and tell it with their own individual spin. Perhaps even then have somebody write a definitive version, taking the best from all... Anyway - cool idea, and one of a kind that I personally am very happy to see being posted!

Not sure I can even imagine that. Like the whole 'what is it like to be a bat?' question (google it). If I was 'normal', being so would mean I was so far removed from being the 'me' that currently exists, that there wouldn't be the same 'me' there to experience being it... Or, to put it another way, the me that's me here and now would utterly shudder at the thought of cheerfully trotting off to the bathroom half a dozen times a day with utter casualness. But the normal someone who was completely at ease with that would probably shudder just as hard at the thought of casually wearing a diaper to do their business. If one became the other, so much would have to change about their wiring that it's hard to imagine what was left would count as 'me' any more. Much as I can see the pragmatic utility in no longer wanting to wear diapers therefore, and certainly in not being irrationally repulsed by the W.C. - I wouldn't be prepared to go through a process of self destruction in order to achieve that. I wouldn't give myself a lobotomy, or rewrite my personality to do so; it would feel like committing suicide and replacing my very SELF with someone else. So no - I wouldn't want to become 'normal' at that price. Not at a fingerclick, anyways. Perhaps if it was something more repellent, though, or actively harmful - there would be an argument for gradual training and reshaping, of the kind where one only realised after the process how much one had surely but steadily changed. But nothing about diapers has ever troubled me enough to motivate that to the extent of complete normalisation (much as I certainly have improved in my needs and tolerance since my younger days - so I suppose I must already have experienced this to some extent).

I know there are already some fairly significant issues for doctors around minors' needing to consent to medical procedures (for e.g. having a vaccination or a blood test). Even if the parents agree, if the child is refusing emphatically, it can be ethically very difficult to force them. There was a case a few years ago regarding an underage girl with life-threatening (but not yet necessarily terminal) cancer, who wanted to stop chemotherapy against the wishes of her parents, and ultimately had a court rule in her favour, I believe (despite this, as I recall, she later chose herself to resume chemo, and actually went on to survive). So there is a precedent to consider issues around consent from children (obviously weighed up, with a degree of common sense, against their best interests). Having read the articles myself, I think the media have somewhat misrepresented what the woman was trying to say. I don't think she was arguing that babies and toddlers should be allowed to choose whether or not to have dirty diapers changed, rather that parents should raise their children with an understanding that they had a right to be asked before somebody touched them intimately, and that should happen right from infancy. Now, a baby isn't going to give a response, but in the same way as I might say 'right, can I have that please' before taking a rattle away from them, just to be polite, there's no reason not to say 'alright sweetie, is it okay if I wipe your bum?' - which will slowly be instilled in the child as they grow up (rather than ever thinking any adult has an automatic right to touch them intimately). With a toddler who was communicative, I wouldn't allow them to refuse to have their diaper changed, but if they emphatically didn't want me to clean them, it might be possible to offer alternatives such as 'so are you going to try and wipe yourself then?' or 'well, we'll have to clean you in the shower, then.' So, yes - while the woman in question obviously is somewhat leaning towards the 'pink haired' stereotype - I don't think the point she's trying to make is as crazy as all that - even if a little impractical if taken to literal extremes.

With all due respect to previous posters, in my own personal opinion I feel exactly the opposite way with regard to laxatives etc. The only times I've ever found using a diaper unpleasantly gross, or disgusting to clean up, is following a 'stomach upset' type situation. Whereas with a normal healthy diet and body function, even going number two should be a relatively neat and tidy affair, only affecting the general area that would need wiping and cleaning up regardless (just usually needing a little more of that kind of attention than following the 'regular' way). It can sometimes be a little more difficult to accomplish the act in the confines of a diaper, but if it's so rock hard that it hurts, or so loose that it makes a huge mess, it might be worth seeing if there is anything you can do about your diet etc before taking pills (accepting, of course, that I know some people do suffer from IBS etc). Certainly the last thing I would ever want to do was give myself diarrhoea while in a diaper (it has happened to me, and despite my general acceptance of all things diapers, I have to say I wish it hadn't). I will also echo the sentiments about discretion. Once found out, you can't take it back again, and if wearing regularly or storing diapers in close proximity to other people such as family members, it is very likely that someone will find something sooner or later. So think it all out first, at least unless you have your own place to experiment in private. Even if you live alone, the best way to dispose of used diapers is tied up in a small plastic bag, a daily walk, and a public trash bin (my next door neighbour regularly checks, and comments on, the contents of my household rubbish).

I was touting Abri-flex M3 pull-ups on a previous forum, which I buy online and keep for ultra-discreet wearing times. I find them absolutely 100% reliable for a first wee, no matter how much you need to go, despite their small size and light weight. They are very expensive, though, so I find I have them more for one-off contingencies rather than daily wear - but I don't hesitate to recommend them in terms of utility.

Um, no. Urea in urine breaks down into ammonia, as a natural process. If it's more dilute, of course there will be less urea per volume, and therefore less ammonia when it breaks down, true. But urea does still turn to ammonia over time, as the result of bacterial action: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Urea. If you don't believe me, it's easy enough to test. Urinate on a towel, smell, then leave it for six hours in the warm, and smell again... Urine doesn't smell of ammonia at first, no matter how concentrated it is, but over time it begins to break down, and ammonia is formed. Not looking for an argument, though. :-( Decide for yourself, and go your own way.

