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I'm pretty late to this party, but I might be able to help. I've been in a BDSM relationship as a sub for the last 6 years, so I have a good amount of experience with the kink community. A lot of pro Dommes will look scary because they try to piggy back on what porn says a "Domme" is. That makes them more relatable to people with very little experience in kink who might seek out their services. For example, as a masochist, I like women who look scary (though I actually prefer "looks sweet but dominates, controls, and tortures" more :]). Given that their job often involves dominating someone they don't know, this is just one of the tools they use. I would recommend going to a local bondage event at an S&M club. You'll likely get a chance to talk to some Dommes there, and you'll quickly realize that a lot of them are really nice people who genuinely like to service top. If you talk to enough of them, you'll likely find someone you are comfortable with who is interested in indulging in your desires with you. They do a lot to look like prototypical porn fetish dispensers, but in reality, that's a shtick they use to generate customers and help set a scene with someone new.

Hi all, I'm relatively new to this community (last year or so) and I've really taken an "interest" in diapers and bondage. My interest seems to make little sense, but that got me thinking... what are the various reasons other people like diapers and bondage? Why do you like diapers and bondage? Why I like diapers and bondage: I'm an emotional masochist... something I've known since I was 12. My first fantasies always involved being degraded and used by my crush - though diapers were never a part of my fantasies. I've been a lifestyle BDSM sub for the last 6 years, but I've always become acclimated to various forms of play and they stopped being fulfilling. Then diaper bondage (and age play) happened. From the very first time I was put in a diaper, to the first time I used it... it still feels just as gross and degrading as it did that very first time (if not more so). And it continues to feel gross and degrading. Every. Single. Time. It even facilitates chastity in a way that forces me to redirect my sexual energy towards serving my partner. For whatever reason, this is emotionally fulfilling for me in a way that nothing else can match. It's so fulfilling that I wish I was forced to live it 24/7 -- I would even accept or give up almost anything for it; chores/slavery, financial domination, cuckolding, chastity, celibacy... For me, being degraded translates to a feeling of being loved. For whatever reason, being controlled, degraded, bullied, and used is my love language. It's not that I don't feel the pain of humiliation and degradation, it's just that it also allows me to feel loved. Diapers and bondage is terrible, but it facilitates all of my emotional needs in a simple and sustainable way (assuming my partner is gratified by it). So what's your reason?

I have the canvas locking diaper cover linked to by OP. I can honestly say it works! I've spent a lot of time in them, and there is no way the diaper is coming off unless your keyholder lets you out. That same seller on Etsy also offers a heavy duty version. They'll also do some amount of customization and they'll probably be willing to use a lockable belt (with a padlock) instead of segufix locks. There are also a few different types of Segufix locks (the type they sell by default can be removed with a refrigerator magnet; a twist lock or key lock solves that). In order to save your equipment, I highly recommend getting a pair of plastic bloomers. I typically get locked in mine over a diaper and plastic bloomers so leaks won't affect the locking diaper restraint (it has yet to get dirty). Also, the canvas diaper cover is machine washable, which is good for maintainability (and in the case of accidents).

Honestly, there is very little difference between going in underpants vs going in a diaper, except that a diaper will keep everything contained better, while the underpants will become saturated and increase the chance of leaks as you move around (assuming you're wearing a diaper over it). They also nullify the leak guards around the legs. Putting underwear on the outside of a diaper helps quite a bit. I also find that wearing a onesie can help as well. Anything that puts pressure around the top of the legs will help prevent the kind of leaks you are talking about. If you are set on wearing underwear in your diaper, you may want to consider cloth diapers. If the goal is to increase your likelihood of accidents when undiapered, then I could see this being useful.

Noooooo... my CG is too strict for that. I would probably get labeled as having a tummy ache and then given an enema or a suppository (and I only get two changes per day). She doesn't change my diaper very often, but if she does, I absolutely behave.

I wear diapers, plastic pants, and a onesie over top of that, then I wear baggy pants with a belt and a big shirt. You really can't tell that I'm wearing 99.99% of the time, regardless of the state of my diapers (even when I'm messy). A good diaper and a good pair of plastic pants will go a long way to containing smells. The onesie has a massive impact on how visible the diaper is as well, as it holds the diaper close to your body. It does make being wet more noticeable though, and you may want to wear barrier cream if you're going to be unable to change for a while. Also, I usually get 2 changes per day (sometimes 3 if I wake up wet) with barrier cream, as that ends up being cheaper than using 4 or 5 diapers per day without barrier cream.

dl_ashlee - your home IT setup sounds a lot like mine. I don't have the racks or 24 port PoE switches, but I do have a 10 port PoE switch, probably from the same line. My home network runs in tiers at 1Gb and 10Gb, with VLAN segmentation, multiple routers, and a dedicated WiFi network for security.

I strongly prefer being shaven below the waste, but it's hard to do regularly. I'm seriously considering electrolysis for my nether regions. The cleanup is sooooo much easier if I'm hairless.

