Snugglebear_69

One partner should not have to bend over backwards or indulge the other just to get their physical needs met. The post above feels like "you need to please him so he'll please you" and that is, in my opinion at least, a horrible way to approach a relationship. The last paragraph makes me cringe so hard . . . It just comes across more as a business transaction or almost emotional blackmail. Like if she won't do what he wants (indulge him) then he gets to just turn her away . . . To the OP, consider an adult to adult relationship meta talk. It sounds like there's far more going on here than simply sexual indulgence.

I've been open about being a little and having a boyfriend who is also my Daddy and never been treated like a sub class because I won't let anyone treat me that way. I'm clear and confident in who I am and keep my little side to those who have a legitimate reason to know. Those around me accept the factual and informative way I communicate and I've had multiple partners and zero issues. Maybe it's just in how it's shared?

I'm open around tge people in my life who need or deserve to know. Other folks I don't bother them and they don't bother me.

Had so much with my Wife and Boyfriend/ Daddy it's hard to remember the first time. Honestly I'd rather remember the last time and think a day ahead about the next time because it usually shows up faster than I think, horny Daddy what can I say.

It honestly isn't something that I think about one way or the other. My Daddy likes when He can hear my diaper crinkle but it's not something He's described as comforting.

I enjoy them but in terms of importance they are just an item that if I need to do without I can fairly easily. Like a lot of little accessories they help me relax but what is more important is my Wife and Daddy. Their unconditional love means I can wear diapers when I want so it just becomes another option in my life. On a scale of one to ten they are probably like a 3.

There is sooooo much DL porn out there that doesn't have AB play. My Daddy and I constantly share videos with each other.

Often they are drawing something outside of their comfort zone so they charge as a way if compensating for that discomfort. As an artist they don't have to draw what they don't want, they don't owe anyone anything. Again, babyfur art is a luxury, if people don't like the price then don't pay it. I have a hard time classifying the examples as gouging because it implies some form of right to access which isn't how luxuries work.

It's a luxury. Nobody is going to die if they don't go to a professional Domme or a diaper spa. I don't see it as them taking advantage of anything. If people don't like the prices It's simple, don't go. If they were charging high prices for a medicine or essential service that would be different but it's not, it's a luxury. Personally I'd never spend that money as I'd rather have my Wife or Daddy baby me but for people who don't have a partner they may be willing to pay it and that's their choice. If the market supports high prices for luxuries, which it does, then that's what they cost.

I started more as an AB the went more DL when I met my Wife then finally more AB again with my Daddy.

Well now, that's something only for my Daddy and I isn't it 😉

I'm so glad I have my Daddy to set the rules, add stars to the star chart He made me and then to set up the Daddy store 💗💗 pretty sure I wouldn't be successful at following rules I set for myself as I wouldn't have the same incentive that I have to please my Daddy 💕💕

They are a nice to have for me but certainly not a priority. We have enough of an income that we've never really had to think about it. We just get more as we need them.

I always cringe when I see people being advised to lie to their spouse or partner. How would people feel if their spouse lied to them. Lying to your spouse and pretending it is a medical issue seems one heck of a way to destroy trust and the relationship. Each to their own but for anyone reading and seeking advice try thinking about your partner and their feelings before lying to them to indulge your own desire at their expense.

Ah, totally fair, I thought perhaps my post came across as needling you or other folks and it certainly wasn't intended that way. I appreciate the clarification and do see where I oversimplified by just using the term settling without any context as to what I meant. I always appreciate your approach to posting as you do so openly versus in a way that criticizes.

In terms of "counting blessings", I respectfully will have to disagree. My Wife and my Boyfriend/Daddy participate in terms of a Cgl relationship. Why, because I was clear with myself that is important to me. I did not want to be with someone who indulges or accommodates me, I wanted a partner who participates. Are there things where I don't have a strong position on participation, yep, but this isn't one of those things. Just as I would never ask my partners to thank me for participating in something they enjoy I wont do so either. Are there things where I may not be necessarily excited in participating with my partners, sure, they like anime and I don't BUT they are also clear they don't really care if I participate or not. In terms of settling, I don't mean people who have reached a point where they and a partner have reached a point both accept and are comfortable with in terms of moving forward. What I do mean are the folks who are looking for ways to trick, pressure, selfishly persuade or convince, etc , a partner into doing more than that partner is willing to or wants to. If you and your partner are fine with an "overlook" approach and that works for you the congrats. I do find it interesting when people quickly jump to prove they haven't settled though when nothing was directed at a particular source. Circumstances change and often we change with them, that's life and can lead to compromise. If someone is unhappy and trying to change or push their partner to do more than they are willing, we'll that sounds a lot like settling. Settling comes about when someone isn't happy with their circumstances and the does nothing to change those circumstances but chooses instead to just complain about hard done by they are, at least in my view.

You may have better luck posting in the role play forum.

I used to think I might want a partner or partners who also like wearing diapers but after playing a bit with switching and having partners wear a diaper during sex realized it is definitely not something I want personally. I wanted to find, and have found, someone who is a Caregiver at heart. I think folks need to be very honest with themselves about what they want and then pursue it instead if settling which a lot of folks seem to do.

I'm pretty close to a nudist anyways so have zero issues or inhibitions being naked in front of my Wife or my Boyfriend. Heck, I'd say I actually like being naked in front of them as it usually leads to fun intimate times.

I love heading out to walk the dog, snow shoe, hit Winterlude and much more. Cold weather just means a whole different set of activities to 3njoy outside with my Wife and my Boyfriend. I'm not letting a little cold air force me inside lol.

As someone who is genderfluid I am always amazed at how many people genuinely want a genderfluid spouse or partner. My Daddy gets a lot of folks asking Him how He found a genderfluid partner and how to find someone who is genderfluid. I originally thought a lot of folks may have been fetishisizing it but nope, genuine interest in finding a genderfluid partner to love.

There are tons of folks that have found a Caregiver/little relationship. Personally I prefer having my Daddy but my Wife will baby me as well. I think often once people find their partner they're more invested in living their relationship versus posting about it.

It just means to each their own.

In what context? To exchange ideas? Meet people? Find resources? For fun? Depending on the context my answer is very different. For example for findings resources they're great. For meeting people I much prefer in person to online.

You do you.