Why do partners not like diapers or AB things?

[rosalie.bent]

This is sort of the biggest question around, but what I am asking from those of you with partners or spouses to articulate as best you can - or as best you know - why your partner is so spooked and freaked out by diapers or AB items.

[cicilove]

Past experiences are limited, but they came down to a few factors

* Not ready for this level of emotional investment or dependence by another person, they equated to becoming a mother even w/o being asked to engage at that level

* Coming from limited or even "vanilla" experience, introducing this falls in line for them as introducing bondage as their lives never conditioned them for such news and they really don't want to change that.

* It was seen as weakness to use that as a matter to help reduce stress or find comfort, eventually it created a resentment for doing it

[AwakenEvil]

I think the issue isn't a vanilla partner getting into this kink but someone into this kink expecting too much, or pushing way to much in the beginning.

[rosalie.bent]

Past experiences are limited, but they came down to a few factors

* Not ready for this level of emotional investment or dependence by another person, they equated to becoming a mother even w/o being asked to engage at that level

* Coming from limited or even "vanilla" experience, introducing this falls in line for them as introducing bondage as their lives never conditioned them for such news and they really don't want to change that.

* It was seen as weakness to use that as a matter to help reduce stress or find comfort, eventually it created a resentment for doing it

very interesting response. thanks.

[cicilove]

I think the issue isn't a vanilla partner getting into this kink but someone into this kink expecting too much, or pushing way to much in the beginning.

[puffy_bottom]

How about: "it doesn't turn them on the way it does for the diaper wearer"

[Elfy]

I don't know how so consistently people miss this last point...

[Dubious]

Diapers don't "turn me on"

I just like em, so that's not always a valid point

[Elfy]

Well OK, if we are being pedantic you can change it to "I don't like them the way the wearer does"...

[Nat]

They feel they are with a baby, they feel you are not ready to be an adult and you have insecure issues, they feel you are weak, they feel you are not a man, they find it a turn off, they don't want to deal with the smell, they don't like the thought of sitting at the table with someone and knowing they are probably peeing at the table around food, they don't want to deal with poop and pee.

[David315]

Like all things in life there is no one answer. It is a combination of all reasons given here.

[rosalie.bent]

I don't know how so consistently people miss this last point...

[rosalie.bent]

They feel they are with a baby, they feel you are not ready to be an adult and you have insecure issues, they feel you are weak, they feel you are not a man, they find it a turn off, they don't want to deal with the smell, they don't like the thought of sitting at the table with someone and knowing they are probably peeing at the table around food, they don't want to deal with poop and pee.

[rosalie.bent]

Like all things in life there is no one answer. It is a combination of all reasons given here.

[Elfy]

I realy, really think it has nothing to do with not being turned on by diapers. Thats very shallow reasoning.

[CDLover]

My wife thinks it gross that I would wear wet diapers.

[Nat]

very good. I think we are getting somewhere here. you are stating that wearing a diaper and other AB things casts a shadow over the image you show to your partner. That is very insightful.

[Midwest Babygirl]

Pretty much everything Elfking said.

[nappylover78]

My wife thinks it gross that I would wear wet diapers.

[rosalie.bent]

It is true that just because you don't like something doesn't mean you will be adverse about it but you have asked a question for which there will be a different answer for everyone... Some may think like what I said and have adverse reactions to it because it is brought up often, others may have pasts that include abuse of some kind involving nappies and they have very negative associations, some jump to the pedophile connection, some will see it as emasculating to the male, some don't want to deal with changing, some just don't understand and aren't willing to learn, some may reject nappies because the ABDL rejects something that the other partner likes, some may reject nappies because of deeper relationship issues, some may not be able to take their partners seriously if they are AB, some just want a nice quiet vanilla relationship, some may think it is a phase, some may think it is a sign of abuse or something that needs therapy, some don't want to encourage the behaviour, etc...

[rosalie.bent]

My wife thinks it gross that I would wear wet diapers.

[rosalie.bent]

For us, it belongs in a nappy... agree to disagree

[Hookedondiapers]

My wife thinks that diapers are for adults with dementia or some other mental defect.

[rosalie.bent]

My wife thinks that diapers are for adults with dementia or some other mental defect.

[Repaid1]

I should also add some people may feel they are eating around the toilet.