Caught you wearing diapers in public good thing?

[ken2988]

I wear diaper 24/7 because it is a medical necessity, but that doesn't mean I can't be embarrassed by being caught wearing in the public.  I was at Saver's thrift store yesterday shopping, that is were I also buy diapers when I find a good quality package of diapers at a great price, but this time I was just shopping for dvd's, picture frames, etc...  I know that sometimes my diapers will show when I bend down or reach up for something on a higher shelf, but I am normally really careful to make sure I have pulled down my shirt so that people don't see that I am wear diapers, but yesterday I wasn't paying attention and left myself literally exposed.  I was reaching up to look at something and I ended up with my shirt pulling up and then falling down between my diaper and me so that it was obvious that I was in a diaper, but I didn't know it happened.

I had a women that was in her 60's walk up to me and she said to me and said that she could see I was wearing diapers.  I pulled down my shirt and said she must have mistaken my underwear for diapers.  That is when she told me that she bought that same brand for her mom when she was alive, and she was 100% sure I was in diapers.   She then said her mom was in her mid 80's when she started to wear diapers, and had recently passed away, and seeing me in diapers just brought back memories of her mom.  She then said she thought I was way too young to wear diapers,  and asked me if I would like to talk about it.  She asked my if I wanted to run over to a Dotty's bar that was near the store have a drink and talk?  I think I would have normally just said no thank you, but something about what she said and the fact she she saw me in diapers, was intriguing to me!  I should point out that I have dated older women before, so did find her attractive. 

As we were walking into the bar she pointed at my shirt and mentioned I might want to pull it down before someone else noticed, which I immediately did.  We sat down and grabbed a couple of beers and started talking.  She told me that she was 72 and tended to like younger guys and asked me how old I was?  I told her that I am 59 which I could immediately tell  was a surprise to her and she said she though I was in my mid 40's.  , but I wasn't surprised since most people guess I am a lot younger than I really am.  I then asked why did she want to talk to me after seeing me in diapers?  She told me that she was interested because she had never met anyone that was so younger that wore diapers and also that she thought I was cute, and hoped I would be interested in talking with her.  She then asked me if it would be OK if she asked me about wearing diapers?  I told her that would be fine?

She asked me if I wore diapers because I needed them, or did I have a fetish?  I told her that I have to wear them because I slowly became incontenant over the last 5-10 years.  She then asked me how often I wear diapers?  I told her that I wear them almost all of the time, and that it was something that I have to do, but does still embarrass me when in public.  She then said that I shouldn't worry about being embarrassed, and that she got use to seeing her mom in diapers and had been changing her for several years.  While we also talked about a lot of other things, I have mostly mentioned the diaper portion of our conversation.  During all of our talking we had a couple of more beers, and it became really easy for both of us to talk together.  I tend to open up with people after I have had a few beers.

The big problem was with all the drinking, I was sure my diaper was full, so I told her I needed to get something out of my car and would be right back.  I went to my car and quickly changed into another diaper.  It is hard to do in a car, but not impossible, but I thought that would be better than trying to get a diaper and go into the bar restaurant and change.  It took me about 5 minutes before I came back inside and sat down.  When I sat down she asked me what I had to get, and while I was thinking of an answer, she asked if I had just changed my diaper?  She then said if she had one more beer, she would have come out and changed my diaper herself.  She then said she was sorry for saying that and blamed it on all the beer she has been drinking.  She said that maybe it was time for her to go home and said she would get an uber ride home and asked if I wanted to share a ride?

While the driver dropped me off she wrote down her phone number and asked how many hints she needed to give me that she was interested, and asked if she needed to hit me over the head to get me interested?  She then reached over and kissed my and said I should call her just before I got out of the uber car.

[Mysterion]

Really nice story. Thanks for sharing.
Which diaper, did you wear, that she noticed the pattern/brand?
Will you call her?
Sounds like the beginning of an interesting relationship.

[ken2988]

I was wearing attends diapers.  I am not sure if she actually recognized the pattern or just could tell from the way they stuck out that they are diapers, either way she was right. 

I know when she first came up to me I thought she was in her early to mid 60's but when she told me that she was 72 I was conflicted.  I do think she is attractive, but she is also 13 years older than me which doesn't sound like a lot until you think about how much your body starts changing from decade to decade after you turn 30, in which case it does make you think.  The one point on her side is that she appears to be in better physical shape than me, and doesn't have any of the bladder issues that I have.  Based on her mom, she has another decade before she will start having issues if ever.

She did call and leave a message late this morning, which I haven't returned as of yet.  While I am thrilled to call, I am also wondering if I should?  What do you think?

[cusediapers14]

Call her. What will it hurt? If you don't you regret it. If you do well you at least gave it a whirl. 

[Spanky]

What do you have to lose?  Give her a call

[MrValens]

Yes please call her. I would love to hear more of what comes of this. 

