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This one honestly isn't bad. I kinda like the emo-throwback (which these days I think borders on retro), and the cinematography in the clip is well done, if expressing teenage angst toward a generation gap is still the objective of new bands (I don't think that formula has changed in 50 or so years).

Well, if there aren't any regular meet-ups in Melbourne, I'm sure there are enough of us here to start one.

I can't believe it, the one week I don't log in here, and I miss out on something awesome like this. I'm so sorry Either way, I really hope you had a good turnout and lots of fun. Please don't think I'm disinterested, and I'll be sure to check back more often in the future. I'm not sure if there is a regular meetup, but if there isn't, lets start one!

That's a bit of an issue when you're incontinent. Often I don't even realize I've pooped my diaper until I sit in it, then I always wonder how long I've been messy for without noticing.

Sometimes the first I know that I've pooped in my nappies is when I sit down. I actually love this feeling if I'm home or in a place where I know I can get away with it, as it's a nice, warm, squishy surprise and I can wiggle around in it until I'm comfy, then get up and sometimes after a while even forget that I'm messy. Come change time though, I get a stinky reminder

For me it's a bit of a timing game as to when I eat and how long that will take to pass through my digestive system. I'd rather not poop at work, so I avoid breakfast on weekday nights, but I usually poop either once or twice per day, usually early evenings, and sometimes in the morning. Often while I'm still in bed. This works out well convenience wise, as I can take off my night nappy, wipe clean and then have a shower to ensure I'm nice and clean for the start of the day at least. This of course doesn't always work out, but for the most part it's pretty reliable. I'm screwed if I eat anything that gives me an upset tummy at lunchtime. Changing a poopy nappy at work is no fun at all.

The "shock value" or simply "novelty" of it has been used time and time again to get press coverage or other forms of viral promotion. And it works. I'd have never heard of this band aside from the fact that she wore a pull-up in it and someone posted it here. There are plenty of other places (like redit for example) where "OMG look (s)he's wearing a diaper" will get a clip posted. Most people will watch the clip to see it, and at least a percentage will like the music. ...and to those who're saying she's a meth head. She's probably not, possibly anorexic (which is a shame, and as much an issue as obesity). In this case, I think Makeup and wardrobe go a long way to creating the "look" which is obviously what the artist / producer was going for. Most of the time it's all smoke, mirrors, camera lenses / angles and a healthy dose of digital post production.

As someone who is physically incontinent (due to a spinal injury) I would agree with you. Nobody would really want to be permanently incontinent. Even if you've grown to like your diapers, it's still majorly inconvenient a lot, if not most of the time. Ironically it's not so much embarrassing, as once you get passed high school, most reasonable adults are extremely understanding and accommodating. But it does mean that you've got to go through a lot of rigmarole that is time-consuming, messy and unpleasant. People assume it to be "freedom" but it's more of a prison of needing to plan ahead, make sure to bring supplies and you still eventually need to find a bathroom, only you spend a lot more time in there, than if you were just using the toilet. However psychological and hypnotic training for things like bedwetting are almost universally and instantly reversible / stop being effective, when the person is in an unfamiliar environment, or when their conscious mind wills it to stop. I know a lot of ABDLs who've done similar things to "un-potty-train themselves" yet they manage to instantly regain full control when the circumstances call for it.

