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I've found having plastic pants, mattress protector, disposable absorbent underpass as well as a high quality diaper can help alleviate the psychological blockers. At the end of the day you have to trust your diaper. Some have had success by throwing caution to the wind and accepting leaks and conditioning themselves to be accustomed to a wet bed. Either way you need to not care about the consequences.

I'm definitely not an expert on this, but from what I can tell the tariffs on goods imported from Canada to US are 25%. Incontrol is charging ~54% for shipping/duties/export fees, but the shipping is free over $100, so I don't understand what the extra 29% is for. I'm glad I stocked up a month ago, but I'll be buying betterdrys until the tariff situation is sorted, especially with mystery extra charges added on top of tariffs. Edit: I just read the linked blog post, it seems the diapers are subject to a 30% tariff since they're made in China, plus a $27 'FDA surcharge'. Adult diapers don't require FDA approval, but perhaps registration. Regardless it should be a fixed cost (registration is $7k per year for the entire business, not per product) rather than a per item charge. At $27, they'll pay for registration with less than 300 orders.

I've seen people on x who claim to have made themselves bowel incontinent from stretching (e.g. https://x.com/slim_ff content warning: very explicit images of fisting/plugs/prolapsed buttholes) There's academic literature that suggested stretching the sphincters beyond a certain point causes scarring and lack of strength, in animal studies. That said, from anecdotes it seems losing bowel incontinence via 24/7 is easier than urinary. I don't mess much these days but when I was going full 24/7 for months at a time did find myself having #2 accidents. Would you be entirely opposed to just using your diapers for #2 and seeing if you start to loose control after a few months? The DIY stretching approach might cause some tears in your bowels or prolapse, whereas training would be relatively risk free. You mentioned having a few #2 accidents last year, have you had any more? Do you use your diapers for #2 ever?

I'm fairly certain everyone replying, myself included, have incontinence desires. Advocating for doing it in a responsible way (e.g. the guidelines Bobby laid out for "testing" if surgery is right for you) is not being critical of those who do. Since you want to quote the rules, how about the first one: I'd say statements like this one in response to supportive but cautious and respectful members violate that rule:

Congrats on the decision, its certainly a radical step. As others have said, Reddy's thread has a lot of good discussion and documentation of what to expect. Its a long road and definitely not for the faint of heart. I especially like the questionnaire @BobbyBrown put together here. If you haven't already, I'd suggest trying therapy to at least explore these thoughts and ensure you're not just jumping into something on impulse. Kind of like how you shouldn't marry a person you've had a crush on for a few weeks because you may find the reality of living with them through good and bad isn't what you idealized in your head. You should at the very least go 24/7 for months at a time before doing it. Once you get surgery, you're going to have to deal with this forever (constant leaking, never ejaculating again, potential impotence, strictures, financial burden of surgery and supplies, social/relationship challenges etc). I'm happy for Bobby, I think he explored this deeply and made the right choice for him. Reddy has adjusted to his new reality but there are a lot of things he didn't consider before surgery and he has had a lot of challenges coming to terms with his everyday reality. He seems happy enough now but is wanting to have bowel surgery as well, which is even more disruptive to your life. I'm glad I've abstained from surgery for now, as through therapy and personal growth I've come to see diapers and "incontinence" as less of a black and white/all or nothing experience. I can wear diapers 99% of the time and tactically choose not to when I don't want to. I don't need to excuse my diaper wearing to anyone, its my choice and I own it. I don't need to be incontinent to enjoy them, although some day I may get the surgery. I just know "for now" I'm better with a choice to wear diapers or not, to be self-conscious of my bulge and waistband or not, to spend money every day on absorbent underwear just to live my life or not. Once you take the plunge there is no going back. Not at all trying to say this is the wrong choice for you, I don't know you or what you've done to come to this decision. I hope if you do go through with it, that it is everything you wanted and more. Selfishly, I'd love for you to get it because I love reading the updates from those who have gotten it and now have leaky diapers in their workplace, embarrassment in their social circles etc. That's an incredible fantasy for me. But at the same time, this is a massive life change and the people blindly cheerleading won't have to deal with the consequences. They, like me, enjoy hearing about these things -- we don't always have your best interest in heart. I've engaged in reddy's thread since the start and its been great hearing about his journey, so if you do go through with it please continue to update us!

