FretaBWet

@babykeiffI think you misunderstand my position. I wouldn't put my children "back" into diapers at night if they had acheived primary continence at night and then lapsed back at a later time. I meant that as long as they had not acheived nighttime continence yet I would keep them in whatever protection that was best suited to the need. As far as achieving nighttime continence and then lapsing, as a parent that would signal a trip to the doctor. I would be very worried it could be something serious or something that could be fixed. @rusty pinsI think you too must have misinterpurpreted what was being said to an extent. Nobody brought real children into this site nor do I see where anyone advocated allowing perfectly healthy children to just decide to not toilet train at all. I would like to point out that I have dealt with this my whole life. I have a diaper fetish because of it. I'm okay with that but I wouldn't wish it upon anybody. I have good self esteem as an adult but I had none growing up because of my bladder issues. That is the reason I would never shame or punish any of my children for something that wasn't their fault. Even if their pediatrician can't find a reason for bed wetting, that does not mean the child is doing it on purpose. When you have a random few nights a year where you wake up dry and your parents tell you see, you can stay dry like you're too lazy to get out of bed, that doesn't help. Hugs, Freta

@rusty pinsI feel a lot of anger in your post above and I assume you have your reasons. I do however disagree with your views. Your opinion seems to be that parents who don’t actively work to help their child outgrow bed wetting are abusive. My parents had my genitals butchered at around age 11 because he told them surgery would cure me. It didn’t. In my personal opinion that is abuse. My parents did not diaper me at night long after 4 because my younger sister was born when I was about 3. Growing up soaking my bed like a biblical flood without diapers left me with severe diaper rash on the inside of both thighs from the urine pooling when sleeping on my back with my legs together. Think about the teasing and bullying I received in gym class when I had to shower and my thighs had painful very large and visible diaper rashes. In my personal opinion this was abusive. My parents belief that they were doing the right thing does not make what they did less abusive. At 17 they continued the quest for the cure by using a bed wetter alarm. I see a correlation between the events at 11 and 17. That correlation is that in one instance they were sold a bill of goods by a surgeon that made money and in the second instance they were sold a bill of goods by a corporation that made money. Neither one was helpful. Did you take any time to see what the AMA says about curing enuresis? Or maybe looking at what Pediatricians say about what to do? None of my 3 children we’re bed wetters, but I can tell you that I would have handled it completely opposite. I would have kept them in diapers at night, I would have told them it’s not their fault, I would have told them I was a bed wetter and I understand how it feels. If they came to me as an adult and told me they had a diaper fetish I would not have any guilt over how I handled it. In the end I think you are doing a disservice to parents. I just don’t see how helping your child deal with bed wetting by having them wear diapers to bed equates to pushing your fetish onto them. Hugs, Freta

@BrianI think the onsie should be the last layer in your defenses as in disposable diper, then trifecta pants and finally the onsie snapped over the trifectas. Any leaks in your dip will be contained by the diper cover keeping your onsie dry and comfy. Hugs, Freta

I voted for I like wearing an uncovered diaper and do it with some frequency. I'm sitting on my couch with my wife as I type this in just a freshly changed Betterdry and a tee shirt. We are doing some kitchen improvements today and I will be dressed just as I am. Hugs, Freta

@babykeiffI do still wake every time I wet at night but I have gotten good at falling right back to sleep. Hugs, Freta

Ah, your using the MAD defense with your brother, (mutually assured destruction) cue diabolical laugh. Hugs, Freta

This is the EVIL device my parents used to break my bedwetting. You are giving the child a life sentence of never having an uninterrupted nights sleep. It doesn't increase bladder capacity so the result will be waking during the night as many times as your bladder signals the brain it's full. It's a decision that says breaking your child is preferable to the expense and your embarrassment of having them rely on diapers at night. I'm 70 years old, they did this to me at 17 years old, and I'm still angry over it. I'm still in diapers because the alarm doesn't address the root cause, only a symptom. A more accurate slogan would be Break your child of bed wetting by breaking your child. Hugs, Freta

Maybe a sad face 😞 with tears when it's dry but the tears and frown dissappear when wet.

