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Not going to defend them but ... they sorta are. Unless you're from the GTA and you're comparing them to The Globe and Mail, this is pretty much "it" for the city. Yup. Still headline news, when it shouldn't be.

With Christmas storage lol

Another shot from the media, bringing up "Diaper Porn" as a headline https://www.thestar.com/news/gta/2018/05/30/diaper-porn-and-pimples-what-the-jury-did-and-didnt-hear-at-an-epic-murder-trial.html

Hi, I have a 4ab.me Membership awarded to me by DailyDiapers.Com, which has stopped working. I have emailed previously about the issue but have never heard back. Is there a contact here that can PM me to look into this issue or where do I begin to try and gain access once again? I was awarded a lifetime membership through a donation here to DD, as were others for that level of donation. Thank you.

There isn’t a particular incident that sparked Selv’s realisation that he was a DL, but he admits it “clicked into place” 10 years ago, when he looked up ‘diaper’ on Youtube and stumbled upon an entire online community of folks just like him. Attempting to pinpoint the exact moment his life changed, he says, “Asking why I’m a DLis like asking a Javanese person why they are Malay, and expecting them to say that they have always liked the Boyanese attire. There may not be a solid reason or even starting point. I guess I once tried to squeeze into an old diaper in my grandmother’s house.” In another instance, he likens a person realising they’re ABDL to someone realising they’re gay (i.e. that they are ‘born with it’). That said, infantilism itself is not genetic, even though it can stem from genetic reasons, such as having a small bladder. According to Selv, ABDL is an “umbrella term”, comprising various degrees of Adult Babies (AB) and Diaper Lovers. The former can be generalised into Adult Babies (those who roleplay ages 0 to 3) and Littles (those who roleplay ages 3 to 7), while Diaper Lovers include those who wear diapers for sexual fetish and those who regard diapers as a security blanket. He posits that if he ever sought a professional diagnosis, he might be labelled as a Diaper Fetishist. While one can be either an AB or DL, it is likely that most ABs are in fact DLs too. The converse isn’t true, says Selv, which explains why he isn’t an AB. “ABDL is a sensitive term, but in general, we do identify as ABDL. It’s like how a Chinese person doesn’t state their Hakka-Teochew heritage and simply calls themselves Chinese,” he says. Over email, Selv’s responses are nuanced and eloquent, painting a picture of his community that contrasts the overly simplistic portrayal in the media. Although he delves into society’s abject rejection of his fetish, he doesn’t fish for pity or sympathy. Any emotion, if at all, is conveyed in a measured tone, as though he has accepted the implications of being a DL. One consequence of being an ABDL is quickly realising how isolated you are. Selv himself isn’t aware of any other Indian in the community, making him a minority among minorities. He recalls that being bullied in primary school made him a “loner kid with almost no friends”. Not having anyone to turn to from young, he’s become self-reliant, developed a keen self-awareness, and learnt to be comfortable with being alone. This empowered him to walk into a store, at 15, to buy diapers after discovering he was a DL. Because of his introspective nature, Selv doesn’t take offence when I note that I’ve seen ABDL being described as a disorder. Instead, he takes the chance to explain to me how I can discuss the label sensitively. “I’d say that being an AB is a lifestyle. One could return home from work and put on footed pyjamas, hug their teddy bear, wear a diaper and drink milk from a bottle,” he says. “It’s harder to justify being a DL as a lifestyle, whether we treat diapers as a fetish or security blanket. But it’s not a disorder for me, since it doesn’t impede my daily activities.” Selv emphasises that most ABDLs are, in fact, “ordinary people working ordinary jobs and leading somewhat ordinary lives”. Unfortunately, it is human nature to associate these ‘peculiar’ lifestyles with more sinister roots. Unfavourable impressions of the ABDL community are rife, making it difficult for ABDLs to come out. For example, ABDLs are often stereotyped as paedophiles, because of the perceived link with children. In fact, the label has absolutely nothing to do with children or minors, and “[the community] actively shuns people who are involved with them”. Many support communities “explicitly ban minors and chatter about sex”. He acknowledges that there are ABDLs who grow up experiencing abuse, want to relive their childhood, or crave the attention that a caregiver provides. Sometimes, he says, the path to becoming an ABDL begins with something as simple as cuddling one’s stuffed toys every night. Once the curiosity is piqued, these individuals continue to indulge. Now, Selv wears diapers four to five days a week. After he puts on his diapers at night, he takes them off in the morning. He also stays in his room once he wears them, engaging in the “usual” activities of a university student, such as surfing the internet. His other “mainstream interests” include photography, videography, solo travelling, and cracking terrible jokes. No matter how ‘normal’ Selv seems to be, he never lets me forget, “All that matters is whether I think I am different. And unfortunately, yes, I do have to agree that I am.” No one can blame Selv for being hyper cautious about letting people into his life. According to Selv, our society’s narrow-mindedness means we reward conformity and normalcy. He fears that his future wife would never accept him wearing diapers, let alone want to wear them herself. Should he be so lucky to find someone who does accept him, he worries that she’d tell another person about him being a DL—a prospect that fills him with endless anxiety. “The potential for rejection and humiliation has always kept me from pursuing a serious relationship. I’ve been praying for a long time for a solution,” he says. Selv’s answer reminds me of “Pray the gay away”, a common refrain used by conservative communities to get homosexuals to ‘repent’. He may share that he has embraced who he is, but these occasional answers reveal a quiet, constant internal struggle. Selv’s complicated love life isn’t the only hurdle. At home, his conservative parents condemn his behaviour, and have labelled it a sin. When Selv’s father first caught him wearing diapers, he told Selv that others would think he was “weird” for wearing diapers despite not needing them. Inevitably, his father’s shocking discovery has strained their relationship. “My parents still regard this instance of me wearing diapers as the one (very) dark historical spot on an otherwise clean slate. I have no bad habits, get good grades, and maintain a high standing in the extended family compared to my cousins,” he says. Despite this, Selv has chosen to take at least part of the blame for his parents’ reactions. After all, he never told them about the sense of security and comfort that diapers brought him. In the same way that some men look for women to ‘mother’ them, one could argue that perhaps diapers symbolise the affection that he has craved. He says, “Many tears were shed, mostly by my mother. My father even had a near miss at work on the day he was prepared to confront me. No son would want to see their parents saddened and upset this way. All of this could have been avoided.” Today, Selv continues to feel apprehensive opening up to his father about everyday issues, even though he says their relationship has become “fine, but not perfect”. As far as his parents are concerned, he has stopped wearing diapers, giving him no real “push factor” to actually stop. The longest period Selv went diaper-free was about four months during his O Level period. He also recently went three months without diapers during his summer break spent at home. In the past, attempts to fight his desire to don a diaper have often resulted in him buying diapers then disposing a whole pack out of extreme guilt. This binge-purge cycle, which he claims has passed with his teenage years, is regarded as a symptom among those who haven’t fully come to terms with their ABDL tendencies. In an ideal world, Selv says he wouldn’t need to hide who he is. He wouldn’t need to fear or worry that his parents would say something, and he wouldn’t need to wait till the dead of night to throw his diapers away in secret. “Maybe, just maybe, I could even wear my diapers outside my room to watch TV and do all the family stuff I do now with them. Yes, my mum would likely utter a comment once in a while, akin to an older child still wearing diapers to sleep, but nothing more. They’d know this is a part of me and accept me for who I am,” he says. I don’t know Selv’s parents nor their background, but I get where they’re coming from. When it comes to something (or someone) so far removed from the world we’re used to, however, we fear what we don’t understand. Few of us would be able to accept individuals like Selv as our own partner, whom we’d introduce to family and friends. It’s naive to assume that his parents would have ultimately gotten used to his fetish, if they hadn’t forbade him from indulging in the first place. Yet if we choose to love someone, we should understand that this love won’t always happen on our terms. A complete lack of judgement might be impossible, but the best we can do is learn to adapt in the long run. Selv has known this since he was 15. He’s just waiting for everyone else to get it too. Have something to say about this story? Write to us at community@ricemedia.co. The post Inside the Curious and Lonely World of a Singaporean Adult Diaper Loverappeared first on RICE. Thanks for posting the article outright. However, next time I'm just not going to say anything, I'm not even sure why I bothered if this is the attitude about it. Most sites just say "Thanks" and edit the link and move on. 1 user reporting an issue is enough. As I said, I was using Google Chrome and Google Chrome alerted me to an issue, not to mention the site automatically downloaded a file into my computer. My system was fine, is fine and will be fine. I reported what I thought would affect other users (members) of this site. Yeah, never again around here.

