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Re Tom92 concerns, a lot of what he said holds true from my experience as well. When I listened to my wife and tried the pads, (I started with the belted guards but found them uncomfortable), I tried the men's guards originally, and found them to be irritating as well as they were generally too wide in the crotch. I switched to the lady's style, and with the proper underwear, they work great, no bother at all. It is a total package though, as they will not work with loose fitting underwear, but as I have had to wear medical compression hose for poor leg circulation, starting years ago I started to wear woman's briefs under these for comfort again with wife's suggestions (no extra material in front to press into me all day) and they work great together!

Back to the point of this discussion, when driving if I get the urge to pee, it is only a matter of time until that happens for me, not the position I am sitting in or if I am stopped or going down the road. But in my case, it is a medical condition that I now have that is causing this, not my choice to wear diapers for other reasons.

For years now, I have been wearing "drip pads" as my wife calls them in my underwear because of urge incon. My medical chart tells me this is from a prostrate issue, and a combination of Type II diabetes which has desensitized my control nerves? So far so good, but on any outings from home lasting more than a couple hours, it is into pullups or belted guards to be safe for reasons learned from experiance. Sleeping is another issue, since I had a bed wetting incident a little more than a year ago, I promised my wife that I would wear adequate protection when I sleep and have been diapering up for bed since that point. Now my urologist is worried again about elevated PSA numbers so the prostrate procedure done a decade ago did not resolve all the issues related to it, or things have changed for the worse for other reasons? It may soon have to go completely and we all know what the chances of getting that done without doing damage to control are, almost nil. The point to this, is don't worry about the need for absorbent protection, it is a far better solution than going without, and allows us that need it to as you so wisely put it "wearing the incontinence pants reduced the stress that has led to accidents in the past. It was, however, very pleasurable - partly because I wasn't having to worry about accidents and partly just because they're so damn comfortable"

Now that I am diapered each night as a promise to my wife after a previous bedwetting incident and a few near misses, it is something we both accept, but for me the advantage is using the diaper and falling back to sleep at 3AM as opposed to getting up and off to the bathroom and lying awake for another 30-45 minutes trying to get back to sleep again. I learned some time ago that tossing a used or unused diaper into the trash in the morning makes no difference, but getting an extra half or 3/4 hour of sleep does!

When I first started to use my diaper while still in bed outside of real accidents, it was always as I was about to get up it seemed as I had difficulty sleeping in a wet diaper. More recently, I am waking a couple hrs before I plan to get up, wet and am able to fall back to sleep, which is a big step for me as wetting has become so common now that I can sleep in a wet diaper. Maybe its just getting more comfortable with the wet diaper on, as for about a year now, I use the diaper I have on every morning and don't remove it till its shower time, typically several hours later.

This is a very good topic for the group here, and all the comments are worth thinking about if you are still keeping secrets from your partner. I can say from first hand experience that once you are in the open, things get much easier to deal with. In my case, I was faced with an embarrassing situation when my wife found my large waterproof vinyl pants hanging in my basement shower to dry. She wanted to know why I had these and I told her that I was starting to dribble a lot during the day, and didn't want my pants to get wet and I found these on the internet. She told me I should have told her this straight away, and these large water proof pants are not the best solution. She went out and got some icon pads for me to wear in my underwear, which I started to do. I did move to the woman's style as the men's were too wide and bothered my legs it seemed. My wife was fully in support of me at this point. A few years later, I had too much to drink one night and ended up wetting our bed, and she was not happy, but insisted on me wearing something better to bed, so I started using the belted guards at this stage again with her blessing. I found that on a few occasions after that, I was wetting these as well and mentioned that I was having a few close calls to her. I told her I would check with a medical store lady who I was getting my cpap supplies from and she advised using a Gary active brief over my protection for the night to be safe, and if things got worse, I would need to get into the overnight briefs, which she had several choices of. Well to finish, I am now using the overnight briefs all with my wife's blessings as I promised to do what was necessary to keep our bed dry after my first mess up, and so far I have been able to do that and she is very happy with me. So to the others out there keeping secrets from their partners, best to come clean about this as it will avoid that tough discussion you will have when you other finds this out on their own.

