So, I kind of feel the need to update since my original answer was so long ago and things have changed.
I have been wearing outside my apartment a bit more often now. I've gotten a bit weird about public bathrooms as of late, especially with a lot of people around. There are places that are okay, but for places that I'll be at for longer periods, I get padded up. When I do pad up for these ventures, I try to use thinner diapers that don't show as much and wear longer shirts, untucked for informal gatherings. Thank goodness for Goodnites XXL. I don't use them unless I have to.