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I have faced this issue for several decades now, starting mid 50's Several prostrate surgery's since than but only gotten worse. I have resolved my pants wet issues by only sitting to urinate and waiting a bit after, and always wearing pads in my panties which I slide up immediately as I get off the pot. I still get hollered at by my girls if I do not take a tissue to the dribbles on front of the seat after getting up, but typically the bathroom floor stays dry if I am still wearing panties. Not so much if I am undressed to change into night clothes or get into the shower, but that is another issue.

CVS makes some good ones that are thick and bulky as you requested. The overnight version is actually wider at the bottom for better protection when reclined, but I use them as a male the opposite way as they provide a wider zone for my little guy to dribble into during the day as well.

D Dave and R Pins are so right, as this describes many of us!

I read with interest your history, and can relate to many parts of it myself. Before I retired, I was having bladder issues on occasion, and actually had several wetting incidents when traveling. Following that, I started to travel padded, and when in a hotel, always was padded and sleeping on a waterproof bed mat. At first I simply removed it when I got up for the day, but finally realized the the hotel staff would not care if I took this precaution, and in fact may be happy about it. From that point, on multiple day stays, I always found my bed pad made up on top of my sheets by the room attendants, and on one occasion, found a note on my desk with simply a happy face note on it? One of the things I started to do almost from the start was to use a diaper cover, as I felt more secure with it as I slept on my side, and even during the day, it helped keep my protection in place. I have used the Gary active wear products for many years now and strongly recommend them as an extra protection layer. Even today with my overnight issues becoming far worse due to health issues, I still use one of these over my now cloth overnight diapers, but have added a high rise plastic pant to insure my bedding doesn't get stained from rolling around in a soaked diaper, keeping my wife happy! Keep posting these updates, they are well written and fun to read!

Some years back, I believe it was four summers ago, I was working on a major house project on a really hot day, and that night I drank more than my share to not only celebrate the work on the project being behind me but to replenish my dried out body. That was the night that changed everything for me as during the night, I wet my bed for the first time since I was a child, and the following morning my wife was not happy to say the least. Since that event, I promised my wife that I would do whatever I needed to to avoid the bed wetting and I have moved through a series of different diapers and diaper covers to insure that. I found that the disposables that I tried tended to leak on occasion as I am a side sleeper. This year, after another prostrate surgery and more loss of feeling and higher rates of flow again, I moved into the cloth diaper choices and different diaper covers(high back larger plastic panties) and have not leaked since. Additionally I am sleeping now better that I can remember in a long while!!

As an older gent, mid 70's, who has been wearing diapers at night for several years now, I can guarantee that every night I will have to pee at least once. Since moving into cloth at night about 6 mos ago after my last prostrate surgery, I don't try to get up and go into the bathroom as the pined on diapers are too hard to get off and on, so yes, I am wet every morning. The only exception is if I am traveling and using disposables, I will stir during the night several times and force myself to get up and find the bathroom. Most times that keeps me mostly dry by morning but it is a challenge for sure and I don't sleep well as a result. Since going into cloth at night, I have never slept better!

Disposable diapers work best when you are upright, either walking or sitting, and cloth best when lying down on back side or stomach. Since going to cloth at night, fears of leaks have gone away. Still wear large disposable pads during the day in my panties as I try to use the bathroom on regular basis when up and around so that works best to get out of in a hurry

I am finding that as I prepare for overnight, going to the bathroom one last time, removing my typically soaked day pad and getting the diaper paste on my behind, going into the bedroom to settle into my overnight diaper package, I am finding that I am dribbling many times on the floor in-between the use of the diaper rash cream and clean up of my hands, and getting onto my overnight protection. I have resorted to keeping my panties on my knees for this process after the removal of my pad, to avoid the clean up of the dribbles. My wife has not noticed this yet or said anything, but if she does, I may resort to having her help with this process, keeping me on the bed over my diaper? Not sure she well be to thrilled about putting the rash cream on me or the clean up of her hands after-maybe some latex gloves will be in order??

Really appreciate all the good information provided with this very informative feedback!!🙂 I have started with some of the different diaper folding techniques using my one flat diaper, but the pre-folds and contour are pretty much as they are and about all I can do is to try to pin these on when lying down as someone suggested, as opposed to what I currently do This is what I love about this site, so much info to share from all those with years of experience 💕

I have moved to overnight cloth diapers several months ago, and have yet to understand the best method to get these pined on tightly enough to ensure that when I get up in the morning, that they are not about to slide off my backside as I move about. I have learned that the larger pins, while easy to handle, are not as sharp as the typical smaller pins with the nice plastic covers on them. I have tried several styles of diapers already, from the thinner flat styles with an insert added, to a contour style to the more traditional pre folds with the thicker centers and find that getting them pinned tightly is difficult in every case. My typical method is to open the correctly folded diaper on the edge of the bed by folding out the back edges of of the folded diaper, pull it onto me one side at a time by bringing the back edge over the front portion of the diaper and pinning the top on one side at a time. I repeat snugging up the other top and pinning it. I follow by pulling the bottom on the first side snug on my leg and finally the other bottom in similar fashion. I follow this with a snug pair of PUL pants which I struggle to get over the diaper as I have found that if it is not tight, will not keep the diaper in place as I sleep. In addition, I use a larger vinyl pant to be certain that if the first combo slips a bit, I still have good protection against bed leaks. While it seems that this is on tightly when the diaper is dry and I jump in bed, after it is wet in the morning it is not so snug any longer. Any suggestions on a better procedure would be greatly appreciated as I know many out there have lots more experience and knowledge of these matters than I have.