If this was beer, I would have a chance of holding it, but if I were expected to drink that much water, chances are good I would either wet the table during the procedure or a diaper if that was the case!

If I might suggest something here, if this is to be a forced situation, why not have a stent installed by a medical professional, which is something that will indeed require diapers to manage wetness. If installed medically, it will have to be removed in the same fashion as instruments are required to take it out as well.

Wow, what a hot topic we have going now. While she gets to call him a perv, she is the one that seems to be benefiting the most from all his attention at this point, so what does that make her? At any rate, what happens in the home stays in the home they say so maybe we are all a bit pervy when you think about it??

While I was not a bedwetter growing up, one of my good friends' sisters were and she was only a year older than we were. Her room did smell a bit like it if we got close enough to it. I did have an accident at school when out on playground in the early grades, not sure which one it was, but do remember the nuns took me up to a room to dry my clothes off on an old steam radiator and remember how that smelled like urine so I was certainly not the first one to use that room for that purpose.

Ever since starting on prostrate meds several decades ago, I have been diagnosed with ED. I have had the same issues as mentioned by Old_pa above for the last 10 yrs or so, being about the same age mentioned. Since my wife is no longer interested in that sort of action, it doesn't bother me much, but it did years back when it first became an issue, so be careful of what you wish for.

What if we don't need the wizard to get a score, as your body has decided on its own? My score is as follows 1: moderate 2: squirts, dribbles 3: - Vague awareness. 4: Bedwetting, frequent pee dreams 5: Permanent 6: - No bowel incontinence 7: -no

Not to confuse our readers, but one's mind view of a product does not always equate to what is on the market and available for the public to find and purchase. The most common waterproof panties or DIAPER COVERS are either the Vinyl version commonly called plastic, or the PUL version, which is a Poly laminate covered outer cloth. Most of these products no longer separate and are typically long lasting. The difference is large, where the vinyl or plastic tends to harden when it ages, the PUL does not if laundered correctly(avoid the clothes dryer) It is also much quieter and does stretch a bit to hold the diaper under it in place better. The PUL will eventually wear out but the better products last longer as you would expect. There are several mentioned here, the Suprima and the Gary Active Wear

The Gary Active Wear protective pants are both comfortable and very durable and are a great choice for a diaper cover that offers not only added protection, but also helps to hold a wet diaper in place and conceal some of the odor. These are not vinyl or rubber but the newer laminate style and are worth every penny if you ask me

One other thought I should add, I know for a fact based on knowing nurses that have worked in nursing homes and with assisted living arrangements, that the common practice these days is to diaper almost all the patients that have mobility or mental problems as changing diapers on a regular basis is easier than being available to help these folks use the bathroom when they want to. Considering all the older folks that get into nursing or home care situations, probably puts this number at 75% or greater of our older generation.

My urologist tells me that continence issues in men are becoming very common these days, especially those with prostrate issues and diabetes. Having said that, considering that is his specialty, it is no wonder that many he does see have those problems. Not sure how that charts with the general public, the point, it is more than older gals buying diapers these days, and the adult diaper business is booming from what I hear! That tells me that more folks are wetting the bed than most expect!!

Welcome to the world of older age, along with a few other issues that will cause continence problems. I have been to a urologist for several decades now do to a family history of prostrate problems, and have been advised what to expect as I become older. It started with the day dribbles, or in some cases strong urges to go, and is now becoming bed wetting, so plan for some level of necessary protection, and be happy your problems are not the life-threatening things many others face these days.

I recently had my wellness visit with my long time GP and we talked a bit about my continence level slipping and my awareness of that possibility based on what my urologist has been telling me. He now knows and it should be in my record that I am wetting at night now as well as dribbling during the day. Guess that makes me an official bedwetter??

