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So just had a thought that I really think we need to be able to legally change our "Sex" to transgender. Maybe even add Anatomy: Penis/Vagina to ID's, legally/medically I think having both on hand on your ID is actually useful.

A chastity cage really helps keep it pointed in the down position. I am very small when limp, so no matter what i do without a chastity cage it will wiggle its way into the up position. Of course I don't always wear a chastity cage, but I really like wearing one just for that reason alone.

It seems like most who write about this have the fantasy of having a key holder that only allows them out when they decide to do so. Usually meaning there is a sub/dom relationship to being in chastity. For me its been a challenge of not having an organism for extended periods and when I eventually do it gives me the same feeling of when I was a teen and the penis being aroused with the slightest touch. Biggest problem has been I'm a grower and not a shower with fairly large testes(almost all tubes on these things are massive compared to my limp penis). Tried many "cheap" ones over the last year and they all seem to pinch and cause issues within wearing it for a few hours. I finally found one that seems to be fairly comfortable and having been wearing it for 2 days without much discomfort (this one: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B07GLGN33K/ref=oh_aui_detailpage_o05_s01?ie=UTF8&psc=1). I also ordered a copy cat of "The Holy Trainer (The nub size)", waiting for that to come in as it was ordered on ebay. Although I do sometimes feel that part of wanting chastity is that I feel that I might be transgender, but neither have the body to be passable, nor am I financially self sufficient, which to me would be a must to be able to comfortably live as female. I live fairly comfortable as a male and find my dysphoria less pressing then living as a male and not having to endure all the issues transitioning would cause in my life. I envy those that decide to transition and endure all that not being in the "norm" entails. That's my rationalizing of not transitioning, but on to more my "feelings" of possibly being transgender. Although I do fantasize of having a real pussy and how it would feel to be penetrated, not totally sure if I am trans, but I do fantasize a lot about sexually being the female, but that could be more sexually feed then actually wanting to be with a male. Although at this point I don't really see this as an option, balding in the back, extra hairy, small but noticeable Adam's apple, deep voice; not exactly the best recipe for passing. But maybe for a true transgender all that stuff doesn't matter. Although I have always felt that full SRS might not be necessary to feel like "me," but an orchi probably would have to be done, just because I do think hormones for me would be needed and taking high doses of anti androgen's for life is going to cause health risks. Although I do sometimes think that having female features without testes (but keep the "large clit") and dating females with vagina's might be what I'm after (although I'm not opposed to dating another transwoman). So guess that would make me "bi-sexual"? If we define more then the standard two genders, guess some people could be quad-sexual or more. Just a thought exercise that if there were definitions of different genders besides the "normal" two, that we could have females with vagina's, females with penises, males with penises, males with vagina's and it might even factor in that some might only want to date cis females/males in combination with any of the other gender combinations. So it's possible that someone could be "sex-sexual", but anyone just wanting to to date others with the same genitalia and outer looks would be considered "gay." That begs the question though would a transwoman dating a cis women be considered "lesbian" and would a transwoman who likes to date both other transwomen and cis women be considered "bi-sexual"? Considering what is considered the norm in our culture today this all seems to be something that could be a twilight zone episode. So on that theory I would consider myself "tri-sexual", liking cis females, transwoman with penises and transwoman with vaginas. If we wanted to we could further create a gender between transwoman with penises that have testes and transwoman who have penises without testes. So that could make me a "quad-sexual." Of course we could go further down the rabbit hole and consider another gender being those that still want to look male/female, but dress in clothes of the other gender without taking on the "normal" outer features of the "normal" two genders. Or how about being cis male, but have breasts without the other features of being female (so look male, but you just have breasts) or a cis female that just wants to have no breasts (of course there are already plenty of cis females that are flat chested, so in culture that is already seen as "somewhat normal." Where as in no shape or form would a male with breasts without other physical features of a female be considered even remotely "normal." Don't know if any of your heard/saw it, but think it was call The Man Show or something with Adam Corolla and they had a guy on that got breast implants and lived with them for a year(pretty sure it was some kind of bet from his buddies), the fear of being ridiculed kept him wearing clothes to hide them and make him just look "fat." He wore baggy shirts and baggy hoodies to hide them. Now if it was acceptable in our society, I wonder if he would have kept them, he did say he "enjoyed" them. Sorry for the "rambling", but felt I needed to get all of this out and it feels almost like self therapy as it really got my real feelings out, that I suppress in everyday life to fit in with the "norm." Maybe its impossibly high standards, but is it so much to ask to find a "female (doesn't matter pussy/penis)" that accepts me for how I feel on the gender line, plus accepts the diaper fetish (never done it, but I think I would be into age playing, so hopefully change my diapers sometimes, treat me like a baby when I'm feeling like that), be breast feed (this is certainly on my bucket list) and then also has a passion for cars (I don't even have any friends that are even interested and don't generally even notice when a bright yellow Lambo or a red Ferrari passes by us on the road), they have interest in computers (would be fun to have someone I could do maker projects with), enjoys sitcoms/sci-fi and electronic music. Is that so much to ask? Essentially BFF's that are intimate. A transwoman can dream right? If you read all of this, I applaud you, grab yourself a beer, you should be rewarded.