The chemical normally used to absorb liquid in diapers, often referred to as Superabsorbent Polymer (SAP) is usually sodium polyacrylate. Whilst it does expand in size substantially when exposed to water, it does so by osmosis, rather than a chemical reaction, so isn't exothermic. Sodium polyacrylate is a cross-linked (network) polymer that contains sodium atoms. When the (sodium-containing) polymer is placed in contact with water, there is a tendency for the sodium to distribute equally between the network and the water. That means, some of the sodium atoms want to leave the network and move to the water. When these sodium atoms leave, they are replaced with water molecules. Water swells the polymer network to try to keep the sodium concentration balanced between the polymer and the water. This is the reason diapers also contain some paper pulp based absorbency as well, to handle this excess. The cross-links that connect the chains together prevent them from dissolving/breaking apart in the water. The resulting product is a Gel like substance, however is chemically unaltered, being a suspension of water and the polymer. I don't know enough about the chemical composition of urine to tell you whether there could be another reaction occurring, but more than likely, it's just the pleasant sensation of peeing in your diaper. It's nothing dangerous, just the liquid leaving your body at around 37c and coming in contact with your skin briefly. On it's own it will cool within the polymer matrix at roughly the same speed as if it were in a glass, however being close to your body (also a source of heat) it will likely take longer. Perhaps they just hold it closer to your skin than other diapers. I've worn them almost 24/7 since virtually the day they came out, and had no trouble with skin irritation or other issues. Just a LOT less leaks at night, and larger capacity than any other diaper i've tried. Definitely my favorite. Despite the exorbitant cost of getting them to Australia (wink, wink, nudge, nudge)

I've wet the bed (and also been almost fully incontinent in the daytime) since I was a kid, due to an accident which caused severe and irreversible spinal injury. The journey has at times been difficult, but I've learned to enjoy my nappies and the overall feeling of security they provide. I've also learned to manage my bedwetting fairly well over the last 30 or so years by trial and error. It's become such an ingrained part of my bedtime routine that on occasions where i've been catheterized in hospital, the lack of a nappy has felt foreign and resulted in a sleepless night, as something just didn't feel "right". Luckily enough the nurses have always been obliging in swapping the catheter for a nappy. I was always in disposables as a kid and through my teenage years, only trying cloth later in life. As it happens, whilst cloth do provide excellent coverage (as I'm a side-sleeper, disposables would often leak on me), they never had sufficient absorbency (no matter how many layers), given that I'm a fairly large guy, who either doesn't produce ADH (Antidiuretic hormone), or it is ineffective, I can (and usually do) wet a LOT (like 5+ liters) in a night. As an adult, I've found a combination of disposables, boosters and rubber pants which pretty much guarantee no leaks, which has been a huge relief and reduced the anxiety of bedtime quite a bit. I'm actually glad I came to enjoy wearing nappies, as otherwise life would be a real drag (even now that I like them, there are times when it's not all that convenient). Nonetheless, even if by some magic and witchcraft (or a new medical procedure), I was able to sleep without wetting, I don't think I'd be able to sleep without my nappies, as their soft, nurturing and secure feeling helps me to drift off to sleep, knowing I'm safe.

Sorry for replying to such an old post in this thread, but as someone who is physically incontinent due to spinal damage, let me assure you that becoming incontinent won't be a burden off your shoulders in the long term, but quite the opposite. Psychological incontinence induced by hypnosis may be different in that it is likely reversible, but physical incontinence which you cannot control, nor "switch off" is a lifelong burden in and of itself. I can't tell you what to do, however I do suggest that you consider the long term consequences over your entire lifetime. You will forever need protective everything, and regardless of your current family situation, someone with incontinence is unfortunately someone that people rarely want to get close to. Sure there are lots who will pity you, and feel sorry for you, but none that will want to share their lives with you. I am incredibly lucky to have the most awesome wife in the universe who is completely understanding and loving despite my disability, but people like her aren't common. I spend my life hiding my disability from everyone in my professional circle, from hotel staff, from airlines, and just about anyone whom I don't want to be written off as a useless invalid. As someone who has been in both a wheelchair, and in diapers, people are more likely to take you seriously in a wheelchair than a diaper.

I do it sometimes, just cause it feels a bit naught and reminds me of when i was a kid before being put back in diapers. Sometimes I'm just lazy and wetting or pooping my pants is just easier.

