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By Gerberbaby2200 · Posted
Sorry i put the wrong vers Matt 7;1 and Mat 7;5 and 1 Corinthians 5;12 You need worry about what other people do and worry about yourself period ok Shut up and quit wing . -
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By DiaperboyEddie12 · Posted
@Gerberbaby2200 what does Matthew 6 verse 15 But if ye forgive not man their trespasses, neither will your father forgive your trespasses. What does that verse have to do with what we are talking about? As there is morals to this whole thing. Going to the Dr or nurse or hospital and all that. That is part of life and if one is in diapes fulltime then there is no choice on how or when one wears their diapers. But being out in pubic where children can see what a person is wearing is wrong. If it is just AB clothing that is not to outlandish then who cares but if one can see the diaper and flaunts their desires on others that is not moral. -
I agree with you, and I think HiediLynn was a unique case. That became approrpriate in that locality because it was normalized. At the time, I remember thinking it was crazy, and TBH, I still do. I thought that it was too far, but it didn't like the community (where HeidiLynn lived) had an issue with it. -
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In terms of cloth squares I have around 10 60” terry square nappies and 2 Rearz night “pre-fold”. It’s more than I need so I rotate through them week by week. I tend to only wear the terries or pre-folds in bed at night due to their relative bulk, pins and their deep abiding respect for gravity when wet. I also have a dozen or so cheap baby (24” x 24”) terry nappies from Big W that I can use as soakers or liners as well as a bunch of pull-up and Velcro “day” cloth nappies. I typically wear cloth 3 nights per week and 2 – 3 days per week. Other times are disposables. I use a sparing amount of sudocrem at every change to cracks and crevasses in the "wet zone". A large tub will easily last me a year or more. I don’t slather it on so it tends not to get onto the nappy itself and have had no problems with that. I stay bald down there so it's easy to apply thinly. Historically it's been the “kite fold”. I’ve also used the Chinese nappy fold (and may again if my weight loss continues) but this has less “rise” front and back which is something to watch at night. I’ve recently been experimenting with the “Concorde” fold which is actually looking promising for night use having already withstood a number of in-sleep wettings without incident. I may make the switch here as this fold seems to be better at stopping towelling protruding from leg elastics. Take a look at this: https://www.thenappylady.co.uk/news/ultimate-terry-nappies-folding-guide.html For most of my nappied life it’s been “like clockwork” and happens typically at my morning change. That reliability has eroded a little. I don't know if it's age or pelvic de-conditioning due to prolonged nappy usage. Rarely I’ll have to go during the day. Mostly I can pull my day nappy down and replace it. I couldn’t do that with a folded/pinned night nappy though. I’d either have to wait or simply use it to the minimum extent for comfort and hope for the best. My control has eroded a little. I need to “answer the call” fairly promptly and to be honest, there are accidents from time to time. The bar is lowered for these accidents because let’s face it, you’re in a nappy anyway. Sometimes, if I’m on my own and close to changing time and it happens, I’ll just let it happen in my nappy so I can keep doing what I’m doing and deal with it later. That convenience is fleeting. The clean up sucks and I wonder why I did that to myself. I think the desire to give up control is rarer than having a things for nappies. At your age I would have said I did NOT want to be dependent on nappies. They were strictly recreational and usually conflated with sex. Slowly over time I realised that my nappies actually controlled anxiety and made me feel better. This gradually led me down the path of permanent nappies. At that point I STILL didn’t think I wanted dependency until it started to emerge (started with bedwetting) and I realised I actually DID. Or at least, I was completely ok with it. It was somehow, validating. I suspect people like me are a small subset of a very small subset but we are here. We might be the 1% of the 1% Your cognisance of your relative youth, your own young family and life adventures as a moderating force against a hedonistic abandonment of the toilet puts you WAY ahead on the comprehension curve the way I see it. I think any “advice” would be that if you ARE that 1% of the 1%, realise that this will never go away and at some point you’re going to have to scratch that itch. Having your partner aware that this is on the cards might let you cut a kind of deal with her, even if it’s tacit that you’ll “take one for the team” for now but she can understand and give you some space later in life. One of the big things I had to get my partner past was that the nappies were not some kind of sex toy that I preferred to her. She now views them as a crutch necessary due to damage inflicted from dysfunctional parenting. It's not a flattering perspective. She may be right. It doesn’t matter. The main thing is she no longer regards my nappies as l’autre femme. Sometimes, in my more wild imaginings, I delude myself that she has some degree of grudging respect for me that I've managed to do this without creating a the massive life train-wreck she'd anticipated (well, so far, it's only Thursday...) You also have the advantage of some trailblazers. When I started, there was very little in the way of accurate accounts of choosing to live this way. So I decided to build one. So did @Little Sherri so check out his blog. @Stroller is relatively quiet these days but carries a very big ideological stick. He seemed to be on a very similar path to the one you are treading. He put his 24/7 ambitions on-hold for the sake of his family but now it's his turn. He lives permanently in cloth nappies. Collectively we've made a bunch of mistakes so that maybe you don't have to 🤣 I love reading. I love writing. I have loads of time and a vast expanse of monitors on my computer desk that I waste hours at. I appreciated the long-form expository and the opportunity to try to answer. Thank you!
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