Last night I truly wet the bed as my protection level failed me, and I woke up in a wet spot. Had to get up, change my protection and deal with the wet spot . My wife will be on my case today about improving my overnight protection again, something we agreed to do as warranted, and I can't ignore the threat any longer. Pullups are no longer going to be acceptable, even with my active wear Gary pants, it's on to good taped on overnight briefs going forward!

This method sounds an awful like the symptoms I have with OAB especially after I have my morning coffee. I have to be near a bathroom or I will get my pad wet in a hurry! Seems like only a little when I finally get to go but soon the urges start again, and off I go to the bathroom another time!!

I agree whole heartily with old_PA as I threw out all my boxers and tighty whities decades ago. Initially it was because I had to wear support hose for my poor leg veins and the extra material in the fly area didn't work under these, but more recently when I lost a bunch of weight and stopped wearing the hose I still wear the panties for the reason mentioned above- they work far better to hold in the pads I need during the day.

I may have mentioned in past postings that I have been advised on several occasions now by my urologist that my dribbles would turn into more than that in the not distant future, problems that were associated to my prostrate issues and my diabetes combined with my age and weight. Even as my weight has gone down over that last 18 mos, my diabetes is better controlled as well, the damage has been done and my continence will be impacted I was told, but I was handling it well it seemed as I was already using pads daily which would have to be improved on as conditions worsen, I was also told. Well, they have especially at night if I have a few beers as I did last evening at my daughter's house attending her end of summer party. It was very hot and the beer was cold and tasted good. After returning home, I did drink a fair bit more water to offset the impacts of the alcohol, but that made for a wet night for sure. I was using one of my thickest overnight pullups with a stuffer, but that was barely up to the task as when I got out of bed this morning to come downstairs, I emptied what was left in me and I started to leak down one of my legs past my Gary active wear waterproof pant, a close call for the bed! Lesson learned; pullups are no night time substitution for a good tabbed overnight brief!

My GP doesn't do a prostrate exam as he knows that my urologist does at my yearly checkup. Yes, I have a history of prostrate issues, have had one procedure done to reduce the size of it as well, and am on meds to hopefully avoid the cancer that is common in this area. So YES, there is a yearly probing but it is for a reason.

This morning as I was just rolling over starting to think about getting up and going to the bathroom, I realized that I had already started to go in my diaper, so there was no need to jump right out of bed and head down the hall for the toilet. While I was not totally awake yet, I did notice that my bladder was full and was planning to roll over soon and head for the bathroom as I had slept latter than usual as I had a big day yesterday, but was surprised to notice that the decision was already being made for me, a first I believe? I have been wearing diapers to bed now for about a year, and to my knowledge, this is the first time that I started wetting that I wasn't fully aware of starting the process, as in most cases during the night, I would wake needing to go, and would lie on my back and proceed to use my diaper when I didn't want to get out of bed for the toilet. Some nights, this would be a 2 or 3 event ordeal, but always with me in control. Not so much this morning, so I guess I am turning a corner. I have anticipated this at some stage I guess, based on my declining day time bladder control, and aware of what my urologist have been predicting, but as mentioned, it may have been the first night time uncontrolled void that I am aware of. I am glad that I have moved to some decent night time absorbency products a while back, as this was not just a dribble, but a full out wetting as once I noticed it, there was no stopping, and with what I was wearing, I had no concern of any leaks as I mentioned, I was "testing" this system on several occasions over the last few months, so was well prepared it seems. Am I concerned about this turn of events, not really as had plenty of time to prepare myself for it and did so.

I should add to the content above, that when I looked into what was available for overnight protection, I spoke with a medical store associate and was told that the belted shields that I started with may not be adequate for the long term, and she was correct. My wife and I agreed that this was a good starting point for overnight given the use of the waterproof pant as well, but if they start to become overwhelmed, we will move to the tabbed brief that offers much more absorbance, that the store associate suggested initially. We are now there after about 6 mos. The only remaining issue is what level of diaper protection is needed. I am currently using a Tena Ultra which, for the price, should work very well for the foreseeable future.