Just to add another positive comment. After trying everything from Confidry 24/7, Better Dry, PeekABU, Barnyards, All the Tykables range, the North Shore Megamax is the best adult diaper out there. As a side sleeper, I've always had to go to convoluted ends to avoid waking up wet. This included a cloth pull-up from Babykins plus plastic or rubber pants. After trying Megamax and getting the fit just right, I'm now confident enough to sleep without the cloth, but still will wear plastic pants "just in case" but haven't had a leak in months. I've tried both versions, and am really happy with the performance, plus just by chance, they fit my body really well. Tykables for example, just don't like my body shape, and I can never get a tight fit. The only thing I could wish for would be velcro (or loop and hook) tabs (like Tykables and Barnyards have) rather than tapes. But aside from that, these are my nighttime savior. For daytime use, they're just too big, so for now i'll stick with my old (but apparently odd) favorite of Rearz Rebelz. They are thin, but absorb a lot, don't make a lot of noise and are really easy to change in a bathroom stall. The other issue is that North Shore Care don't ship outside the US or Canada, so cost wise, it costs me more in shipping (as I need to use a forwarding service) than it does for the diapers. But nonetheless, I consider the extra cost worth it, as I no longer need to be continually laundering cloth covers or bedding.

This is completely ludicrous. If you want to wear nappies then I encourage you to wear them and enjoy using them whenever you want, as soon as the urge hits you, if you like them that much then wear them all the time, that's perfectly fine. You won't cause irreparable damage to your body that way, and you'll become continent just as quickly as you became incontinent if the situation demands it. I have severe urge incontinence due to a childhood spinal injury and have had to endure it all my life. As it happens, I have come to enjoy it, probably as some sort of subconscious coping mechanism. Every single day is complicated by the fact that I am going to need to change at some point, every night I wonder if I'll wake up in a pool of my own urine because I'm a side sleeper (and before anyone says it, cloth isn't really practical every night in a fast paced world, especially since you can't really machine dry them). I see a high-priced continence specialist every couple of months to see if there is anything that can be done to fix this, any clinical trial, any new drug, but usually get told the same thing. No, not for your condition, those severed nerves are deep within the spinal column and you risk paraplegia if anyone were to operate on them to try and reconnect them, even using micro-surgical robots). Now this is the state of affairs for me, I live in a country with one of the the best socialized healthcare systems in the world, a great research base (we invented the bionic ear) plus I have the best possible private insurance and furthermore am willing to pay a LOT of money out of my own pocket if something cold be done. Now just think about that. Every time you get on an airplane, stay in a hotel room, sleep at your girlfriend's house. These are probably NOT things you want to NEED to be in diapers for (and believe me, none of them are perfect, you WILL leak at some point). Every time you go out, every time you go to the Gym, the Pool or the Beach. I know that sometimes people imagine it to be a form of freedom. Believe me, it's not. From childhood, i've needed to learn strategies to cope with wearing nappies full-time without causing too much interruption to those around me. In my case, it's not a secret that I wear nappies, but it's still a massive inconvenience at times. If you have control and like wearing nappies for convenience, comfort or whatever reason, just enjoy relinquishing that control and enjoying the sensations of it. If you want to do it all day every day, then you've got all the benefits of someone who is incontinent, you can even say you're incontinent, nobody can disprove it. But to intentionally damage your body in pursuit of a disability strikes me as insane and morally wrong. I've never heard of someone wanting to have two perfectly healthy legs amputated so they can spend the rest of their life in a wheelchair.

