FretaBWet

I formerly belonged to a heterosexual crossdresser's club in the late 80's. I had only been cross dressing in my own home and had never gone outside dressed en fem. The club threw parties for special occasions and hosted dinner out at public restaurants in the area. The members represented a wide diversity of age, income and careers. I found that I was far less passable at 38 years old than most of the members in their 50's and up. When you really consider it, young people get looked at more often and more closely by young people of both genders. Boys are looking for sexual reasons, girls are looking closely to see what you're wearing, how your wearing it your hair, nails, really everything about you. Not a lot of attention is paid to old ladies, everyone with an interest is looking at younger pretty women. I'm 71 and I gave up wearing any makeup at all unless I'm going out for a special occasion and I pass okay visually. The real secret to passing at all is confidence. Without this you are going to draw so much attention that everybody will see every flaw in your presentation. Hugs, Freta

I just finished your latest post above and it got me to thinking that Rearz should recruit you to write advertising copy for them. I just purchased a bag of Rearz Mermaid Tails in XL for my wife @LilRugrat and I ordered a 2 piece sample pack of the bedry night in large for me. Your descriptions make me want to pee myself in anticipation. Hugs, Freta

I have my fasting bloodwork this morning in preparation for my yearly physical with my primary physician. I told my doctor about all my urinary history and issues so it's documented on my records here. I've told him I wear protection and I'm not interested in pursuing any intervention, I've tried meds and had surgical intervention when I was around 11 that failed. What I haven't done is disrobed revealing my diaper as I'm really healthy and really there's nothing to check with my pants off, until this Friday. Like you, I have been having unauthorized releases from the back door which I consider a huge problem. He is going to have to check my backside so he's probably going to see my diaper. I find not having a choice makes things easier sometimes. Hugs, Freta

You're forgetting that seniority rules. The adult gets the bathroom and those in diapers can use other means or the guest bath lol Hugs Freta

My first ABDL diaper was Bambino Classicos around 2007. Up until that point I'd been buying Depends at the pharmacy and plastic pants from the Carolyns Kids catalog. I could easily fit into a 21×40 baby diaper and use baby diapers as soakers folded into the center.

I wouldn't change how many diapers I keep on hand because I only wear one at a time and only wear 2 per day and cloth diapers at night which I wouldn't change. What I would change is I'd buy lots of different ABDL diapers (limited to only plastic backed) by the bag so I have lots of variety in my daily underwear choice. Hugs, Freta

XP Medical used to be my go to supplier when I was in Confidry 24/7s but toward the end the service began to deteriorate so I moved to LL Medico now. Hugs, Freta

I can sympathize with your burden @oznl . We live in a rural location without trash pickup which I was always happy about because we bag, deliver and unload our trash bags ourselves onto a concrete floor at the dump. From there the trash is pushed into a narrow pit with a large excavator and then pushed into a semi trailer for the trip to wherever they take it. The county just put in a truck scale and wired it directly into a computer. We have to drive across the scale going in or out and the computer tallies the net weight of your trash. Our first trip in we drove over the scale, dumped 3 bags of trash and weighed again. The 3 bags weighed close to 100 pounds. We stopped in at the office because we're friendly with the person that work there. She was stunned our bags weighed that much. So now there is a spotlight on us and I'm sure it's going to get worse. I'm starting to feel anxious about going to the dump and I don't like it. Hugs, Freta

I just finished reading this story out loud to my wife Lilrugrat while she drives us home from St. Louis. I read it with voices like I was reading to pre-schoolers. Thanks for writing this, we enjoyed it. Hugs, Freta

My wife and I just went up in The Gateway Arch National Park in St Louis Missouri U.S.A. it's the tallest structure in the state. So nice to be diapered and and relaxed. Hugs, Freta

I've gone to the ER twice in an ambulance, both times in a wet Betterdry. I wasn't embarrassed but if I'd been wearing a full ABDL diaper I would have been mortified. I know they are medical professionals and seeing someone in an adult diaper doesn't phase them. Hugs, Freta

