Book on rejecting your potty training.

[Little Cub Pants]

2 hours ago, DiaperboyEddie12 said:

@BabySpiderBoy I looked on Amazon and no audio.

Oh okay, thanks Eddie!???☺️??

[saltedcaramel64]

19 hours ago, jeremy12312 said:

Can do. Sorry to see this place turn into ADISC, but here we are. 

Whats wrong with adisc or here?  

You seem pretty upset about books, authors and websites.  Whats the point?

[Babyhawkeye]

this post was just supposed to be an informative post letting people know about a book I found that helped me. I loved the book even though some of the theories are a little far-fetched. I agree that if you have nothing nice to say it's better to not say anything at all. but I respect the opinions of others and if you didn't enjoy the book then that's on you. but I enjoyed it enough to share with the group. I know it has helped me push past some of my mental barrios and except my rejection of potty training. 

[Tadpole]

One thing to beware of: when buying from these people they subscribe you to their mailing list... using the email from your PayPal!  ABDL emails in your vanilla mailbox. NOT COOL AB Discovery. (And signing up people to mailing lists they did not explicitly agree to is illegal in the EU).

Maybe avoid them until they sort this out!

[Glennie]

1 hour ago, Tadpole said:

One thing to beware of: when buying from these people they subscribe you to their mailing list... using the email from your PayPal!  ABDL emails in your vanilla mailbox. NOT COOL AB Discovery. (And signing up people to mailing lists they did not explicitly agree to is illegal in the EU).

Maybe avoid them until they sort this out!

sounds like you should create a kink friendly paypal account, like most of us that but kinky stuff do. i don't need the people im buying tools from to see the diaper i am buying too.

[~Brian~]

@Glennie

I agree: if you were going to do something with it in your kink you should always have an address that you can use for that purpose. The reason for this is because as has been stated, if you use your regular address, and somebody gets into your mailbox, they can see everything that you are actually looking at in your mailbox, and that might not be a good idea. You should always have some sort of way to pay for items such as diapers without having to worry that somebody will find out about your kink, and then what happens is someone gets in trouble, a wife gets mad, or is it other significant other doesn’t understand.

For some reason when I signed up for DD, could not use my BBUS Emails, so I use my work email. I am the only one that access is this, and I don’t think anyone would question any of my orders, because I am incontinent.  Making a PayPal account so that you can use eBay is also a good idea. You should make an eBay ID that is specific to this purpose, so that somebody that logs into your eBay account does not see things that you do not want them to see. If you are living in a house or with a person who understands your kink or the need for your diapers, then I don’t think it is too much of a Big deal, because you do it all the time. For example, I bet Glennie orders his diapers, and everyone that he associates with in his household probably knows that he needs them, so it’s not a big deal. If I’m wrong, then I apologize! Glennie’s is advice is good advice, and it is sound advice. As I always say to the people that need to know about your diaper usage or your fetish, will know it because you disclose it. There are others however, that may not need to know and you don’t want them to know, which is also your business. But either way granny is right you should make accounts that are specific to your fetish or kink, So that places like Facebook do not pick up that you are incontinent, or need diapers, or whatever you buy on Amazon.  I really don’t care if AMAZON knows what I order, but I hate the fact that if I order something from Amazon, then Facebook automatically picks that up and loads that up on my Facebook page. I’m the only one that can see that because that’s my Facebook account, but I wish that we had more control over what the heck we see. Therefore we could take out 90% of the ads and tell them to get rid of them, because they are annoying, they’re too personal, or whatever. I need diapers so there’s no question here, but why does AMAZON have to end up finding out what I’m doing, or what Facebook thinks I’m doing, and then the minute I order something bank it’s automatic and somebody will put an ad for diapers or for other incontinence products on my Facebook feed? How far does the stuff go?  This is why it’s always good to have an account that you can use for that purpose!

good play @Glennie good play!
 

Brian

[~Brian~]

On 12/30/2021 at 8:48 AM, Glennie said:

ok I'm going to weigh in here.. I think this enter post should be deleted.  I have read most of The Bents self help books and so has my wife.. Her books have in fact helped my wife understand how I tick. When I read her first book, I felt like someone had been hiding in my closet taking notes my entire life. She clear has some experience with regressive ab's.  Just because their writing doesn't fit your mold doesn't make it wrong. I am a moderator here and I would take this entire post down, but I'm sure some people would get butthurt by that and demand my head on a stick. Stop trashing on books that do in fact help some people. Remember the immortal words of Thumber.. "if you don't have anything nice to say don't say anything".  The Bents are publishing books and making some money. I think a lot of people are just jealous of their success. I even sent her pictures of my nursery to use in her books and she has in fact done so. I didn't ask for anything in exchange. This website is about acceptance of everyone. Bashing them because you don't like them goes against the rules of this website. Find some place else to toss your hatred around. 

