InDiapers92 Posted May 14, 2014 Share Posted May 14, 2014 Hi everyone, I am new to the site, I am recently married and I told my now wife a little while before we were married that I have an AB/DL fetish. At first it was really nice, she was accepting and even participated. About a week ago she did a complete 180, she questions everything and says she doesn't understand this or me. I've tried talking to her and anytime I bring it up it just causes a huge fight. Anybody have any suggestions? Help... Link to comment
Baby Brian Posted May 14, 2014 Share Posted May 14, 2014 This has already come up. Try looking at this thread first. http://www.dailydiapers.com/board/index.php?showtopic=37656&view=findpost&p=750342&hl=married Link to comment
beallucanb Posted May 14, 2014 Share Posted May 14, 2014 Your new wife wants to make a new you, she has plans of turing you into the guy she wanted right from the start. Link to comment
Loveable_guy Posted May 14, 2014 Share Posted May 14, 2014 Oh Yea, your in for a change and not the one you hoping for either. Link to comment
Elfy Posted May 14, 2014 Share Posted May 14, 2014 Wow, some people clearly in bitter marriages here! Link to comment
Spargano Posted May 14, 2014 Share Posted May 14, 2014 There is certainly a psychology of men wanting to fix a man.... Those women are often in abusive or broken relationships because they see a man like a lost puppy or a project. Marriage is give and take with concessions on both sides in a healthy marriage. No one spouse should feel like a hostage or like a problem. In this case, if she brings it up, I would ask her why her feelings have changed? Why was she willing to not only condone, but participate prior? Do not ask this in anger, but kindly in an effort to understand her perspective. Once her points and her feelings are understood, allow her to hear your feelings. Hopefully a good discussion will brew. Let us know how it goes Spargano Link to comment
Bettypooh Posted May 14, 2014 Share Posted May 14, 2014 Ditto Spargano a hundred times ! 1 Link to comment
Nat Posted May 15, 2014 Share Posted May 15, 2014 She probably thought it was a phase and expected you to get over it. Link to comment
DavidMW Posted May 15, 2014 Share Posted May 15, 2014 @timmyc - the OP reported that at first it was really nice, that she was accepting and even participated. Link to comment
Nat Posted May 15, 2014 Share Posted May 15, 2014 Just a reason why to only stick with AB/DLs when dating. Link to comment
Darkfinn Posted May 15, 2014 Share Posted May 15, 2014 You should have informed your wife BEFORE tying the knot. Honesty in a relationship is the best policy. Link to comment
rusty pins Posted May 15, 2014 Share Posted May 15, 2014 You should have informed your wife BEFORE tying the knot. Honesty in a relationship is the best policy. 2 Link to comment
BriGuy Posted May 15, 2014 Share Posted May 15, 2014 This is very unfortunate. I'm sorry to hear about your frustrations. My only solution to any marriage issues is communication. Talk to her, remain calm, and be positive about it. Introduce her to others in the community if you can, share how this lifestyle can bring a couple even closer! Ask her about her fantasies and partake in some of those. Patience and persistence seems to have always been something that works for me through difficult times. Maybe it'll work for you? Link to comment
MuscleBaby Posted May 16, 2014 Share Posted May 16, 2014 Complete 180 sounds like perhaps she got someone else's opinion on the matter. We (men & women) do have a tendency to change our view on a subject if someone who's opinion we respect says something negative about it. Link to comment
Little BabyDoll Christine Posted May 16, 2014 Share Posted May 16, 2014 Ditto Spargano a hundred times ! Link to comment
InDiapers92 Posted May 16, 2014 Author Share Posted May 16, 2014 Thanks everyone for all of your input and help, the last couple of days were kind of crazy and tense, after what seemed to be days worth of long conversations I was able to help my wife understand at least a little bit about the whys of AB/DL. Things look to be on the up and up as she says it may take awhile for her to get used to it but she said she accepts me fully for who I am Link to comment
Spargano Posted May 16, 2014 Share Posted May 16, 2014 while I speak for us all that we are happy she is accepts you, did she let you know why she did the reversal? It would make sense to be accepting but not participating and then decide "I don't like this," but to participate, feign acceptance, and then drop this on you was not fair to you or honest. I hope you used this as a catalyst that she needs to be honest with her feelings going forward for the two of you to succeed in your relationship. Link to comment
BriGuy Posted May 21, 2014 Share Posted May 21, 2014 It is the old story. She is looking down the aisle, at the altar and the organist is playing the religious music and she starts thinking "aisle...altar...hymn. That is about right" LOVE IT!!! Haven't giggled like that in a while! Link to comment
diaperpt Posted May 22, 2014 Share Posted May 22, 2014 Christine Daryleanne, on 16 May 2014 - 1:45 PM, said: It is the old story. She is looking down the aisle, at the altar and the organist is playing the religious music and she starts thinking "aisle...altar...hymn. That is about right" "LOVE IT!!! Haven't giggled like that in a while!" Link to comment
Dill_Pickle Posted May 25, 2014 Share Posted May 25, 2014 Diaperpt...you are right, no, I can't get in this wife's head...and, like you, I simply urge more communication... Link to comment
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