Dill_Pickle

Well, be glad you have all your nerves, and don't absolutely need your diapers constantly on a utilitarian basis! I wouldn't worry about the cost of a few good diapers (or even plastic pants) if that gives you the necessary relaxation to use them without getting out of bed because you are confident they won't leak.

Yeah, let's hear some more...the ones I have stretch me pretty hard, and the tunnels seem small, so second question is how to make things soft enough to make them work.

Yes, you can toilet train as an adult.

Among DLs, particularly, there's a famous "Binge/Purge" cycle...where once whatever the underlying need is satisfied, all kinds of negative feelings (including embarrassment, self-disgust, etc) about the activities come to the surface.

I've had X-ray contrast dye make my prostate area feel really warm before.

http://www.theguardian.com/culture/2016/jan/28/the-festival-of-really-good-sex-introducing-whole-new-schools-of-thought This mainstream article gets about halfway through when it has a page about "daddy" relationships.

I noticed this curiosity while browsing the "incontinence desires" forum:

You are a bit confusing here.

Rachael: Many SCI (Spinal Cord Injury) people do what's known as a "bowel program", in which they set themselves up for a bowel movement when they awaken in the morning, often with a "magic bullet" suppository and sometimes with perineal massage.

You aren't the first person to report that result...letting your body get rid of whatever bothers it does seem to improve the health.

Let's throw another fly into the ointment of trying to define "incontinence" in the first place: What about "functional incontinence", where you know you have to go, but simply can't reach a bathroom in time, maybe because you the bathroom is too far a way or you don't move very quickly anymore? There are, as noted, various fairly well accepted adjectives to narrow down just what is meant by "incontinence"...such as urge incontinence or overflow incontinence.

Eir, Too bad Brian can't tell us of his progress anymore. Tell me a bit more about this training if you would...my PT has me working on training my pelvic floor muscles.

benzos are something for *Occasional* use...i.e. flareup days only. As to the cath, you *can* definitely hurt or irriatate or infect yourself, and you want to only do it when you *have* to...i.e. if you are spazzed out.

Not much to add, but... I think a week or two of not going anywhere except in diapers will make a big difference in helping get "the switch" set up.

I assume you have plenty of warning that a flareup is starting, then, which makes being prepared easier.

umm... "pain is all in your head"...but not in the way you thought I meant it when you first read it. You have a chronic pain problem, lots has been learned in the past decade, and Lorimer Moseley is the guy whose work you want to know.

Umm, big, west coast cities in the US (Silicon Valley, Seattle, Portland that I know of ) are stupid expensive compared to the more affordable east coast (as long as Manhattan or Washington DC area isn't your abode).

Indeed, they *do* talk about types of incontinence, which depends on the pattern and what part of you isn't working properly.

OP, congratulations.

(grin!) What??? You people have never heard of a smorgasboard???? /me hands everyone the shrink ray, it works best if you run around the block before using it nightly!

My wife knows I like diapers...but she doesn't like diapers, she's had some really bad personal experiences with them...and I had a crazy ex who made me feel really unsafe sharing my likings -- even though diapers helped me get through that rather rough emotional patch in my life. What I would say of me coming to, for example DailyDi is that I am doing it after a decade for largely social support reasons.

Kellysbaby Wow, and ouch....

Umm, not *INSIDE* a building!

That's an old teenager's trick, at least according to the urban legends from when I was growing up....except that it was a paper bag with dog poop in it that was set on fire on a random person's porch, so they would stomp in the poop!