Dealing with arousal in a 24/7 lifestyle.

[Huggybutt]

For those of you that wear 24/7 or close to it, incon or not and a good portion of diapers are sexual for you, how do you deal with constant arousal?  I'm not trying to start a thread with graphic details on how everyone takes care of their business. Just get an understanding of the mental-physical relationship we have with diapers. I genuinely think this is something people may or may not consider when weighing the options to wear 24/7 (voluntarily).

Is it something you get used to after a while? Does the frequency of your arousal become reduced over time?

I would think there is the possibility that wearing 24/7 with the kink aspect could cause difficulty in staying focused in your day to day activities. Not to mention the group of people that experience a refractory period when "things are taken care of".

I also know people are wired differently. From past experiences , it can cause physical pain as a male.

[Little Sherri]

Well, for me, "this" developed before I was a sexual being (Freud may beg to differ, but I digress). I was already strangely intrigued by wearing diapers when I was 4 or 5 years old. Approaching puberty coincided with no longer wearing diapers for "legitimate" reasons, and I began experimenting with making my own diapers as a 'tween and young teen. At that point, wearing them became synonymous with arousal for a while. Then, my stepdad found my diaper stash and yelled at me in front of my family, and I abandoned all aspects of this for a couple of decades. 

When I started dipping my toes in these waters again, it was sometimes about arousal, but also, a deep sense of relaxation and security, and a feeling that wearing diapers felt right, and that I was reclaiming a lot of ground that had been lost to shame and humiliation when I was a child. So, I think for me, part of experimenting with longer periods in the saddle - spending weekends in diapers and sleeping in them when I was away on trips and such - was about making wearing diapers "normal" again. And when I took the leap and went 24/7, a bit more than 3.5 years ago, that definitely became the case, because, let's face it, you can't be aroused all day, every day, and, I still need to do my job and pay my taxes and drive around and get on airplanes and be a husband and a dad and a friend and a dog owner and everything else that I am, so, wearing baby diapers can't be a constant distraction, or else I'd be doomed. SO, I guess what I'm saying is, you will get used to it. It won't always be exciting. It can't be. That's kind of part of what I was after, when I took this strange road - to go back to my innocent prepubescent relationship with wearing diapers, before anything sexual came into the picture.

Not to say that it's never arousing anymore, but, is, for example, your wife, or your girlfriend or boyfriend or significant other, "always" arousing? I congratulate you if they are, but for most people, that is not the case, I'd wager. I'd bet that if you watched porn for 72 consecutive hours, you'd eventually find yourself reading the New York Times on your phone. So it goes with diapers, if you immerse yourself in them. I'd imagine someone who's big thing is, for example, cross-dressing, would say the same thing. If you always wear panties, sometimes, panties are just your underwear. It can't always be incredible. I'd imagine, anyway - feel free to correct me, anyone with such experiences. 

[Shotgun Diplomat]

@Little Sherri A very well thought out and well reasoned response. 

[vvp39]

10 hours ago, Shotgun Diplomat said:

@Little Sherri A very well thought out and well reasoned response. 

I agree. In particular, "...it was sometimes about arousal, but also, a deep sense of relaxation and security, and a feeling that wearing diapers felt right..."

For me, substitute plastic pants for diapers, and that was me, exactly.

[Huggybutt]

17 hours ago, Little Sherri said:

  I still need to do my job and pay my taxes and drive around and get on airplanes and be a husband and a dad and a friend and a dog owner and everything else that I am, so, wearing baby diapers can't be a constant distraction, or else I'd be doomed. 

 

Thank you Sherri for your response. Did you get over the worry about being noticed while carrying on with life? I hope you have a supportive family in your 24/7 lifestyle.

I've been dealing with some depression that came back after over 15 years and for the first time last night I felt the need to regress and wear a diaper to bed and it was 99% non sexual in nature. I've never been able to experience the comfort and relaxing benefits that Soo many abdl's talk about until last night. As usual wearing is difficult when you have kids so I very seldom get to experience wearing in the fullest extent.

[2sail2]

22 hours ago, Huggybutt said:

For those of you that wear 24/7 or close to it, incon or not and a good portion of diapers are sexual for you, how do you deal with constant arousal?  I'm not trying to start a thread with graphic details on how everyone takes care of their business. Just get an understanding of the mental-physical relationship we have with diapers. I genuinely think this is something people may or may not consider when weighing the options to wear 24/7 (voluntarily).

Is it something you get used to after a while? Does the frequency of your arousal become reduced over time?

