wearer24/7 Posted January 10, 2018 Share Posted January 10, 2018 Hi all, had my anual check up today at urologists in the hospital. All went well until they suggested that i try using a catheter again. The consultant said that with my sphyncter being in the condition it is it may be worth trying a catheter again, but i may also "dribble a little around the catheter" i said does that mean i will have to use some sort of incontinence pad? The consultant said that it would most likely be necessary to use pads. The consultant looked a bit stumped when i suggested that not only will i still have to use pads but there will be the discomfort of a bag and the possible UTI'S as well, instead of wearing briefs and having none of the other complications. I said to the consultant that that it is he who finds fitted incontinence briefs embarrassing and that i am comfortable wearing briefs all of the time. I explained that it was a matter of getting into a routine and knowing the limits of your nappy. I told him that he was trying to stigmatise me and said that he was going to put me at more risk from being cathetered. We left it at that! Link to comment
Comfortably diapered Posted January 10, 2018 Share Posted January 10, 2018 Good for you sticking up for yourself. I won't is a catheter unless it's a direct emergency. It sucks a stigma is still a thing for doctors and medical consultants. Oh well we know ourselves better than them. Link to comment
iluvmydiapers Posted January 10, 2018 Share Posted January 10, 2018 2 hours ago, wearer24/7 said: Hi all, had my anual check up today at urologists in the hospital. All went well until they suggested that i try using a catheter again. The consultant said that with my sphyncter being in the condition it is it may be worth trying a catheter again, but i may also "dribble a little around the catheter" i said does that mean i will have to use some sort of incontinence pad? The consultant said that it would most likely be necessary to use pads. The consultant looked a bit stumped when i suggested that not only will i still have to use pads but there will be the discomfort of a bag and the possible UTI'S as well, instead of wearing briefs and having none of the other complications. I said to the consultant that that it is he who finds fitted incontinence briefs embarrassing and that i am comfortable wearing briefs all of the time. I explained that it was a matter of getting into a routine and knowing the limits of your nappy. I told him that he was trying to stigmatise me and said that he was going to put me at more risk from being cathetered. We left it at that! You also have to remember that it is also the doctors job to keep you coming back, by suggesting using the catheter and knowing the risks of UTI's , once you have a UTI you need to return. Also they get to recommend the brand of catheter of their choice and all the kickbacks they receive when you purchase the suggested items. They like to keep their vacation home in the Bahamas and need your insurance payments along with co payments to keep living their life style. Link to comment
wearer24/7 Posted January 10, 2018 Author Share Posted January 10, 2018 Luckily iluvmydiapers I live in the uk and we don't have a barbaric private health system here yet just the good old NHS, and hopefully it will stay that way. Link to comment
Midwest Babygirl Posted January 10, 2018 Share Posted January 10, 2018 UTIs are simple enough to diagnose and treat that someone will see their GP rather than a urologist, so it isn't about ensuring repeat "business." The general line of thinking is that not having to rely on diapers or pads helps a patient's self-esteem, since adult diapers tend to be specifically advertised as being for the elderly. Doctors think that wearing diapers will make people feel like they've lost a part of themselves because they are "too young" for them, which will lead to depression and associated health risks that come with that. They believe catheters empower people by letting them still have some degree of control over their situation. That has more to do with perception than profits. Some companies have been trying to change how they market diapers to adults, but they built decades of stigma that they have to try and overcome now. Link to comment
Bettypooh Posted January 11, 2018 Share Posted January 11, 2018 Kudos on standing up for yourself Doctors need regular reminding that they are advisors to, not controllers of, their patients Bettypooh Link to comment
stevewet Posted January 11, 2018 Share Posted January 11, 2018 My Doctor, Diabetic nurse and, continence nurse all know I wear nappies to deal with my incontinence and have never questioned my choice. I tried a condom catheter and couldn't get on with it. It wasn't a problem for them. The urologist and the Doctor never mentioned how I was going to manage my incontinence. This was let to the continence nurse. 1 Link to comment