I think that people can be attracted to a person and not necessarily their gender. I think this is easier for women as there is less stigma around girl on girl vs guy on guy. They have started to show men kissing on TV now and I've yet to get used to seeing it, yet 2 women kissing is "hot." As your wife and this women were BFF's, I could see it starting there and growing into something more. Also they say women are much more attracted to others via emotion, rather simply by physical attraction, which is probably hard for us to understand as men, who are physically attracted first and therefore its easy for us men to have purely physical attraction, even if we don't necessarily connect on an emotional level. So its possible that she "fell in love" with this women purely on an emotional level and wasn't necessarily attracted to her physically. Thus it "could" be a one time thing if she's being truthful that she's not physically attracted to other women. Of course she could just be denying to herself and you that she has this attraction to other women.

There is no reason you can't wear to work, that's just a mental block. I work in IT and work both in our office and on client sites. I wear onesies to conceal my diapers and wear everyday for since I have worked at this job. Been wearing "almost" 24/7 since 2010, which I was still at university. This has been my first long term job since university. If they have noticed, no one has given any weird looks or said anything. Of course since it has no impact on my job functions and in the USA we have the ADA, if someone did notice its unlikely they would say anything. I make sure that I don't smell of pee though and have good hygiene, something that could get you fired as bad hygiene with or without diapers isn't something a business wants and nor should they have to put up with someone who is dirty and smells. I don't really wet though at work, I use the bathroom most the time and will only wet close to the end of the day, where I can go home before it starts to smell.

I think there are a distinction between being a private BDSM couple and being in the public BDSM world. And then there is the mainstream media portrayal of BDSM. Which is where the misconceptions mostly come. I have friends who are Poly and into BDSM, but its very cliche with who is allowed into their world. And each person/couple has strict rules as to who can "play" with them or their partner. I would go to their dinner parties until the main group who lived in the 5 bedroom house where the parties were, moved up to SF area. These were just normal potluck/drinking/movie/game nights, nothing to do with their BDSM gatherings. Although one night they did decide to do a rope play demo. And there we certainly talk about who was with who and who played with whom. With the Dom usually deciding who their partner was allowed to play with in the group and other couples not playing with anyone besides themselves. Unless you have seen the dom/sub relationships yourself, most people are going to have the misconception from mainstream media that people into BDSM all play with multiple partners. Where in fact from what I have witnessed it is a very complicated set of rules that most in the BDSM deal with and are very picky as to who is allowed into their play group. Then of course there is the couples who only do it privately and so that's a whole different thing then these BDSM groups. Its such big spectrum of ways its done, that people who want to get into a BDSM relationship only see the mainstream portrayal of BDSM and not how complicated the relationships are in the real BDSM world.

Yes, I wear diapers "almost" everywhere. Family trips and doctors are the exceptions. Once you figure out that no one sees them unless you are flashing diapers at them, you will start to realize wearing out of the house is no big deal. I suggest forcing yourself to do it as often as possible, then it starts to become normal you will not worry about it so much. Wearing a black onesie really helps in keeping any fears of your diaper showing from being an issue. I like the LittleForBig ones, although just ordered some on Amazon from J&Or as someone else said they liked them. I like that they are metal snaps vs the plastic on the LittleForBig onesies, as I do have to wear some stretch leggings/shorts with them otherwise they are kind of thick and push on the sides of my inner thigh cause it to hurt. Hoping the thinner metal snaps fix this issue, wish I could find ones with the snaps further up the front, totally mitigating the snaps rubbing on the inner thigh issue.

