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No doubt it’s a mixed up world today and nothing is normal anymore. The constant for me is filling my diaper multiple times per day. It reminds me of what some normal still is.

Don’t let it scare you. Learn to change at particular times during any 24 hour period. Over time you will poop without paying attention to it. You’ll find that being full is really much better than not. Using internal deodorant helps with odors. You will also notice that you won’t go just one time per day. It’ll be multiple times usually within an hour or two of eating. Naturally the amounts will be less.

I think it’s pretty safe to assume that with bladder & bowel incontinence the average cost for quality products & supplies need is $200.00 a month. It is for me.

Great to see another overall wearer! I pretty much live in them. They are perfect with diapers. I don’t use the baby lotion but I always use Desitin and never get rashes and I usually spend most of my day in a poop filled diaper as well as wetting constantly. However I will get some to give it a try. Thanks for the information!

Have you noticed the new tapes on the 24/7? At least they are in size Large. The last couple of cases I got have a much better tape.

This really surprises me. I always use a contoured booster with every diaper and rarely do I have a problem. I guess everyone is shaped a little different.

There are times when I just can’t have a messy diaper. Weddings or family/friend gatherings for example. So I’ll do a enema to be sure that it doesn’t happen. I hate them. I have to use a plug with a rubber stopper that the enema wand goes through so I don’t leak while the solution is filling me up. I also get cramps. The worse part is how it throws me of schedule, sometimes for several days. How about you?

Same here. No choice

I find it odd that you said you’ve never worn a diaper before but are a DL and you don’t know how to put one on. I don’t know.... maybe it’s just me.

Many many times in the past. Not so much anymore though. I remember being so full without the ability to change that I would move it around by pressing on the diaper to the front & up to make as much room as I could until I could change. I learned some hard lessons about management in those days

I thought I was the only one that used tape. I use electrical tape & diaper suspenders as a onesie is uncomfortable to me. My diaper choice is dry24/7 with a booster. They have changed the tapes and are much better but the tape gives me assurance so I’ll stay with them.

Many times I’ll go to bed a little messy but if I’m not I’ll wake up & will poop almost immediately. But I’m always soaked when I wake up. Many times a very wet diapers will wake me up before the alarm sounds.

Wearing is a personal choice. It sounds like you have that need that so many others have. Let me assure you that there is nothing wrong with it even though the masses don’t. But you also need to know that there are many that feel the same way as you. And it’s perfectly fine. Finding someone else outside of a board like this may be a little tough because of how personal it is. You cannot live life in constant fear of others finding out. That’s not healthy. Read & contribute up & down this board & you’ll get the help you seek in accepting your need to wear. We all have our personal stories just like you have yours. Feel free to PM me should you like.

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I’m not sure how it went for you but after I became urinary incontinent and became proficient at management of it I had thought about being bowel incontinent as well but never acted on it. Several years went by & I tried it. Something clicked and I’ve never used the toilet again. Over time it became automatic. No planning for it as it all became automatic. Today it’s multiple times in any given 24 hour period. So it’s like I’ve come full circle and am fully content.

Years ago I tried pull-ups and never was happy with the performance of them. I guess if you leak just a little and don’t mind changing more often they’d be ok but if you want something with a large capacity and you’d like to not need not worry about changing for long periods then a plastic backed brief like ConfiDry with a booster does the trick. I understand that Megamax works well too. Constantly changing is a huge hassle and not very liberating. But you’ll need to experiment with what works best for you and what you want out of a diaper. Also don’t forget about a good PUL type of diaper cover. I use the bloomer style that I pull the legs up my thigh to create a cuff in the event of leaks. Those cuffs give ample time to get changed without leaks on your pants or down your legs. Just another level of protection

This by far is one of the better explanations I’ve read out here. It doesn’t explain the drive in some of us to do it but that’s not all that important anyway. Not that you would know or understand either. Please don’t view that as a attack. Clearly that would never be my intention. It’s just an additional question I would have lingering. The bottom line is how does it make you feel? If life is better then that’s really all that counts.

For you constant messers or duals what kind of routine do you have? I start my day about 4:30am most always loaded from the evening before and completely soaked as I constantly drip much like those who use a catheter but without one. I take my shower & clean up real well to start my day. I have breakfast about 6 am knowing I will poop about 6:45 am. That’s usually a pretty good sized one as well. About 9:30 I’ll do my quick change ( just replace the diaper with a good cleaning) whatever is stuck to me stays there. Then I’ll get active for the day until my next changing time & shower about 6pm. After that I’ll eat dinner about 7pm. About 9pm or so I’ll get a smaller load & that stays until I repeat the next day. What’s your routine?

I realize your question was directed at someone else but I’d like to answer your question as well. I’m well over 10 years urinary incontinent and somewhere around 6 years bowel incontinent and my life is far better. Being dual formed a completion for me.

A contoured booster fro NorthShore will probably help you

Good for you! It’s amazing how good one feels when they wear and use a diaper

Much of this thread is a interesting read and I can relate to some of it. I understand your struggle to become incontinent and remember mine. For me urinary incontinence was easy as a accident caused mine and in time I really embraced it. I felt the need for bowel incontinence as well and that was much harder to achieve. But that was several years ago now. Today I’m fully incontinent and couldn’t be happier. I hope you achieved the level you wanted as well. The driving force behind it is something I don’t understand and no longer try. I just figured that it makes no sense to understand the need when the end result is being content.

When I became urinary incontinent I met a few people in the Drs office waiting room that we struck up conversation about it and am casually friends with them to this day. So when I see them I know they are diapered & I pay no attention to it. In conversations we get our laughs about it but it’s not discussed much beyond that. Those friendships are over 10 years old now. If there is any conversation about it it is usually about the clothing we wear for comfort.

In my opinion if you are on this site you’ve been thinking about it for a long time otherwise you would have never done a search to find it. So that shows the interest. Now that you are here and you read how many people have the same feeling as you this almost makes it ok. If the need is strong and you get comfort in wearing a diaper then do it.

I guess the original question was wanting to become diaper dependent. My reply to that would be if you have been thinking about it for a long time then you NEED to do it. You’ll be much happier for it in the end. You’ll be able to get the monkey off your back and continue on. Put them on and use them if you so desire.