Getting Surgery in Mexico

[Reddy]

4 hours ago, AlwaysTryTwice said:

I unexpectedly came into a bit of money, more than enough to afford the surgery. I emailed them yesterday and they replied, and I will be putting down the deposit to secure the date. I don't want it done this year, I don't think. I'm thinking maybe 18 months out, I can always ask to move it up. 

I've talked with my therapist about this, too. It's amazing to have someone to be fully honest with. 

I'm so excited I feel like I'm vibrating lol. 

Wow, nice!

I originally figured I would do it 6 months out or so, but moved it earlier and could hardly wait the 3 weeks lol.  It becomes really exciting and hard to wait for.

[Diapered Dave]

On 12/16/2024 at 5:37 PM, Living Curious said:

I just got a reply from my therapist. It's not secure messaging so she just acknowledged the email and said we'll talk about it next session.

But now it's all out there for her. This is pretty big for me. 

So have you had another session since this post?  Just curious what your therapist's point of view is...

[Reddy]

Im not in a diaper.  Its nice to take a break sometimes.  And feel normal.  But my pants and bed are wet now.  Its probably gonna be really soon that im in a diaper again.  But it was interesting being out of a diaper for a while.

[foreverdl]

59 minutes ago, Reddy said:

Im not in a diaper.  Its nice to take a break sometimes.  And feel normal.  But my pants and bed are wet now.  Its probably gonna be really soon that im in a diaper again.  But it was interesting being out of a diaper for a while.

I Love being in my diapers 24/7, but it would be a really cool thing to finally get my extra room mattress setup with the stuff so I can enjoy sleeping without a diaper and let it flood , sleep and enjoy.........Since I sleep in my recliner I still have to have the protection so I don't pee smell it up... I need to sleep sitting up because of my health issues ...

[Diapered Dave]

1 hour ago, Reddy said:

Im not in a diaper.  Its nice to take a break sometimes.  And feel normal.  But my pants and bed are wet now.  Its probably gonna be really soon that im in a diaper again.  But it was interesting being out of a diaper for a while.

Were you just relaxing in bed without a diaper, or did you go to bed to sleep, and woke up wet? Do you have a plastic sheet on your bed?

Now that you've been in diapers for about a year, is your diaper usage about what you expected it would be?  (Are you using more or less diapers per day, than you thought you would...) Do you try to get the maximum use out of each diaper, wearing them until almost leaking?  Do you ever wear plastic pants over your diapers? Any use of cloth diapers?

And have you ever tried the penis clamps that were mentioned here some months ago?

Sorry for all the questions, just interested in whether your expectations are meeting your reality.

[Reddy]

3 hours ago, Diapered Dave said:

Were you just relaxing in bed without a diaper, or did you go to bed to sleep, and woke up wet? Do you have a plastic sheet on your bed?

Now that you've been in diapers for about a year, is your diaper usage about what you expected it would be?  (Are you using more or less diapers per day, than you thought you would...) Do you try to get the maximum use out of each diaper, wearing them until almost leaking?  Do you ever wear plastic pants over your diapers? Any use of cloth diapers?

And have you ever tried the penis clamps that were mentioned here some months ago?

Sorry for all the questions, just interested in whether your expectations are meeting your reality.

I was just relaxing in bed after dinner.

I use about as many diapers as I expected.  3 or 4 diapers every 24 hours.  I don't really try to get maximum use out of each diaper, it just happens because I don't realize I need to change until I need to change.  I don't wear plastic pants or cloth diapers.  Although I'm not opposed to it.  But I don't.

I have never tried the penis clamps.

[Dribbler247]

So you never feel that you 'need to pee' any more?

 

[Reddy]

12 minutes ago, Dribbler247 said:

So you never feel that you 'need to pee' any more?

 

Yes I do.  Because I sit down at my job.

[Dribbler247]

At which point you stand, and the flow starts? Or could you actually hold it for a period of time?

[longislandguy]

He has no way of holding it so I’d imagine it just flows. Probably the only time he has anything close to a flood. 

[PeterLupus]

On 2/7/2025 at 7:56 PM, Reddy said:

Yes I do.  Because I sit down at my job.

Are there other times when you can feel your bladder filling? If yes, what are they?

[Reddy]

11 hours ago, Dribbler247 said:

At which point you stand, and the flow starts? Or could you actually hold it for a period of time?

I can hold the bulk of it a little while but drips and drops start to come out.  I used to go to the bathroom when I felt full.  But I had too many times where it just soaked my pants.  Not worth it to get just part of it in the urinal after mostly filling diaper anyway.

10 hours ago, longislandguy said:

He has no way of holding it so I’d imagine it just flows. Probably the only time he has anything close to a flood. 

I never flood because my stream is too weak and even if I push it comes out slowly.  So even if my bladder is really full if I start walking around it just slowly drips into my diaper.

6 hours ago, PeterLupus said:

Are there other times when you can feel your bladder filling? If yes, what are they?

It only fills after sitting down and after sleeping in bed.  If I am consistently walking then my bladder doesn't fill up as fast as the dribbles empty it so in those cases I never feel my bladder, just feeling a wetter and wetter diaper.

[PeterLupus]

17 hours ago, Reddy said:

On 2/9/2025 at 7:31 AM, PeterLupus said:

Are there other times when you can feel your bladder filling? If yes, what are they?

It only fills after sitting down and after sleeping in bed.  If I am consistently walking then my bladder doesn't fill up as fast as the dribbles empty it so in those cases I never feel my bladder, just feeling a wetter and wetter diaper.