@Little Sherri I wear cloth diapers at night except in rare instances like last night. I did not want to leave used cloth diapers at home and there wouldn't be time to wash them. I wear Betterdrys every day. I buy a case of 60 mediums from LL Medico for $105 with free shipping. I wear 2 per day and a cloth diaper at night so $1.75 per diaper twice a day so $3.50 per day. I also gain flexibility because if I'm up earlier I can choose to marinate in cloth or clean and change into my morning diaper. I usually change between 2 to 4 pm but I can change earlier if need be and wear the afternoon/evening diaper longer. I never worry about leaks because I don't push the diaper near the limit so leaks happen infrequently. I bought the case of Crinkles (the pink ones of course) because they are Betterdrys with a printed backsheet and only cost an extra $5 on a case. I won't wear them out but I'll wear them all the time at home. Hugs, Freta

So we left home this morning around 9 to make a trip to spend Tday with relatives in Missouri. I had ordered a case of Crinkles even though I just opened the case of Betterdrys I just bought. A case lasts me 8 weeks or so but with all the holidays coming I thought shipping will be a mess so I ordered more. Turns out I got a notification from FedEx that they are being delivered today! They usually leave them on the steps outside the house. We won't be home until Friday evening and it's going to rain! The first part of the drive we spent contacting them to have my diapers left inside the front entryway rather than outside on the steps. I had visions of the rain soaking through the carton and into plastic packaging. I wondered if the plastic packaging is airtight and waterproof. I could picture the disaster on my steps as the diapers soaked up the water and exploded the packaging and carton as they expanded. I think we'll be okay as our front entryway is enclosed so it should be okay. To make things even more precarious, we are bringing a relative and his girlfriend home with us for a few days. I am comfortable with them seeing my case of diapers in the entryway but not so much with 60 diapers exploded across our front walkway. Only time will tell. Hugs, Freta

Hi Zeroa, if you are searching out information on becoming incontinent this is the right place to be. If you haven't posted in the Newbie Nursery you should post there to introduce yourself. Good luck on whatever diaper journey you decide to embark on. Hugs, Freta

I have one with Minnie Mouse on the front, one with Princess Arielle and one with a kitty theme. I love the overalls. If I had any skill I would use a seam splitter on the inside leg seams and put snaps up the legs and crotch. I know I had posted pics of the nighties somewhere in a sissy room thread Hugs, Freta

If you're not too big you can find childish clothing at Walmart. I'm 5'10 195 lbs. and I find clothes in the junior girls department. I have a pair of purple corduroy overalls we found there and 3 nightgowns that are the perfect length to let my diaper show a little. Hugs, Freta

You've said before you sleep with a pacifier because your wife can't sleep with you clicking your teeth. I was wondering why your sleeping with it when you're away and sleeping alone? Have you tried to sleep without it? I like to sleep with mine but I'm wondering if it could become a needed aid rather than an indulgence. Hugs, Freta

@Mary Moon I know this is pointing out the obvious but this is simply a work a work of fiction not a philosophy forum. I would also ask why you are reading a story you find so distasteful? This story is 15 chapters so far and you're still reading it. Maybe masochism is one of your kinks? The reason many authors use keywords or a quick synopsis is so that readers can skip stories that may trigger them or is a turn off. The stories here are as varied as the authors and there should be some that you will find enjoyable. Hugs, Freta

The wife and I are in a bowling league. I wear long tee shirts not tucked in because I wear full time and I try not to advertise I'm wearing an M10 betterdry under my jeans. No one has ever asked me if I'm wearing and my shirts are long enough to cover my waistband even when putting on my shoes. Even if someone noticed it or questioned it I wouldn't get upset about it. My response to it would depend on what was stated or asked. Hugs, Freta

24/7, I wear out every time I leave the house because to not be diapered when out would invite disaster and I've had disaster so I know. I started wearing diapers out in public in the early 1980's and I have never had anyone bring it up even once. I've never been asked about it by a stranger ever. My wife and I belong to a bowling league and I'm diapered in a betterdry M10 every week. Think about everyone behind me watching as I walk, bend and roll the ball in jeans with a diaper. Nobody has ever said a word and I know the padding shows some but it doesn't matter. It doesn't matter to me and it doesn't matter to anyone else either. Hugs, Freta

