exposed/outed by another

[bbj]

Unfortunately I have recently experienced a threat of blackmail and exposure via social media regarding my very private and intimate tendencies as a lifelong (54 yrs)

[Little BabyDoll Christine]

No. I live by two rules:

1 What happens in Las Vagas stays in Las Vegas: The Web is NOT Vegas

2 If you do not want the public in your bedroom, do not put your bedroom in the public square

[bbj]

I think you miss the point

Somebody else wants to "put the bedroom in the public square"

[diaperpt]

What Christine says!

[bbj]

Somebody in real life in real time wanting to use theinterweb/social media to expose this aspect

[Repaid1]

I actually had a very bad mommy betray my trust. We had other issues outside of the Nursery. I had told her that I was going to end us there and just remain friends. She didn't see it that way, and went out on a week long rampage of telling everyone that I or we knew about my "tendencies". For the most part the "gang" took pity on me and thought her the fool and loser. But it did go wide spread and Even out of our social circle, so those that Just knew of me, also learned, so I took alot of ribbing and remarks which continues to this day. It's not a easy thing to deal with and I wish you well.

[diaperpt]

I understand what you're saying, bbj, but what

[Little BabyDoll Christine]

I think you miss the point

Somebody else wants to "put the bedroom in the public square"

How did that somebody find out?

[SoakedinTexas]

Yes it happened to me. I was stupid and had put some of my information out there attempting to find like minded people to be friends with. One person that I worked with found the information and used it at work against me. Long story short I was let go from that job, they say not diaper related, for reasons that they came up with. The word quickly spread around the town where I lived. I heard stuff here and there but no one was mean to me and ever really cared. Everyone has something they hide from everyone so unless the person is really clean living or is just spiteful no one is going to care that long about what you do or what you wear. I no longer live in that town but I do go back once in a while to visit. No one says anything to me, well once in a while joking around but nothing mean. And those that don't talk to me or avoid me then really weren't friends.

[Quietly]

The way I see it is you have two options, live with the potential that the person will out you in whatever way you can and however your comfortable with; or get out in front of it and take away the power they have over you. While it may not be possible given your professional, personal situation etc blackmail is only powerful in it's potential for damage. If there is no potential then there is no worry. Soaked, if your the same one from the other site, I can't reply to your message yet because I'm not of sufficient user lvl.

[Little BabyDoll Christine]

What is the creep trying to get out of you? Blackmail has a quid pro quo. It is also illegal and a sting can be set up

[Rockies Fan in Diapers]

Those you trust today, might not be trustworthy five minutes from now.

[Forced2wet]

Originally after many years of marriage my wife found out about my kink. After a unsettled period she eventually came round and joined in by regularly dressing me in nappies and plastic pants.

When the relationship failed (not AB/DL) related. She threatened to go public with my 'thing' and told me she'd ruin any further relationship I had by revealing my secret.

I'm now with the love of my life and although I would always have told her about my 'lifestyle' the threat from my ex encouraged me to come clean straight away.

As far as I'm aware my ex never told any family or friends......or if she did they've never given me grief over it.

[Zander]

Its not happened to me (lets hope it stays that way ), but I refuse to be blackmailed. Period. There is no negotiation on this point.

[baby_ryan]

Been through a similar situation. I left my phone at work, I had a abdl twitter account and they went through it. Saw a lot more than I wanted and it all became public knowledge at work. Most people were fine about it though. Wasn't the reaction I was expecting. Gossiping lased for a few weeks before it died down.

[Bettypooh]

I like Zanders take on this- an "ain't gonna happen" attitude stops most people (censored) in their tracks when they see you aren't going to play their game. Sure, go ahead and out me. We WILL see who pays the highest price for that and it ain't gonna be me! I might not have anything on someone but that does not render them immune to MY actions. You'd be surprised how little cash it takes to please a crackhead and they're happy to do all kinds of 'work' for you

[Dill_Pickle]

Get the threats on tape or in writing.

[rusty pins]

From what I understand from bbj's original post, he discovered that there were other gay people in his village, just like he himself was gay.

[wetatnight]

it's difficult when people you trust betray you.

it makes you more reluctant to share things about your self to other people after that.

[BriGuy]

All of my friends are aware that I am kinky. Their level of awareness comes from the questions they ask. I have never had any negative fall out because any of my kinky activities.

My wife ripped me out of the closet when she share with my in laws my Abdl interest. Now they buy me Winnie the Pooh bear stuff. I think it's more awkward for me than it is them.

[SoCalAB]

I am not sure about the country you live but in the U.S. blackmail is against the law.

[repetitivediaperwetter88]

It took me awhile to become comfortable posting on here and even becoming a member! My dad found some porn pics on my old comp when one computer was shared by 3 people. Well, I have my own computer, which my dad uses sometimes. I just make sure I log off and shutdown before going to bed. This is just something I don't need my dad to find out about. Just be extra careful at what pics you have on your phone and keep a password on it. I do.

[Dill_Pickle]

It took me awhile to become comfortable posting on here and even becoming a member! My dad found some porn pics on my old comp when one computer was shared by 3 people. Well, I have my own computer, which my dad uses sometimes. I just make sure I log off and shutdown before going to bed. This is just something I don't need my dad to find out about. Just be extra careful at what pics you have on your phone and keep a password on it. I do.

That isn't nearly reasonable operating security.

[turtlepins]

Okay!

[Bettypooh]

Great post TP I'm not ashamed of who I am, but neither do I feel compelled to share myself openly with everybody in this world and my underwear is definitely a personal topic in RL. I'd prefer that my 'secrets' remain that way but it's not such a big thing for me However it will be a big thing for whoever 'outs' me, far bigger than they ever dreamed it could be and since most who know me understand how I am, I kind of doubt it will happen