Bettypooh

Similar when I'm in the mood for it- I listen to almost everything music. Ronnie James Dio, Glen Danzig, Scorpions, and the earliest Megadeth too. A bit of it has returned with my discovery of Rammstein, Eisbrecher, and a few other "New German Hard" bands which started with my hearing KMFDM and liking it Can't find a lot to like between these times- a few songs were great but most I can do without. Bettypooh

I'm so sorry for your loss. It was one day short of a year ago that I watched my Mom take her last breath as I was alone with her. It hurts and I'm still not over it- maybe I never quite will be. May peace be with you Bettypooh

One of the most profound experiences in my very wild and diverse life was watching Top Fuelers and Funny Cars at the starting line less than 50 feet away. Perhaps watching a rocket launch would be similar but you're not going to be that close and able to see the people involved. I don't keep up with it anymore but I still read about it sometimes. I got interested in it as a kid when they smoked the tires for the full 1/4 mile in wild looking cars of every imaginable variety. Back then a small-timer local guy could have a real chance to win an event, not so much of that anymore. I've seen about every non-flying type of racing and to me none is more exciting than this. Bettypooh

As long as the terms of an offer are clearly stated and not hidden, it's up to you to read them before accepting them. There's nothing illegal about it, but some of this borders on being immoral IMHO. As Bruce Williams often said, you are the one most capable of destroying yourself and all it takes is your signature. So I never sign anything or click on "I accept" until I read everything related to it and understand it completely. I'm sure you legally agreed to the deal even if you weren't aware of it which is why the bankers won't erase the charge for you like they would if it were a scam. Just learn from this, pay it off, and don't make the mistake again. I try to see everyone in this world as a potential friend, but in business and financial matters I see them all as my potential enemy who want to get all they can from me without giving me an equal return. By business I mean anything with an "accept" button or which requires my signature or implicit agreement. Trust but verify before acting- honest people won't mind you doing that. Bettypooh

The gentlest dog I ever knew was a full-blooded pit bull. And so was the second dog I've ever feared in my whole life. All based partly on how they were raised, partly on bloodlines, and partly the general nature of the breed. My dog is part pit and a real sweetheart but when she breaks bad (only when provoked) her "pit" side emerges and that's not her fault, nor do I see that as a problem I don't have indoor dogs and it's always been a problem finding houses to rent for us. Apartments sometimes allow indoor pets but with high special deposits and strict rules about outdoors behavior such as "always leashed and held by a responsible adult". Back when I worked on apartments I met more than a few people who got kicked out because someone lied about their pets behavior, as well as all manner of other things. Save for a small privately and locally owned community where you can deal directly with the owner it's not a good situation to be in, and I will not live in such a place at all dog or not. I do have a friend who runs a kennel and I can put my dogs up there when I need to so maybe if you're really stuck you can get a friend to take care of yours temporarily. Otherwise be prepared for a lot of extra time and work in finding a place where you both can live. Bettypooh

Pics in the gallery are a members-only feature, but as you well know anyone can join as a member here except those we've banned, and even that isn't a sure process. There's really no place online that's absolutely secure or even reasonably secure against those who dedicate themselves to finding the cracks and getting in. If you can't risk the world seeing it, don't put it online or even store it in a device that will ever go online. Bettypooh

For an emergency till-you-get-home fix duct tape will work if they're clean and dry where you place it; do matching strips inside and out pressed in tightly. Otherwise I've found nothing which worked decently. I've tried every kind of glue; among those a special glue made for vinyl window repair and ShoeGoo were about the best, lasting 1-2 days. I've tried various ways of heat-sealing; none of the devices really worked except by accident- all either had too little heat or melted the plastic when you moved too slowly. I didn't try a women's hair-straightening iron but I've heard of others using one successfully on similar plastic items. The case with us is either poor quality, overstress, or aging of the vinyl. With the first somewhere else will let go soon. With the second you're making them smaller and raising the stress. With the third, the plasticizers in the material are gone and there's nothing you can do to renew them as it's a one-time-only process with heat in making the plastic. So just get more. There's nothing you can do to repair them. If you rely on them have some back-up on hand. Bettypooh

With most hotels you can get a mini-fridge placed in the room for free if you have meds that require refrigeration simply by asking for it when you register. They might ask to see the prescription or the label on the Meds (usually they don't). This is part of the ADA accommodations required in the US by Federal law, but only if they have those available. Most do because they 'rent' them out for additional income to those simply wanting a fridge for personal use Bettypooh