I get the scanner every time. I do my best to go through dry but I still get flagged leading to the spread legs and pat down. I have been offered a private room for the screening but I thought that I would end up with my privates on display so lots of witnesses has to be the lesser of two evils. I completely feel your pain and I'm sure it sucked in the moment but I think a couple inches of the waistband being viwed might be preferable to having to drop drawers in a private screening room. Hugs, Freta

Before I started 24/7 I was using incontinence panties. They have a small built in cotton pad in the crotch with a waterproof lining between the pad and the outside fabric of the panty. I have urge incontinence and this offered some protection if I leaked a little. As for where the pad is in the crotch rather than in front, when properly tucked, any leakage ended up in the pad not the sheer nylon front of the panties. Tucking also helps with urgency because it kinks the urethra making it more difficult for anything to leak. Hugs, Freta

I'd like to start out by saying that being a full time diaper wearer isn't as easy as it seems. I know it sounds easy, just put on a diaper and replace after using, but there's a lot more to it than that. I decided to post this here, rather than the medical or lifestyles sections since most of the knowledge I've acquired I owe to people in this section. I'm an avid fan of @Little Sherri and the beyond excellent writing of his journal. After trying to mirror his methods for wearing diapers everywhere I realized this doesn't work for me. It's not anything wrong with this method, it's a matter of not having the right materials. He uses mostly Rears products and to get the most bang for the buck will stay in them until they cry uncle. I wear Betterdry M10's exclusively and I think they are a good diaper but not one that can't be pushed to the edge without perilous risk of leaks. I've learned a lot from @oznl and his journal from down under. I think he has perfected the Ninja diaper technique for spending the entire day in a mega diaper that no one sees because of his compression shorts. If you need to really keep a low profile at work check out his journal. I usually wear pin on cloth diapers with Gary 7 mil enclosed elastics high back plastic pants. These pants are practically bullet proof. The enclosed elastics don't wick moisture over a long winter's night and as long as you make the diaper more absorbant than you'll need you'll be comfy and dry in the morning. The problem I had was not the diapers but with me. A lot of nights we would be ready to go to bed but I was too tired to go through the labor of putting on cloth diapers so one of two things happened. Either I just cleaned up and put another disposable on or I said Im going to "air out tonight" and drop into bed sans diaper. Luckily, the diaper police didn't find out! The result of this was changing sheets in the morning because the Betterdry leaked overnight. We have a waterproof sheet over the mattress so no harm no foul. To fix this issue, I finally decided to take my next clean night diaper out of my cupboard, place the pins securely into the diaper and put a fresh pair of plastic pants underneath the diapers and place the pile on my pillow or bedside table. This was my line in the sand and I've been securely in cloth every night since and not a single leak. Another big mistake I made was trying to use every available bit of my daytime diapers. There were evenings that I had maybe 50% left in my Betterdry so I went to bed wet to see if it spurred my to wake in the morning having slept through all my wetting. There's no way half a Betterdry is going to hold up overnight. I thought I'll be super smart and wear my wife's XL double Terry lined plastic pants from Kins in Canada. I still leaked a couple times. I finally approached it from a scientific rather than emotional direction. I took the 24 hour day and broke it into 8 hour shifts. My cloth diaper is for the overnight shift which for me usually is 8 hours but could be less or more. My overnight diaper is easily capable of 10 hours or more so that shift is covered. I took the remaining 16 hours of the day and split it into 2 eight hour shifts. A betterdry will almost always safely get me through safely. I put on my morning disposable whenever I'm ready to take my night diaper off and I try to change it at about three in the afternoon. My diaper is never so close to capacity at any time so no worries about leaks. Money wise, which is a big consideration for a person on a fixed income, this system keeps my costs down greatly. I just bought a new case of Betterdrys from LL Medico and they are 60 to a case (4 bags of 15). If I use 2 per day over 30 days that will last exactly one month. That's just over $100 per month or $25 a week. I can live with that. Hugs, Freta

@LilRugrat and I got our covid and flu shots yesterday. We've had covid once together but it was very mild because we had both been vaccinated for it before. Hugs, Freta

Congrats! Hugs, Freta