rosalie.bent

I'm sorry you had difficult time. I deal with quite a number of couples with this kind of problem and what I find is that if the partner is willing to give SOME ground, a workable compromise is possible. The first step is always the hard part and I understand it, but it is still not fair.

That's a nice idea but it is largely idealistic. My hubby did in fact tell me before we got married but told me what exactly? He couldnt explain it properly (not an uncommon problem) and I wouldnt have understood or accepted it in any case even if he could. That is how the real world operates. I have dealt with couples where the wive did know before hand but the AB drive increases and later on becomes a problem. You can promise the world to your would-be-spouse but that doesnt mean that you actually can fulfill it. AB grows over time and the ability to contain it reduces. It's a little easier now in that at least we know more about AB and that people arent 'alone' in it so we can give out prospective partners some information, but even now, it is still hard to prepare yourself for the AB partner experience. It has no equal and is hard to fathom, nevermind accept. What I try to do with partners is to get them to understand and accept how things are NOW and move from there. What happened beforehand can't be changed. I prefer to think that the committed love for another is enough to allow couples to move past it but alas, it is not always. Some are too self-centred to consider giving up some ground for their partner's deep needs. The same partner that would stand by their man if they were hurt and left in a wheelchair, run away at the sight of them wearing a diaper. Most times it is just sad. other times, it is pathetic. That is absolutely wonderful, Glennie. iI am proud of you both.

Your approach of simply demanding your nappies may have been the correct one. My baby did the same to me and sometimes we need to be FORCED into making reasonable compromises.

One of the things that happen to me a lot as a non-AB woman who has an AB business is that I get a LOT of people asking me for advice about how to bring it up to their partner. You see the same here as it is a very common problem. But what I get in increasing numbers are the non-AB PARTNERS (usually wives) contacting me for advice and support. The reason I wrote the book 'Coffee with Rosie' is that I wanted a short book that was an introduction to AB that was still pro-partner and not simply saying 'go and diaper him!'. It was intended as the opening conversation starter about a topic no one wants to talk about. Three times in the last month I have had wives at the end of their tether over their AB partners. They still love him and still want the marriage to succeed and in many cases these marriages are 25, 35 or even 45 years long. But AB has become more of an irritant and is now an active threat to both of them. They want a solution... but don't know what it is. I feel very sorry for them as I've been along that road as well. What I am finding out is that so often, the issues are largely the same, the frustrations the same and the advice is still a variation on a theme. The one thing that partners are generally NOT aware of is that by letting a strongly regressive AB partner indulge in it, they may in fact end up getting a MUCH BETTER partner as a result. As many of you will testify, holding back a strong AB drive is a nightmare and leads to anger, frustration, loneliness and distraction. I certainly saw that. Once I let my husband be a baby again, I saw truly dramatic improvements that made it a win-win situation for us both. One psychiatrist some years ago told the parent of a teen baby this simple advice: "Its just a diaper!" It is succinct and a bit of a slap in the face, but still very true. There is a lot more to it of course, but if letting your partner wear diapers - even 24/7 - restored your relationship and improved BOTH of your lives, you would think the decision would be easy, right? It isn't and never will be. But it still makes good sense. The fail point for some relationships is when either partner puts their own preferences and opinions about that of their partner to the exclusion of all else. This works both way. An intolerant and unbending partner is just as bad as the inconsiderate AB. I try to help some find a middle ground but sadly, I find some just aren't willing to work hard enough to make it work and reap the rewards. I don't speak from the cheap seats but I see some who value their relationships less than they do their own preferences and prejudices. But when it works.... it is a glorious thing. I hope most of you have it working properly for you at home.

I'm a fan of real books myself, but the bible on my phone has the advantage that it is always with me. When I need to look something up or check a passage or pursue a thought, my phone bible is always there. I use a real bible for personal devotions and used to in church but now with low light levels and (ugh) poorer eyesight, I find the back lit phone preferable and easier to use.

'plastic' is a fairly generic term covering vinyl and anything remotely similar.

Even now, some people call their waterproof pants as 'rubber pants'. Here in australia, they are called 'pilchers' and I still use that term here. I think it is what you are used to and the actual material is less important.

I'm not that critical of paraphases. But it is important to note that Jesus' words are translated from the original into another language so they technically aren't His words either and most good paraphases dont alter what He says to any degree. But good to discuss things like the Word of God.

I'm glad you enjoyed it. We tend to publish mostly from AB men or partners of AB men so it was a refreshing insight into women. Melinda is the most regressive AB I know of.