If you aren't using phone numbers and addresses that connect your existing profiles to you, I don't see why the traditional sites like Hotmail and Gmail wouldn't serve this purpose? I have multiple hotmail accounts, multiple gmail accounts and I have never had any issues, especially with it catching up to my "real life." I'd hae another look, there's nothing wrong with them IMO. Gmail is a great service to eliminate spam.

This is such a lonely thing, look at those numbers, wow.

LOL omg what a commercial

You guys realize those are multiple stories in one, right? The video (which had an article) was when she was "21", where the article today says she's 23? Heck, how old is she actually, I don't know ... She's big on YouTube and if you pay attention to the paid sites, she's on a few of them now too.

No kids (yet) but I have issues keeping kids in the loop. Going to be hard to believe I'll ever tell them. Just don't want to mess with their heads and quite honestly, I can't see how it wouldn't lol

In Canada, we have Dollarama but in the U.S., "DollarTree" should be able to find the same things. They've come waaaaaaaaaaay down in the price since getting popular a little while back. Even a craft store should have them significantly cheaper - ours do.

Dollarstore now carries Adult Colouring books

Look how they develop oil. It's quite shocking and disgusting.

Baby steps, as they say. Try something else, see where it goes. You don't need to label yourself anything yet ... who cares ... just try it.

Can't go international, there's your solution!

There's every type out there, don't worry there's many more such as yourself. It's just the messy ones are the most vocal

Thuuuummmmmmmmmmmmbs UP! Dedication

Who gave them that copyright? So any time someone uses space print, they have to call it something else now? Wow

Devil's Advocate, but a fetish is not necessarily public. It's participated in the confines of your home, in private. You can sit on the computer all day long and watch YouTube videos and no one would know a thing. So why would the majority still be white? Keep in mind, whites are not the majority internet users of the world and North America does not have the fastest internet connections. Just saying ... (there's no "Answer")

Well, if it's found that the majority participating are in fact white, then you can begin to ask why? Is it something in the genes? Upbringing that's somehow different than others? That's the strange unanswered question and discussing it could pin point something, who knows? So what you're suggesting is there is white privilege and hence why AB/DLs (may) be by majority white. See, that's a huge statement and very interesting.

Makes you think about what you're purchasing though. I get it.

Yup, I think there's many other reasons, I would guess. What you're saying is definitely considerable.

Most though? Because my guess is that this is on the upper-cuff of white-ness, compared to other fetish groups. It's straight curiousity but it's worth mentioning, if that is in fact the case, that we are finding that the group is predominantly white, WHY is that the case? From there, you could have a lot of conversations as to why. I would think that anyone, of any background or race, could be interested in this, so why is that it's predominantly white?