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Bambino is usually good with shipping, but I had one instance where my shipment was delayed for multiple reasons like yours and I don’t think bambino is set up for exception-based customer service like other online diaper places like Northshore. They will eventually get to your request and make right, but they are not the Nordstrom’s model.

Rusty, thanks for clarifying and following up on your earlier comments about which situations you were referring to about when it is and is not appropriate to diaper older kids. I do believe my situation was unique and don’t begrudge my mom for her decision to return me to diapers fulltime after my bout of accidents. It was probably the only thing she thought she could do at the time to get through this stage with me. I don’t think my accidents were ever on purpose because I did struggle with control and understanding my body’s signals about when to use the potty. I did feel more comfortable and secure in my diapers, and did enjoy the positive attention that came with them, it the flip side was the negative attention and sense of self consciousness about being in diapers well past the normal potty training age. While my mom never really paraded me around in obvious diapers, there were many situations and events that drew attention to my diapered status, and I remember being changed in the women’s restroom, back of the car or over places where I felt I was on display. I was likely hyper sensitive about it, but I still cringe to remember those moments when all eyes were on me as a diapered older kid. Nothing like having your preschool teacher take your hand and parade you through the playground with a fresh diaper in her hand as I was taken to the baby room for my diaper change or have your mom do the same thing at a public park, the beach or local swimming pool. I guess I am saying that the attention you refer to was not without consequences. However, I do think my quote about diapers relieving my anxiety of not disappointing anyone with accidents sums it up pretty well. At the end of the day, I wish my potty training was done differently, i.e. more inline with my readiness, and I would have loved a do over! Hope this helps.

Well said Baby Girl Sarah, and I completely agree with you. Those feelings will build inside and come back in different forms that may not be good ones.

I think it is a matter of balance and emotional well being as to whether one continues to participate or tries to quit an ABDL lifestyle. Quitting might be physically possible, but it does likely come with other emotional baggage or issues. A foundational issue is whether ABDL is wrong in the first place, it isn’t wrong just because it is not widely understood or perceived as different. Being an ABDL should be accepted, and if not understood nor embraced, at least tolerated. I have tried to “quit” for many years, and it was only when I accepted this side of me that I found true peace. The next step is trying to navigate my ABDL lifestyle around others in my life where privacy may or may not be an issue. For me ABDL is a very private matter and not one I need to nor want to cast on others with the exception of my wife’s support.

Rusty Pins, as one of those kids that was kept in day time and night time diapers as an older child, wearing them in the daytime was definitely more challenging and impactful on me because they were obvious and a source of attention directed at me. I was constantly reminded of my diapered status throughout the day from the moment I woke up until bedtime. Waking up in my soaked night diapers and having them changed into a fresh diaper for the day was my first reminder. I would go through the day as a diapered child with them always on the back of my mind, with diaper checks and changes bringing them to the forefront. I was self conscious about wearing diapers around other people and situations where attention was drawn to me because of my diapers. Overtime, I got used to it and actually grew to like being diapered because I didn’t have to worry about accidents or disappointing anyone by having them. I am not sure if it was right or wrong of my mom to keep me in diapers as a 4 and 5 year old, heck she diapered me well beyond those ages too for having accidents and at night. I know that she returned me to diapers because I had difficulty with control for multiple reasons and my accidents became too much of a burden on her at some point. I was returned to daytime diapers as both a matter of convenience for her, and also because she apparently didn’t know what else to do and was a young mom without a good support network of advice to look for alternatives like a more methodical or patient approach to potty training me. This is only conjecture because I have never really asked in depth why I was kept in diapers so late into childhood other than the comments my mom made to me over the years about being impossible to potty train and her frustrations with me as child that acted like a baby. I don know that I resented my mom in some ways for choosing this path for me, which most certainly contributed to my love of diapers and ABDL lifestyle as an adult. It wasn’t until therapy where I gained an acceptance of my childhood in diapers and let me feelings go. This helped me accept myself today as an ABDL and to no longer be ashamed about it. My therapist helped me understand that my mom did what she thought was best at the time, although it was probably not the best path to keep me in diapers so late into childhood without reintroducing potty training along the way. As parents, we all struggle with what is right for our children and make it up at times when situations become difficult or are new or exhausting. I am sure my mom would have preferred not having to change my diapers as a 5 year old, but even more frustrating must have been cleaning up my accidents while not diapered. I remember coming home from school or from playing in the neighborhood after soiling my pants when finally out of diapers and the mess I made which threw my mom into a tailspin. Her reaction was an immediate return to diapers for me, which solved the problem in her mind. I guess she didn’t know what else to do with me and my struggles with control. Once back in diapers, I did feel more at ease and content, albeit self conscious about it. I would spend the rest of the day inside or in the backyard embarrasssed about being in diapers again and hide from my friends. I have lots of memories of those days that is an entirely new topic altogether. I hope this helps at least explain why parents or caregivers decide to keeping kids in diapers at older ages, right or wrong, depending on the circumstances.

