Greg03

I haven’t been very active on the forum in the past 6 months, partly because I’ve been “toilet training”. I never been dry at night and have always worn a diaper to bed. I’m cool with that and realistically not something I could change anyway. About 2 years ago, my daytime continence started to gradually decline. In all honesty, this was down to my own “laziness”. I’d get changed for bed early in the evening, including my diaper. I began to notice that when I wasn’t in diapers, I was having to visit the bathroom more frequently. I began to wear diapers during the day with increased frequency. It got to the stage where I was in a diaper the majority of the time. I began to have the odd accident where I knew if I hadn’t been in a diaper, I’d have wet myself. Although there were still times where I could make the bathroom, I wasn’t reliably dry and I needed at minimum a “just in case” pull up. At the time I enjoyed the convenience and peace of mind and my girlfriend was supportive. The only thing I disliked was in public when I knew I was wetting my diaper. I didn’t have a problem wearing in public, but I felt ashamed the times I’d tried to hold it or make it to the WC but could not. Around 6 months ago, I started to feel differently, perhaps triggered by breaking up with my girlfriend of 3 years. I no longer wanted to be in diapers during the day and I also didn’t fancy the idea of having to be diapered during a date. Bedwetting at least doesn’t come up until you’ve had the chance to get to know each other. I spent months working on my daytime continence and got to the stage where I only needed a pad in regular underwear (post void dribbling won’t go away). But I do have to watch my fluid intake and generally make sure I am near to a bathroom. Recently a couple of activities have meant that I’ve used a daytime pull up (long drive and an especially long movie at the theater). On both occasions I needed to use my pull up. Whilst I was disappointed with myself, I also felt a lot more secure in a pull up. It was the first time in months I hadn’t had to worry about taking regular trips to the bathroom or not drinking too much. It got me asking myself the question- am I really day time dry if it takes this amount of effort and worry? I’m considering wearing diapers again during the day but part of me doesn’t want to “give in”. Apologies for long, rambling post. Any thoughts on this?

If I’m going to have an accident, it will almost always be when standing up after being seated for a while

For me it's very much a mixture of ashamed/embarrassed and relief/relaxing. After battling to stay dry, diapers are a pleasant reminder that stress is no longer there

Urinary incontinent, occasional bowel accident, usually when sick

I find that a lot of the new technology used in "base layer" clothing is very breathable and keeps you cool. When it's warm, I usually wear compression shorts then normal shorts over them. Keeps my nappy hidden and in place and isn't as warm as it sounds. When I go on holiday, we rent somewhere with our own pool so that I can easily swim, change etc but if I'm in and out of the pool frequently, I don't put a nappy back on until I've dried off, not much point really!

I've always been a bedwetter. My daytime control has declined gradually over the last couple of years. I've always struggled

Aren't these one of THE most expensive diapers on the market?!

My girlfriend has always been accepting of my need for diapers but there's a big difference between being ok with it and being comfortable and confident with it. For a long time I was very self conscious around her when it came to diapers and bed wetting. Now it's completely normal for both of us, we talk about it when it comes up and she sometimes helps me change.

I'm the same, I'm in diapers full time but I wear briefs over the top. Helps to keep diapers from sagging and becoming more noticeable

Yeah, it happens. I dribble constantly but if my bladder is full, it's more of a continual stream. It's not really an issue, you just learn to keep the old diaper in position until the new one goes on. The only time I really think about it is when coming out of the shower, my bathroom floor is tiled so it's easily cleaned up but if I don't put a diaper on, I will dribble all over the floor. I either get dry enough whilst still in the shower so I can put a diaper on immediately, or I use it as a chance to air out, and mop up once diapered again.

I assume that since this is the adult bedwetters forum, the OP intended it to be a question posed to those for whom fetish is not, or at least not their primary reason for diapers. Things are very different when you need diapers

I don't hide it, everyone knows I'm incontinent but I don't particularly have diapers on display. If you opened a cupboard you might see a packet of diapers or spot a used one in the trash but nothing obvious.

My parents attempted to toilet train me at the "normal" age of 3 but I still needed daytime diapers until I was about 10. I've never been dry at night, there's something which affects the males in my family. My father has always been a bedwetter and my nephews who are 6, 9 and 11 are all still in full time diapers despite my sister not having any wetting issues.

I do wear 24/7 now but part of me still likes to think I could get day dry or at least to the point where I don't need full protection. In reality though, I've little control now and mostly just dribble

No. Is the short answer but for me, it's quite a big deal to admit that. Despite being a lifelong bed wetter, I only began wearing diapers during the day about a year ago. I began to have minor control issues during the day, largely caused by laziness if I'm being honest. I didn't like the idea of having to wear a diaper in public so I stopped wearing during the day and attempted to stay daytime dry. I quickly found out that I was unable to deal with the stress of trying to stay dry.

Likewise, although I was caught out the other day and whilst I didn't leak, it became VERY obvious that I was in a diaper. Thankfully no one said anything

If you've been wearing diapers most nights for an extended period of time then it probably has weakened your bladder slightly. Chances are, you probably are dribbling during the night but as you're wearing a diaper, it's not noticeable.

It's not like there's anything she can do about it there and then so why embarrass her. Or she may just not care.

Hi Jaytay I'm a similar age and I've had a similar experience to you. I've always wet the bed and worn a diaper at night but once I started wearing in the early evening whilst relaxing, my daytime control significantly declined. It definitely starts with dribbling and that dribbling will only increase. When I first experienced daytime leaks, I switched my regular underwear to training pants but it got to the stage where because I was constantly damp, I always needed to pee. I now need full protection at all times. You say you're excited for your first accident? You've already had it! I was the same at first, I'd tell myself that it's only a small leak etc but if you can't stay dry, you're incontinent! I understand the embarrassment about telling family, which was always slightly easier for me since they knew I wore diapers at night but it's been a huge adjustment wearing in public. There are ways to gently break it to them. It sounds like at the moment you could get away with wearing a pad. Discuss the fact that you've had a few accidents. Maybe next time, don't hide that you've wet yourself. Remember that you've a legitimate need for protection now. Yes, there will be questions but family will adjust quite quickly to you being incontinent. If you're at the stage where by you're stressed about leaking, you need to be honest with yourself about what protection you need in order to regain your confidence

Hate to go all legal eagle here, but "basic human rights" does not cover your "right" to sound off an opinion on a website. The site owner can pick and choose who get to be here. It certainly is not "deformation" of character to ban someone, or even, defamation.

The whole issue of sex when you need diapers is s complicated one. Even if you have a partner who is comfortable with it, there's occasions where things feel awkward/embarrassing and it can be difficult to feel attractive or confident. For me, the biggest issue regarding sex is that I usually wet myself very soon afterwards. Early on in my current relationship, we'd put an extra bed pad on top of the sheet but now that we are more comfortable with each other, I wear a fresh diaper and just fasten afterwards. It can be difficult but do not let yourself believe that wearing diapers makes you undesirable.

At night I wear id slip super with a booster pad. During the day it depends on what I'm doing. At home I wear absorbant underwear with a pad, for short trips out a pull up and if I'm out all day or in situations where I'll wet frequently, I wear a diaper