Thank you for that.

With my OAB symptoms (ie really annoying and very distracting feeling of urgency), the question about feeling your bladder is important to me. You wrote that you can feel your bladder after sleeping in bed. Does that mean that it does not continuously drain while you sleep? What have you observed?

Thank you.

[Reddy]

On 2/10/2025 at 9:46 AM, PeterLupus said:

Thank you for that.

With my OAB symptoms (ie really annoying and very distracting feeling of urgency), the question about feeling your bladder is important to me. You wrote that you can feel your bladder after sleeping in bed. Does that mean that it does not continuously drain while you sleep? What have you observed?

Thank you.

Yes that's correct.  It does not continuously drain while I sleep.  I have to wear a diaper to bed because my pants and bed will start to get really wet before I fall asleep, because even while lying down I pee with movements, with large intakes of breath, with coughing, sneezing, etc.  But it fills up overnight or when I'm sitting for a long time.

But overall in my life, I feel the need to pee a lot less.  If I'm up and about my bladder never fills, my diaper just gets wetter.  It's not worth it to try to make it to the bathroom because my diaper is always getting wetter no matter what.  And my stream is so weak it would take a long time if I went to the bathroom and I would mostly drip everywhere and on my pants (it's hard to push enough to make pee go outward at all).  And then, if I do feel any urgency, which I haven't for a long time, it's not uncomfortable because I would have peed long before I got that full.

I remember constantly having to go to the bathroom so often all day long.  Now that is just not part of my life.  And that's kinda nice.

[secretdesire]

14 hours ago, Reddy said:

I remember constantly having to go to the bathroom so often all day long.  Now that is just not part of my life.  And that's kinda nice.

I don't think "normal" people would understand how maddening that feeling is to constantly have to pee. Even if you can hold it well past that initial warning, having that constantly nagging feeling is so disruptive in every aspect of life. You give in and go to the bathroom which just reduces the time of the feedback loop (OAB makes OAB worse over time). Going 24/7 in diapers was so freeing that I don't even care anymore about being completely incontinent.

[hvb22]

On 2/8/2025 at 4:44 AM, Dribbler247 said:

So you never feel that you 'need to pee' any more?

 

On 2/9/2025 at 4:31 PM, PeterLupus said:

Are there other times when you can feel your bladder filling? If yes, what are they?

On 2/13/2025 at 5:39 PM, secretdesire said:

I don't think "normal" people would understand how maddening that feeling is to constantly have to pee. Even if you can hold it well past that initial warning, having that constantly nagging feeling is so disruptive in every aspect of life. You give in and go to the bathroom which just reduces the time of the feedback loop (OAB makes OAB worse over time). Going 24/7 in diapers was so freeing that I don't even care anymore about being completely incontinent.

I hate the sensation of a full bladder. I had contacted Dr. A before I found this website. I asked if he could do surgery that would drain all urine immediately once it's produced (zero storage capacity of the bladder). He told me it's possible. But we have learned from the people who had the surgery that they all have some degree of bladder control, feel it filling up, and in some cases even go to the toilet to pee. So my conclusion is that the surgery will make you diaper dependent, but doesn't help those of us who want a completely empty bladder.

[MiddleBro]

This whole topic has been such an interesting and insightful read. I’m finally caught up! Thank you, @Reddy (and @BrownBobby) for letting us go on this journey with you and including all the ups and downs. 
 

I’ve been into diapers for as long as I can remember and have HATED this kink and this side of me. I’ve given myself more grace over the years but still can’t help but feel like a fraud (I’m more into DL and incontinence realism than AB). I’ve often thought if I needed diapers then it would give me a reason, a permission, to wear. 
 

I have become a bedwetter with moderate and conditional success but could stop it at any time. I felt like becoming a bedwetter and “needing” diapers was a nice half way point for me, considering my active lifestyle. I have done 24/7 stints before, and about to do one again, but in the warm summers when I’m hiking I’m glad I’m not incontinent. 

I totally understand the weight being lifted after coming clean about your incontinence to your friends and family. I had a conversation with my sibling that unexpectedly allowed for an opening to discuss my bedwetting and I might just take it. It would be so much easier not to worry about hiding things or getting caught whenever I visit and stay at their house. 
 

@Reddy, your feelings and journey have really stirred something in me. I’m not far from Mexico either- but not hastily making any plans as of now. My other kinks, big bulges, underwear, and chastity, all keep each other in check. It’s quite the dichotomy of kinks, which are all equally fun and equally frustrating at times. 
 

In summary, I’m very happy for you! And you validated feelings that I’ve had for years. I never knew other people felt the way I did. Thanks again for sharing! Would you mind terribly answering more questions?

- How has your day to day changed?

- how do you carry changes while you’re out? Do you have a diaper bag?

- What’s your skin care process look like? 

- Any new unexpected challenges you’ve encountered and conquered?

- How is your sexual health now? Do you know if @BrownBobby experienced issues?

- Have you been on dates or intimate with anyone? Any advice? 

- Is there anything you wish you knew before becoming incontinent/advice or warnings you’d give someone?

[PeterLupus]

On 2/12/2025 at 5:33 PM, Reddy said:

I remember constantly having to go to the bathroom so often all day long.  Now that is just not part of my life.  And that's kinda nice.

Here is the key sentence. Thank you.

[PeterLupus]

On 2/13/2025 at 5:39 PM, secretdesire said:

I don't think "normal" people would understand how maddening that feeling is to constantly have to pee.

This.