Rusty, this is quite possibly the most comprehensive and well thought out guide to buying Adult Diapers in person at a store, for those who are nervous or concerned about being noticed. Unfortunately, the pharmacies in Australia don't sell anything that even remotely works for me, so all my orders are online, but most online retailers ship discreetly and with an obscure company name as the sender, so unless your parent's physically open your package, or the consignment note stuck to the outside, you could say it was anything. Ironically enough, if your parents are that snoopy, it may present a good opportunity for you to discuss a "long standing and embarrassing medical issue you've been trying to keep a secret" with your parents. I'd imagine that they would be understanding, but may take you to see a doc. Trust me, I have involuntary incontinence due to a spinal injury, and have been to many continence specialists looking for a genuine solution, and there is no way a doctor will EVER say "he's doing it on purpose" The other option of using a Pick Up Locker works (just so long as you don't buy too many that the package won't fit, in which case they will most likely hold the package at the nearest post office, and you'll have to go in and collect it). Believe me, they don't care about anything but the name and tracking number (they will probably ask for Photo ID to verify the name). They just see a box and a tracking number. They deal with that many packages each day that I can assure you that the contents are of absolutely no concern to them. The other thing you could do is find another ABDL on here (or another site) who lives close by, but is in a better position to receive the package than you are, then go and pick it up from him / her. I've done this for a number of younger ABDLs in my area, where they'll get it shipped to my place, and I'll let them know when it's arrived, then they can come round and get it at their leisure. Just get to know the person beforehand. I've also done this with some US friends who can receive things that only ship to the US. I've gotten to know them a bit through chat and whatever, and after 4 or 5 times doing this (i always pay them a bit extra for the trouble) I've never been ripped off. Good Luck...

I'd like to say that this is the most absurd discussion i've ever heard, however the US judicial system's penchant for handing down harsh custodial sentences for minor drug offenses committed by ethnic minorities also seems to also fly in the face of logic and reason. Like @oznl, I'm also subject to the idiotocracy that is the Australian federal, state and local governments (regardless of which major party forms government) it keeps getting bigger and bigger, to the point where you require a paid permit to do just about anything,. Furthermore also like @oznl I'm a social and economic (to a point) libertarian. In New Zealand the disposal of nappies (diapers) is prohibited in general waste, and they must be disposed of in designated bins which charge a fee. This is an environmental protection initiative, and personally, I wouldn't feel as though my rights were being infringed upon if i was charged a few bucks to dispose of what amounts to dense petroleum based plastic, covered in bio-hazardous material). It's not the best thing for the planet and if the extra money goes into some form of recycling or better environmental management of the extra waste I produce, then I think it's my civic duty to pay for the remediation of the damage that my use of Adult Diapers causes the planet, subsequent generations and to the broader community. In terms of whether or not I have a right to wear and use them, I require them due to a medical condition, but also enjoy them, however there are many environmentally damaging things that people are legally allowed to choose to do (e.g. drag racing) and plenty of things that may offend some members of the population (e.g. tattoos) which fall into the category of compromise, and peoples free choice as to who they associate with and where they chose to spend their time. Birds of a feather flock together, it's true. There are always places renowned for drug dealing, there are places renowned for $14 espresso coffees and $40 eggs Benedict, and there are places renowned for people wearing identical overpriced vintage clothing (particularly plaid) and have a collective aversion to shaving, in an effort to express their individuality and unique style. If you don't like these places, you probably just don't go there. If there happened to be a place where open diaper wearing became particularly popular, I strongly feel as though it would fall into the category of "places you either really want to frequent or really don't." Even if classified as underwear, nobody prosecuted certain politicians for wearing (NSFW) nothing but speedos in full public view at the beach (and broadcast on national TV). And if late middle aged men wearing those are not more offensive to the eye, and potentially damaging to a child's psyche than adult diapers, I'll buy a desert island, a few cases of adult nappies and several barrels of rum and live out my few remaining days in true freedom.

I replied privately. He "Borrowed" $450 from me then disappeared before we even met. He even went to the trouble of changing his phone number and everything. He honestly didn't have to do any of that, I would have just given him the money if he really needed it. I was looking forward to a good friendship. I'm lucky I can afford it, but $450 is a small price to pay to learn someone's real character, before I'd invested too much emotion in a friendship. It really hurts when something like this happens. It shakes my faith in the community as a whole and harder to get the courage to meet up with others in the future ?

Yeah, the two of us live together in the Inner Northern suburbs of Melbourne. About 15 mins walk from the City. Anyone interested in a meetup?