@secretbabylexy you must have known you wouldn't be the only person that had thoughts like this on this site. I admit that growing up as an every night bedwetter who's parents did not diaper me led me to always dream about my mother getting tired of washing sheets and sometimes blankets too and finally resorting to diapering me for bed. It was never a sexual thing because I was pre pubescent. Once I realized what sex was my fantasies changed to non related care givers. Hugs, Freta

I voted I just don’t like the way they look, they remind me of medical diapers. The weird thing is I mostly wear Better Drys and before I switched from Confidry 24/7’s which are both medical looking. When my dipee is wet you don’t really need a wetness indicator to know. My wife loves loves loves diapers with disappearing wetness indicators, they make her feel so small. Hugs, Freta

I didn't see one person in the ball pit that wasn't securely diapered including me!

I think a secondary reason is that nuggets are geared more for children while wings are geared for adults. I think most parents would have a problem with nuggets being as expensive as the wings they order for themselves. Hugs Freta

I've been twice, but it's been 5 years since my last one. As @DprDJeff has said it is more AB but that may not mean you won't enjoy it. My wife and I plan to attend Capcon 2024 and it will be her first. One benefit for a DL is the ability to meet other DL's. When I go I use my diapergirl name Freta B Wet. It will be on my name badge so even if you were too shy to approach me, you would be able to put a real face to the woman you see posting on here. There is so much socializing even when your not on the convention floor. I met so many friends at the breakfast every morning. People make friends and go out to lunch or dinner. It's a hotel so I expect some type of bar or lounge. I met some very cool people sitting at the bar. One evening I had a long conversation with someone's mommy. Capcon is like any other convention or social engagement, you can make it the best time of your life or it can suck. Hugs, Freta

@babykeiffI transitioned from MTF many years ago and used electrolysis treatments to remove facial and chest hair. I would still choose this as my first choice for pubic hair removal if I were motivated enough to spend the money for it. I don't see it being brought up as a valid method but that would be a diservice. Hugs, Freta

@oznlhad you considered a hybrid approach to your hair removal? Yes, the epilator is designed for flat terrain and your nappy area has hills and valleys so a two prong attack on the enemy hair may be called for. There's been no shortage of discussion about waxing pubic hair and the pain involved in using that method and most avoid it due to the level of pain. As you said, it hurts less now so maybe the same could be expected from waxing at this point. By waxing you can depilate the peaks and valleys while using the epilator on the flats. Just a thought I had that may help. Hugs, Freta

I chose other myself. I didn't exactly choose incontinence it more or less chose me. Being a bed wetter and also having daytime issues I always struggled with keeping dry. Longing for diapers has been a lifetime thing with me due to my issues. Hugs, Freta

Most of my near daily accidents were small ones that I could deal with without anyone realizing but in 7th grade I had started a new school and had my worst accident ever. I had to go into a public junior high school from a parochial school I had been attending so I was also the new kid. One day in class I needed to pee and it was getting bad so I raised my hand and asked to go to the bathroom. The teacher told me to wait as the class was ending soon and I could go then. I tried every trick to keep from wetting but I couldn't hold on and my bladder just fully released. I soaked my pants, the chair, my socks and shoes and the floor. The teacher sent me to the nurse who notified the office that I needed to be picked up. No diaper for a 12 year old, just an embarrassing wait in soggy clothes to be picked up by my mother. Hugs, Freta

