Greybird

Pull-ups work well as long as you don’t flood them, constant leaking is fine. It’s the changing that is difficult. I spend most of my life in shorts (like a little boy should) which I can take off in a public loo with little difficulty. However, I always carry with my a spare pull-up and a disposable nappy just in case it is more difficult. After all these years I still get a kick out of changing a nappy away from home. All that said I only ever do #1 and never #2 in a nappy, I am a bit toilet trained.

I wear pull-ups (the thickest they make) on all plane flights. I’ve been patted down every time and never had a problem. I’ve worn nappies (my home made terry nappies and plastic pants as well as pull-ups) to all kind of places, sometimes nervously! But in truth nobody notices, I don’t go out of my way to be obvious. I’ve had nappies and plastic pants on the line when the gardener has been here as well as the plumber/guttering repair man. They try not to look but you know they have seen!

I’ve been lurking for a while, I guess not sure how to contribute, but isn’t it interesting that there are so many of us in our 60s. We never had outlets like this when in our 20s so making up for lost time.

I have been wearing my own home made terry nappies for years, well it took years to refine the design. I have night and day nappies. Basically two layers of terry with a brushed cotton outer layer (with childish print), for night I have found some 550 gsm terry, really thick towhich I add a soaker, two more layers. All very comfortable and thirsty. Terries rule!!!

I went to boarding school at 12 in the south of England and my mother threw all my toys away, teddy bear, cars,train set and meccano, the lot. I was soooo upset and cross. I told her when I was about 50 and she bought me a Steif teddy, love him to bits!

Pull-ups are great if you need to be serious. I just bought some very thick Abena ones and wore them to the gym this morning. Some may have noticed, but they don’t fall apart and absorb a LOT of wee. The trouble is if you need to change one whe out and about, you have to take your shoes and trousers/shorts off and that can be difficult in some public toilets. For me, my home made terry nappies are very absorbenr, discreet and remind me that I am just a little boy!

My favourites are dungarees. I only do #1 in my home made terry nappies but I love the feeling of being a little boy again. I have a woodwork shop and dungarees seem acceptable as work clothes and I have only had one comment which was not negative. I tell people I feel like I’m 6 years old and they just laugh!

Hi Oznl, apologies for not contributing more to your postings. It is a subject many of us are dealing/have dealt with. For me it was about convincing myself as much as getting past the wife! A war of attrition! I came to it from the bedwetting angle which was genuine, well maybe exacerbated a little, but then to actually be able to say to said wife, 'I really, really want to wear nappies for the rest of my life' was a bit of a long shot. Rather I introduced them gradually over a period of time. As I got more comfortable with then so did lovely wife. I was reflecting on this only this morning. I came from the to the bedroom and put on my nappy and plastic pants such that she could see me in full view in the mirror. I paraded around the room for another five minutes before finding a t-shirt and another five before putting on the shorts. Nothing was said as it is well normalised. When I started making my own nappies they were white and a bit clinical and I wanted to introduce a bit of childishness to them so I did these are now the norm, indeed she recently mentioned that she liked the ones with 'helicopters and planes'. So I am now considering removing all evidence of big boy underwear from the wardrobe. Patience is vital, you might show her articles about nappies on adults and talk to her about how they make you feel. It took me a very long while to feel comfortable, and I'm not sure I am yet. But we have reached a milestone. We were driving passed a toy shop recently and I mentioned it, she said, in a slightly motherly way "would you like to go and look in the toy shop." Stupidly, because I am not entirely comfortable about it, I said "no" but next time I will say, yes. I absolutely understand the obsessive nature of this nappy desire, I has followed me for over 60 years! But I got there. All the inconvenience, letting the doctor know, working out the best nappy for each eventuality, where are the best changing rooms and when is the best time to change before that meeting! I am retired now but my work was in advertising and I have sat I meetings and castings with some very beautiful women and I am in a nappy! Took me a long time to rationalise that one. The one line I have not crossed ... yet, and that is showing her sites like this one, but I hope to one day, then I will know that the Greybird toddler has been fully accepted and understood. Keep going with the episodes, they are very interesting and I am anxious to know how you get on in March? Stay wet and warm Greybird

You are right in that travel is a serious pain for us nappy wearers. The most discrete nappies would be pull-ups and the easiest to pack, but you still have to estimate how many you will need and where you could get hold of some if you run out. I seem to have reached an age when a little incontinence is more easily accepted, except that my very babyish terries would raise an eyebrow! i absolutely agree with PottyDiaperDude when he says “do you not think I wished it was something else......”. For so many years I wished it would go away but. .... A small detail but how lovely it was when my wife said the other day that she liked the new nappies I had made! Look at Dlteddy on FL.

Hello Christine. No, we were not very wealthy and my parents did little for my bedwetting, so I had a very crinkley plastic sheet that, as I remember, leaked a lot! butmaybe I should try rubber! Thanks Greybird

Thank you AbabeBill, i don’t know why I could not find these!

Hi All, would someone tell me where I could find a good quality plastic matress protector. I have a terry lined version but I would like a plain plastic sheet like I had when I was a kid! I would even like one with childish designs on it, but I cannot find them anywhere. Thank you Greybird

Dlteddy from FL. having read both Onzl and Ozziebee I am clearly very lucky. My wife, of 37 years, is very understanding. Going back a bit, she was the high flyer in London city business and I was the freelancer who undertook all the house duties of cooking, cleaning (except when I organised a cleaner) and all the car care etc, she worked and worked, so I had a lot of solo time to indulge in nappy play time so when she came home it was not seen or spoken about until bed time when she was always tolerant of my bedwetting. I had introduced her to bedwetting nappies early on in our marriage with which she was fine. She is a bit of a prude and sex was never a major part of our relationship, so no children either, well why should we, there was already one ‘child’ in the house. I have always suffered the most terrible guilt about my ABDL side but it really doesn’t go away, so when I got to 65 I had one last stab at getting rid of it with a healer, but to no avail, it came back in such a way that I decided to embrace it. Wife and I don’t have sex conversations but she said, unprompted, that this was a part of my personality make-up, it hurt no one, so just be discrete and get on with it. I am the same person she married just a bit damper! i am fascinated by the underlying phsycology of ABDL and have tried to understand where I ‘caught’ it from, I’ll probably understand it well by the time I drop dead! one book that I did find interesting, albeit that most of the content did not apply to me, is Rosalie Bent’s book ‘There is a baby in my bed’. It might be a way of giving you wife a better insight into our feelings/thoughts/motivations etc. Bon chances Teddy