The self-employed rarely get a refund, the opposite is the usual. My accountant is rabid about her business, keeping up to the minute on every rule, and she directs me on how to operate so that I usually balance out or very close to that. This year I was warned that I'd be paying and that it might be a considerable amount because of new rules and that they hadn't been clearly delineated at that point. It wasn't as bad as I expected but I did have to pay, so no refund. And since the onset of Obamacare I can no longer deduct medical expenses like I used to, so the last few years haven't been easy at tax-time. Once I get on Medicare in a few years I'll have more ability to recover my diapering expenses as I'll keep working within the limits to allow that to happen. Hopefully I'll get Medicare to cover some of the costs too, but normally that doesn't often happen so I don't really expect it but I'm going to try anyway. Bettypooh

Given enough "input" and time you can soak any diaper from front to back completely, but by then it may be leaking profusely. Or not at all. If you want that feeling then laying on your back will tend to get the back wetter faster but the front may have to reach it's capacity first- that varies quite a lot. I do think you'll never reach advertised capacity simply because of the testing methods being use which do not emulate wearing, nor do they differentiate between active/inactive or allow for different postures like sitting/standing/laying. So see and use those capcity numbers as a general reference or comparative factor only because YMMV, and probably will! Bettypooh

On the word "lifestyle" it is neither clearly defined nor is it denigrating though some intend it that way. Long ago I was at an ABATE meeting where the discussion turned toward the fact the Bikers were also living an "Alternative Lifestyle" and that we should use that term to show our tolerance of others and that there are plenty of alternative lifestyles like hunters, fishermen, mountain climbers, racing fans, computer nerds and so on- all who tend to align with certain traits of others like themselves based on their predisposition toward that thing. Yet each was still an individual and just being a Biker didn't mean we were grungy mean evil and nasty drunks and drug addicts. In fact few of us were like that. So our embracing the term "Alternative Lifestyle" and showing we weren't that way with our charity assistance events would help defuse the negative image so many had of us. It was a lifestyle indeed, but not necessarily bad- only different So here I'm a "DL" even though that term often implies a sexual aspect to it which I lack. Among us I embrace the term "DL" and it's lifestyle. Nothing wrong with "AB" or "IC' or even non-wearing. And each of those terms will bring us a mental picture of how we view the respective "Lifestyles" yet we all know that like me there are exceptions, and that in the end it's hard to precisely define any of us except as individuals who share a common interest. Individual "Lifestyles" but also with a thread running throughout all the individuals which brings us together that somewhat gives us all a "Lifestyle" in general terms I ran into the same thing with being TG. No, I'm not a "Drag Queen" or "Crossdresser" nor does it define my sexuality. and doesn't indicate me being "Transsexual" either. But I'm definitely TG and I lived that "Lifestyle" though mine was different from those others.It seemed I was constantly having to explain that to others but I didn't mind because it opened their minds and it defused their ability to use the term disparagingly with me So rather that letting their words create something negative in you, just turn it into a positive for there are many like you and in fact almost every "Lifestyle" is an "Alternative" one, even theirs! Bettypooh

When they gave me one at the hospital, the nurse asked me if I's had one before (no). She told me that at the very first sign of needing to go I'd better get to the toilet as fast as possible, and that it might be best to just go sit there immediately afterward if I was comfortable sitting. I was somewhat zoned out from painkillers so I can't say for sure but it seemed like 2-3 minutes later I felt a slight urge, got out of bed, and barely made it to sitting when it all came out in one huge blast. Yep, fast and unstoppable Bettypooh

I'm not sure it's either necessary or prudent to tell anyone outside of intimate relationships, but it is vital that you be prepared to deal with discovery which can happen in numerous ways. Those who aren't ready to handle this have problems when it happens. You don't need to exude self-confidence or make up some big story. It will probably feel a little embarrassing but so what? If you plan for the event you'll be in control of where the conversation ends and of what is disclosed That leaves you to needing to say only that you need them and you're OK medically otherwise which is true- you need them emotionally which is a legitimate need. Or if you choose to you can carry it further but you don't have to. One of my favorite sayings comes from Teddy Roosevelt: Prepare for problems. You can't have problems if you're prepared for them Bettypooh

