superabsorbantpolymer

Awesome, congratulations on the mile stone. You've had a lot of dedication to make it this far. Does anyone in your life know you wear diapers? Have you gone diaperless and tested your control/measured your bladder capacity? Have you experienced long haul fatigue/sometimes wishing you weren't diapered?

Congrats on one year of incontinence, @wetguy13579! How are you doing these days?

Do you have a link to the cath cage?

Wow, do you think you'd believe yourself if you told yourself a year ago that you'd be in pelvic floor physical therapy, removing your soggy diaper and dribbling all over the therapy table while working in vain to restore the strength of muscles you know have no hope of ever commanding to stop your pee? I'm assuming there, do you think you could get some control back? Now that your living with it and going to medical care for your issues, does some part of you wish you could fix it/undo it? You said a few months ago that you feel like your journey is over and now all you are is wet all the time, while that's good in that you've adjusted and things are more stable, it seems to me your journey is still ongoing. The physiotherapy, ongoing urology care, even managing things in your daily life are all parts of the journey, perhaps it's easy to miss the milestones in the moment, but I certainly appreciate you continuing to catalog your journey!

What exercises has he taught you? Kegel? Relaxation? Strengthening? What do you wear during the session? Did you tell the physiotherapist that you don't want to fix your incontinence?

Congrats! Now work, friends, and family all know you need diapers forever! No need to ever stress about hiding your needs, that's great 😊 You said you went to physical therapy? What was that like? Did they have you do exercises?

I haven't been keeping up, does your current stent still contain metal? Did you go through the new generation scanners or an old fashioned metal detector in TSA?

I don't think you need to apologize to anyone on here for venting about the struggles you've had adjusting. It's fine to have regrets, moments of frustration, as well as being happy. Life is complex and you have and will continue to have positive and negative feelings towards your incontinence. Implying reddy is playing a game or somehow manipulating us by sharing his experience is trolling itself. Like seriously what do you expect on a 50+ page thread about making oneself incontinent. I want to hear his experience, warts and all.

Therapists have a confidentiality principle, where if you aren't a danger to yourself or others then they cannot tell anyone about your discussions. Of course that doesn't mean they won't ever leak info but generally they won't. They hear all sorts of very personal and difficult things from people as a job. If anything I was kinda surprised how nonchalantly my therapist responded when I opened up about diapers. It's something we build up in our heads, a lot of abdls have deep shame associated with this but it's really not that big of a deal. I understand your fears but it's your life and they are there to help you be the happiest, calmest, best version of your self. It wouldn't hurt to discuss at least what you've done so far, and then talk about bowel plans later. I'm glad you like being incontinent even without the meds. I think that's my biggest worry about doing something permanent like this, that I might have a change of mindset and feel very differently at some point. Kind of like a binge and purge cycle, (except precipitated by a change in serotonin levels in your case). That's awesome, I love how you literally have no choice now. I know the anxiety and indecision when dressing and trying to conceal my diaper. On occasion I've cheated and removed it. More often I'll opt for a pull up. But you have no choice but to wear a bulky noisy high capacity diaper. Do you think other people at the event noticed your diaper? Do you think it became more noticeable as it swelled during the event?

With that type of fecal incontinence, you'd probably end up getting a colostomy bag eventually. You'd have to constantly change your diaper or you'd get really bad diaper rash, possibly develop abscesses (infected holes in your skin). You would obviously smell terrible all the time. Your current situation doesn't really impact other people. Constantly smelling like poop would. Your social and professional life and mental and physical health would suffer far more than now. I also imagine your pelvic floor will be completely wrecked, which would cause sexual dysfunction. Would you even be able to orgasm? If all that doesn't put you off, I agree you should mess your diaper every day for a few months, whenever you feel the need to. Then imagine you have even more frequent and inconvenient messes. That's what your life would be like. You really sound like you could benefit from talking about this with a therapist before taking that step. All that aside, I would love to hear from someone who has had the surgery. So if you do eventually get it please continue to share your updates.

Doctors are often in a rush and sometimes make mistakes in their notes. 3 times pooping in your diaper in one month might not be full incontinence in your eyes, but it is very noteworthy for an otherwise healthy person in their 30s. You have fecal incontinence. It's just not as constant as your bladder leaks. I wonder if because you are never clenching to hold back urine anymore, you are losing muscle tone in your pelvic floor. It's also possible your brain is rewiring somewhat and no longer knows how to interpret urgency signals from that region since you never have an urge to pee. It will be interesting to see if this progresses, maybe you'll be bowel incontinent without the surgery. I know when I wear 24/7 for long periods, filling my diaper can come as a sudden surprise. I love hearing about the conversations you've had with your friends about your diapers. That's so cool that they all know you are always diapered and peeing yourself. Have any of them been curious to see them or ask what it feels like to wear them? Do you remember any other conversations you've had about your diapers?

Do you still have pee build up in your bladder when you sit down? Or does it all leak even when sitting? Diapers have always given me a sense of safety, but now that safety is very real for you! Do you still enjoy diapers or do you see them purely as a necessary item now? How often do you pants get wet these days? Do you have a changing schedule or do you just notice your diaper is heavy?

This is a tricky one. With work, they can't/don't care to dig deeper or question things, as long as you are able to do your job. With parents and family there is a different dynamic at play. They care about you and will be concerned. The fact that you have a history of interest in diapers makes that even more complicated. At the end of the day, you are stuck in diapers for life, so if you are going to spend time with them they will notice. It's possible they already have. As you said, you now always have a bulky diaper strapped on you at all times. You have noticed how you smell like pee. If you're with them and they know you well, they probably pick up on those clues. I don't know what I would do in that situation, probably continue to keep it a secret and let them notice on their own. Then if they ask, you can have the conversation. It may be that they never bring it up. Either way, this is your life now, so you shouldn't be anxious about it. You need to be in diapers, whether you liked them or not in the past is irrelevant. You could try wearing more discreet protection like a pull up, or use a catheter when you are spending time with them.

How often do you change your diaper? How much water do you drink? (More hydrated = less smelly pee). Wet guy said he feels like he always smells like pee now, would you say the same? I know when I definitely start to smell like pee after a few hours in one diaper, and my body carries the smell after changing. I guess you need to shower every few hours to completely mask it. Plastic pants could help to stop airflow between your diaper region and the room your in.

Well said 👏 > Now I am figuring it out suddenly. But my point is for me, that doesn't matter. I have to figure it out now, so I do. Have there been any more things lately that surprised you or you've had to figure out? Have you been back to the gym/figured out a routine that works for you to be protected while changing? I love hearing about your journey, even mundane updates are appreciated! > also didn't think the side effects would bother me that much and I was right, they don't. I was wondering how the TURP affects the prostates sensation. Have you ever had an anal orgasm (prostate)? If so has the sensation changed since the surgery?