Greg03

Lifelong bed wetter, now daytime incontinent too due to a combination of emotional need and laziness

I was in exactly the same situation a few years ago. I could stay dry during the day if I really, really had to but it was so stressful and required so much organisation. I’d always needed a diaper at night and when I started using them during the day for times when staying dry was going to be tough, I realised how much happier and relaxed I was. Of course, over time I’ve become diaper dependent and have no control now but I’m much happier and relaxed. my advice would be to take a practical approach, but don’t underestimate the importance of having the peace of mind of “just in case” protection

Nope, not for me. My gf wears diapers too and it even annoys me when she takes one of mine!

Sorry, but “normal” people do not buy a packet of pull ups because it might make their lives easier.

This was really not the discussion I was hoping to have here. The age and trends of the potty training of infants are totally irrelevant here. My point is that it seems that far more people now have some form of incontinence. By people I mean adults who are younger than the typical age for these issues to develop. No, they are not full time diaper wearers but do wear protection regularly. the huge increase in products available for this would suggests there’s an increased demand. Sorry, but middle aged adults don’t just start wearing incontinence products because of marketing campaigns.

If you’re looking to go 24/7, you are going to struggle to keep it from family. Rather than them finding out, it can be a good idea to plan it a bit more long term. Plant the seed - start going to the bathroom more often, comment on how you keep needing the bathroom. - make a point of going to the bathroom before doing certain things “I’ll never make it through the movie if I don’t go now” - had to wait in line? Comment that you didn’t think you’d make it - long journey? Ask for plenty of restroom stops and apologise for needing so many - refuse drinks later in the evening, saying that you’ll be up all night - heard a hilarious joke? Say you laughed so much you were about to wet yourself This will establish you as someone with bladder issues and will make it much less of a shock to family when you tell them you’ve started wearing protection for your bladder problems

I don’t mean kids being late to toilet train. I mean adults starting to have issues well before the age you might expect

Hey i don’t post that often but I really wanted to get everyone’s opinion on something. is it just me, or has there been a big increase in incontinence issues in the last few years? Especially amongst men who are much younger than the age you’d expect continence issues to creep in. I’m early 30s, lifelong bedwetter, daytime control went about 5 years ago. Most of my friends growing up knew I wore diapers at night plus I come from a family with a history of bedwetting. Until a few years ago, I knew of no one outside of my family who had problems staying dry, now I know about 5 and these are people I’ve always known. I guess because of my own situation, people are more inclined to talk to me about it. No, of course not everyone is now in diapers full time, but they are using some form of incontinence product on a regular basis. Mentioned this to my sister and she said exactly the same. That because her close friends are aware that her sons are bedwetters, she is often the one people talk to about similar issues. I guess it kind of makes sense when you think about how the incontinence product market has grown. There must be demand and I know that it’s always been more common than people think. But I’m amazed at how common it’s become and wondered if anyone else has noticed similar or any ideas why.

It’s simple volumes. Pull ups work for the typical urine output of a child bedwetter. They don’t for an adult

When you are incontinent you tend you wet heavier during different times of day. My morning diaper only lasts a couple of hours. But the next one will last about 4, then around 6 hours per diaper until bedtime. I usually change at roughly 8am, 10am, 12.30pm, 7pm and 11pm

I think for many of us who are incontinent, we leak small amounts so don’t often have the feeling of urination, simply because there isn’t enough in there. For me usually the only time I feel myself urinating is if I’ve been sitting forward for an extended period of time ie driving or working at a desk. It seems like I don’t leak in that position so when I stand up, I have a heavier wetting. I really only pay attention to how my diaper feels, once it starts to sag, I change. The time between changes is different depending on the time of day. I usually wear betterdry or similar, which is pretty high capacity but the one I change into in the morning is usually full in around 4 hours, but the next one will last double that

I’m someone who took a LONG time to come to terms with my incontinence which is pretty surprising since I’m a lifelong bedwetters who has always worn diapers at night. However, day time incontinence wasn’t something I was aiming for. For a long time I told myself that this was totally normal and everybody does it Taking changes of underwear to work. Totally normal Starting off every pee into my underwear. Totally normal Standing over the toilet for 10 minutes until I stopped dribbling. Totally normal Eventually I did admit to myself that I needed some “just in case” protection and I started to wear pull ups but the denial continued with regards to how often I was needing to use my pull up and I told myself I was doing it for the convenience. It took a couple of years and a few accidents before I finally admitted I needed to be in diapers full time.

I’ve definitely experienced this. For a long time I was in denial about my daytime continence issues (I’ve always been a bed wetter). It was totally normal for me to change my underwear a couple of times per day because I wasn’t making it to the bathroom in time- by the time I got there I had already started to go. A visible accident encouraged me to admit I needed some protection and I started wearing pull ups during the day although psychological it was very much a “just in case” for me. In reality my just in cases were almost daily, and knowing I was protected, I often told myself I was choosing to use my pull up for comfort or convenience. For me the realization that I couldn’t make the bathroom was when I was getting to the bathroom with an empty bladder and a full up, even at home when close to the bathroom. Nowadays I’m in full diapers and not always aware when I’m urinating, but when I do feel the urge to go, I still like to tell myself that my diaper is just for convenience!

