Greybird

New Zealand will soon be the best ABDL place to visit!! https://www.stuff.co.nz/the-press/news/124132370/no-kids-allowed-adults-playground-mooted-for-christchurch

Thank you, Stroller, this resonates with me so well! There are some disposables that I do like (Rearz and Crinklz mostly) but I too hate the ‘landfill’ aspect, as I explained to my doctor last week when she said that to rid myself of the dreaded ‘nappy rash’, I needed a nappy that wicked the wetness away from my little boy bits. But this “ but for me I prefer a constant reminder that I'm just a little one in a nappy, and having a bulky wedge of dry or soggy nappy between my legs feels just as things should be.” is exactly how I feel, although I could not explain that to the doctor!

I am happy not to be in the UK at the moment. I have spoken with friends there and it is miserable, cold and wet, nappies and all! Wife suffers from the cold so we leave every winter. Happy thought that our UK house is on a hill!!! Hope you keep dry Stroller and an extra pair of plastic pants will keep the water in as well as out!

Me too, last washed a pair of underpants about ten years ago, but the nappies are washed every three days. Hung on the line for all to see (well if you come close to the garden you can see them).

We also had to cancel a trip to Spain last year. I planned to take our sports car so very little boot space. It was a multi stop trip so I had to work out where to get the nappies delivered on my route. It was either that or the wife could take five pairs of knickers and I had the rest of the boot for nappies!!!! Sad we had to cancel, and we won’t be going this year either.

One gets habituated, I guess. Once the wetting was gone I missed it, so an abdl was born.

I have used Suprima for years, they are very good. 1205 for night and 1312 For day over a nice terry nappy. I have bought them from saveexpress in Germany who are great to deal with ... typical German efficiency and now I can get them from nappiesrus.com in Aylesbury UK.

I use terry towelling in the shaped nappies I make. I found some 550gsm (very thick) terry so there is one layer cut out to the shape I like with a soaker strip dow the middle. Then another layer of brushed cotton over that, usually in a childish print, just for fun. Super comfortable, very absorbent and long lasting. I have new ones for night time and as they get older and a bit thinner I wear them in the daytime. They last 3/4 years then I have a cupboard full of cleaning cloths! Suprima plastic pants go over the top. I rarely wear disposables and usually pull-ups if I do. Terry is the best imho!

Long live the dungarees, but I’m on your wife’s side with the red ones!!!Lol. I would still like to push the boundaries a bit and I do like the moomin/tractors idea. My neighbours have all seen my pooh nappies on the washing line which ticked my ‘humiliation’ box, so my new ones have stars or aeroplanes/helicopters. Still babyish but ... thanks Stroller and Wayne and of course Apache.

My plastic pants problem is currently that I wash them with the nappies then hang them on the line to dry in the sun ... big mistake, the elastic isn’t any more, just rather limp and leaky! My annual trip to NZ is usually 4/5 months but with this damn virus thing, I am here for longer. I always bring enough (Suprima 205s and 1312s) for the trip but now I need more. Plastic pants are a rarity in NZ but I’m not sure about ordering some other brand from Aus? Any ideas anyone?

I too do not want to be an embarrassment and the dungarees are as far as I have gone, But I am happy to show the bib front, i have a woodwork shop and they are the most comfortable clothes to wear while working, when out and about I try to have wood shavings all over them! No poppers at the crotch though. just intrigued as to what others wear?

I was brought up on an old fashioned concept of ‘common sense’. It went along the lines of ‘if I wet my pants, I should wear nappies’! Oh, no, wait, should I ask the government?

I was interested in reading about the various onesies everybody hides under everyday clothes, but what visible childish clothes does everybody wear in public? I am now 70 years old but still love to wear ‘young looking’ clothes, but I know I would get negative looks for looking ridiculous. But I do wear dungarees, stripey socks all with a nappy and plastic pants underneath, although they are undetectable. I do have some boarder-line t-shirts but would like some other ideas ....

I have been caught twice by our cleaners. The first time I was at home with a dreadful cold, feeling very sorry for myself, in bed which was very wet as was my nappy. I did not hear the door open and had forgotten that this was her day to clean. She told me in very motherly terms to “get up and have a shower and I’ll change the bed”. I had to get up in a very wet smelly nappy and stagger to the shower in front of her, of course I felt much better after the shower, she had laid out a clean nappy and plastic pants on the fresh sheets, she had even wiped down the plastic sheet on the bed. I spoke to her afterwards about it and it turns out she discovered the nappies months earlier, and I thought I had been so discrete. She had a brother who was disabled and she knew all about incontinence. It turns out she was also a seamstress and she made me some new nappies. All totally true, lovely lady, Freda. The mix of humiliation and excitement is just brilliant! The second was when we moved to the country, (UK) and we had two sisters about 50 something come and clean our rather large house. They discovered my nappies and plastic pants after a couple of months and were very unimpressed. That was much more humiliating than Freda.

