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  1. Hey everyone! I recently have been trying my hand at writing a couple abdl or ddlg based stories which I have had the ideas for what seems like forever now. I realized though that it's just not something you can just go headfirst at with no prior knowledge. I really want to avoid typical first time writer errors so I figured posing a couple questions I have would help to avoid that. So first off, what is the propper way to write dialogue? I understand the use of quotations, but what about structuring? Like should dialogue between characters have it's own little section like a paragraph? Secondly, I kind of playing off the first question. What defines when you should begin and end a paragraph? Lastly, I would really like to get any advise someone with experience writing would give someone who is very new to it. Like any chronic problems you see with new writers?
  2. Partners trying to understand ABDL

    Yeah alright. As someone who doesn't just get my info from one source of the community. I disagree that such an overwhelming majority innate reaction is a negative one. Maybe a majority yes, but not such an overwhelming amount. Also, not a lot of people are going to complain on forums about their already great relationship. And not the entire community is this forum. Yes acceptance is a struggle that we deal with, but people should be learning the skills to bring this to their partner in an accepting light, and their partners that are having a hard time understanding need a source of information thag doesn't pander to their negative emotions on the topic. There is a huge amount of the community that doesn't associate with this site. Try looking on fetlife and tumblr etc. There are a lot of people out there who have had experiences simar to mine. Do your research in different facets of the community before you label yourself some high authority. Also, don't talk to me like I don't know anything about this community. I have lived this life just as much as any abdl and I have delt with the bullshit and bagage that comes with that. I learned through help from people who have had succesful relationships involving fetish in a vanilla environment, and I was able to bring that into my own life and it worked! There are many other success stories as well. It's not hard to find. Most people have problems because they don't have that knowledge. Not because their partner is an angry asshole who would flip at the drop of a hat to something outside the norm. I'm not going to respond to this any more as this obviously isn't going anywhere, just know that there is a whole huge amount of the abdl community out there that isn't on the daily diapers forum and not all of them have had the negative experiences you so "expertly" expect out of damn near every vanilla person.
  3. Partners trying to understand ABDL

    I want to know where you are getting this idea that people who support their partners or don't innately get angry and pissy for no reason are such a minority, because in my expereince, if my partner is actually loving of me, they make at least an effort to try before they go all freak out. So once again, unless you have a table of evidence I'm going to have to assume you are substituting your own reactions into the reader. Which is honestly poor writing especially for a "relationship help" book. That says it tries to promote understanding. When all it promotes is begrudgingly accepting instead of loving.
  4. Well it's official! Starting HRT!

    Well after almost 8 years of second guessing myself, I finally have an appointment with my doctor to get started on HRT (Hormone replacement therapy). I have the say the adrenaline has been going crazy ever since I scheduled the appointment and I don't really know what to expect. It's scary and exciting at the same time, and it's hard to not go back to second guessing myself, but I know for sure that I can't live my life anymore without making strides to becoming the person I want to be.
  5. Well it's official! Starting HRT!

    Thank you everyone! I'm finally actually getting started on the 7th. (Forgot they have to take your levels first) I'm super duper excited!
  6. got hrt feeling good

    Lol! All good! How are you liking pills so far? I think my doctor is putting me on patches.
  7. got hrt feeling good

    Do you mean HRT? Also, I'm super happy for you!!! I'll be right there with you on the 7th! Congrats Babyleanna!!!
  8. Can what ABDL means/represents to you change over time?

    I've had mine become more of an emotional need versus a fetish need over time. I think a lot of that was me exiting teenage years though. There's a ton of stuff that can change based on age and experience. It all depends on a myriad of factors
  9. Partners trying to understand ABDL

    I understand that male abdl and vanilla female is the majority, but there are so many women I know who are also abdl with vanilla male partners. I just don't understand why it devalues the message by making it more gender neutral on both ends. Also, another quick thing I wanted to touch on is the expectation you had for the vanilla partner to be angry and negative towards the lifestyle innately. I showed the book to my fiance and daddy and he said he never felt any of that. He told me that he was confused yes, but curious and wanted to be supportive more than anything when I came out to him. He said it better than I could, that the term of "I wouldn't believe you if you said you weren't" in refering to anger and disapointment promotes those feelings in people who are genuinely confused and already on the rope about things. I honestly feel like statements like that could hurt more than help because it pinpoints on what seem to be your own experiences so much.
  10. Baby Donald

    Probably, none the less I do have to say it hurts my heart to see people arguing politics on here. We get enough of that on every other facet of media. We all have a really cool thing in common here. Lets not let stuff like this divide us please.
  11. First mess / having roommates