adhb Posted January 11, 2018 Share Posted January 11, 2018 Wearer24/7, Every urologist that I’ve ever seen has suggested using a condom catheter instead of a diaper. One urologist (whom I fired) even told me that wearing a diaper is “unmanly.” I’ve tried condom catheters, but I greatly prefer wearing a diaper. I’m the one who has to manage my incontinence on a day-to-day basis. So I manage it in the most pleasant (or least unpleasant) way. What others think of the way I handle it is really none of their business. 1 Link to comment
dljim95 Posted January 12, 2018 Share Posted January 12, 2018 On 1/11/2018 at 4:15 AM, stevewet said: My Doctor, Diabetic nurse and, continence nurse all know I wear nappies to deal with my incontinence and have never questioned my choice. I tried a condom catheter and couldn't get on with it. It wasn't a problem for them. The urologist and the Doctor never mentioned how I was going to manage my incontinence. This was let to the continence nurse. I had the same result with my doctors, I told him I prefer to use diapers over other options to deal with my incontinence both during the day and night. Link to comment
WetDad Posted January 12, 2018 Share Posted January 12, 2018 My Dr has also been a friend for many years. I have tried his drugs and he got to see the horrid results (side effects). Now he is perfectly understanding of my diapers as a means of managing my incontinence. Recently he wrote me a letter recommending diapers for me. I will use this with the IRS should I ever get audited for writing off my diapers. Link to comment
dlnoir Posted January 12, 2018 Share Posted January 12, 2018 Whatever doctor’s advice or suggest in the end it is all up to you whether your follow upon it, especially if it is not life threatening you will have the final say. Link to comment
wearer24/7 Posted January 12, 2018 Author Share Posted January 12, 2018 On 11/01/2018 at 4:59 PM, adhb said: Wearer24/7, Every urologist that I’ve ever seen has suggested using a condom catheter instead of a diaper. One urologist (whom I fired) even told me that wearing a diaper is “unmanly.” I’ve tried condom catheters, but I greatly prefer wearing a diaper. I’m the one who has to manage my incontinence on a day-to-day basis. So I manage it in the most pleasant (or least unpleasant) way. What others think of the way I handle it is really none of their business. I totally agree and was getting fed up with the urologist trying to force me down a road i did not want to go down. I had tried a condom catheter but i got a rash as my skin was not able to get on with the stickiness of the catheter. nappies are for me the best way of dealing with a medical need . Link to comment
TheBabyPants Posted January 16, 2018 Share Posted January 16, 2018 All Dr's are different, my Urologists recommended I stick with diapers over catheters that seem to create more of a problem. He feels it it works for me then great. Link to comment
stevewet Posted January 16, 2018 Share Posted January 16, 2018 Just came back from a Doctors appointment I was in nappies as usual and quite wet by the time it was my turn to see the Doc. Not a problem. Link to comment
wearer24/7 Posted January 16, 2018 Author Share Posted January 16, 2018 I feel I'm in a strong position when I speak to my urologist it's my body and they can't force me into doing something I don't want to do and therefore i am sticking to wearing nappies rather than invasive surgery or infection gathering catheters. It's my body and I will be the last day in my treatment. Link to comment
Rob110 Posted January 17, 2018 Share Posted January 17, 2018 Saw my main family doctor last week (had not seen him for a few years) as I started to see a diferent doctor in the medical group as my doctor allways seemed to be in a rush. he was ok with my decision to wear diapers to manage my OAB issue. Link to comment
stevewet Posted January 17, 2018 Share Posted January 17, 2018 My Doctor knows I wear nappies to manage my incontinence. He briefly mentioned the fact when I had my diabetic med review and changed my meds saying this might cause some incontinene but as you seem to manage that very well it shouldn't be a problem. Link to comment
poobrat Posted January 17, 2018 Share Posted January 17, 2018 I saw my urologist yesterday.i see her every 6 months.she knew when she started seeing me in have urge incontinence caused by diabetes and neropathy.she has me on 2 different meds,but they seem to make no difference.she said at my age there is most likely no cure,short of surgery on prostate.i told her no surgery period and at first visit I told her I was using cloth diapers to manage it.yesterday she asked how many diapers I go thru daily and said since no change in my problem and i'm manageing with diapers mostly at night or away from home,that she just wants to see me back for a visit in another 6 months.she would send a message to my primary dr. that I seen her and no change.both dr' have it on my record that I wet an need diapers. Link to comment
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