My diaper is so thick, they call me J-Lo when I walk

I remember being in my diapers and waiting to be changed at my preschool around the age of 4 and feeling a rush of happiness come over me realizing my diapers were the source of extra nurturing attention from the staff. This made me feel special and solidified to me that my diapers were a source of comfort and security I never wanted to give up. I wanted to stay in my diapers from that point on and wanted to be treated as a baby forevermore.

NewGuy, good of you to remember our conversations, and yes I am married, but my partner is more of a reluctant supporter of my abdl needs and diaper desires. I say reluctant because after many years of keeping it to myself, I finally told her and it didn’t go well the first time. I continued to wear diapers in private, yet felt I was being dishonest to our marriage. My therapist encouraged me to reenage the subject with her and be open about my needs to wear diapers, which I did during one of our joint sessions. My wife told me she loved me regardless of my diapers, but still would rather I don’t wear around her or pull her into my abdl lifestyle needs. We have a don’t ask, don’t tell type of arrangement now, which I struggle with and at some point want to bring to a head for a more open compromise. I am a realist and don’t expect nor want my wife to do things beyond her comfort zone, yet wearing diapers is a part of me that I need to foster and practice. I worry that pushing too hard changes our positive relationship in a negative way, ie. she has told me that seeing me in diapers as a baby is a turn off and I don’t want it disrupting our healthy sex life or interfering with our intimacy together. I have heard lots of examples of where an abdl in a partnership relies on diapers as a form of intimacy in the bedroom making the other partner feel like a third wheel or less desirable. This is not what I ever want, and my wife has not taken the initiative herself, which tells me she likes where things are with us and my diapers for now. I am hoping for resolution someday and for my wife to more fully embrace my ABDL needs and desires. I hope this clears up my ABDL lifestyle within our marriage - which I sum up as coexisting, but not great.

As I recently mentioned in another post, my start to wearing diapers came from being kept in them late into childhood and developing an emotional, deep seeded attachment to diapers as a source of comfort and security. As a child, it was likely my way of coping with the fact that I was wearing and using diapers while others my age (and even younger) were beyond them. As an adult, the feelings of attachment to my diapers did not go away, but stayed with me and get stronger when I am stressed or in need of a way to relax. I found wearing diapers and abdl a perfect fit for me to meet my emotional needs as an adult.

I hope things work out for both of you. Being open and honest is hard when you have something so profound complicating your marriage. Marriage is about compromise and hopefully your terms are acceptable over time to your wife and she doesn’t resent your expansion of the swim lanes. Keep us posted and best of luck.

Well said Newguy. This is great advice and something I have experienced myself as a life long ABDL. It took me many years to accept this part of me and I am now at peace with it and happy about the person I am as an ABDL. It does not mean you can’t experience the other joys of life, but just something wired inside yourself that makes you whom you are inside. Just don’t let it overwhelm nor occupy your life beyond the balance of what it deserves. Have it enhance your finest attributes and not get in the way of relationships and intimacy with others.