I have found myself over the years that babying an adult can be both a chore (and a messy one) but just like with a real baby, it can also be an act of exquisite intimacy. Melinda McMahon wrote an article on the topic that I would like to share with you all and I hope you like it and it leads to some meaningful conversions. https://abdiscover.files.wordpress.com/2020/06/babying-as-an-act-of-intimacy.pdf…

I mostly agree with you. I use a NKJV and ESB as my main bibles, but also have an NIV. These are mainly stylistic considerations as I enjoy the majestic tone of the NKJV. I wouldnt say that paraphases are not 'real bibles' but I do think that sometimes they can leave the meaning a little strained or diluted. I've never understood the KJV-only movement. That sounds like just another conspiracy theory by people susceptible to them. I engaged with a number of them online at one stage and discovered one interesting fact - MOST of them dont actually go to church. So their claims become even less credible by virtue of their (non) actions.

Yes, I often wonder at the design of adult diapers. I remember getting MOlicares that were so low in the front that i made me think that their idea of men were those with penises <2". Also, based on complaints from my baby, why is it that side-panels are not incorporated? The only reason that a side-sleeping bedwetter doesnt leak is if the middle section is thicke enough and absorbent enough to handle the initial flow. Can you imagine a different adult diaper where the front panel was padded all the way to the edges? Prob too expensive, but still a worthwhile idea.

That is a wonderful story and while COVID19 sucks terribly there have been various stories similar to this. IN a recent email newsletter, we quoted this story: “I was very afraid of how being stuck at home in an enforced lockdown would work. I wear diapers quite a lot and my wife is okay with it but… there was a problem. With rare exception, I wore them when she was not around. If she was out of the house, I would wear. When I went to work, I would wear but take them off before I got home. It was a ritual we had that worked. I got my diaper-wearing and she didn’t get angry with me and it worked brilliantly - until the lockdown. We were both going to be home 24/7 and the thought of not wearing diapers for weeks or even months made me frustrated and apprehensive. On the second week, my wife suggested that I just wear them even though she was around. Her ‘not in front of me’ rule was years old and it worked and so we were loathe to alter it. But the world had changed. So, I wore a diaper around her under my clothes. She didn’t care at all. Then she suggested that there was no point in hiding since we were locked down together and so for the first time, she saw me in a diaper and… complimented me! I was shocked and so was she. Somewhere, over the past few years of mutual respect of boundaries she had subconsciously decided that diapers weren’t really a problem after all. I wore openly, including wetting in them around her. Then she suggested that I wear to bed if I wanted to. I was ecstatic and since then, have worn many nights but not most. We are still both finding our way but the enforced closeness has led us to discover that we care for each other far more than we thought. We also both discovered that diapers were not the big deal both of us thought. I wear diapers. She approves. It’s a miracle!”

Reading some of your comments, I wonder sometimes if some medical diaper manufacturers have any idea what they are doing. We have found that much of the time their products are ill-fitting, leaky and low capacity while ABDL diapers are the opposite. I also suspect that the -non-ABDL diapers that are top quality like Northshore are designed with the ABDL in mind, understanding that non-medical wearers want performance capacity and protection. I do wonder what manufacturers are thinking with their products as they range from the simply terrible to the remarkably good. But if you are a heavy wetter and side sleeper, NOTHING beats a pinned cloth nappy and plastic pants. also, I personally think they look very babyish as well - if that is the desired efffect.

Speaking as a publisher of pro-bedwetting books, I am constantly amazed by the level of interest in bedwetting. Publicly, people are averse to the idea and then privately read and enoy these books, buy the wet bed pic sets and more. Bedwetting has historically carried a greater shame than child abuse and I suspect that it still does.

Well, you would be the FIRST person who claims to read the 1611 version who actually does. everyone else actually reads the revised version of 150 years later. But, I still dont see the point in struggling to read a Bible that is NOT written in English that is even remotely easy to read. And it is NOT easily readable and unless you know what the words really mean you can actually get the wrong meaning eg 1 Cor 13... is that a chapter on 'generosity'? exactly. The point of the Word of God is to be 'taken internally' and if you cannot easily read it or read it at all, the value is lost. The entire purpose of Bible translations is to make it accessible to the common man. Ironically, that was the purpose of the KJV so that people could read it in their own language instead of Latin. But 'common tongue' is a moving target.

actually, I am betting that you DONT use the 1611 version at all but one of the revisions of the KJV. The 1611 version is unreadable to current english speakers

You sound like you are not stressing about it but simply seeking info on how to enjoy it more r simple to understand it more. I get that and it is refreshing not to hear a woman threatening divorce or worse because their husband/partner wear diapers. As pointed out, there are a lot of books on our site www.abdiscovery.com.au that may help from guides on how to enjoy it more as well as quite a number of books exploring the psychology of regression and adult babies. Don't be afraid of being a normie as I am the same. Just always remember that normal is what you are and others or not. In the end, it is just a diaper and not the massive grief that some attach to it.