My problem also and the septic tank cannot cope!

It’s at times like this that I am pleased I use terry nappies and plastic pants. I make them myself and they are super absorbent (if a little bulky) and last ages. As my friends know I am incontinent from my prostate operation I doubt any will ask. But I do have a small stock of pull-ups which I shall use up ... if I am allowed out. We have just had complete lock-down here in New Zealand, cannot even go fishing!!! But there is loads of food in the supermarket and five huge stacks of toilet paper. I shall order some tenas and see what happens.

i started wearing nappies and plastic pants full time at about 62/63 years old, I’m now 70! I harboured such guilt about my need for them it was dreadful. I did wear them to bed, explaining to my wife that I needed them for my bedwetting. I also tried explaining my desire for them early in our marriage, but she would have no truck with it ... “I married a man ...” etc. People are so much more aware/understanding of these ‘strange proclivities’ now than they were in the 1950s back when my desires started. All those wasted years ....

Well you should be where I Am

I think it unfortunate to blame capitalism for the world’s ills. I think you’re argument ignores the fact the the human being is a competitive creature, he wants to provide for his family and do better than his neighbour. He does that by working harder, being wiser, taking risks etc. It is in our dna. We also like beautiful, useful things, they endow our lives with an uplifting spirit. It makes us creative and energises us. In my view, socialism does not do that. Look at the countries that are driven by socialism, Russia, China and others. They exude no joy, their buildings are dull as are the peoples lives as they are so controlled by the ‘leaders’. There is no creativity, no energy. If you want a good example of a social system working well, look at Bournville or John Lewis in the UK. These companies looked/look after their employees with housing, healthcare etc. They saw the value of a motivated workforce, but they still had to sell their product to pay for the system to work. That’s capitalism. It might need controlling occasionally (although the markets do the controlling very well, ie 2008), but it is how the world works like it or not.

You should read this! https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/An_Essay_on_the_Principle_of_Population written by Thomas Malthus in 1798!

I don’t understand why we need to rely on other peoples opinion to form our own. We know nothing about the reviewer and as they say ‘one mans meat ...’ I get pestered all the time to review this or that and I ignore them all. Just in the same way I ignore all reviews. One company I dealt with asked me why I did not review something and I told him that if you are confident in your product and it was good, then word would get around, I would tell my friends, who know me and therefore have some background in knowing how I came to that conclusion. I do understand the dilemma in this internet age.

Foreverdl is right, but also have your prostate checked out. Peeing up to 6 times a night is not right. i wet the bed every night until I was 12. The nappies were gone at 2.5/3 and I just had a cotton sheet on the plastic drawsheet. Boarding school was better but after I wet the thin mattress on the second night I always had the red rubber sheet on my bed. Most of my adult life I have been wet at night, and latterly daytime increasingly. Now after my prostate operation I am incontinent (although continence seems to be coming back slowly), but I had so many years worrying about it and I am so used to being nappied, that I no longer care one way or the other.

I had my prostate removed in November. All the tests done by NHS at no charge to me. I have health insurance (non compulsory) and decided togo private for the operation. Surgeon was £1600, hospital £9400 paid by insurer. At the ripe old age of 70 I don’t have to pay for drugs at all! I live in the UK and NZ, I pay for drugs in NZ not UK, but at $10nz I don't mind and I’m not crazy about cookies so that’s ok!!! And I thought America was the land of the free!!!

One of my very few memories from childhood was being in hospital (I think they were to remove my tonsils, very fashionable in the 1950s) When I was 3/4, the nurse wanted a urine sample which I was clearly unable to give. She got two jugs, one of water and poured said water from one to the other and back again ... the effect was immediate, I weed!!! Just like standing next to a fountain, guarenteed.

I have read so many of these ‘I want to be incontinent’ questions and rarely have the consequences been thought through. I admit that I was in that position for too many years and ended up with some urgency issues which was my (rather tenuous) reason to go 24/7. That lasted about 5years before I was told I had prostate cancer and I had it removed. During that 5 years I always knew when I wanted a wee and could hold it for a few minutes, but after the operation I was completely incontinent. I am talking urinary only. The thing is it is different. You have to travel everywhere with a bag of nappies, estimate how long one type will last against another ie. pull-up versus taped on nappy versus cloth nappy and plastic pants. Think about going on holiday with an extra suitcase just for your nappies, and how are you going to dispose of the wet ones? Where can you change, can you afford the endless supplies? Down at the beach you will no longer be able to wear a swim suit and your constant leaking or flooding will be very obvious. Sure you will have to have your prostate checked by the doctor who will want your wet nappy off for the DRE and you may get nappies supplied by the NHS, but is that right given that the NHS is so stretched? Does your wet nappy smell when you are with company, if so where can you wash. You will need to buy new clothes to accommodate your nappies, and hide the crinkling noise. i’m not saying don’t do it, just think it through, it’s not all fun I can tell you.