    I don't mess often, but thankfully my roomie is my daddy so I don't have to worry much about it anymore, but when I was living with my old roommate I just never consciously messed my diapers if he was home. Thankfully he was rarely home, so I had a lot of time to indulge in little space, but those times where he was I would keep my diaper wearing pretty room exclusive so there was little chance of him finding out. There were times though where my EoE and digestive issues would have gotten the better of me. In times like that, a good stash of plastic bags and scented candles and sprays really helped especially stuff that doesn't just mask the smell. Also, if you do make the decision to mess while your roomie is home, I reccomend changing right away. Poop smell has a tendancy to linger, and if you even wait like 5 or 10 minutes to change, it can spread it's way around and it's hard to not notice then. Make sure you clean up thouroughly and ditch the messy diaper somewhere outside the building.
  12. Baby Donald

    I really don't want to stir the pot here, but you guys do realize that radical republicans burned hanging effigys of obama after both of his elections as well as other extreme forms of protest right? I'm not vouching for the riots happening now. I honestly find myself very middle of the line when it comes to politics. But It's the extremes on both sides of the political spectrum that are the problem. Being democrat or republican or conservative or democrat has nothing to do with your quality as a person. For instance, I've met many people who are republican that respect my rights as a trans-woman while there are democrats that critisize me for "not being trans enough". In my honest opinion, as long as you genuinely care for the sake of every american despite their gender identity, sexuality, race, upbringing, class, etc. You're good in my book.
  13. Rachel Bloom talks about the joy of pooping

    I love that she actually mentions the adult baby lifestyle in a positive light. A lot of what she said really cracked me up as well. Especially the "I wasn't potty trained until 4" bit. I totally empathize with that. I really also related to the bathroom sanctuary bit quite a lot. I totally do the same thing. I will sit on the toilet and read and check my phone for forever! my co-workers always give me guff about it.
  14. Anyone in the Spokane Area?

    It would definitely be great to meet a mommy or daddy here but If your not and still want to get together, that's great too! I have never met another ab/dl IRL. So if your looking for another AB/DL to even just meet up with and be able to relate with, I am too and would love to get together! Please send me a message if interested!
  15. Partners trying to understand ABDL

    Okay, well I coudn't resist and I had to give your book a quick read through. Here's my initial reactions, complaints, and commemorations. My Concerns and Critiques: Alright so first of all, I am extremely disapointed and admittedly a tad agitated that this book is purely written for a vanilla female consumer concerning her male abdl partner. Already off the bat I feel disjointed with this book and it's message because I am a woman abdl and my vanilla male partner is the one who would be reading this. There is literally zero positive influence your book has by doing this that it wouldn't have otherwise if you broadened the demographic. Also, I understand the bias of writing from the perspective of the partner being introduced to abdl, but I feel like your protrayal of the abdl partner as well as the vanilla partner is on a minor level of insulting. I understand that in some situations the abdl partner would be looking for extreme gratification for their urges to the point of irresponsibility and immaturity, but that is not always the case. As well as the vanilla partner innately feeling malice towards the others desires. It is just plainly not a consistant presence in all situations like this. My last issue with the writing is the "over coffee" setting and the introduction and conclusion of each chapter. The narative of a fictional conversation to me seemed extremely out of place. By all means make refrence to it, but the creation of an inconsistant reality is nearly cringe worthy at points. Even condescending on a certain level. It's like the dora the explorer disease. Where your putting the consumer in rhetorical situations. Like "do you see the map? Whats that on the map?" Is not that far off from the one sided dialouge with the reader. I understand that's kind of what the book is supposed to be trying to portray, but the weird fiction to non-fiction of these parts of the book do not go together well enough. Take for instance the chocolate as an anti-depressant part. Instead of offering the reader non-existant candy, you could have introduced the analogy like "you know what goes good with coffee? Chocolates. Especially when you are feeling depressed." Versus the mention of actually bringing the reader a fictional box as an opener. Now for the parts I really liked about your book My Commemorations and Compliments All throughout the book I really enjoyed the consistent consideration for the readers feelings. Often times literature towards understanding a lifestyle like this is focused on the lifestyle so much that it becomes a textbook. You really had a lot to keep the reader engaged and there was consistent effort to empathize with them and give them a positive direction in which to fuel their emotions. The focus on creating a relationship that works for both parties is something I really find appealing. This was definitely one part of the book I enjoyed as I feel that generally people are one way or the other on this. It's either "I can't take it! They have to stop" or "My partner has to accept and participate in all my fantasies!" So to find that you promoted working together and communicating to create a world where both parties are satisfied was a very much appreciated reprieve. I also really appreciated the actual medical and psychological facts you quoted. Especially towards the end of the book. Nothing says "this is what to expect and how you know..." more than actual scientific evidence. I feel like stuff like this is very grounding as well. It can bring a person back to the reality of things when they can be so lost in their own heads. Another thing I appreciated was that you didn't advertise this as a cure-all. That not every relationship can survive the task of meeting such abstract needs while maintaining happiness and comfort. It's a sad but true fact, and that is a reality that both parties need to realize when working through something like this. Conculsion: I found the book as a whole to be informative, empathetic and constructive in all the right ways. The method of delivery really brought it down. I definitely think it does it's job though.
  16. Partners trying to understand ABDL

    I think this is a really great idea to begin with. I haven't read it, but if I get around to it I will gladly give you my two cents. Especially as someone who's significant other is purely a vanilla partner who adapts to help me indulge in my little side. It's definitely a topic that I find intruiging. I'm always looking for material to help him understand and to help me understand his side of things as well.
  17. So many goodnites!!!