There is a big mix. I've seen a lot of older bands on there (Napalm Death, Testament, Obituary, Dying Fetus to name a few), and I've seen a lot of newer bands as well. They incrementally announce the line up, so you can just keep checking it as new artists are introduced. I usually find a lot of new music as well, since there is such a wide range of styles. This year, I discovered 9 bands in the deathmetal and deathcore subgenres, and they are the smallest subgenres represented on this cruise. If you like more melodic stuff, there will be way more options for you.

I would say I have tons of them, but here are a few variations on my biggest fantasy. The first is coming home from a trip, only to find that my wife has removed all of my things from our bedroom. From there, she takes me to a guest bedroom and shows me the nursery she's turned it into - complete with crib, high chair, changing table, play area, diaper pale, toys, stuffies, and even some locked-away but visible "punishment items" such as enema equipment and cutesie paddles that are made to leave cute red designs on my bum. She then proceeds to tell me that she's found someone new to provide her with an adult relationship, and from now on, I'm her little helper and also now a virgin again (and for the rest of my life). All of my adult underwear would be thrown away and replaced with diapers and training pants, the bathrooms would be protected with push-code locks, and all of my adult clothes would be replaced with scaled up versions of toddler clothing. I would be bottle fed, fed at a high chair, made to eat with my hands in my high chair, made to nurse, etc. I would be expected to live like a toddler and would be punished if I try to assert my adulthood. From there, I would be like a toddler with a massive crush on my wife, while she takes on another romantic partner for an adult relationship. Another fantasy is being basically the same, but my wife would send me away to someone's house for "regression treatment". From there, I would basically live out the same fantasy as the first one, but in an unfamiliar environment with someone I don't know very well. In some versions, I'm traded to and kept by this stranger who then becomes my new "Mommy", and in other versions, I'm sent back home to my wife and the first fantasy plays out. Oh, another variation of the situation with a new Mommy - basically being invited into a new female friend's house. She gives me a tour of her house, but asks me to put my phone down first because she's paranoid of being spied on. I think it's kind of weird, but whatever. From there, her house looks fairly normal until we get to the last room. She opens the door and motions for me to enter. When I walk in, I'm shocked to find an adult sized nursery, and I hear the door slam behind me. I then realize that I'm trapped inside this nursery alone, and she begins communicating with me through a baby monitor. From there, the forced regression begins and I then go on to live as her baby/toddler. I am genuinely interested in being forced into this role 24/7 forever, though I think some adult time is needed to maintain a healthy mental state - One day, I hope that I'm forced to live as a toddler/baby all of the time (including when I work from home), with the exception of being made to "play an adult" when I go out to socialize with friends and such. Diapers and a baby-print onesie would always be required under my "adult costume". There are tons more of course, but those are probably the most extreme ones because they involve forced captivity and have no expiration. This is very much a weird combination of comfort and masochism for me. Edit: only the first fantasy is one that I actually wish would happen. Hopefully that's obvious given that these are fantasies.

Currently, I wear a onesie over my plastic pants and under my clothes to help keep the diaper hidden. Over that, I will often wear a diaper restraint, then I'll wear boxer briefs, baggy pants, and a normal shirt. Speaking of overalls, I am so excited about getting some! My wardrobe is slowly being replaced with more "age appropriate items" (as my wife likes to call them ?).

I've gone 10 hours before. My wife had me optimize things down based on cost and resource utilization. The cheapest setup is 2 diapers per day (3 if I wake up wet) plus barrier cream. So... I'm always wearing barrier cream (Calmoseptine), and am expected to do everything in my diaper. I usually poop in the morning, and my usual change time is 2PM. The worst I got was waking up at 5:30AM, taking a huge poop at 6AM, then having to sit and work in it until 4PM because I got 2 hours added on before my next change. I also got the castor oil treatment, though I got changes during that due to the amount of mess. The only time I've ever gotten a rash was from the castor oil treatment, and that's only because I missed a spot with barrier cream at the bottom of my tailbone. I also use a lot of psyllium husk because it keeps things soft, it's good for me, it causes me to uncontrollably mess (I can maybe only hold it for 10 minutes), and my wife demands it. I need to try sodium bicarbonate with talcum powder - that seems like a good idea, especially if barrier cream is used. Out of curiosity, has anyone tried Vaseline over barrier cream?

I'd like to second Peggy Bundy. I totally had the hots for her as a teenager and think she would make an amazing CG!

This has happened to me four times the last 6 months! I was put into diapers about a year ago (started as a BDSM dynamic, now MDLB), and since then, I've rarely slept out of them. I've gone to bed dry and woken up wet two times, each time leaking out onto my sheets. In addition, I've slept out of my diaper maybe 4 times over that time span and I wet the bed twice! That makes at least 4 times wetting in my sleep over the last six months. I'm 37 and I haven't wet the bed since I was 3 or 4. Since exploring diapers, I've discovered my own interest in age play and regression play, and I'm wondering if it has to do with that? I am often sent to bed in little space, and I think that may be what is triggering it for me. Do you find that diapers are calming/soothing for you in a non-sexual way? If so, you might be regressing. That said, it's only a one off, so you probably can't draw any conclusions from it yet -- it very well could have just been a combination of context and bad luck. Just to verify physiological issues - you're not having any pain or discomfort, right? There isn't a chance you have a bladder infection? Also, are you taking any new medications? I doubt it's simply being acclimated to diapers given how often you wear.

