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Wet Tony, your story is very similar to mine. My continence started failing about 12 years ago. It took about 4-5 years before I realized that i needed more than just a pull up or pad. My Doctor told me after a cystiscope (I think that is what it was called) was inserted and they literally showed me the spams of my bladder as they happened almost immediately when they tried to fill me up with water. They said they are not sure why this occurs, and can either provide drugs that cause horrible side effects, botox that I have heard can swing the other way to where you can't pee and have other issues, or a shocking device that get implanted. I chose the option they did not provide - wearing a diaper. All of the options they provided did not guarantee I would not need protection at any point. I saw no desire to deal with the options if at the end of the day a diaper would be worn. I just accepted it and now I am much more comfortable. Somedays it is very inconvenient but I will take that and the ability to just allow myself to relax and reduce the spasms. I am not really a AB or DL either, but this site does a great job of providing a platform for all people to discuss their situation and gain support from others that may be in similar roles. I hope you find a comfortable place in life with your situation.

it is different for all. I had something pretty similar a few years ago. Started with spurts here and there and squirt after voiding and leaving the bathroom. It went from pads to pull ups and now diapers. Over time, I have lost more control, and my bladder holds dramatically less than it did in college with all of the drinking. I am not sure my sphincter stays open, but every 5-10 min when I am staying hydrated, I get a bit of spasm and void automatically. If I am sitting and "kinking the hose" the spasms build until they are unbearable. I either stand or sit with one leg under the other to reduce that kink and let it drain. I am in my a young male and now just diaper up. I have a successful career and many great friends and a family. Incontinence is just like wearing glasses to me now. I do not call attention to it, but just put it on and move on with life. I hope you find comfort to do the same

You are not alone MarkSmith! I usually go with white, but I like some others occasionally. No one needs to know but me but walking around telling them team which way to go and what needs done, while wearing something feminine/childish is awesome. If not the diaper, the cover. I love the haian frilly ruffles across the butt or lace! I salute you for your wise choice to stay happy.

Caution - Soapbox rant - I also find it odd that you can have things turned inside out/outside in pretty easy these days with just a simple form from a psychiatrist, but a man that hates their penis and do not want a vagina cannot just have their penis removed. Women can get their ovaries removed at will and removal of breasts ahead of cancer possibilities are both acceptable. But if a man shows up and asks for a penectomy or orchidectomy, that is a show stopper. I have very bad pain in my testicle and would gladly give it up. I am already on T for low levels, and have all the kids I want. My wife had a hysterectomy without issue. I have been told by numerous doctors to the point of exhausting the list of them locally, that they will simply not remove it unless it is verified cancer. Irony is that most doctors that suspect cancer will remove it before biopsy to avoid possible cross contamination! The doctors want me to go on long term pain management with opioids! What sense does that make? I also have very painful bladder spasms that are very unrelated and unique pains in my gut. While I am functionally incontinent at this point, I would gladly also elect for a sphincterectomy to help reduce my spasms. I have no problem changing a diaper a few more times day to avoid these damn spasms! I have lost other body parts like fingers and such so I can tell you from living with it that you simply learn to live without them and without very much time, it seems totally normal without them. I have no hang ups on fixing things, even it means I will not die with what I was born with. I will still die and would rather it be under my terms. In the end, there is a hypocrisy (no pun intended) that some can modify their bodies with little to no concern, but others are locked out for other but similar in nature needs/wants by Dr's hiding behind the Hippocratic oath! Healthy tissue removal is just that. Either allow it or don't. Sorry for the rant.

deewet - I am not sure of your situation, but I have in the past when I ran out of proper diapers before planned, yet I had some abena pullups I have put on two pullups. When I need to change, I simply tear the first off and pull the second right back up. It might not super discrete, but it is more discrete than taking off your pants and shoes.

Spot on Mark. I had a night out with my fellow employees once and we hit the bars after a rather long presentation. I changed before heading out, but did not expect the night of drinking that followed. We sat down at the third bar of our pub crawl and i felt an immediate leak. I excused myself and went to the bathroom. I was not only leaking, but had well exceeded the diaper's capacity and it had split open! I had no back up diaper and my butt was literally saturated and down the back of my thighs. I ate my pride and went back out after trying hard to dry things off. They asked if I was ok as I was gone for a good 10-15 min. I had to fess up and admit my predicament so I could leave and take care of the issue. I explained that I was living with incontinence and that the even took my by surprise and i had greatly overestimated my situation. When I got up everyone saw my wet butt as I left. The next day they asked a few questions but were fine and did not tease or say anything odd. They are still friends. I am usually in an office setting and have had a few times when I got up to find the half-moon tattle tails or a wet seat cushion. I just act it like it is no big deal most times, grab my backpack with a change and go for the restroom. Most people will understand if you just address it in an adult manner. I was mortified, but afterward I got over being embarrassed. It is hard to get there, but at the end of the day embarrassment comes from within, not others. Keep you head up, do what you can to avoid situations like that, and live your life diapered! Even young adults deal with this and it is no big deal.

I agree with all of this. I took the meds - I have packs of mybretriq in front of me never finished. They all either cause headaches, thirst, or worse. Some worked a little, but none were 100% effective meaning I still wear diapers. At some point the cost and side effects dawned on me could be avoided if I just used the diaper a little more often. A good premium diaper is well worth the extra cost over cheap leak prone ones.

Agreed. I wear them. I told my boys I wear them and that it is a private issue that I deal with to keep moving on in life. We all have to share a bathroom, so the large trash can full of diapers (that I empty each day), various ointments and power, and stack of diapers/boosters are in a cabinet but not really hidden from sight. If you do not treat it as something odd, most kids just shrug their shoulders and move on to the next round of "game of the week" on the playstation.