If this is the lifestyle you want, then own it. Don't waste their time and your money on pointless investigations. Doctors want to help and fix you, if you don't tell them this was a choice and go through with urodynamics etc, you're wasting resources that could be spend treating people with legitimate medical problems. Just say "I wear diapers because I want to, its not an issue I want to investigate". They don't care about your personal lifestyle choices, they just care about diagnosing and treating actual medical issues.

I love them as a gym diaper, the sides are super flexible. They fit me perfectly, (I am 190lbs but tall and slim). I also love how the padding goes all the way to the top, unlike adult pull ups. They can hold a series of small wettings release in squirts, but definitely won't hold a flood. If they could increase the height of the leg guards and make them wider/more padding they would be a perfect diaper.

Thanks for the update! I was worried since we hadn't heard from you in a while! Great to hear you're doing well! It's interesting to hear that you've started wetting the bed. I wonder if that is because your bladder capacity has shrunk since you are no longer filling it. Do you still fill up when sitting down? I'm glad to hear you are working on yourself and looking for love. The right person will accept you and your incontinence! Are you still going to the gym? How do you handle your diapering post shower? I remember that being a situation you weren't sure how to handle. Re: bowel incontinence, have you had any more accidents? Do you use your diaper for #2? I love reading your updates, don't be afraid to share them even if they seem mundane!

Thats a pretty positive interaction in my book! She acknowledged your out of the ordinary diaper, complimented you and encouraged you to wear giant cloth diapers as often as you like, how cool is that! I understand the embarrassment but if I was in your shoes I'd be feeling very validated. I don't know if I'd call it acceptance, but it's something approaching that!

Feel better soon! Sounds like you might need to switch that pull up for a diaper, just to be safe

Long haul treks where you carry all your food and gear for weeks would be impossible with diapers, but one could probably do it with a condom catheter.

Yep, I go to the gym and sauna daily in my diaper. I wear a onesie in the gym, and boxer briefs / towel in the sauna. I change into a fresh diaper in the gym shower before heading to my locker to get dressed. I buy cheap medical diapers usually from goodwill and use two per gym session (one for workout, one for changing in the shower that I stay in for an hour or so max). I was inspired to do it from @Reddys posts about feeling awkward about managing his diapers at the gym. It was daunting at first but I no longer feel any self-consciousness. Nobody notices or cares. There really isn't anything you can't do with urinary incontinence, provided you have good quality diapers. It is a massive and permanent step tho, and one I am reluctant to take myself. But it is very alluring and I have lived this life and know I enjoy it 99% of the time. But then there's times when having the option not to wear a diaper is nice. @Reddy, who jumped right into surgery, has posted several times about his frustrations with being stuck in diapers now, how he tries to go diaper free sometimes to "feel normal", invariably resulting in wet pants. While there's not much he can't do, he can't do anything without tending to his diapers. It's an expensive, embarrassing, and inconvenient cross to bear for life. I'll reassess if I still want it so bad in a decade.

It's been a while @Reddy how are you doing? Sorry don't want to pressure you just want to make sure you're ok!

Yeah, I hope the same for the few others who have gone silent after their surgeries. I know some have been active and are happy with their results. I hope if some people have a difficult time (due to side effects of surgery, psychological, etc) they feel comfortable continuing to share some time. It could be that talking about diapers online lost its luster now that they are suddenly and irreversibly leaking pee everywhere. Reality and responsibility taking precedence over informing inquisitive strangers?

To be fair, different people might have different goals with regards to incontinence. If a partial surgery made me require a man pad or pull up, that would be appealing (although total incontinence like Bobby and reddy have is also very cool!).