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@Glennie

I agree with you all the way!  I find that the books that you were describing are the ones that help me come to the realization that I am incontinent and also a diaper lover! There are so many sites on the Internet portray us in a “bad light”, and make us out to be something that we are NOT! I have  Stated in a couple of post at least, there are many places on the Internet that don’t give us the credit that we deserve, and put us down because of what we like to do, when we like to do it, how we like to do it, or where we want to do it – they don’t understand that there are a lot of us that engage in the activities that we engage in, and as long as we’re doing it legally there’s nothing wrong with it. I would rather have books that have  Truth in them, Rather than ones that paint us in a bad light, in my estimation the problem here is that there are people who do not understand what being AB or DL means, so they look on the Internet to get information about this kink and a lot of it is based on inaccurate information, which give someone the wrong impression, and ends up sending them to places to try to figure out what they are dealing with. Without places like DD, people would end up getting that integration in then they would end up thinking that we were all “crazy fools”, and that “we probably have a Screw loose”. 
 

I don’t mind helping people understand what ABDL actually is:  I May not understand fully what it is, but I can tell you what it is not:  it is everyone’s duty in my opinion to make sure that people understand what it is and what it is not, Because preconceive notion’s and  Inaccurate beliefs are the reason why we are being portrayed in a negative way.  Books like Glennie describe heaved helped me, and probably others who are on this journey:  I have known of these two authors for years: they present a no nonsense approach As to what you were dealing with, and they tell you it like it is: They don’t beat around the bush, and they offer good advice to those who do not understand what they are dealing with. You may not agree with what they are seeing, but in my opinion, this book and others by these authors have been very helpful to me because I understand what I am dealing with now, as opposed to when I was 23: now that I am 50 years old, and I have been a member of DD, have a better understanding of what is going on, and books like this helped me to get there, along with a lot of people who have been very understanding and very helpful in understanding what is going on, because they tell it like it is.

i’d rather have 100 books tell the truth about this kink (and others) than to have all of the negative publicity and negative writing about this kink and others:  even if I couldn’t have that, I would rather have these authors telling it like it is, because they live the life, and I trust what they are telling me.  Maybe if we had more people they could understand our kink people would be more accepting and more understanding Of what we face:and this will NOT happen however, unless we in the community let people know what the truth is: if we do that, hopefully people will know what they will be dealing with, and not be worried about what is going on: people think being what we are is wrong, then of course they are going to be talking about us or saying bad things.  
 

All the books that I have read I’ve been from A.B. discovery:they end up giving it to us the way it is:  I can say is that I am grateful for all the information that it provides. I am glad they are doing this, and it is my hope that they continue to do this kind of work, because they are making the world a better place by opening peoples eyes To what is reality versus what is fictional or inaccurate.

Brian

[Little Cub Pants]

On 12/31/2021 at 8:23 AM, Babyhawkeye said:

this post was just supposed to be an informative post letting people know about a book I found that helped me. I loved the book even though some of the theories are a little far-fetched. I agree that if you have nothing nice to say it's better to not say anything at all. but I respect the opinions of others and if you didn't enjoy the book then that's on you. but I enjoyed it enough to share with the group. I know it has helped me push past some of my mental barrios and except my rejection of potty training. 

Why would accepting your rejection of potty training be a issue for you???? Most Littles are more than happy to HATE using the potty.???☺️?❤️???? LOL!???

[oznl]

On 1/1/2022 at 12:23 AM, Babyhawkeye said:

this post was just supposed to be an informative post letting people know about a book I found that helped me. I loved the book even though some of the theories are a little far-fetched. I agree that if you have nothing nice to say it's better to not say anything at all. but I respect the opinions of others and if you didn't enjoy the book then that's on you. but I enjoyed it enough to share with the group. I know it has helped me push past some of my mental barrios and except my rejection of potty training. 

Yeah, it’s a bit unfortunate what happened to your thread there: the responses went off at a tangent and things got weird quickly.  I tried to make my response on-topic but it too was lost in the noise.

I read the preview (not the book) and decided it wasn’t for me because I thought it was more about whimsy than wisdom and I was curious for some solid research or recounting of true stories.

Let me know if the preview doesn’t do it justice and I should reconsider hey?

I’m glad you got something out of it though.

[Babyhawkeye]

21 hours ago, oznl said:

Let me know if the preview doesn’t do it justice and I should reconsider hey?

The preview really doesn't do it justice in my opinion. There are some fantastical theory crafting that goes on in later chapters, but there are also some interesting topics that are talked about later on. The chapter titled "Choosing to Fully De-Potty-Train" I found to be helpful for reinforcing my desires. 

 

23 hours ago, BabySpiderBoy said:

Why would accepting your rejection of potty training be a issue for you???? Most Littles are more than happy to HATE using the potty.???☺️?❤️???? LOL!???

