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I feel like there is absolutely nothing for dominants here. Basically every story I've seen either has little or no sympathetic character development for the dominant figure, or has them end up in diapers too at some point. Is it too much to ask for at least one story where a well-developed dominant character forces others into diapers and doesn't end up in diapers themselves? I am not into wearing diapers myself at all, and I feel like these stories are telling me that I'm not allowed to be into ABDL stuff unless I'm a switch or sub. It feels like every time I'm really identifying with a dominant character in a story, they get forced into diapers.

A naive question, because I have basically zero experience with cum (being a female virgin who can't stand to watch porn). In one of my stories, a character cums into his diaper while mind controlled, and then falls asleep and wets himself while he's sleeping. The next morning, he doesn't notice that it's not just pee in his diaper. How plausible is that? Should I imply that it's residual effects from the mind control, or is it plausible that he wouldn't notice anyway?

Didn't one of the ABDL documentaries feature a pro Mommy? I believe she was a British lady, her husband was an ABDL and she decided she liked Mommying and decided to go pro with it. You may want to see if you can find it, to get an idea of what to expect. Definitely make sure a trusted person knows where you're going and when you're expected back, just like meeting any other stranger from online. And let her know what you do and don't want - the lady in the documentary had this whole phone interview with a standard set of questions.

With regards to enemas, make sure you've both done your research thoroughly about health effects. I've heard of bad side effects sometimes from enemas (dehydration etc), though since it's not one of my kinks it's not something I know much about.

Leg braces.

Anyone who thinks they can count on guns for self-defense should really rethink. Firstly, a gun can kill you before you even know it's happening. The idea of "one guy draws first but the second shoots faster" is complete fiction. Second, you can store your guns safely enough to prevent accidents, or have them handy for self-defense, but you cannot do both. Do you seriously think a burglar is going to wait for you to open your gun safe, get the bullets stored separately, then load the gun? More home shootings are done by toddlers (actual toddlers, not ABs) playing with unsecured guns than by people defending themselves against a home invasion. And that's not even counting the non-toddlers who accidentally shoot themselves or others with an unsafely secured gun. If you have guns for sport, hunting, collections, etc, that makes sense. But don't expect guns to keep you safe. You're better off getting martial arts training - then you know what you're doing and no one can take your weapon away.

Most of the negative effects of smoking come after decades of exposure, not just two years. Things like lung cancer, COPD, emphysema, all develop after decades of regular exposure. A regular smoker has an average life expectancy 14 years shorter than a non-smoker. Secondhand smoke is an issue for two reasons: a) people like me, who have pre-existing conditions - cigarette smoke sets off my asthma. If you want to set off my medical condition because you can't be bothered to find somewhere private to smoke, then you're just an asshole b) people who are exposed on a regular basis, such as family members of smokers or people who work in places where lots of people smoke

The second question requires an answer and all of them imply at least some willingness to be publicly humiliated. So I couldn't answer because I'm not into public humiliation at all.

Winning internet arguments - would that mean actually changing their minds? Because if so, that actually sounds really powerful. Just start an online argument and you can convince anyone to believe anything!

To me, ABDL, DDLG and little, while overlapping, mean different things. An ABDL, in my view, is almost certainly going to be into diapers. That seems to be the unifying theme between the pure DLs, the ABs, and others. (Like the people who like age regression to ages that should be potty trained, but also like diapers.) Also includes fetish and non-fetish motivations, with some tension, but usually a non-fetishist ABDL will be at least tolerant of the fetish side of it. And most ABDLs are submissive straight guys. DDLG stands for Daddy Dom/Little Girl, which implies maledom/femsub, the opposite of what most ABDLs want. I do occasionally see MDLB, DDLB, and MDLG used, but far less than DDLG. Plus, my impression of DDLG is that they're usually not into diapers, and prefer regression from preteen to preschool instead of toddler to infant. Or else don't regress at all, just a childish sub who calls her Dom 'Daddy'. Also, I think it's usually sexually motivated. Littles, I associate with the age regressors who vehemently reject the fetish side and call us pedos, and age regress as a trauma or mental illness coping strategy. And some are definitely kink regressors in denial. Plus, a lot are underage and think that minors can't have kinks, so their age regression can't possibly be a kink. You see this type a lot on Tumblr, along with DDLG types, and the two groups absolutely hate each other's guts.