 

Initially when I really could start wearing around college, I would get wood right after putting on.  In my mid-40s, I think I stopped getting wood once I put it on most times.  I really did not do anything about it and was relatively happy to get a woody. Regardless of wood or not, pretty much every time have to satisfy the  desire.  I usually do get wood once I start.

 

 

[Huggybutt]

Just now, 2sail2 said:

Initially when I really could start wearing around college, I would get wood right after putting on.  In my mid-40s, I think I stopped getting wood once I put it on most times.  I really did not do anything about it and was relatively happy to get a woody. Regardless of wood or not, pretty much every time have to satisfy the  desire.  I usually do get wood once I start.

 

 

How close to 24/7 do you wear?

[ppdude]

7 hours ago, vvp39 said:

I agree. In particular, "...it was sometimes about arousal, but also, a deep sense of relaxation and security, and a feeling that wearing diapers felt right..."

For me, substitute plastic pants for diapers, and that was me, exactly.

Been 24/7 IC for over 20 years (probably closer to 25.

Bingo on the plastics -- they chop down woodies like you can't believe (eyes crazed and tongue hanging out).

 

 

[Alyeskabird]

I have to agree with @Little SherriNot everyone thinks of diapers in a sexual manor. I know when I first started to experament with diapers, there was issues with arousal, but, most of that was because parts where being touched, rather than because having a diaper on made me arroused. You do get used to the sensation after a while. Sorta like you get used to the touch of your underwear against thoes bits.

[Sarah_Hillcrest]

On 12/21/2022 at 3:18 PM, Huggybutt said:

Is it something you get used to after a while? Does the frequency of your arousal become reduced over time?

My experience is exactly that.  Without kids in my live I've had much more opportunity to wear than what many married men get.  During my 20s my wife worked nights and I worked days so it was, work, home, diaper, gratification, followed with shame and negative feelings.   It was all about arousal and the thought of wearing 24/7 was nothing but a fantasy.

Over time I explored my ABDL side more and more I found more acceptance, I started wearing more frequently around my wife, who knew and tolerated but didn't want to be involved.  I had always felt too ashamed to wear when she was home.   During the pandemic lockdown I started wearing almost 24/7 for awhile.  I'd never been able to sleep with a diaper on, I was just too aroused and excited, not just sexually either.  It took a couple weeks and several sleepless nights, but soon I could comfortably fall sleep in diapers.

After several weeks of wearing diapers most of the time the arousal factor really decreased, but the comfort factor went up.   When I returned to work in 2020 after lockdown it was a very different environment and all the reasons I'd given myself to not wear diapers to work were gone since I was working nearly alone.  During this time diapers really changed for me, going from a fetish object to just a normal part of my wardrobe.  I remember one day going to the urinal at work, unzipping my pants and being surprised I was wearing a diaper.  I wouldn't say arousal from diapers completely disappeared, but it was mostly gone.

Eventually 2 things happened, I became scarred I was in the early stages of diaper dependence and it started to feel like there was no point in wearing.  I was washing 2 loads of cloth diapers a week and buying cases of disposables.  I still felt comfort from it, but as life started becoming more and more normal the practicality of wearing diapers was getting more difficult.  It wasn't easy to stop, but I was pretty sure I was doing the right thing.  I stopped wearing almost completely.

Now a year later I'm back in a rut.  I have one day weekly when my wife has to work overnight and it's like I'm back in my 20s, but for one night a week.  It's the only time I wear, and it's almost pure arousal, shame and embarrassment afterwards.  

[gmcchamp99]

Arousal has always been something I have struggled with, with or without diapers in the mix. I've never had it diagnosed. For me and I'm sure many other people it doesn't always have to be triggered by a person. Sometimes it's a thought, memory or a new idea. Over the years I have worked very hard at trying to contain the "excitement". In my younger years I'd may have wandered out to my car or back to my home to contain such "Excitement" but having grown up a bit and having a very loving, caring and understanding wife with similar mindset and urges I have learned to save such excitement and passion for our private times. When I have an occurrence of arousal I try my best to simply play it down, savor the excitement and allow it to subside.

 

Years of good training, chastity and overall an amazingly awesome and kinky wife have helped me with this.

[PullUpDiaperLover]

If my arousal is so distracting, I find its time to masturbate. Satisfy that need, relax for 20min to and hour, then get back into a diaper and enjoy your diaper and little space more. A conflict internally can arise, as the arousal makes your need for diapers and acceptance of being ABDL more pronounced and YOU WANT THAT TO CONTINUE. But at some point there must be a balance and a release or your thoughts become too sexually driven and it begins to take away from the experience.