I enjoyed reading everyone’s experiences and can to relate to those that have a partner not into nor supportive of abdl or diapers overall. I have been married many years and told my wife about my desires to wear diapers and be involved in abdl after encouraged by my therapist to share this hidden side of me. This happened over five years ago and although it was liberating to finally come out to her about this side of me, we never really resolved where to go with it, so to this day I keep my diapers private hoping for a day where I can wear them in front of her more openly with support. She was “ok” with me wearing my diapers when I told her, but really didn’t show support nor interest and tried to find other things to comfort me, since diapers are such a source of comfort and security for me now in adulthood. Even though she told my therapist and me that she was fine with it, she soon tried to rewire my desires and acted like it was wrong for me to wear diapers, so I went underground with them for the time being. Occasionally, she will ask what’s up with my diaper interests and wearing and I will say nothing has changed and we don’t take it further. I think the next move is mine, although she seems happy in our don’t ask, don’t tell situation at the moment. She has told me she wished I would have told her sooner, and this is a regret I live with to this day. I told her I kept this part of me hidden because I didn’t know how big of a deal it would have been some 30 plus years together and at the time of our earlier dating and marriage, it was only a lingering desire I thought would go away - we all know that doesn’t happen, right? It was a side of me I felt was compromising and I had yet to accept within myself. I couldn’t share something I couldn’t come to terms with myself, only therapy many years later helped me find that peace (that’s another story altogether). Hopefully, we will be able to have a more open and productive conversation about this in the near future so we can reach a compromise where I can wear my diapers in a more open environment. We are on the cusp of being empty nesters, with adult kids that keep coming back to live with us after college for a bit before launching on their own, so the house is still not exclusive to wear my diapers in the open. Part of me is scared that this will change our current relationship and dynamic, which I enjoy so much. But the bigger part of me wants to be more open and expressive about my abdl self and share it with her and hopefully enhance the intimacy between us. I need to find the courage and trust to move this forward soon because I am tired of wearing my diapers alone and it feels wrong not to be open about it even though my wife knows, but won’t address on her own. As I mentioned earlier, it would seem that the next move is mine.

I have a few remaining bambino Teddy’s, a recently opened bag of MegaMax from Northshore I just started wearing, a bag of Northshore supreme, a bag of Confidry 24/7 and a sample of Betterdry diapers from a recent Northshore order.

Another vote for Confidry 24/7 diapers. I used to wear bambinos almost exclusively, but now am very pleased with Dry 24/7s as my everyday diaper of choice. They fit me well, are very absorbent and, although they don’t have baby prints, they are thick and babyish to me.

I had a recent shipment from Northshore that was late shipping to the west coast with an arrival time of Friday, but in transit the shipment got delayed from Friday until the following Monday. I complained to Northshore and they were understanding and my next shipment was right on time. These things happen and I was happy that the estimated arrival time was met on my next order. I have learned to order my diapers well in advance of needing a restock.

I wear Confidry 24/7 as my everyday diapers and recently received my order of MegaMax diapers from Northshore to try along side my Confidry diapers. Both are outstanding.