My wife has helped me in past as needed, and will certainly going forward if necessary. After I learned how to do up my cloth night diapers, she simply checks on me occasionally, but as mentioned, if needed will not hesitate to help me out! She understands my needs and helped make decisions about what works best for me to try for best comfort that offers the protection I need now.

just got up so still in my overnight leakmaster birdseye cotton cloth diaper and even as it is good and wet, has lots of capacity left! Since changing to cloth overnight, I sleep like a baby knowing that I will not leak no matter how I am laying when asleep!

Recently had some surgery to remove a good part of my prostrate to ensure good flow when I go, even as I start to go often without noticing the need. As you can imagine, at night this really becomes a problem without diapers. What used to be using an insurance diaper at night has become doubling up at least and even than, I found I had to wear an extra protective cover to keep the bed from getting wet as I am now considered a soaker when I wet! During the day, I am very observant to any feeling of needing to go, and am getting by with thick pads, which are often soaked as well by end of day. Any time I get any distance form a bathroom, it is back to a thicker pullup up or brief. Wife agreed that "we" should now go the route of thick overnight cloth diapers with soakers if necessary and am waiting on my order now to make the conversion permanently. Oh and about the meds the doc gave me to help with this, they certainly do make my stomach upset, and have contributed to more headaches than I have ever had, so they will not be refilled either

First accident I remember I was in elementary school, probably about grade 5, and it happened at recess. I was in line for the big slide (yes, we still had one at that time) and first felt the need to go, but didn't want to lose my place in line. By the time I got to the top, it was bad and as I was sliding down, I really wet my pants just as the bell to go back into school rang. One of the nuns spotted me and took me aside, and up to a special room they used for "accidents" I had to take my pants and underpants off, and use some clothes that they had there that would fit me, which happened to be some simple girls cotton underwear and a flowery pants, and sit in a chair in that room working on my homework as my clothes dried on a radiator by the window, which was slightly opened to air out the room. Never forget this episode as by the time I returned to class, I had been told that if this happened again, I would to told to bring diapers to school! Second accident I had was many years latter, when I was traveling home from a business trip. I was having issues already with my prostrate, and had a close call at my main office, but only got my pants a bit spotted, but on the way home, in flight I wet my self trying to get to the bathroom to the point that the front of my pants were obviously wet, and after landing and having to wait to leave the plane as I was near the back, I knew I was in trouble but was able to hold it until I made the terminal, but really wet my pants heading to a bathroom. I simple took my light jacket and wrapped it around my waist and avoided looking at anyone as my pants were soaked all the way down my legs! Had to sit on an old blanket I had in back of my truck for the ride home, and my wife got me into see the doctor that day after I got home. I got over the issue with my prostrate using meds, but never again traveled without wearing a diaper!! Now in my mid 70's I wear some sort of protection every day, and at night a very thick diaper that is soaked when I get up every morning as promised my wife 5 years back after the first night time accident that I would do what was necessary to keep our bed dry!!!

As I was waking this morning in a wet diaper, I remembered for the first time an occasion at one of my grandparents house, when I was put to bed in a bedroom upstairs close to the stairway, and recall having to wear a diaper. I recalled my grandma telling me that this is the room where anyone that still wets the bed sleeps, and if you wake needing to go badly, come down the steps and wake me to help you in the bathroom. I thought about this a bit as I was waking and could almost smell again the faint urine smell I remembered from being in that room, so many years ago. This was the first I remembered this incident, and can't remember if I wet my diaper or not, only that this did happen to me at least on one occasion!

Not to say the obvious here but it seems that this is a problem of rate of absorbency more than anything? I would look toward resolution of that issue, and focus on that as a solution. Maybe get into cloth or stuffers in the core of the diaper you are using>>

Understandable about the sale via cash vs insurance. Understand that the insurance groups never pay full value for anything, as a matter of their agreement to pay for a vendors goods or services, that vendor has to agree to a reduced price. My wife, now retired, worked in the office of a dental practice that had to take a percentage of their patients under the state insurance policy that paid 10%- try to run a business like that if you feel that is the way to go. After our govt "forced the so called ACA or Obama Care" onto us, the deal where the congress had to pass it before they could read it in the middle of the night, the insurance industry was never the same again! Even the private employees plans that were once the gold std and paid very well (PPO), had to fall in line to what we have today. And before you say that the health providers were rich and had to be brought under control, look at where we are now with the smaller groups falling away and the big getting bigger. And about the getting bigger, how is that working with many facilities no longer accepting some of these large groups, IE United Health, Humanna, even Blue Cross in some regions-look at the lawsuits now about all the corruption going on. Seems the only way to survive is to have friends in high places not to mention names??? Maybe not for much longer I hope.

