OddlyEnough

For sure! We all aspire to that level of bravery.

This is wonderful. Thank you for sharing it.

That's really awful, for the kid and the family. That said, it doesn't sound like a huge mystery to me... My mom worked with special needs kids for years. Judging from my time with those kids, it sounds a lot like severe autism. (I know they say in the article that it's not autism, but it certainly sounds like it... Not that I'm an expert.)

This guy is pretty infamous for posting diaper pictures in places where he knows he'll get trolled, like 4Chan and EncyclopediaDramatica. He wants the attention and humiliation.

I'd say I'm most annoyed with how the dos and don'ts change every day, even now. As little as a month ago, the media reported that the subways/public transit was dangerous because there's no ventilation... Now they're saying everyone should feel safe on the subway. I get that they are learning new things about the disease every day, but seriously, stop reporting if you don't know 100% what the hell's going on...

Great song... hysterical video! The hair, the dance moves, the weird setting. Love it.

That's awful! I hope his recovery is swift and as painless as possible. 2020 is a GARBAGE year.

It'd be nice if we could have a conversation about ABDL on a public forum without it being sensationalized, but they gotta sell friggin' papers...

I haven't worn them as an ABDL because 1) I prefer disposables and, more importantly 2) I live in an apartment building, and we have a shared washer/dryer, so that would make discretion and cleanliness difficult. Even though I was born well after disposables were popular, I wore cloth as an actual baby, so it's weird I prefer disposables...

I know this is an ancient post, and it's pre-covid, BUT from what I heard, the Eagle gay bar in Chelsea has an ABDL night.

I have a chest with locks on it. I also keep notes in envelopes everywhere to explain to people what the stuff is, in the event I died unexpectedly... It's a huge fear of mine that I'll die and my family/significant other/friends will find my stash and think I was mentally ill, or a bad person, or whatever they might think...

I appreciate this post and all of the responses, as I am in the same boat with my partner currently. Trying to figure out how to explain it to them. It's interesting, to us, it's a desire/need/hobby/etc that makes total sense, so explaining it is kind of like explaining to somebody why you're gay, straight, etc. I was listening to a podcast on the subject, and the person being interviewed said they like to describe ABDL to their partners as "kind of like crossdressing or a shoe fetish." I get the approach - it's likening the interest or attraction to diapers as an object fetish, but unfortunately that only describes the sexual component, not the emotional one that a lot of ABs like myself have with little space. Best of luck to the OP and everybody else who is facing this difficult process.

That could be it. However, I definitely don't find sex to be fun or interesting, so I don't know if it's more of an ace type thing with dashes of demi/omni.

The only United States whiskey I've ever liked was Stranahan's in Colorado. If you haven't had it, give it a taste... But my tastebuds agree with you, U.S. whiskey is rarely good. Hm... maybe we need a topic about this, since we're dragging it radically away from the original topic! Sorry about that.

Thank you for following up, Brian. I think, with obvious (and very sad) exceptions, parents never intend to do damage to their kids. They just want them to turn out "normal" by whatever measure they've come to understand as normal. I really don't think my dad meant to harm me, he was just freaked out and didn't understand what was going on. It's never been talked about again, and I don't intend to ever broach the subject, but it really did cause some serious pain. As far as my partner goes... Unfortunately, I feel like they are a very vanilla person. They think pretty standard bedroom activities are "weird" and "kinky," so while I'm trying to remain optimistic, I see this as being a potential roadblock. I know I've been in the relationship for 3 years, and it's on me for not bringing it up, but I really thought that by throwing myself into a "normal" thing, I'd just become "normal." Instead, the self-deprivation has only increased the desire. It has taken a lot of reflection (and therapy, haha) to get to the point where I'm even able to talk about it on the internet, let alone acknowledge it in my personal life. And I also know that, if I end up living with my partner, I'm going to have to come clean. It's not something one can hide... especially not in tiny New York City apartments.

You're speaking my language! I LOVE peety scotch. Talisker's easily my fave so far. I also really like Balvenie, which has a bit of that smoke but not as strong as any of the ones you listed. Anyway, yeah, alcohol can be way more expensive than ABDL stuff. That said, I'd prefer not to think of how many things I've bought over the years (and subsequently trashed because of the binge/purge cycle...) It is certainly on the expensive side, and if you're a hippy like me, I do worry about my carbon footprint an awful lot. But then again, don't parents spend 3000$+ a year on diapers and other baby stuff? I don't think I'm nearly that bad.

It's unfortunate that there's such a stigma to medical incontinence. It's still treated like a punchline. I'm fortunate to have never suffered from this issue, but I can imagine how awful it must be. It's weird how society has developed super-sensitivity to certain issues, but stuff like this is mercilessly made fun of.

Thank you everybody for the welcome, and for the kind words, great advice, and podcast links! I'm really glad I found this site, and I look forward to discussing all of it further. Can't really articulate how much reading all of this means to me, but it sounds like you get it. It's hard to escape the shame of it. When I was a kid, I was caught numerous times, and at one point, my parents asked me point blank if I was some kind of "deviant freak" and I've never been able to get that stuff out of my head. In terms of this relationship I'm in, I value it a lot, but every time I bring up different fetishes, or when there's some kind of reference to "deviant" sexuality on television, my significant other always kinda laughs and says "yuck" or "gross." So, I'm not sure if my relationship will survive coming out, and it makes me really unhappy to realize it. Trying to brace myself for that very strong possibility. Thank you again, everyone.

I've experienced this conflict myself - it's incredibly confusing, and has made it really difficult to pin down what the hell I am. It seems like I'm mostly attracted to men, and yet I'm also attracted to women as people (but not physically.) I dunno who thought sexuality as as simple as a Straight/Gay/Bi binary, but they are clearly wrong...

Hey there, DD people! How are you all doing? I'm new here, but not new to AB/DL in general. I've known that I'm this way since it started, when I was four years old. I have unsuccessfully tried to stomp it out for my entire life. And I have to ask some things that are probably cliched, but pressing none the less - does it ever get easier? Does it ever go away? If not, can you ever shake off the shame? I ask all of these things because I'm finding the more I stuff it, the more it rears its ugly head. Three years ago, I got into a relationship, and was stupid enough to think I could crush the ABDL side of me by diving into something "normal" (pardon the term.) But now, the pressure to move in together/move forward with things has intensified, and I'm really struggling to come out with this, because I just don't see how I could live with somebody and hide this. Sorry! Not as fun of a hello as I intended... I swear, I'm fun at parties... When there's not a pandemic... Heh. Be well.