I wear "almost" 24/7, but don't wet 24/7. AKA convenience diapers. Maybe a few want to actually be diaper dependent, but I think most only have the fantasy as they would hope to get acceptance from others as they don't have a choice. As for me no I don't want to physically need them, it would then necessitate at least some people knowing as I would have to change when out and about and carry changes and such. As it is now, I can just wear one to work (hide it using black onesies) and not have to change until I get home as I still use the bathroom. Sometimes I do wet close to the end of the day, so its a short enough time that I won't smell in the office or at a clients. I generally don't wear to the doctors (have when I just need to get pill refills as I won't be taking off any clothes just to get script). Also vacations with other people as there wouldn't be a way to hide carrying a bag of diapers and changing and such and would be extra hard to dispose of them without anyone knowing. And these kind of things are probably what keeps most from going 24/7 without actually having something physical wrong that causes them to need them 24/7. My fantasy would not be having to physically need them 24/7, but be 24/7 as convenience diapers (using them when convenient, but using the bathroom when convenient). That would mean that some people would know though as doctors would certainly find out at some point. Trips that are more then a day would require bringing extra diapers and if traveling with others is almost impossible to hide (most are family type trips, where I'm not staying in a hotel, but with family/friends). Unless I become a baller and can afford to stay in my own hotel room on every trip, I don't really see wearing on these trips as an option without someone knowing about my diaper wearing. Sure there might be some people where their situation could hide 24/7 convenience diapers, but for most people at some point truly going 24/7 would necessitate someone else knowing about your wearing, but of course how you deal with the "why" factor when they do find out, is up to you. And certainly not a subject I'm brave enough to broach with someone when I don't need to physically wear them. Is there anyone here who wear truly 24/7 and doesn't physically need them? If so, you're my hero as that's the dream for me, not being diaper dependent, but still wearing 24/7 with a few who know on a need to know basis.

When your climbing under desks and bending down all the time, even an extra long under shirt may not stay tucked in "all the time." Therefore as an IT Manager, onesies are a must for me, certainly don't want any coworkers or clients knowing my little secret. Although would be great to find some that are more undershirt type material, specially in the summer. I cut the arms off on the LittleForBig onesies to keep myself a bit cooler. Anyone know a company in the US that makes ones that are like the thickness of undershirts? Getting black/dark color ones should mitigate the fact they are thinner.

I just received one last week and it was not in a privacy envelope. No matter though as I will not be buying from them again. I changed my address info, so I will not be getting one again. Even if it was in a "privacy envelope" I would not want any mail from any medical supply company. There just is not a reason for them to send me junk mail. If you "appreciate" your customers you will not send them unsolicited mail.

I'm a scientist in my beliefs, so I chok this up to something we can't explain currently, not a miracle. Could be something physical or mental, we currently do not know. Of course if I did believe in god, then I would believe this is a miracle and that is why its a beliefs, you don't have rational reason to believe it, it just is. So it doesn't matter if I believe something else, I'm not going to change the mind of someone else beliefs. There are certainly edge causes that for whatever reason something change their belief system, but I think those cases are few and far between. Although I don't subscribe to not believing in god, I don't subscribe to not believing in him/her/it either. I'm open to anything that tells me why we are actually here and if there is something on the other side, but as of yet I have not seen any proof that shows me one way or the other. So hopefully I've made the right choices that won't cost me if there is something else beyond my consciousness in this body on this earth, but while I'm here I'm going to enjoy myself and the people around me as that is what makes me feel good. Can't make everyone happy all time and you are going to have arguments, but hopefully overall I'm making their life better because I'm part of their life. I know its long winded, but I am making a point here and that is I do hope if it makes them happy to be "cured", that it sticks and they don't fall back into it. Also that it doesn't matter if I believe or you believe it, but that they believe it and hopefully that gives them peace when they pass on from this life. I'm generally happy with who I am as a person and of course it would be great if I could get rid of this fetish, but I'm not sure what it would cost me and others if I did some how get rid of it. To do so I would have to fundamentally change myself as a person and question is would then I like the person that I am without all my current flaws? That I can't tell you and probably will never be able to find out. To bad its not the movies where I can go back in time make a change, see what that changes costs us and then usually go back and change it back as you generally find you don't like the big picture outcome when you make that change. Of course sometimes in the movies they can't make it go back to the way it used to be, which then they usually have to learn to live with the change they decided to make and the outcome it produced. If you have played Life is Strange, you get to see this in game, that a change such as making it so a loved one doesn't die, can make an outcome that you dislike even more. I've probably gone on 10 different tangents, so if you read all the way though this good on you because I skimmed most the posts. TL;DR Tangents aside, as a philosopher, I hope that I have encouraged some fundamental insights into this topic with what I wrote. The gist being that whatever makes you happy and the people around you happy in this life, then that is a good thing and that I hope this makes them happy. TL;DR 2.0 Was my first TLDR to long? ;-P

