bbj Posted September 12, 2013 Share Posted September 12, 2013 Unfortunately I have recently experienced a threat of blackmail and exposure via social media regarding my very private and intimate tendencies as a lifelong (54 yrs) Link to comment
Little BabyDoll Christine Posted September 12, 2013 Share Posted September 12, 2013 No. I live by two rules: 1 What happens in Las Vagas stays in Las Vegas: The Web is NOT Vegas 2 If you do not want the public in your bedroom, do not put your bedroom in the public square Link to comment
bbj Posted September 12, 2013 Author Share Posted September 12, 2013 I think you miss the point Somebody else wants to "put the bedroom in the public square" Link to comment
diaperpt Posted September 12, 2013 Share Posted September 12, 2013 What Christine says! Link to comment
bbj Posted September 12, 2013 Author Share Posted September 12, 2013 Somebody in real life in real time wanting to use theinterweb/social media to expose this aspect Link to comment
Repaid1 Posted September 12, 2013 Share Posted September 12, 2013 I actually had a very bad mommy betray my trust. We had other issues outside of the Nursery. I had told her that I was going to end us there and just remain friends. She didn't see it that way, and went out on a week long rampage of telling everyone that I or we knew about my "tendencies". For the most part the "gang" took pity on me and thought her the fool and loser. But it did go wide spread and Even out of our social circle, so those that Just knew of me, also learned, so I took alot of ribbing and remarks which continues to this day. It's not a easy thing to deal with and I wish you well. Link to comment
diaperpt Posted September 12, 2013 Share Posted September 12, 2013 I understand what you're saying, bbj, but what Link to comment
Little BabyDoll Christine Posted September 12, 2013 Share Posted September 12, 2013 I think you miss the point Somebody else wants to "put the bedroom in the public square" How did that somebody find out? Link to comment
SoakedinTexas Posted September 12, 2013 Share Posted September 12, 2013 Yes it happened to me. I was stupid and had put some of my information out there attempting to find like minded people to be friends with. One person that I worked with found the information and used it at work against me. Long story short I was let go from that job, they say not diaper related, for reasons that they came up with. The word quickly spread around the town where I lived. I heard stuff here and there but no one was mean to me and ever really cared. Everyone has something they hide from everyone so unless the person is really clean living or is just spiteful no one is going to care that long about what you do or what you wear. I no longer live in that town but I do go back once in a while to visit. No one says anything to me, well once in a while joking around but nothing mean. And those that don't talk to me or avoid me then really weren't friends. Link to comment
Quietly Posted September 12, 2013 Share Posted September 12, 2013 The way I see it is you have two options, live with the potential that the person will out you in whatever way you can and however your comfortable with; or get out in front of it and take away the power they have over you. While it may not be possible given your professional, personal situation etc blackmail is only powerful in it's potential for damage. If there is no potential then there is no worry. Soaked, if your the same one from the other site, I can't reply to your message yet because I'm not of sufficient user lvl. Link to comment
Little BabyDoll Christine Posted September 12, 2013 Share Posted September 12, 2013 What is the creep trying to get out of you? Blackmail has a quid pro quo. It is also illegal and a sting can be set up Link to comment
Rockies Fan in Diapers Posted September 12, 2013 Share Posted September 12, 2013 Those you trust today, might not be trustworthy five minutes from now. Link to comment
Forced2wet Posted September 12, 2013 Share Posted September 12, 2013 Originally after many years of marriage my wife found out about my kink. After a unsettled period she eventually came round and joined in by regularly dressing me in nappies and plastic pants. When the relationship failed (not AB/DL) related. She threatened to go public with my 'thing' and told me she'd ruin any further relationship I had by revealing my secret. I'm now with the love of my life and although I would always have told her about my 'lifestyle' the threat from my ex encouraged me to come clean straight away. As far as I'm aware my ex never told any family or friends......or if she did they've never given me grief over it. Link to comment
Zander Posted September 12, 2013 Share Posted September 12, 2013 Its not happened to me (lets hope it stays that way ), but I refuse to be blackmailed. Period. There is no negotiation on this point. Link to comment
baby_ryan Posted September 12, 2013 Share Posted September 12, 2013 Been through a similar situation. I left my phone at work, I had a abdl twitter account and they went through it. Saw a lot more than I wanted and it all became public knowledge at work. Most people were fine about it though. Wasn't the reaction I was expecting. Gossiping lased for a few weeks before it died down. Link to comment
Bettypooh Posted September 12, 2013 Share Posted September 12, 2013 I like Zanders take on this- an "ain't gonna happen" attitude stops most people (censored) in their tracks when they see you aren't going to play their game. Sure, go ahead and out me. We WILL see who pays the highest price for that and it ain't gonna be me! I might not have anything on someone but that does not render them immune to MY actions. You'd be surprised how little cash it takes to please a crackhead and they're happy to do all kinds of 'work' for you Link to comment
Dill_Pickle Posted September 13, 2013 Share Posted September 13, 2013 Get the threats on tape or in writing. Link to comment
rusty pins Posted September 13, 2013 Share Posted September 13, 2013 From what I understand from bbj's original post, he discovered that there were other gay people in his village, just like he himself was gay. Link to comment
wetatnight Posted September 13, 2013 Share Posted September 13, 2013 it's difficult when people you trust betray you. it makes you more reluctant to share things about your self to other people after that. Link to comment
BriGuy Posted September 21, 2013 Share Posted September 21, 2013 All of my friends are aware that I am kinky. Their level of awareness comes from the questions they ask. I have never had any negative fall out because any of my kinky activities. My wife ripped me out of the closet when she share with my in laws my Abdl interest. Now they buy me Winnie the Pooh bear stuff. I think it's more awkward for me than it is them. Link to comment
SoCalAB Posted September 22, 2013 Share Posted September 22, 2013 I am not sure about the country you live but in the U.S. blackmail is against the law. Link to comment
repetitivediaperwetter88 Posted September 23, 2013 Share Posted September 23, 2013 It took me awhile to become comfortable posting on here and even becoming a member! My dad found some porn pics on my old comp when one computer was shared by 3 people. Well, I have my own computer, which my dad uses sometimes. I just make sure I log off and shutdown before going to bed. This is just something I don't need my dad to find out about. Just be extra careful at what pics you have on your phone and keep a password on it. I do. Link to comment
Dill_Pickle Posted September 24, 2013 Share Posted September 24, 2013 It took me awhile to become comfortable posting on here and even becoming a member! My dad found some porn pics on my old comp when one computer was shared by 3 people. Well, I have my own computer, which my dad uses sometimes. I just make sure I log off and shutdown before going to bed. This is just something I don't need my dad to find out about. Just be extra careful at what pics you have on your phone and keep a password on it. I do. That isn't nearly reasonable operating security. Link to comment
Bettypooh Posted September 25, 2013 Share Posted September 25, 2013 Great post TP I'm not ashamed of who I am, but neither do I feel compelled to share myself openly with everybody in this world and my underwear is definitely a personal topic in RL. I'd prefer that my 'secrets' remain that way but it's not such a big thing for me However it will be a big thing for whoever 'outs' me, far bigger than they ever dreamed it could be and since most who know me understand how I am, I kind of doubt it will happen Link to comment
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