Greg03

I think the other thing that OP is forgetting is that doctors these days are very much aware of the ABDL fetish. Indeed it’s probably the first thing that will pop into their head when a healthy 19 year old says they need diapers.

I have had remarks like “well you don’t have to stop for the bathroom” in reference to how long a car journey takes. Recently my wife was at a concert with her mother and sister. Both of whom know that she wears diapers to bed. They kept going on about how long they had to wait to go to the bathroom that eventually she just said I always have diapers at home so it seemed like a smart idea to wear one!

For me things changed so gradually that I didn’t realise just how regularly I needed a diaper. Then it was the times when I didn’t have a diaper that showed me I was diaper dependent. If you’re open to it, it creeps up on you. I’m lucky, as a lifelong bedwetter, my family and many of my friends were already aware that I wear diapers at night, so it wasn’t too big a deal when it came up in conversation, to explain that I now wear diapers during the day too.

People will advise you that it’s best to be honest in a relationship, and they’d be right. But if that’s just not going to work for you, then here is what I advised a friend to do a few years ago. They are still happily married and he is happily diapered. I suspect his wife knows that it wasn’t all an accident, but it avoided having to discuss it. Step 1: Gradually establish that your bladder is unreliable. Always be rushing to the toilet, make comments like phew I thought I wasn’t going to make it. Make a point of not drinking fluids too close to bedtime. On a longer journey, make a comfort break you wouldn’t normally make. It should become obvious to anyone around you that you’re always needing to go to the toilet. Step 2. Small accidents, not quite making it and light protection. Continue everything from step 1, but a couple of times a week, have a small accident. Changing the sheet because you must have dribbled during the night, asking them if they mind carrying a change of underwear when you go out. Buy some guards when shopping together. Step 3. Just in case pull ups. Or rather, call them disposable briefs. For emergencies. Going to see a movie. Just in case. Long journey. Just in case. Drank too much alcohol. Just in case. If you haven’t already, you’re going to need to mention that you’ll mention it to the doctor next time you’re there. Step 4. First proper accident. Feeling stressed or unwell is a good excuse for an unexplained bed wetting. The next night, wear a pull up. Suggest buying a waterproof pad for your side of the bed. You’re now in pull ups most nights.waa Step 5. Something more permanent. Mention that you don’t want to leak and damage the bed and you want to buy something more absorbent. Show her a few diaper options, that you hope it will only be temporary. Reassure that it’s probably just down to age and stress. But it’s your new normal be patient and progress gradually

It’s definitely a thing. My usual supplier is always low on stock during flu season particularly on pull ups, which are much more acceptable to the average person than adult diapers are. ive been saying for years that we underestimate just how much incontinence issues there are out there. You just need to look at the huge range of products there are now. Someone is buying them. i think stress wetters are very common. People who bed wet when their body is under physical or emotional stress. I know of 2 guys, both mid 30s who fall into that category

Interesting questions 1. My incontinence is split into 2. I’m a lifelong bedwetter, but my day time continence I lost gradually through a mixture of laziness and subconscious psychological need. It began when I started getting changed into a diaper much earlier in the evening as it was enjoyable to relax, have a beer and watch tv without worrying about going to the bathroom. I was also for the first time, in a relationship with a girl who was completely comfortable with diapers so the whole thing felt very normal. However over time it did lead to accidents and near accidents when I was relaxed but not diapered and things like going to a movie or a longer journey were impossible without a diaper. Eventually going anywhere without protection became stressful for me. And so began my denial stage of just in case pull ups. Except they weren’t just in case. I needed them physically and mentally. I could make it to the bathroom, but I’d be dribbling into my pull up before and after. Despite this, I never considered myself incontinent. I was a bedwetter who just needed a just in case pull up during the day. Then one day (fortunately outside my home) I got out of the car and uncontrollably peed through my pull up. I couldn’t stop the flow. When I sat down and discussed it with my girlfriend (now wife) I realised that I was getting through 4 pull ups a day and likely having small accidents that I wasn’t aware of. Incontinent. 2. Funnily enough, I remember her asking me back then if I could stay dry if I really needed to. And I admitted that no, I couldn’t and that the stress involved would have a huge impact on me. It’s the same today. I don’t know for sure that I’m physically incapable of retraining, although I know from the time I spend each week “airing out” onto a bed pad that I mostly urinate in a very frequent and very weak stream. What I do know is that emotionally I don’t just need diapers, but that I need the peace of mind and relaxation that comes with being incontinent.

Lifelong bed wetter, now daytime incontinent too due to a combination of emotional need and laziness

I was in exactly the same situation a few years ago. I could stay dry during the day if I really, really had to but it was so stressful and required so much organisation. I’d always needed a diaper at night and when I started using them during the day for times when staying dry was going to be tough, I realised how much happier and relaxed I was. Of course, over time I’ve become diaper dependent and have no control now but I’m much happier and relaxed. my advice would be to take a practical approach, but don’t underestimate the importance of having the peace of mind of “just in case” protection

Nope, not for me. My gf wears diapers too and it even annoys me when she takes one of mine!

Sorry, but “normal” people do not buy a packet of pull ups because it might make their lives easier.

This was really not the discussion I was hoping to have here. The age and trends of the potty training of infants are totally irrelevant here. My point is that it seems that far more people now have some form of incontinence. By people I mean adults who are younger than the typical age for these issues to develop. No, they are not full time diaper wearers but do wear protection regularly. the huge increase in products available for this would suggests there’s an increased demand. Sorry, but middle aged adults don’t just start wearing incontinence products because of marketing campaigns.

If you’re looking to go 24/7, you are going to struggle to keep it from family. Rather than them finding out, it can be a good idea to plan it a bit more long term. Plant the seed - start going to the bathroom more often, comment on how you keep needing the bathroom. - make a point of going to the bathroom before doing certain things “I’ll never make it through the movie if I don’t go now” - had to wait in line? Comment that you didn’t think you’d make it - long journey? Ask for plenty of restroom stops and apologise for needing so many - refuse drinks later in the evening, saying that you’ll be up all night - heard a hilarious joke? Say you laughed so much you were about to wet yourself This will establish you as someone with bladder issues and will make it much less of a shock to family when you tell them you’ve started wearing protection for your bladder problems

I don’t mean kids being late to toilet train. I mean adults starting to have issues well before the age you might expect

Hey i don’t post that often but I really wanted to get everyone’s opinion on something. is it just me, or has there been a big increase in incontinence issues in the last few years? Especially amongst men who are much younger than the age you’d expect continence issues to creep in. I’m early 30s, lifelong bedwetter, daytime control went about 5 years ago. Most of my friends growing up knew I wore diapers at night plus I come from a family with a history of bedwetting. Until a few years ago, I knew of no one outside of my family who had problems staying dry, now I know about 5 and these are people I’ve always known. I guess because of my own situation, people are more inclined to talk to me about it. No, of course not everyone is now in diapers full time, but they are using some form of incontinence product on a regular basis. Mentioned this to my sister and she said exactly the same. That because her close friends are aware that her sons are bedwetters, she is often the one people talk to about similar issues. I guess it kind of makes sense when you think about how the incontinence product market has grown. There must be demand and I know that it’s always been more common than people think. But I’m amazed at how common it’s become and wondered if anyone else has noticed similar or any ideas why.

It’s simple volumes. Pull ups work for the typical urine output of a child bedwetter. They don’t for an adult