Betterdry or crinklz. I’m not bothered about the pattern, the diapers are the same. Day and night

In my experience, this is the beginning of incontinence but unless you do something to speed up the progress, you’re probably a few years away from needing more than very light protection. For years I had dribbles every time I urinated, to the point where I thought it was totally normal to have damp underwear. I’m a lifelong bedwetter, so my sphincter has always been weaker due to that, but my dribbles took years to progress to diaper dependency because I wasn’t trying to. My continence finally went . if you wish to progress your incontinence then wear appropriate protection and don’t fully empty your bladder. Let as much of your urine output come out as dribbles as possible

Oh yes! I’ve always been a bed wetter but as my daytime control began to decline, I was in huge denial for the most part. Like Kaliborio, I had no idea of what was normal for fully continent people. Looking back, these are the kind of things I was doing whilst considering myself fully daytime dry Starting my pee before reaching the bathroom. I thought it was totally normal to not reach the bathroom in time and change underwear 2/3 times daily. Wearing pull ups on longer journeys, going to a movie or anywhere with limited bathroom access. I’d even discuss with my girlfriend if I’d need regular underwear or pull ups that day. I even put my wettings down to drinking too much water too quickly! Even after I knew deep down I was fully incontinent I still wore pull ups rather than diapers during the day because I was still of the mind set that I just needed a little extra protection and wanted to be able to pull my underwear up and down. Then I came to terms with the fact that I wasn’t ever using the bathroom. I’m in full time diapers now and it’s such a stress relief to not worry about staying dry anymore

My unpotty training was subconscious or in denial, depending how you look at it. I’m a life long bedwetter, I’ve always worn a nappy to bed. But until around 3 years ago, I considered myself day dry. having the peace of mind not to have to worry about staying dry has always been important to me in being able to relax and unwind, so I’d usually put on a nappy in the early evening. Or longer journeys, or when watching a movie. I’d use my nappy, mostly out of convenience. until gradually, the “little accidents” started. I’d be unable to make it to the bathroom on time and start off my pee in my underwear. Or afterwards I’d carry on dribbling. But everyone has wet underwear, right? The realisation came when I at the cinema, without protection. I told myself I didn’t really need it, then was on edge the whole time drying to stay dry. i realised the pressure I was putting myself under and the level of accidents I was having and began wearing pull ups during the day. Now I’m in thick nappies full time and the peace of mind is wonderful. If you are truly open to it and it’s the right thing for you, it will happen. Just be patient

Getting ready for bed so changed into a fresh crinklz, plus a t shirt. Think I’ve had a wetting in it already.

I’m the same. I use to wear more discreet protection during the daytime but I was always worrying about leaking or had the hassle of public changes and carrying nappies with me. Now I wear thick nappies all the time, usually betterdry and it just feels weird without them

Most of the time I don’t feel anything, I just leak. Sometimes if I’ve been sitting in a way that stops the flow (usually when driving) I’ll feel a heavier stream once I’ve changed position.

I started school in diapers as I wasn’t day dry until I was 10 or so. It was just normal for me, I don’t remember feeling embarrassed. My closest friends knew once I was a bit older, they never made a big deal of it. I wore pull ups until I was about 8, as they were easy for me to change then after that I wore proper diapers and then training pants until I was able to stay dry. I don’t remember ever having a noticeable accident.

My situation is very similar to yours. I’m a lifelong bedwetter, so I’ve always worn diapers to bed but after wearing during the day (often through laziness than anything else) that started my declining continence. It started with having to go more frequently and feeling the need to go all the time. I began to experience post void dribbles plus not quite making it to the bathroom in time, I’d have a wet spot before I got my pants down. This affected my confidence in staying dry, so I was always in pull ups “just in case”. Around that time I got very down about it all, and tried to re toilet train but I was not successful, the stress and worry of accidents was too much. I also found that there were several things that were just impossible without protection. Cinema trips, long journeys, going any place where I’d be far from a restroom. At this point I finally accepted that I wasn’t day dry, and hadn’t been for quite some time. I’m now permanently in diapers. From what you’ve said, you are already incontinent. It’s probably habitual rather than physical, but that doesn’t mean that retraining will be easy. I wouldn’t risk at this point, being out in public without protection, you’re probably not very far away from your first accident. Use time when you’re home alone to “air out”. Use a chair pad or sit on your diaper, you’ll get a good idea of what your bladder is doing. Don’t worry about travel, I travel a lot and as a diaper wearer, it’s much easier than you might think.

Thanks. I’ve always seen a urologist regularly due to being a lifelong bedwetter. He’s satisfied with my progress so far but he was also not surprised that I’d started to have daytime issues. At the moment I am having good days and bad. Today I stayed dry, yesterday I had an accident. What I hate is that my dry days are not dry. Yes I make it to the bathroom but I still need to wear a pad because I can’t stop dribbling. For some reason this affects me more than wearing diapers does.

Thanks everyone who replied, it was really interesting reading your views. I can see both sides of the coin. For some of you, The stress of trying to stay dry just isn’t worth it compared to the security of wearing a diaper. For me, I am undoubtably more confident in a diaper. What I don’t like is the idea of being dependent on them during the day. What is getting me down is that after months of stress and hard work, I’m still not fully dry. On the other hand, I agree with those who said that it’s silly to throw away the progress I have made. I’m trying not to beat myself up about it, that’s it’s ok to still need a diaper from time to time. I am torn between believing I can become dry and maybe admitting that I probably do need diapers