I too look. I feel myself also looking down to see how prominent the bulge is. I wish I was that well endowed. However, I know it is just diaper and most times heavily loaded. I also find myself touching my butt to see do I have that drop butt or not yet. I do it in private, but always take the risk to check, if I can't I find a bathroom. If I see someone else with something similar, I do not say anything, but I sure feel for them. It is easy to just be a perv but I do not think noticing is. Some find it a odd, a turn on, sick, awesome. I do'nt really care and have read many of these conversations. I look cause I feel for them or I love to notice what others have. I see others notice my rather obvious bump by 2-3p. I try to change when I can. I try to not flaunt it. But at some point you do what you can to conceal, and live your life. The non-wearing folk look just as much as those that wear. I still look at a cute girl's ass. It keeps us young and human. Anyone that says looking at others, or looking for something specific is bad - screw them. Look, find what makes you happy or comfortable, and try not to make others feel awkward. Anyone not looking is dead inside. My take.

YES YES YES

I totally agree MarkSmith. Either by choice or need, the hump of wearing all the time is hard. I am in AZ and this last week was a very hot one. The ride on the Harley is a killer, but I love it. I walked almost 8 miles the other day during a 15 hour day of hard work and had to change twice. Not from the diaper being fully used, but the bulk between the legs was bothersome. In the end I made it through. I can wear at work, the game, the bar, or just around the house - but that took some time. I still get looks every now and then as the bulge up front is rather pronounced at the end of the day. I just tell myself people are jealous of my package. They just don't know the package comes in a pack of 10 or 12 and has tapes on each side. Head up and move on with life. Your underware is no one else's concern.

I am much like you - I almost always pee as soon as I stand. Working at a keyboard most of the day, I feel tingling of spasms that before I would ignore. I tried the medication and it helped a little, but never fully. I finally got to a place in my life where the headaches and dry mouth side effects along with the still present need for diaper made me think, forget the meds. If I have to wear, now I just fill it a bit more often without the meds and no side effects. Best to you on your journey and I hope they work better for you!

That is a great question. I wear the same and sometimes I find I have the same issue leaking out the top. I have found quite a few times where if my plastic pants are not just right, the diaper top sticks out a bit. I either leak due to direct spray or more often wicking on the inside sheet to the top (ABUs are horrible for this). This causes me to get a wet spot above the top of my pants on my shirt. I had not thought about it, but a raised area like the leg guard at the top would be awesome. Also if the plastic extended beyond the inside sheet, but that is different. Until then, I always make sure to pull my plastic pants above the diaper for sure. I wear a pair of shaping panties over the diaper and under the pants to help hold up and also absorb small leaks.

I have used the firehose. They do have more room than most, but are low cut so a onesie is required.

I was allowed privacy in the room in PHX and was asked to leave the diaper on the table for examination. They said it showed up due to the SAP/Wetness making it alert as possible plastic explosives. Another time in Reno, I was running late and did not have a spare to change into. I was searched and they were ready to let me go on, when the Director came in. He was very uneducated in handling of this situation. He called the cops over and they all escorted me back out to the counter of the airlines, they called back my bag from the plane, I had to open it and take out a diaper, then let them re-check the bag. The Director escorted me to the bathroom outside of security and left to change. He was waiting on the other side of the screening area after my second run through. The cops seemed really disinterested in the mess this guy was making of the situation and were very polite. I did issue a dispute with the TSA over his handling of it.

MarkSmith - you have valid points. Most of the TSA I have dealt with are very professional and understand the need for a diaper. I have been requested many times for both a visual as well as a change of diaper. Some are better than others. Just hold you ground, keep you head up and understand it is a need you have. If you are confident and not skiddish, this will mean a lot to most trained people. They are looking for those that freak out or act odd. I do carry a TSA card that says I have incontinence. Some get it, some look at me like - what is that word? Most times they get it and just pass me along. You will not be first nor the last more than likely to been seen or asked. Just be confident.

Tena for sure

I use all three on a regular basis. The Inspire seem to me to hold the most and are the most bulky. They do not wick well though, so I use a Abena booster that is really good at spreading the load. It is very similar if not the same as the Bambino and ABU all white diapers. I use the three interchangeably based of price when I purchase. The Northshore is a great diaper but very stiff. The padding is not as wide up front where I need it but a solid diaper. It wicks well and has good overall absorbancy. The shell is not as thick as the above, but in the middle I would say The Better Dry is the softest and most pliable of the three. It does not have the absorbancy of the Inspire, but does tend to wick well. It sags more when loaded due to the thinner backing material. All three are good though.

I had a rather long day and even with an ABU diaper with a booster and plastic pants, I found myself with moon beams on my butt. I knew I was past my point of no return but work tied me up beyond where I thought I would be. I had to duck out from dinner with the team hoping no one noticed my wet butt. No one noticed, but I did.

Craisler, You seem to be very much like me. I work on computers and find I have to get up every so often to allow things to flow if I sit too long. I too find that if I am working and deep in thought, I will find later that my diaper is very heavy and ready for a change.

MarkSmith - I am in total agreement with what you wrote. I like my less than adult diapers, but usually opt for the white ones when doing the airport shuffle. I have also had about the same interactions with TSA. When I get stopped now, I always ask for a private screening. Usually, it is not that big of a deal, but does delay me a little.

I donated 50 yesterday, but I do not need a pin thank you.

Well said - there are plenty of younger people that deal with it.

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