I concur with what 007specialK said, and want to add my 2cents. Dealing with a very ill loved one is traumatic and very draining. Been there, done that. You have all our support for your tireless efforts! About the story you are doing, it is a great one for sure, and hope to see more when your precious time allows!!

Being from the upper midwest, I understand from several sources that you can get adult diapers and diapering supplies if on Medicade, but it is almost impossible to do that with Medicare. I also know that the state has a lot more input for Medicade as they fund a much larger portion of it. Maybe that's the reason?

Thanks for all the feedback everyone. Just to clarify, I am using these for overnight diapers, so changing in the middle of the night is not an option. I have already doubled up so to speak, as am now using a pull up that has been cut to drain into my overnight diaper, which is currently Tena Super's and they are not totally used up when I get out of bed in the morning. (maybe they are prior to my taking a shower, depending on how many cups of coffee I have when working on my computer) The main reason for wearing the waterproof pants is to avoid leaks as I sleep on sides and even front at times during the night, and I have had issues with leaks and wet spots on my bedding in the past, something my wife is not happy about and that I promised to resolve IE: the diaper covers. And the final point again, the PUL active wear covers are great for me, causing no issues when wearing, but they have leaked at the top a bit on occasion as they just barely cover the tops of the diapers I use, and if something slips a bit, the possibility of a leak occurs. I went with the high waist Gary Vinyl 7mill in an appropriate size for me (it is large enough that my wife made fun of me when I first used them) While they solved the leaking out the top, the new issue arose with regard to the skin irritation at the elastics which is what I was particularly asking about. I can agree for sure that they are much warmer than the PUL version, so maybe it is just a matter of conditioning my skin to this new environment?? I will try some talc powder on the inside of the elastic next time I use them to see if that helps

I grew up in the 50's with a bunch of brothers and sisters following me. My mother always used cloth diapers and I remember a few pair of the rubber pants used, as they were thick white and seemed to be more durable than the plastic or vinyl pants that started to show up around that time as well. I remember my mom cussing about how poorly made these were as they did not last like the rubber pants did but that was what was mostly available by the 60's I have another question that someone may be able to offer advice on. I mentioned that I recently tried some Gary high waist vinyl diaper covers, and while they worked to contain leaks, they were also much warmer than the PUL versions I typically wore, and caused my skin to rash under the elastics at top and on my legs Any advice on how to avoid this, as since that time I have gone back to my PUL pants with extra diaper soakers under my typical tape on diaper which is working well.

Sounds like my last 10 years, but it wasn't a lie in most cases. Just a case of several medical conditions coming together and causing these problems. A wet pants on an airplane and again in a terminal line brought on pullups for days not close to toilets, a heavy drinking evening and a wet bed brought on diapers for bed, the rest is history!

I have been in the hospital on several occasions for knee replacement, the first time they used a cath on me and when that came out, I was sore for about a week(learned a lesson from that for sure) The second time, I rejected the cath prior to surgery, and insisted on diapers if necessary, and the hospital was happy to comply, although as mentioned above, they were not good quality. As it turned out, the nurses got me up often and into the bathroom as a result, and I only dribbled a bit into my so called protection. I may be a candidate for prostrate removal in near future, as numbers are not looking good and I have already had a RESUME procedure done to shrink it some time ago. Will deal with it as it happens, and am not concerned, as one of my Bro laws had to have this done and he has to wear diapers now all the time. Not happy about it but I tried to help him look at bright side of things last summer, short of telling him I too wear protection but not yet diapers in the day time. As all who frequent this site know, diapers are not bad if you accept them, and you may even grow to "like" them over time as some have said they do.

Had a few beers yesterday afternoon and evening watching football, and as a result, had a large wetting before midnight already. Rolled over and fell back to sleep, only to be awaken several more times before my typical wake up time for more wetting, in different positions as well as I toss and turn over night typically. Thanks to my newer high rise Gary diaper cover and my recently discovered diaper setup, I got out of bed soaked, but with no leaks into bedding.

Thanks for all the feedback, that is GREAT!! I did try something a little different the last few days and it seems to work. I took a pair of day time pullups, the first thin kind I tried to use years back, and sliced the backing in front and back, and wore those under my diaper. The first night I really gave this kit a workout, and woke up very wet but only inside my new high waist Gary vinyl diaper cover. Last night, not so soaked but still no leaks so I am happy with this solution. Thanks again for all the suggestions!!!