This and more. If you try to be discreet, you generally won't be noticed. But eventually someone IS going to notice and there is no avoiding that when you're 24/7 and leading a normal lifestyle. I came out a. s TG before I got into wearing diapers, and discovered that most of the important people in my life were totally OK with it, and that is a very visible difference, nor something you can hide at all. I thought about how I'd handle a diaper-discovery ahead of time, made a plan tuned to each individual and every setting I could imagine it happening in, then considered myself ready to deal with it. I'm almost disappointed that well past 5 years later I haven't had to explain anything to anyone even once And I'm positive that at least 5 people in my workplaces and a few of my friends know. Some of the family may know too, but they also know I had huge bladder control issues when I was young so they would assume it's something similar now in my older years. The fact is that most people do not want to discuss your diapers- it's not an appealing subject of conversation to them. They'd rather not think about it so let them do it that way Now this may seem to be unrelated but it isn't. Much of what you may experience with friends will depend on what kind of friends you have and keep. True friends simply care deeply about you, and they're not going to do something which might make you uncomfortable or which might hurt you. There are no other kinds of friends- all the rest are just people you know who are not your friends If you've filled your life with that kind of person you're probably going to pay the price for your mistake when one of them makes the discovery. They don't really care about you which you'll find out in time anyway even if you don't proceed with wearing. This is the main reason I've had success where many haven't. No limits with my friends, no close relationships with any who are not my friend, and only friends matter Fcku the rest. With my friends, it will be enough for me to say "I need to wear them now". There will be a concern voiced about my health, to which I'll say "It's nothing to worry about, just nerve problems and I'm not comfortable discussing this". Bingo- problem permanently solved Family will, be similar but they will also get: "I've been to the Doctors and there's nothing to worry about. I'm fine other than needing to wear protection now". So no problem other than those you make of it. And it's all honest, for my emotional needs are true needs to, and I do honestly need to wear diapers so I'm not lying to anyone. When you consider how many incontinent adults there are which neither you or anyone you know has discovered, there's almost no chance for it to happen to you regards the general public. You're attitude covers that; if someone asks "Are you wearing diapers?" just say "Oh, am I leaking again?" That shows them that you're not going to let them have a negative effect on you- they're wasting their time if they're trying to have fun at your expense and now anyone else privy to the words will be looking at them, not you, thinking "What an asshole" Subversion is a very good technique and very effective too Wearing 24/7 has a learning curve involved, but can be successfully done with few or no problems beyond the logistics. On that, in time you'll learn ways to avoid changes in places where you don't want that and when to change before starting out on things where you'd otherwise need to change mid-way. You'll develop a method to have a change readily available should you need it (which you will because diapers can get damaged or be defective and leak unexpectedly) and you'll learn how to work with the situation to change most discreetly. Once you experience that you'll have few of no problems you'll build the confidence to not let it be a problem. Wearing diapers is an issue only if you make or allow it to be that. Bettypooh

Considering how that babies wear diapers constantly and their bodies are more sensitive to chemicals etc, if there were any substantial health risks involved with disposable diapers I think we'd have heard of it long ago. Some people do have allergies and skin sensitivities true, but those are the few, and sometimes a different brand solves the problem. Besides, when you have to wear diapers there's not much else but to accept any risks involved with it. Bettypooh

Well I'd say there's no doubt that 24/7 is meant for you too The instant concern when not diapered, the reflexive clinching to not dribble, and the discomfort of retaining urine have occurred so quickly and so strongly that there can be hardly any other explanation. Bedwetting can be a separate process, as it is with me, or integral- that varies from person to person. Just use the same approach of not actively trying to do anything and it will settle out on it's own Also good to hear the domestic bliss is returning, but remember to not take it for granted and to repay kindnesses equally Often we can get lost in ourselves and forget that what out partners feel is equally important to the relationship. Unless flooded or used beyond capacity, premium diapers should not leak. I've found that how the diaper fits versus out individual body shape makes a world of difference. Two approaches may help you here; first is to try all the different diapers to see if that will solve the issue. Most can be had as samples- expensive per diaper but cheaper than a bag of diapers you can't use The next approach is fitting. Sometimes to order of how you fasten tapes can matter; for me bottoms first gives a better fit but others do tops first. Aiming the tapes matters too; some go straight across, others point them upward or downward. And they need to be tight at the legs which some diapers stretch some in the wearing so those have to start out extra-tight. Pay strict attention to getting a good leg fit- it's the most important aspect in avoiding leaks. I also find all diapers are too long for me, so to get the right fit I fold the excess plastic inside down to the padding, which helps with support when it gets heavy. You also mention not perceiving how wet you are. What I've found is that different diapers absorb in a different pattern. With most, the best indicator of nearing full capacity is when wetness rises in back, as most diapers absorb fully in front first. Feeling where the wetness is will be a more reliable indicator vs guessing at the weight which you can only estimate And each diaper is different with this so you have to learn the signs with each one. I had several leaks when I switched from Tena to Molis until I learned that when the Molis feel wet high in the back, there's nothing left It's something I have to remember to consciously check on since I pay no attention to my diapering otherwise. All of life is something of an experiment where we try different things to see how it goes. It would be too boring to have otherwise! Bettypooh

This exactly Companies like Abena, Molicare, and Tena know about us, but they do not market to us, nor do they design their products for the way we use them. If you want a babyish or thick diaper, those are better sourced from manufacturers who have ABDL's as their primary market focus. The incontinent generally change more often and value discretion more, so product changes we might not like are probably aimed for adding to the appeal for the incontinent. Bettypooh