    So I recently was doing my regular restock order of diapers and figured that I would pick up some goodnites as well, so I went on amazon and ordered a package of 34 of them. I was excited since I haven't worn them since I was a teen, (and I have not really grown since then). So fast forward a week and my package has been delayed like 3 times. Eventually I get an email from amazon asking me if I want a refund or free replacement with express shipping. I decided on replacement because I was still excited about wearing goodnites again. Fast forward another couple days and I get my package of goodnites. I wore them all day enjoying being a "big girl", but when I got home, I had another package at the door. It was my delayed delivery of goodnites! Now I have so many goodnites on top of my regular case of diapers and all the bags of novelty expensive abdl brands. I can't find a place to put them all! My closet is filled to the max! I'm super excited about it, but at the same time. Where do I put the rest of them?
  18. Changing

    Honestly I rarely use baby powder, but the smell is nice and nostalgic so I will every now and then just for the aesthetic. The idea of why it's needed is that the powder creates a protective layer on the skin that keeps the moisture from soaking into the skin and causing damage (aka a rash). Unless you are wearing for extended periods though, you don't really need anything like that. And imo ointments and cremes work better than powder. For the amount, you could use as much as you want as long as it's able to cover your entire "diaper area" which isn't a whole lot once you rub it into your skin. But you can always add more to make yourself smell a lot like baby powder or for the powdery feel it gives your bum.
  19. Depressed been fighting planed parent hood for hrt for a year

    I'm really sorry to hear that I wish that there was something I could do. Is there no way to get a ride from someone? Maybe you could save up and go see the doctors over there for the initial perscription and then do the rest in town? I wish I could offer more advice. This is a tough situation...
  20. Depressed been fighting planed parent hood for hrt for a year

    I suprised that neither your doctor or therapist could give you another reccomended doctor that could give you a perscription for all your hormones. I know things are hard right now, but have you tried reaching out to the other trans people in your area and see if they can help you out? They might know of a way around all of this, and be able to help you out. Or you could start a gofundme. I wish i could offer more advice. I know how hard it is, please hang in there leanna! You can do this!
  21. Trans-discovery; little side before, or after?

    I had almost an identical experience with the OP. I always knew I was trans and little though. It was just kinda something that was always there. I knew and exolored my little side much more often than my trans side due to the fact that I was less afraid of being little than trans. But over the years of self exploration, I have noticed that I only am able to express myself fully when feeling and appearing feminine. That grew into a desire to change myself after the disturbing process that is male puberty and although I have yet to start HRT (which I will be doing later this month whoo!) I have made significant efforts to feminize and little-ize myself and my life. I do everything a normal functioning adult does, but I incorperate my little life and my gender into most aspects. Even if it's just some cute clothes and cloth training panties. I just feel better that way. It's took a long time to realize that though. It's weird how related they are, but all it comes down to is being honest with myself and my own desires. I'm just a girl who likes cute stuff and has a lot of childish tendancies, and that's okay
  22. diaper check

    My Daddy always just gives my bum a squeeze. Usually he is able to know right away just from that. He checks me often with the bum squeeze or pat technique. And will let me know when it's time for a diaper change. Often times I'm not wearing anything over my diaper either so he can get a good idea just by looking.
  23. How to start saying "I want" again?

    I've felt really similar things with my Daddy, and he and I have had numerous occasions where I end up grumpy and sad because I waited for him to innitiate little time. It never ends well. You should talk to your Daddy and let him know you want to be little more but don't want to feel like an obligation. I also find that most of the time, you are not an obligation and there is more at work here such as him forgetting or feeling like maybe you changed your mind because you didn't innitiate it. No matter what, talking about these feelings is the healthy thing to do and will help you two better understand each others feelings.
  24. So this a question I have been meaning to ask to this section of the board for a little while now. To jump straight to the point, I have been questioning the safety of using laxatives and fiber and all that stuff. I notice that every once in a while I make an effort to go after that whole desperate feeling or just trying to feel more babyish by using these things. I get really dizzy and light headed and have muscle cramps all over my lower torso. (And just a warning here if this is a little too graphic) I sometimes even bleed when I mess which honestly is not a hugely abnormal thing for me due to a disorder I have. But these symptoms can sometimes last up to 24 hours. I was just wondering if anyone else has had this problem and maybe has some suggestions on how to avoid this when using these things. I've strongly considered completely stopping for good but maybe there might be a way around this.