I recommend against using cloth in a disposable, as you are basically nullifying all the advantages of a disposable in the first place, in terms of its ability to lock up urine as gel, and thus keep you comfortable over a longer period. Instead, you will find yourself with sodden cloth clamped against your skin after the first wetting, and as soon as this cools and starts to chafe, it will become uncomfortable enough you'll probably want to change sooner than you would without it. Also, urine saturated towelling will see urea turn to ammonia quicker than if it were fully 'locked up' and accompanied by the deodourising compounds used by most modern diapers, so you will also start to get more issues with odour if trying to wear longer term without changing. Instead, I recommend trying to get some disposable 'booster pads', which can be acquired fairly easily through sites like eBay etc, and are relatively cheap considering the boost they give to the capacity of a diaper. Alternatively, if that's not possible, you can buy a pack of cheapest generic baby diapers, and use a blade to cut the absorbent pads out from the centre (with the cheaper brand diapers, you'll generally find that the pad separates cleanly from the plastic outer once cut down the sides, back and front). Then use these pads in the seat of your regular diaper the same way. If you want to wear cloth, I suggest you go all the way, and wear cloth entirely, with a good pair of plastic pants. Be prepared to change more often than with a disposable, though, not less (unless you like the feeling of sitting in cold stale pee!), and to pay a sizeable initial outlay for a quality starter set of cloth diapers (they will pay for themselves eventually through reuse, not to mention the environmental benefit) - though as I've detailed in other posts, it is of course possible to improvise with regular towels if you're only going to be wearing at home.

Similar to above, I think after being into this for some years, one tends to acquire a well stocked cupboard, from which you can pick out a type of diaper depending on what you are doing or need that day. Personally, Abri-Form M3 slips are currently my main go-to diapers for general use, but I still have some Tena Maxis, which are more lightweight options, and Abri-Flex M3s, which are for super lightweight and discrete times, with high-mobility. Then there are some Id-Slip Maxis, which are my 'super' option - for example for a really long journey or something where I might not be able to change easily. I also have some booster pads, which improve the capability of these even more. Finally, I also have some cloth nappies and plastic pants, which aren't terribly practical for out and about, but more environmentally friendly if I know I'm spending the whole day in and still want to wear something.

The chemical in diapers which absorbs water to become gel beads is sodium polyacrylate (or some close equivalent), which is a non-biodegradable (doesn't naturally break down into anything else) complex polymer, comparable to a plastic molecule. It doesn't react with anything else at body temperature, so it won't have any chemical effect inside your body, nor will it change into anything that will. The worst it might do is swell up to block something, which might be a major problem if you swallowed or inhaled a large amount of powder, but it's very unlikely to go far enough up your urethra to actually block it, much less get to your actual bladder and swell enough not to come out again. Obviously, if you did find yourself having trouble peeing, then maybe go to the doctor, but such a thing seems very unlikely to occur, if not near impossible (I've never heard of it happening, and with all the diaper wearers in all the world, the possibility must have been well tested by now. Anything that went up would almost certainly flush back out again with the next wee - the more expanded the beads are, the more jellylike, lubricated and easy to pass they would be). Anything in your rectum or vagina would have enough space to expand however it wanted, and just come out again by itself eventually. Here is a link to the 'Material Safety Data Sheet' from Wikipedia, which is a standard thing to show the risks of any chemical. It may set your mind at ease to see all the zeros! https://www.howtor.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/03/Sodium-Polyacrylate-MSDS-Material-Safety-Data-Sheet-issued-by-SGS.pdf TLDR: You don't have to worry about absorbent diaper gel any more than you would about expandable bits of soft plastic. I wouldn't stick it up there on purpose, but sitting in a little bit isn't going to have any likely effects.

I did play around with improvised towel diapers quite a bit in my youth (even though I had disposable options for real). As well as a 'letter fold', there's always the option of three separate towel layers: one folded into a long thick rectangle, to make a U-shaped main 'soaker' between ones legs; which sits in a wider square of double or triple thickness to address any sideways 'spread'; and then one single thickness outer layer, which is the only one which is actually secured in place conventionally around one's waist, binding everything else tight against you. The others are simply held in place by the outermost one (or possibly secured to that in key places, if seeming too likely to shift out of position, rather than wrapping around to themselves.) Of course, the result is far too bulky to be practical for anything except waddling around the house like the apocryphal toddler, and large plastic pants are a must when it comes to functionality (though I used to get remarkable results out of plastic shopping bags with the bottom corners cut off, pulled up so the plastic stretched around my legs!). There's obviously far more absorbancy than you need, given you're likely to be damply uncomfortable enough to want to change before needing a second pee becomes likely (not to mention the diaper would pull itself down under it's own weight long before any limit was approached) but the level of redundancy does mean you can feel confident in its initial performance, despite the cobbled together nature!

When I wear cloth, I always sluice them thoroughly under the shower as soon as I take one off, which I think probably rinses 90% of the pee away down the drain immediately. Then I put them straight in a tub of water to soak until it's time to wring them out and transfer to the washing machine, which seems to dilute whatever's left beyond detection. You can always change the water occasionally, too, or add sterilising tablets if you think that's appropriate. Plus, I always use something as a liner in the seat area of the diaper even if I don't think it's going to be needed, because you never really know when nature might unexpectedly happen to call in the 'other' way. Professional flushable liners are great, but you can use any kind of comfortable rag material you have to hand - old cut up t-shirts for example. It sometimes takes a little work to pin a liner in place so it doesn't bunch up, but then cloth diapers are more work in general, and I would say a liner more than pays for its time investment when it comes to cleaning up. Plus, unlike an expensive cloth diaper, you can just throw away any liner that seems difficult to clean. Then I'd say biological washing powder is a match, and dry in sunlight if possible (difficult as I know that is when it comes to displaying one's adult diapers in one's backyard for the neighbours to see), as UV light has antibacterial effects. Definitely dry as soon as possible, so bacteria can't build up again after the wash. I sometimes find highly absorbent cloth diapers benefit from an extra spin cycle in the washer if they still seem heavy when the wash finishes.