It's about being considerate of others, and with many of those who post here about their non-chalance in this situation I see other things which lead me to believe that they are inconsiderate on a much larger scale. That's not good, but until Karma bites them back they often do not learn the value of being considerate of others. I feel no need to excessively hide my diapering, but I'm not going to 'push' it onto anyone else. I'm certainly not going to expose them to what is essentially hazardous medical waste regards used diapers. I try to cover the used ones in the trash if I can't bag them separately so that they can just handle the liner and not my diapers. But if they snoop (another bad personal characteristic) they're going to find my clean diapers and I'm not going to go to great lengths to hide them. And I always tip, for these people go through a lot to get their minimum-wage pay and I respect that. Bettypooh

Lang has (or had) a grainy side and a smooth side. They are rather thick, and somewhat noisy. The biggest difference to Comco is that they aren't quite as full-cut, and they have forward-facing leg openings. I'm not sure why they aren't more popular- probably because for the longest time about the only source was LE and they didn't "push" the product. Back when I got mine they were a good value and quality-made with the forward-facing leg openings being otherwise hard to find. Bettypooh

"Surprises" go with the turf which is why I always recommend over-protection when a surprise can have a large negative effect on life. I've come to enjoy most of the surprises I get from wearing and wetting, but only to a point. Catastrophic failures suck, and moreso if you have no means of mitigating them. Like when my Moli completely disintegrated at work when I was riding with someone else and couldn't have a spare change along I still can't find any fun or humor in that event. But most of the time I do find something pleasant because I look for that. For instance a minor leak reaffirms that my desired lack of control is present, and that I am not much ashamed of myself and who I am A major leak at the wrong place and time is altogether different- I DO want to avoid those. Nothing in life is 100% guaranteed or 100% effective, so it's better to expect the occasional surprise so that you can better deal with them because they are going to happen now and again, especially with diapers! Bettypooh

Mine are older, but are really good both in fit and protection. Of two, one pair has begun ripping at a seam but got lots of use before that. You'll like yours I'm sure

You're on the right path now Life is full of glitches so don't let yourself get bummed out over them. Persist toward your goals and you'll reach them; you can do anything that's physically possible to do as long as you keep pushing forward. The world looks brighter when you have an "I can do this" mindset, and focusing on that helps make getting past the glitches easier Bettypooh

Two things- This forum is restricted to use by LGBTQ persons and their supporters ONLY. Even though this thread deals with politics, it is NOT for politics in general, only that which directly applies to the persons who are permitted use of this forum. Bettypooh

A lot of things we deal with in life are as much how we view them as it is their real affects on us. I'm in the worst financial situation I've been in in decades, and this time round with very little means of improving this. Right now if I had a windfall of $1500 I would darn near feel rich and could get things set up to where the next few months would ensure a decent year ahead. So yeah, seen this way it's a lot of money. But over a whole year's time it's just $4.11 a day which I could probably manage to come up with at least half of that without hurting severely for the effort. As it happens I owe that exact amount to my sister who kindly loaned it to me to get my car fixed. Somehow I'm going to repay her though it's not going to be all that easy. Which it would have been a few years ago. So as soon as I can scrounge the few bucks I need for parts to (hopefully) make my second car run I'm going to sell it. If I can sell it running it will pay more than scrap prices so it's my best approach. I'm also going to be selling some other stuff I've acquired over time that isn't needed by me anymore. Craigslist will help me there even if that won't get me top price. I'd like to keep a lot of that stuff but I simply can't now, and I can live without it. I'll soon be changing my phone plan to a cheaper one. I've already switched to my cheapest possible option for the diapers I need even though I hate doing that. I've gone to eating as cheaply as I can which wasn't too far from where I already was but every cent I save helps immensely. It isn't easy nor does it make me happy but it's necessary and I can live through it which is all that matters to me. Unlike you, there's no happy ending possible to my story but you've got a chance for a happy future if you can get past this so you should change how you look at it and see it as a one-time temporary setback which you can get through at just $4.11 a day. Which isn't much if you look at it that way. Bettypooh

If you desire something strongly enough you can find a way to fulfill your desire. An ex-member here found a doctor to administer botox and more but they had to go through a few doctors to find one who would do these things. For them, the effects they wanted were incomplete and short-lived which was probably because the intended muscle is normally very strong and the maximum 'dose' limited. Though botox has become popular the jury is still out regards long-term effects and there are well-documented cases where things went badly wrong with it's use, so IMHO it's best to avoid it if you can. In doing many things in life, there are often 'shortcuts' you can take to reach your goals quicker or more easily, however there are always drawbacks in doing things that way.Always better to go through a whole process step-by-step so that you miss nothing along the way. So before you seek direct medical intervention you should try everything else first. Just smarter that way! Bettypooh