Yes, I HATE potty training already, but it still can be hard telling the grown-up part of my brain that potty training is bad. ?

[Little Cub Pants]

2 hours ago, Babyhawkeye said:

Yes, I HATE potty training already, but it still can be hard telling the grown-up part of my brain that potty training is bad. ?

Yeah, I get that! After all, you're trying to undo YEARS of potty training. And it's a very hard habit to break, especially if you don't like leakys like me.??? That's why I like a REALLY good, real absorbent diaper.??☺️?? Otherwise I'm an very fussy baby!?

[spark]

On 1/5/2022 at 8:32 PM, oznl said:

Yeah, it’s a bit unfortunate what happened to your thread there: the responses went off at a tangent and things got weird quickly.  I tried to make my response on-topic but it too was lost in the noise.

I read the preview (not the book) and decided it wasn’t for me because I thought it was more about whimsy than wisdom and I was curious for some solid research or recounting of true stories.

Let me know if the preview doesn’t do it justice and I should reconsider hey?

I’m glad you got something out of it though.

That's pretty much what I thought.   On one hand,  it's not a lot of money, so it won't break the bank.

[oznl]

5 hours ago, spark said:

That's pretty much what I thought.   On one hand,  it's not a lot of money, so it won't break the bank.

You're right about the money.  With that and @Babyhawkeye's comment on the preview being far from enlightening, I just bought it for my Kindle earlier this morning.

I had literally hours on hold with a call centre unscrewing an online banking drama anyway.

It’s not so bad.  It’s a long way off providing any kind of scientific insight into what is going on inside our heads but nor is it simply a piece of, err, shall we say, adult entertainment…  It's an hour or so read at most.  I dipped in and out of it whilst hearing how "important your call is to us".

Her suppositions about what a world might look like with the social imperatives of toilet training removed and associated widespread discretionary and longitudinal use of nappies to be pretty far fetched.  An ounce of clear thinking would also show that the “conveniences” afforded by abandoning toilet training would be massively offset by the inconveniences but I don’t think we were meant to take it too literally.

I think what is “new” with this booklet (it’s fairly short) is that it socialises the idea that there is a demographic who seek to abandon continence.  I’m not sure that has gotten any airplay before.  I don't remember reading published content (even published content obscure as this) that has referenced this before.

I’d love to see a meatier work though perhaps using psycho-analysis to deep-dive a couple of case studies or at least, some true-life accounts that are less fantasy-infected.

[spark]

23 hours ago, oznl said:

You're right about the money.  With that and @Babyhawkeye's comment on the preview being far from enlightening, I just bought it for my Kindle earlier this morning.

I had literally hours on hold with a call centre unscrewing an online banking drama anyway.

 

I called it a 1 BM book,

I think I like the concept better than the book.   The book was split two parts that I wish the author would have expanded.

The first part part was rather far-fetched, but it does bring up an interesting question.  If you had a choice, would you choose to reject potty training?  

The 2nd part was more of a narrative about her choice to become diaper trained.    That's pretty much where I'm in now- and I think you are as well.  In my case- I've chosen to use a diaper for my pee.  But I'm still responsible for my output. I have to change my own diapers.   In my mind, giving up potty training means that you give up control of your waste.  Somebody else is in charge of changing and disposing of waste- which isn't practical in the real world- but an interesting speculation.

[BabyJune]

I need a book on  becoming un-potty trained like I need a book on how to breathe.

[ValentinesStuff]

2 hours ago, BabyJune said:

I need a book on  becoming un-potty trained like I need a book on how to breathe.

Page 1: Inhale.

Page 2: Exhale.

Page 3: Repeat as necessary.

[Stephlatex]

Someone have a sensation to have a push défection on the bowlt when pee in mode relaxe, I have a sensation to go on the bowlt very frequent!!

[BabyBoi91]

On 12/31/2021 at 6:23 AM, Babyhawkeye said:

this post was just supposed to be an informative post letting people know about a book I found that helped me. I loved the book even though some of the theories are a little far-fetched. I agree that if you have nothing nice to say it's better to not say anything at all. but I respect the opinions of others and if you didn't enjoy the book then that's on you. but I enjoyed it enough to share with the group. I know it has helped me push past some of my mental barrios and except my rejection of potty training. 

I’m really glad you found them helpful. While I haven’t read their personal books, I have read some of the fiction published on their site and it was pretty high quality (I read it before it was published and still being edited).  i was really impressed and totally agreed it needed to be published, so I’m glad they exist as a publisher . 
 

also, That’s great that you got past some barriers! Especially with your unpotty training ! ??? 

Sounds like you definitely belong in diapers , or at most pull-ups (but probably just diapers ) from now on. 
 

Best wishes !!