[ken2988]

My biggest worry is the age difference being a problem?

[Cute_Kitten]

As long as you're both over 18/ over the age of consent in your location, it's all legal. ? Legality aside, I don't see how age difference is a problem? 

[WBDaddy]

32 minutes ago, ken2988 said:

My biggest worry is the age difference being a problem?

Dude, I dated older women most of my life, and no, 13 years isn't that big an age gap.  

[Spanky]

@ken2988it's not like you're 13 and she's 26, you're both adults.   Give it a try. If it doesn't work,  it doesn't work.  You'll never know unless you try.

[Dubious]

This is why I wear 2XL shirts when XL fits me just fine.
I can even fit into mediums, but then the diaper will show for sure.

[Diapered Dave]

Call her... See her again. Also, the way you described your conversation with her in the bar, it sounds like she would be glad to change your diapers for you.. What guy would pass up a chance like that?!?!?

Come on, when was the last time you had a pretty lady change your diapers? Go for it!!

[ken2988]

I ended up calling her back today and we talked for a long time, at least a long time for a guy to talk on a phone, and we are planning on doing something together soon (most likely this weekend for lunch or something) and see where things go from here.  While we were talking she asked me if the difference in age bothered me, and I told her that at first I wasn't sure, but after I thought about it for a little while, I figured out that it was her I am interested in not her age.  While some on this site may wonder if we talked about me being in diapers, and how that would impact her, we really didn't talk about it, but I am sure when we go on a date it is something that will come up in our conversation.

In regards to changing my diaper, I know she made a joke about it that I mentioned in my initial post, but I am not really sure if that was the beer talking or what she was truly thinking at the time.  While she knows I wear diapers, I do not want to come across in a way that turns her off before we have even got to know each other.

While I was able to talk with her, after she made the first move, and returned her phone call, again after she made the first move, I am really shy and not good at aggressively asking someone out.  I am even less forward in regards to asking her what her intentions are in regards to being involved with me and my diaper situation.  If things move forward, how do you think would be the best way to ask her if she want to be involved with me in a way that includes my diaper life? 

[Moochie]

 

48 minutes ago, ken2988 said:

how do you think would be the best way to ask her if she want to be involved with me in a way that includes my diaper life? 

I don't think you have to ask her about being involved in your diaper life. Just wear a diaper, wet, and see if she asks you if you are wet.  A bolder action would be a messy diaper, but I wouldn't mess without talking to her about it first.

[ken2988]

Wet possible, but I never mess in my diaper.  I wear diapers because I can't control my need to pee all day long, but I do not have the same issue with solid waste.

[Diapered Dave]

11 hours ago, ken2988 said:

  If things move forward, how do you think would be the best way to ask her if she want to be involved with me in a way that includes my diaper life? 

Get together with her, for lunch, dinner, a date, whatever... After you've been together for an hour or so, just say you have to "go take care of something before your pants get wet".... See what her reaction is. You already know that she knows about your diapers, and she wanted to talk about them with you when you first met, so she IS interested in you wearing diapers. If she wants to take the lead with this, let her.

[rusty pins]

Tommy from DPF always had a good point that I agree with.  Take diapers out of the equasion if you want a regular relationship to develope.  What I mean by that, have vanilla dates where you would go to dinner, movie, things she likes to do, things that any normal couple would do.  Diapers are a necessity and if things come up reguarding them, go with it, but the idea is to have regular normal dates and conversation first, just like any other two people starting to date, and get to know each other.

[~Brian~]

2 hours ago, rusty pins said:

Tommy from DPF always had a good point that I agree with.  Take diapers out of the equasion if you want a regular relationship to develope.  What I mean by that, have vanilla dates where you would go to dinner, movie, things she likes to do, things that any normal couple would do.  Diapers are a necessity and if things come up reguarding them, go with it, but the idea is to have regular normal dates and conversation first, just like any other two people starting to date, and get to know each other.

@ken2988@rusty pins

I believe this is the best advice I’ve seen in this situation. Anytime you have a relationship, the first thing that you wanna do is try to make a lady interested in you because you have something to offer her, and she has something to offer you. You also may have many things in common, or like similar TV shows, movies, games, video games, dancing, etc.  I agree with Rusty and everyone else here: the goal is to start small and work up: that means you start with vanilla dates, and then you slowly determine whether you think it will work out, and then after a while, when you are certain that you think it will be a lasting relationship, then I would “tell her what’s going on“ in a way that you feel comfortable, and that she feels comfortable as well. There’s No reason to end up starting a relationship by saying “by the way I wear diapers” right off the bat, because then you end up in a situation where it’s like somebody dropped an Adam bomb on someone’s head. you want to work slowly, and you want make sure that your first impression is the best impression. You don’t want to scare a potential date, or someone that you know because you tell them right away.