I'm not from Perth, Melbourne here. But I do occasionally get over there for work. So if you message me your kik or cell number, I'll let you know next time i'm over there

Just for clarification to anyone who is not aware of what "kik" is. It's a popular messenger app for iPhone and Android (possibly others) that a lot in this community use. It's free, easy to sign up for, and discrete (in that messages don't just show up on your home-screen). Well worth getting it.

That seems to be a bit of a foregone conclusion for oznl at this point. Take it from someone who's had to deal with poor control / borderline incontinence his whole life (due to an industrial accident suffered when i was 6 y/o), yet at the same time developed ABDL tendencies long before puberty. Whilst at times nappies can be the source of immense comfort and a sensation of being "at home", "at peace" or "secure" they genuinely are a pain in the neck when traveling, especially for Business. The unfortunate truth about wearing 24/7 for a prolonged period is that you can't simply pause it and resume normal bowel and bladder function for a few weeks. One tip I can offer for travel to the US is that there are many great people in the ABDL community all over the US who would be happy to help a brother out by accepting an order of proper disposables for you, and then rendezvous at your destination. During my career I was required to travel to the east coast of the US (NYC) on a semi-regular basis for 5 or 6 years, and would have never been able to carry a sufficient supply of nappies and clothing (suits, a tux, shirts, shoes, slacks, etc, etc). Some friends made via chatrooms and sites such as this proved invaluable in ensuring that I had supplies when I arrived. Plus it's pretty exciting to meet a like minded individual who's a local to your destination. If making social connections isn't your thing, or your wife would have kittens if she found out, you can always order a single pack to be delivered to a "pick-up point" (much like a parcel locker here), and if timed correctly (US couriers are far more accurate with delivery dates than those in Aus) then you'll arrive within the collection window and be able to pick them up by scanning a barcode and entering a pin (no human contact required). If your stay is a long one, you can order multiple individual packages to be shipped to the same (or different) pick-up point and so long as they fit in a locker, you can pick them up at your convenience 24 hours a day. I'd also recommend trying the North Shore range while you're over there. The MegaMax are an amazingly well constructed nappy (IMHO they make BetterDry look like a depends), and are so good that I go to the trouble and expense of having them sent to Australia via a freight forwarder because they do not dispatch outside the US. Either way they also carry BetterDry and all the others you wear and ship via FedEx and their delivery times have always been spot-on for me. Also, I wouldn't worry about job security due to incontinence. It is a genuine disability, and if you are at the stage where you're able to relax to the point of dribbling, then nobody will suspect anything other than a physiological cause, and the fact that you've not sought treatment will be put down to embarrassment. Furthermore, in Australia there is so much legislation protecting those with disabilities from discrimination, that your employer wouldn't dare terminate you (and in fact may even show positive discrimination in your favor) if they were to find out you needed nappies. The only issue may be embarrassment in front of your co-workers, who if they have a level of maturity beyond the school yard, will most likely treat you with dignity and compassion. Lots of people deal with medical incontinence on a daily basis and do just fine. Some long-haul airlines even make special provisions for incontinent passengers (only with prior arrangement) by providing access to part of the crew rest area to enable a proper change. Best of luck with your journey, I hope it brings you the fulfillment you're looking for.

Don't take this one personally... I doubt it reflected on ABDLs at all in the public's opinion. Most people would have picked it as a stupid TV comedy skit. Remember, there is at least one camera operator filming this and it does not appear to be covert, with the audio being too clear for a cell phone. This kind of vulgar satire is (or at least was) extremely popular in Australia. The most notable example was a TV show called "The Chaser's War on Everything". It was professionally produced with actors performing asinine public stunts like this all the time (and all around the world). Personally, I found a lot of their of their material quite funny, and good for a laugh, but they did go over the top at times. IIRC they got into a lot of trouble after successfully making it passed every security checkpoint at the APEC Summit (which basically shut down the entire Sydney CBD in 2007 for the sake of "safety from terrorists"), before having a man dressed as Osama Bin Laden get out of a limousine flying the Canadian flag and enter the lobby of the hotel where George W. Bush was staying for the Summit. At the time I remember thinking that "I'm surprised the guy wasn't shot dead by the Secret Service". But, if as an ABDL outraged at what this (probably) actor did. Take a look at how Australia satirized the average American citizen (sorry about the quality, and the content, I was born in New Zealand and am marrying a girl from New Jersey).