Recently it seems like my mom is rather interested as to why I like wearing them. I really wish I could give her a good answer as we have a close relationship and I know she really does want to understand why. I've just given the answer I don't know why, I don't see an answer that would put her mind at ease as she does say she finds it disgusting and seems almost that she feels that its a failure of her parenting, which really sucks as I don't want her feeling bad that its some how her fault I'm this way. She has said to me that we are born in diapers and die in diapers (many friends parents lost control before passing and had to be changed by caregivers) and basically why would you want to wear and use them when you don't need to do so.

Wonder if fedex is getting my postcards, I put them as my shipping address and have yet to see any postcards from them in my mail. That's pretty shitty of them to send out these postcards, even if I actually needed them I wouldn't want any one seeing this in my mail.

If the item is prime, then Amazon Locker is awesome, don't see how if you select this it would get delivered to your address. I've bought diapers online for years and never had them delivered to my door, but I never put in my address for shipping address, as long as it is fedex, I can put for shipping address: Hold for Pickup Name Address of Fedex Store Then I have 5 business days to pickup up from the store once they receive it.

I wear 24/7 for convenience/emotional support. So only wear one, max of 2 a day. Buy a case of of 75 at a time of Seni Super Plus. Order another case when I have about 10 left. I'd love to have the ABDL ones, but not in the budget right now and need to wear cloth backed, except in my room. Still live at home, mom doesn't approve, so can't risk her knowing I'm still doing it.

Been wearing for 7 years 24/7, don't think I'll ever be able to bed wet. Don't think I really did as a kid, maybe during transition out of diapers, but nothing I remember. Hypnosis doesn't work on me. I can go most the day without peeing, so maybe I retain fluids and that probably makes it really hard for me to become a bed wetter or day wetter.

One suggestion, whatever you do do not have them buy diapers for you. And just like the others said use a don't ask don't tell policy. If they ask say its better and make sure they don't find a wet one again. Keep the dry ones and if they find it, then just say you have them just in case the stress wetting comes back.

If you are sick you have a good reason to be wearing a diaper without telling that you wear just because you like them. Makes it easy to just say its a temporary just in case thing while you are sick. I am 24/7 just for convenience, but the one time I don't wear is going to the doctors, just not worth the hassle. I'm sure I could go and if they asked tell them the truth and that would probably be it. Unless it is a medical issue then they shouldn't pry further. As for psychological they have no pull unless you are physically harming yourself or others. Go find another doctor if they want to see a psychologist for wearing diapers just because you like it. Just don't lie about it and that should make it a non issue at the doctor. Lie about it and then your going deep down the rabbit hole.

Have you ever talked to any doctor about it?

Guess you must have either to concentrated of urine or have sensitive skin. As I do this all the time and never get a rash.

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I get the feeling its just a joke as most of us who are ABDL don't want to share and aren't going to go around making jokes about it to possibly tip them off.

Don't really find peeing naughty, so pretty much do that anywhere. Unless you have a diet that curtails it smelling, then its going to be noticeable.

Seni Super Plus, for their thickness they hold a amazing amount and a booster makes it even better. I've had the least amount of leaks from them as they fit me the best of any diaper I have used.

Since its probably been over a year since I had plastic backed diapers, that right now feeling babyish by being in "real" diapers is the best feeling. I wear for convenience and although it only happens rarely, usually when something does not agree with my stomach, those times where i would have underwear streaks if I was not wearing.