Ive noticed a very big difference between 'adult sleep' and 'baby sleep'. if my adult hubby has a sleep durig the day, it usually makes night time a bit shorter or more restless. But if he took as long as a 3 hour baby nap where he is fully infantile, it seems to make no difference at all. It is almost as if the baby slept alone and the adult did not. Fanciful of course, but the fact reamins just the same. Baby naps dont count against night-time sleep while adult naps do.

I am sorry you are in this dilemma with seemingly no realistic option but let me start with an admonishment that you did a really dumb thing. Texting and playing the way you did is a form of cheating and your wife has a reason to be angry with you. You screwed up big time. I understand why, but that doesnt justify it. At the very least you need to sincerely apologise to her for your bad judgement. And really, do you think that a text conversation is a reason to consider leaving your wife? That is dumb and again, I know why you are feeling the way you are. Now that the lecture is over, let's look at a solution. First: Apologise for your silliness and accept that you did wrong. Yes, it is unilateral, but that's how genuine repentance works. An honest and open apology. Two: you need a deep and honest conversation with your wife about the realities of the situation. Get her some books, find some online reliable resources and explain to her the one difficult fact that ABDL IS PART OF WHO PEOPLE ARE. It is not something that can be removed and if it is a strong drive, it cannot be ignored and not acted upon. Now this might be red rag to a bull so you need to take is slowly and AFTER you apologised for your idiotic behaviour. We ALL know why you did it - trying to find some outlet for this insatiable ABDL need through an inappropriate action. Whatever you do, dont try and justify your actions. Just hope that she works it out on her own. I have emailed a number of wives in your situation and often been frustrated by the inflexibiliity and the readyness to kill a relationship over a unusual but trivial issue like wearing diapers. Yes, it is odd and a bit embarrassing but having experienced a mammoth change in my own hubby after allowing his baby side to be expressed, I try to tell them about the solution that is staring them in the face. But some do actually see the sense of compromising over diaper wearing for the sake of not only saving a relationship but massively improving it. But other don't and I question their motives. So, start with a genuine apology but dont promise what you cant deliver. We all know that you CANT 'give up ABDL'. It is no different to the flawed idea of 'gay conversion therapy'. You cant alter a person's basic identity. If they are gay, they are always gay. If they are trans, they are always so and have always been so. And ABDL folk have ALWAYS been ABDL. If she will email me, I will answer her.

If you are looking for truth then what you 'believe' is immaterial. There are people that earnestly and genuinely believe the earth is flat. Doesnt make them correct. The truth is found in the biblical truth that 'those that seek God genuinely and earnestly, find Him'

Well adult diapers already outsell baby diapers in Japan and are almost at that point in North America and not far behind in Europe. They area not a 'miniscule' market at all. I suspect the acceptanc of adult diapers is part of the reason but maybe the biggest reason is that they are available at all. When they didnt exist, how you felt about them was immaterial but now that in many countries they are bought in supermarkets, everything is changing.

Maybe you could spend that time recognising that the reason that you dont fit in is that the entire world has moved on and you have not. You are incredibly narrow-minded and dont seem to have learned anything in the last 40 years. You are argumentative over minutia and unable to accept divergent opinions, never mind facts. You are arrogant and absolutely without any good reason for it. Frankly, how dare you deign to define what is and isn't intimacy. Everybody else on planet earth has long ago realised that intimacy is defined by the couple themselves not some out-of-touch moral arbiter stuck in a bygone era.

You've heard of the 21st century right? You might want to see how things have CHANGED since then. In your psych class in 76 homosexuality was a DISEASE. Thats changed. almost every science has experienced MASSIVE change in the last 50 years. But not you. You are still stuck in 1947 thinking nothing has changed. What constitutes intimacy is largely PERSONAL not something you can dictate based on your own narrow, inflexible and out-of-date criteria.

Just wrong and terribly out of date. Do you understand ANYTHING that happened since 1947? You seem incapable of accepting or understanding anythingoutside your own very narrow viewpoint.