I am convinced that my experiences of being kept in diapers as an older child were a combination of frustration, convenience and punishment by my mom whom grew exasperated by my constant accidents and lack of progress in mastering potty training after numerous failed attempts. I have posted those experiences here a few times, but in direct response to the question of whether I was punished with diapers, I believe that punishment was part of my mom’s motive to try to stop me from having accidents and becomin gootty trained. I say this because I remember her being very non discreet and saying things to me while keeping me in diapers or putting me back in diapers for having accidents even when I got much older. I was originally returned to diapers fulltime as a 4 year old after having one too many daytime accidents and made to wear them until I started school. I remember her being very strict about my diapers and making me feel like a baby for wearing them. It felt like punishment as I tried to get used to being in diapers again and deal with the unwanted attention from friends, family and others about my diapered status. My mom would tell everyone I was not potty trained and had no desire to try, thus I was required to stay in diapers. I felt very much like a baby again and slowly got used to being checked and changed on a regular basis as I lost what little control I had gained from previous potty training attempts. It felt like punishment to be exposed in settings where I was the oldest kid in diapers around others and teased for it. I was sent out to play but always had to stay close to home to have my diapers changed and other moms in the neighborhood treated me like baby too. Once I was finally potty trained for school and out of diapers fulltime, my Mom had rules that if I wet or messed my pants, it was back in diapers as my punishment. I wore these all in one plastic backed training pants to school and during the day, but if they got damp or dirty, my mom would take me to my room and diaper me for the rest of the day. I was expected to use my diapers while in them and went to bed still diapered not knowing if it would continue in the morning or whether I was would return to my training pants. I would usually stay inside while being diapered punished unless we were out running errands. I would feel so small and insecure as my diapers bulged under my pants and crinkled as I walked. It certainly felt like a punishment. My mom would tell me I was acting like a baby when she discovered my trainers wet or dirty and ceremoniously march me into my room to be diapered. Often I would be left in just a diaper and T-shirt around the house to remind me I was a baby. Discretion was not high on her list and my diapers were kept in the open for the most part for others to see - stacked on my dresser, boxes in my closet and obvious to visitors and family members. i would say that these experiences constituted being punished with diapers, although my mom has always said that diapering me was necessary and the only way she could deal with my lack of potty training. It felt different and left lasting memories and feelings of resentment that took long to get over.

I would love to hear an update on how things went when your wife returned home and whether you are now her little diapered one.

I lay down just like a toddler for my diaper time.

Sounds like heaven and the perfect night time routine for bedtime. I bet you sleep well and it must be nice to have a supportive wife that enjoys indulging this side of you. Thanks for sharing.

I wear confidry 247 adult disposable diapers because they are very absorbent, fit me the best and are all white like the pampers I wore in the early yo mid 1970s. I also like bambino adult baby diapers and prefer the teddy and bellissimos styles of bambinos. I like my diapers thick, crinkly and babyish.

My little is 4-5 years old, still not potty trained and must wear diapers fullitme. This is my very much like my actual childhood where I too had difficulty with potty training and bed wetting and was kept in diapers late into child because of it. My parents, mainly my mom, dealt with my issues by returning me to diapers and this made me feel like a baby and that I was a disappointment. I was scolded a few times for accidents when not in diapers, but full time diapering made it clear that I was expected to use them instead of the potty, so I did. I yearn for an ABDL situation and environment that is supportive to my little and embraces him even though he is diapered. The trust, intimacy and bond between little and big in this scenario are so important.

I must admit that adult baby clothes are addicting. I would love to have a full wardrobe of them someday.

It’s my normal, but something that took me years to accept and embrace. I don’t think society will ever accept it, but as long as it’s not hurting anyone or offensive in general, I don’t think it matters. Good judgement, balance and personal fulfillment go a long way.

The latest posts on this thread delve into an area that I have moved to in my own need for diapers as an adult - emotional and psychological fulfillment. These needs developed during childhood and never went away. My physical need for diapers in childhood resulted in me forming an attachment to them that never went away. In fact, that attachment only burned inside me and became something I did not understand and carried as a burden for many years. I consider myself somewhat dependent on diapers today as a means for security and comfort to my inner soul and something I needed to come to terms with over time. That dependency is soothing that cannot be replaced by something else - believe me, I have tried through the years. My only recourse was to come to accept it and lose the anger and confusion inside me that made me fill different and inferior as a person because I had this odd dependency. I am finally at peace with it and have accepted my emotional and psychological need for diapers as just a part of me. I try to keep it all in balance and not have this need overwhelm me or define me beyond what it is in my everyday life. This balance is important, yet like many ABDLs I also cycle through strong urges at times that give way to more moderate and mild needs - yet the need is always there beneath the surface ready to awaken at any given moment. Fortunately, finding peace with it all has made me happy and content with myself. I cannot expect those that don’t share this attachment to diapers to ever understand, but I do hope that general acceptance and tolerance for differences among us is a value we as mankind foster and grow to make us all better.