A urologist said that? They should definitely know better!

I'd suggest just posting them here or on AO3 with a note saying that you welcome constructive criticism.

I often dream about my characters. I sometimes get new stories because I dreamt about them.

I've done the same thing a lot! This random generator comes from one such digression, and generates the symptoms caused by one of the monster types in one of my settings: https://perchance.org/7zq5f7t476 Another time I wrote a big long worldbuilding thing about an A/B/O setting I have yet to actually write a story for. But usually overanalyzing like this ends up helping me out eventually. It adds hidden depth to the story.

Regarding captive Littles reproducing, I imagine a system kind of like how we treat reproduction in pets. Most Littles are not allowed to reproduce, possibly even sterilized to prevent it (would also help keep them babyish-looking), but certain Amazons breed their Littles. Including some who just don't bother to prevent it (like those people who don't spay/neuter pets), some who are hobbyists carefully breeding for specific traits in as kind a way as possible, and some running the Little equivalent of puppy mills where Littles are forcibly bred in horrible conditions. Maybe some of the quirks of Littles are the result of these selective breeding practices. They may have been bred for docility or lower intelligence, poorer bladder control, bred to be smaller or larger, bred to look pretty or childish, etc. There may even be distinct breeds bred for unique traits.

I don't know if I'd call myself a Mommy, because my style of dominance is more sadistic mad scientist than nurturing caregiver, but I am a dominant who's into AB/DL subs.

I came out to my family because it's a part of who I am, just like being asexual is, and I don't want to hide who I am from them. My Dad and brother were completely supportive and we even joke about it now. My Mom is squicked out by the very thought, so she wants me to just leave her out of it. Which is not always easy for me, but I try not to mention it around her. I really hate when people imply that it's somehow disgusting or inappropriate to be honest about your kinks with your family. If you're more comfortable keeping it private, that's great, but don't judge others for choosing differently.

No, in fact incontinence is associated with a lower life expectancy, because of things like bladder infections and skin breakdown and such. It's not a big deal if you're otherwise healthy, but for people who have weakened immune system, bladder infections can kill. And if you're both immobile and incontinent, the risk of pressure sores is way higher than if you're immobile but continent, because of the moisture and skin irritation. Having your bodily wastes held against your skin on a regular basis is not a good idea health-wise. It's not the worst health habit - smoking is definitely worse, and probably overeating, too - but it's certainly not healthier, unless you have a medical condition that makes the usual option worse for you.

Neither. I'm more interested in the idea of forcing someone else to be in the AB or DL role, not doing it myself.

Agreed. If I have to give up my fetish for someone to love me, they don't really love me.

Probably a preteen girl.

I hope it's OK to post a question here even though I'm not incontinent, just a fetishist. I find it easy to imagine bladder incontinence, but I find it weirdly difficult to imagine bowel incontinence. Maybe because I have chronic constipation myself. I can readily imagine diarrhea related incontinence, but I don't like diarrhea. But bowel incontinence without diarrhea, what is that like? If this is not an appropriate topic for this subforum, I apologize.

Speaking of the Diaper Dimension, I had an idea that I don't think I'll actually write, about a Little who somehow turns the tables and babies an Amazon.

In one of my stories, I had a guy who was completely incontinent but refusing to wear diapers, and I found myself really enjoying that. Do any of you really like scenes where an incontinent character isn't wearing diapers and is making a mess instead? I think for me it really highlights that they can't control it. I really like when a character is trying everything they can to stop wetting and it doesn't help one bit.

Yes, I too wanted more. It's a really interesting story.