The article draws a very long bow, and the last few paragraphs are IMHO a fanciful extrapolation of the concept beyond what is reasonable, but bear with me and I might be able at least the first paragraphs a bit. It makes some sense if you were raised in a strict Orthodox or Evangelical family and were no doubt given religious instruction basically from birth. Y'see. I think he's saying that Jesus, who is God (or part of the triune Godhead, but this isn't a theology lesson), accepted all the limitations of becoming fully human, with all the weaknesses and frailty which that entailed (compared with being able to speak universes into existence and such), including that of mortality, and childhood incontinence. He did not strictly speaking need to do this, but in fact chose to. Implying that somewhere within his infinite wisdom even God himself chose to experience the love of a mother, and the sensation of helplessness and diaper dependence (even if it was just a means to an end). Equally, he also didn't need to die a hideous and painful death on a cross only to descend into hell to atone for the sins of all mankind, but he chose to do that too, out of love for humanity and those who repent of their sins and place their faith in his mercy and loving sacrifice. If you bother to read the bible (not just listen to a Preacher) Christianity is a beautiful religion, full of love, forgiveness and and a genuine understanding of what it is to be human, and what it is to make mistakes. Not about guilt and prudishness. For what it's worth, "the Pharisees" (the group most criticized by Christ himself) were at the time considered the holiest of holy Joe's, with sticks jammed so far up their backsides so as to challenge Fred Phelps. Christ himself spent most of his time hanging out with prostitutes, thieves and tax collectors. The underworld or lower classes of the day. Those who knew they'd done wrong and needed help. I guess the take-away point is that "On some level, even God almighty chose to wear diapers." (implying that there isn't anything wrong with it from a Christian perspective, which i don't think there really is, just a broader societal misunderstanding.) DISCLAIMER: This is not necessarily my opinion, just paraphrasing the years of indoctrination religious instruction I received as a child growing up. It is not intend to offend anyone, but rather explain the context of the article. So if something in my post causes you offense, my sincerest apologies, I do not want to spread hate, or misinformation, and religious discussions tend to be polarizing. So please forgive anything I've said to which you may take offense, and please remain peaceful and harmonious.

Damn, that would be uncomfortable! I'd really want some thick wipes (or probably just a dip in the ocean, considering all the other creatures who's waste ends up in there), but i definitely can't imagine that being much fun. Beach sand is annoying enough, as it gets everywhere and takes ages to clean up, but imagine the rough texture and chafing even while you walked down to the shore for a dip. Ugh... sends shivers down my spine, kinda like watching a horror movie and cringing at the... er... horror". Worse still would be if you were walking along the beach and accidentally stepped in it. The more I think about this, the more I cringe.

I don't know why it's so surprising. Hard-core gamers have been using Diapers for years to avoid the inconvenience of using the bathroom. It's probably already been posted here, but this story has been doing the rounds for a while. Initially it was explained in more detail, and indicated that an entire group of players were diapered, but only one soiled himself. https://www.engadget.com/2007/03/22/gow-tournament-shut-down-by-diaper-gamer/ Well, perhaps ever so slightly more mainstream. Saw this posted on IGN (a gaming forum) https://www.ign.com/boards/threads/anyone-else-wear-diapers-when-gaming.452905880/ As is usual with gaming forums, it struggles to stay on topic, and quickly degenerates into a cacophony of in-jokes, memes and nonsense, but there are some pertinent posts, and they are seemingly not of ABDL origin, and whilst this practice is not totally "mainstream" gaming certainly is.