in my case, I have several friends that understand my situation. I went 47 years without a diaper on a daily basis. In 2019, I started having problems with incontinence, and that is when I decided that it was best to wear a diaper. I talked to several of my friends, ones that I went to school with for example, and they all seem to be very supportive, very understanding, and loving, and they know that it “is no big deal, sometimes people have to use them, or wear them“. After I heard that, I didn’t have to worry too much anymore: I mean, I am already in a wheelchair, so there should be no reason why someone would think that it would be a bad idea for me to wear diapers. It was my decision to take care of it this way, and regardless of what anyone else was saying to me, this is what I believe would be the best course of action. I do not need to go to any specialists or anything like that, and I made that perfectly clear: this is my decision, I have medical conditions that are being exacerbated by several other factors, and I don’t want to end up worrying about things.

I am sure that if I find the right woman, diapers will not be an issue, because they understand that I have a disability. I don’t mind wearing diapers and I don’t mind using them, if it makes my life easier, and makes it so I don’t have to worry anymore. For 49 years I have worried about things that bother me, and sometimes I end up having sleepless nights because of what I deal with on a stress level. When I decided to wear diapers full-time in 2020, I ended up relieving a big chunk of the stress. Part of the problem is that you only live once, and you might as well enjoy life as much as you can while you can do it.  Diapers should be a non-issue, and if it is, then you might have the right lady. I always think of it this way: the lady that is going to be my “right lady“ is going to be one that understands what makes me tick, understands my feelings on several issues, doesn’t have a problem with my disability, or my faults or my shortcomings. Several times in my life, I was thinking to myself “will I ever find the right woman“ I have had several people here tell me that it doesn’t matter how long it takes, but you will find the right woman, or man for example, you just have to take a chance sometime and that’s the way it is.

I am sure that when you are ready to disclose your use or wearing of diapers to this lady, it will be something that you feel comfortable with. In order to feel comfortable, you have to understand what you are going through, and use your discretion to decide whether you want to disclose. If someone already knows, such as this friend of yours, then it shouldn’t be too bad. I always think of it this way: someone that is going to be a wife to me, or a girlfriend, he’s going to except me for everything I am, as a package deal and that includes the diapers. However, diapers are not the main source of the conversation, just let it go and let it roll out and see what happens – this is the best advice that I can give you as well, and I’m sure Rusty and the others above me will agree as well.  If someone loves you, diapers should not be an issue, and friends usually understand, so I wouldn’t worry about it too much.  ???

Brian

[ken2988]

Because of all of the Holiday events including family visiting for her, we have planned to get together for lunch in the middle of this up coming week.  I will see how thing go during the date, and let you know what happens.

[Forced2wet]

Good luck, let us know how it works out for you 

[Mysterion]

Any progress yet?

[Little Cub Pants]

If someone caught me wearing a diapie in public and they'd say, "are you wearing a diaper now?!" I'd say yes I am wearing a diaper right now. And if they said "so if nature calls and you have to go you go in the diaper?" I would say, "yes I do go in the diaper."??☺️????? Yep, there's nothing like making an good pee-pee in your diaper!?????❤️????☺️?❤️? And being Daddy's squishy little guy!????☺️?????☺️??❤️?????❤️☺️?

[IminWetPampers]

9 hours ago, BabySpiderBoy said:

If someone caught me wearing a diapie in public and they'd say, "are you wearing a diaper now?!" I'd say yes I am wearing a diaper right now. And if they said "so if nature calls and you have to go you go in the diaper?" I would say, "yes I do go in the diaper."??☺️????? Yep, there's nothing like making an good pee-pee in your diaper!?????❤️????☺️?❤️? And being Daddy's squishy little guy!????☺️?????☺️??❤️?????❤️☺️?

Same, if anyone asked me, “Are you wearing a diaper now?” I’d say I always wear diapers and were they to ask, “If nature calls and you have to go, you go in your diaper?” I’d reply with, “I go in my diaper whether I have to or not, because that’s why I wear diapers.”

[ken2988]

I have ended up being friends with her, but I ended up in a relationship with another lady that I have already posted about.  The problem is that the other lady lives in a facility that has again gone back to being locked down due to their fear of the virus spreading.  She is telling me that they should allow people to visit again in the next couple of weeks hopefully!  The reason that I stayed friends, was that I thought it would be wrong for me to be dating another woman and also pursuing  a relationship with her at the same time!

 

[Little Cub Pants]

12 minutes ago, IminWetPampers said:

Same, if anyone asked me, “Are you wearing a diaper now?” I’d say I always wear diapers and were they to ask, “If nature calls and you have to go, you go in your diaper?” I’d reply with, “I go in my diaper whether I have to or not, because that’s why I wear diapers.”

Mike, did your mom ever swaddle you when you were 4 years old and wrap you up like an burrito and hold you like a baby?!??????❤️??