Better Dry for my daily driver at the moment. Hugs, Freta

@DiaperboyEddie12 many years ago I went to an Amway recruitment seminar. The senior people running it showed up in their fancy $$$$$ motorhome dressed to the nines. They basically said that any person there could do the same as they did. I couldn't argue with that assertion. When it got down to one on one recruitment I suspect I was the only person in attendance that had a viable argument for why I was not going to join the Amway family. Most people that don't want to join use a list of standard reasons for not wanting to join up like I don't have the time, I don't have enough room, I have a full time job etc. Amway has answers for all these reasons and more. The senior people in the organization are people that worked their way up from the bottom and have heard every excuse in the book and are well trained and experience to counter any excuse. I didn't use an excuse. I told them I wasn't interested in the opportunity. When asked why I told them I knew without doubt that I could achieve success with Amway but I wasn't interested in success. I told them my free time had more value to me than any cash I would earn through spending all my waking time working the buisness. They were speechless lol. The truth I believe is that it can work but the cost is much too high for me personally. I don't regret my decision in the least. Good luck to you in whatever decision you come to in this matter. Hugs, Freta

Sometimes the best you can do is just vent somewhere. This is a safe place to vent where it won't ruin your RW relationships. I hope things improve for you. Hugs, Freta

My wife and I had an opportunity to go to an amusement park this past Saturday with a group from a company a relative works for. It's friends and family so we got parking, entrance and a catered lunch. I packed my diaper bag wit 3 Better Drys plus the one I put on right before we left. I decided that I can't reliably tell when my diaper is nearing it's limit so I was on a time schedule. I thought a change every 4 to five hours should be safe. I had to surrender my bag completely as opposed to just opening it for them to peak. He moved diapers around discretely to see my wipes and zipped it and handed it back. The next bump in the road happened after lunch. We had a catered lunch at a Pavillion which was one of four. The two front pavilions were for a big union group and ours was in the back. I noticed they had bathrooms and a family bathroom so right after lunch I took my D bag and headed for the family bathroom. No one was in there so I went in locked the door and got down to business. It didn't take long and I rolled the diaper with my used wipes and taped it into a big ball. It was swelled up nicely. I looked around for the trash and realized there was no trash cans. It had a paperless bathroom with just one electric hand dryer. I looked at the feminine napkin disposal but that Better dry was too fat anyway. At this point I was pissed off because there wasn't anywhere I could leave it to wash my hands so I left it on the floor. When I got done I picked up the diaper and had to make a decision. Someone knocked on the door just before I used the hand drier. I couldn't leave it in there for the next person because that's just punishing someone that had nothing to do with the situation. I decided the only thing I could do at this point was walk out with it and find a barrel. There's a large expanse of open space between the bathrooms and the eating pavilion. The closest trash receptacle was right beside the tables where people were eating so I walked over and threw it away as discretely as I could. I'm not saying this is the only way of handling this situation, it's just my way of handling it. I suspect that whoever made the decisions for how the bathrooms were set up didn't have any experience as a user of family/disabled bathrooms. Any mom even would expect a trash receptacle for used baby wipes and diapers. I asked a park employee who I could complain to and they took me the the greeter for the pavilion area. I explained I am incontinent and just used the family bathroom to Change in and found no trash receptacle. I told her I couldn't leave it laying on the sink or floor. I explained that I had to carry it from the bathroom to the trash receptacle across from the bathroom. From where we were standing she could see the bathroom and the barrel. She was very polite and competent. She thankd me for letting her know and apologized profusely. She directed someone to get a barrel for the family bathroom right away. All in all it was a really fun day. Hugs, Freta

Not really a fair comparison between DL's wearing out someplace and those of us who are 24/7 but I'll play. Belted into the co-pilot seat on a DeHaviland Otter seaplane over the Alaska glaciers. Hugs, Freta

We've had a sort of viewers strike in our house for the last year. We had the Disnney and Hula combo before and Netflics before that but it's just a rip off. Now we just stream what's free on our roku TV. Lately we've been watching Leave It to Beaver. We watch a lot of old series because they are new material for my wife and nostalgic for me. Hugs, Freta

I just received 2 cases of Better Drys today. They have been at the FedEx terminal in Topeka KS since Friday. They send a tracking update that says due to operational issues the shipment is delayed. Hugs, Freta

@Apache Raccoon thanks for the reply. I think those are the ones but I was confused by the description that said they were stretchy. I was wondering if they were some type of hybrid diaper. Hugs, Freta