For discussion's sake, let's say that you had to choose between a life that included diapers (say with a wife who would be ok with diapers and whatever you wanted to do with them, but not baby you in any way and who wouldn't let anyone else baby you) or that included babying except for diapers (say with a wife who'd be happy to baby you in every other way, but swore by "elimination communication" or for some other reason would never accept recreational diaper use, even in secret).