My CG ❤️ gives me changes at 8AM, 2PM, and 10PM each day (and lots of barrier cream!). That said, I do this every day, usually around 9AM and sometimes around 6PM. Today I was a little backed up and I just went without going this morning. 3 hours and 20 minutes until my next change... ?

Oh man, you all have good taste! I'm a total metal head. I like a pretty wide variety - everything from Ghost and Ensiferum to Meshuggah, Bloodbath, Obituary, Dying Fetus, plus a bunch of old school metal thrown in there. I also have a soft spot for darkwave (Carpenter Brut) and industrial music (KMFDM, NIN, Ministry, Combichrist...). I love live shows as well and just got back from a heavy metal cruise (https://70000tons.com/) which I highly recommend if you like metal!

Well... it's basically a heavy metal music festival at sea with fewer people, better food, and a room you can easily get back to at the end of each night. There are 60 metal bands covering almost all styles of metal, and each band plays two sets (so there are 120 sets total and you probably won't be able to see every band). It starts with a half day when everyone boards, and lasts for 3 full days after that. Usually the musicians are out in the crowd with everyone else, so you might end up meeting or even hanging out with some of them. The people on the cruise are generally awesome, and I end up meeting a ton of cool people each year. I would say it's the most fun 4 days of my year and I'm already feeling impatient for the next one! https://70000tons.com/

Xeon E5-2650v3, 64GB DDR4 ECC RAM, GTX 1080, 3TB SSD space, 6TB HDD space. This is my home workstation. ???

I usually only do 1 diaper (M4), plastic pants, and a onesie (to hide the bulk). If I get in trouble for some reason, then I might end up double diapered w/ extra time until my next change, though sometimes I'll do it anyway if I'm worried about leaks. I usually only get 2-3 changes per day depending, so I've already got barrier cream on almost all of the time anyway (CG enforces it because it costs and we generate less trash).

Speaking of uncontrollable pooping, my CG has me drink the maximum amount of psyllium husk each day (6 doses - 2 doses, 3x daily). Psyllium husk seems to really get things going, and I can usually hold things back for about 5 minutes until the urge overpowers my ability to stop it. I've never tried a glycerin enema before, but saline enemas are seriously reliable and quite fast!

Hi everyone! I go on a cruise every year called 70,000 Tons of Metal. Judging by the crowd, it sure seems like there are plenty of alternative lifestylers on that boat. Anyone else from here go? Anyone plan on going next year? (-_-) \m/ Cheers!

I'm still figuring out my little side - it just seems to come naturally and I'm not yet sure from where? I'm guessing it's similar to how I was when I was about 2 or 3 given all of the behavioral similarities, including diapers providing me with a source of comfort. I would say I'm potty trained but am comforted by and prefer to wear diapers, and I generally want to snuggle, play with toys and games, interact with or entertain my CG, or be a helper. I really enjoy being given direction and structure as well. One interesting aspect my little-space personality is that I'm quite a bit different from my normal adult personality. A fun experiment is to take a personality test (like Myers-Briggs) in little space and compare it to your personality when not in little space. My little space personality is literally the exact opposite of my adult personality in almost every way! Heh.

Wow, that sure is a lot of legal risk that doctor took on. That's also a serious safety (and monetary) risk for the person receiving treatment. I'm honestly shocked that this arrangement could even be found, but I guess the world is a big place and people can be pretty determined. Personally, I have no desire to be incontinent, and while I think I can see why someone would be (no more "illegitimate" diaper wearing, incontinence being associated with babies - removes shame, supports an equivalency construct, or both), that's a life long commitment that can come with life long side effects. Finding ways other than serious medical intervention to eliminate shame or support an equivalency construct is probably a much safer use of time and money (though probably more time consuming). Thanks for your reply!

I do both and my play age is around 2-3. Judging by the answers here, it seems like the original dibble/flood-baby/toddler equivalency theorem seems to hold up!

Right, I know how it works and what it can do. My question is how would you even find someone to administer this? It seems like people talk about the possibility of it being done, but I'm wondering - if I wanted to try it, how would I? Has anyone here gotten Botox for this specific purpose, and if so, how did you do it? Edit: I'm not approaching this from a place of wanting to do it and I'm not looking for someone. I'm approaching this from a place of skepticism. I see how someone could want it (I don't), but yeah... side effects can be pretty extreme. I've heard you can do it "safely" by deadening the pudendal nerve that controls the anal and urethral sphincters' ability to tighten, so they relax all of the time. That said, given that it's the pudendal nerve, it seems like that would also cause sexual dysfunction or other more severe side effects. In short, it seems like it has a lot of risks and no one would be willing to do it due to legal liability. I'm thinking that no one (or very, very few people - like fewer than 5) has actually done this and that it's mostly just a fantasy that some people have?