Rule 1. Don't drag unwilling participants into your fetish.
Rule 2. Never give someone a reason to believe that ABDL is about indulging in self harm.
Rule 3. Stop embarrassing the ABDL culture. It puts strain on self and social acceptance.
If there are any parents with a kid that might be ABDL and you are using this website as research, I advise you to stay away from the Incontinence Desires thread. This culture is not just about sex addicts and self-harm but people like that will lead you to believe otherwise. Please understand that your kid is having difficulty accepting this part of themselves and need your support.