Exposing others to diapers

[DLmach]

It sounds like she is really interested in you wearing one, and obviously you do too. I say go ahead and wear one, maybe even tell her you kind of like wearing it too. Gauge her reaction to that and if it's positive then roll with it, maybe even expand on it too. If it's negative just blow it off as a joke and remind her she was the one that requested it in the first place.

As much as I wish that were true, I don't get the feeling she would be interested in seeing me wear one. She already has the pic, that already satisfied her curiosity. I think she just enjoys bringing it up to mess with me. Her bringing it up so often though is what gets my mind going though. I think I will try to get the relationship really comfortable while still maintaining the jokes, then when the time is right I'll try something.

[tommyp]

As much as I wish that were true, I don't get the feeling she would be interested in seeing me wear one. She already has the pic, that already satisfied her curiosity. I think she just enjoys bringing it up to mess with me. Her bringing it up so often though is what gets my mind going though. I think I will try to get the relationship really comfortable while still maintaining the jokes, then when the time is right I'll try something.

I don't know if this is something you'd be interested in but if you guys move along with the relationship and you two are back at your place and she brings the diapers up again, you can say something along the lines that you still have the pack the diaper you wore for a joke came in.

If you go that route and she's even remotely interested about the diapers from there, be sure it's the same kind of diapers and that the "original" pack only has 1 diaper missing (as it was the one you wore for the joke).

[Little BabyDoll Christine]

From the RUFFLES & RIBBONS GIRS' HOME Orientation page: You do not bring it up unless you have solid evidence that the other person would be interested. Otherwise, you have no idea of where it could end up and what it could end up doing to you. Key operative phrases "behind your back" and "Going on dates with Murphy is not an option". Also, how might other AB's behave if they think you have loose lips? I, for one, avoid such people like the plague: I do not need or want the possible complications

[feralfreak]

As much as I wish that were true, I don't get the feeling she would be interested in seeing me wear one. She already has the pic, that already satisfied her curiosity. I think she just enjoys bringing it up to mess with me. Her bringing it up so often though is what gets my mind going though. I think I will try to get the relationship really comfortable while still maintaining the jokes, then when the time is right I'll try something.

be direct, ask her if she is serious about the diaper issue, no more pussyfooting around. if she says yes she is serious find out why she is serious about it, if she wants to see you in one in person i think it would be more than fair to require the same of her first.

[oddlynappied]

I always thought this subject could be summed up in one word: consequences.

[Little BabyDoll Christine]

I always thought this subject could be summed up in one word: consequences.

[Rachel Emily]

+3

HR departments and Recruiters consider Myspace, Facebook ad Twitter "target-rich environments" for data on potential targets. And notice, any pictures of me en pitite fille are from the chin down or I am looking off in another direction (it hides the famous Canadian French-Indian beak, for one thing)

Good to know--I have a similar French Canadian-Indian schnozz (a "schnozz" is one level up from a "beak.")

[oddlynappied]

And that is why we keep ourselves anonymous and private - because we wish to have unhassled, productive lives and live out our kinks, fetishes and 'whatevers' in private where they belong.

[Little BabyDoll Christine]

Good to know--I have a similar French Canadian-Indian schnozz (a "schnozz" is one level up from a "beak.")

[Nat]

I always thought this subject could be summed up in one word: consequences.

[Baby Brian]

I always thought this subject could be summed up in one word: consequences.

[Elfy]

Oh darn, I was late to the bi-weekly "I want to tell parents/family/friends/kids/everyone I know/news I'm ABDL, please everyone come and justify my poor life choices" thread.

[Baby Brian]

Oh darn, I was late to the bi-weekly "I want to tell parents/family/friends/kids/everyone I know/news I'm ABDL, please everyone come and justify my poor life choices" thread.

[BabyJune]

I dont force my kink on others. Thats a lame thing to do. I'm probably the minority here.

I agree with you 100%. What I do in private is exactly that: PRIVATE. People wouldn't accept it, and I have no desire to share it. I work closely with young children and wouldn't want to risk being denied that opportunity simply because I have a socially unacceptable interest. Some things are meant to be kept as deep, dark secrets. This is one of those things.

[Little BabyDoll Christine]

BTW: I wonder if the title of this thread was not a Freudian slip (which is what I always thought you wore if you went to therapy DtaG)

[Elfy]

It does seem to be almost bi-weekly doesn't it? I suppose this is just yet another case where it really was better to tell their significant other than to continue to hide who they are from that person. That makes what, 10 in a row?

[DLmach]

What is your point? I never said I want to expose my interests to the world. I simply enjoy testing the waters and experiencing the reactions of others, specifically people I'm sexually active with and only in my own home. Whether it is stricly for my own selfish sexual pleasure or because I care about the person and want to them to understand my desires- it doesn't matter. I made the thread to hear other people's stories and experiences/ideas.

[BriGuy]

I always thought this subject could be summed up in one word: consequences. I read of the people who openly wear diapers and baby clothes in public and flaunt it to all. I strongly suspect they do not have professional careers (or jobs at all), never mind semi-public personas. It feels a bit to me like the younger generation putting up nude or pornographic photos or other inappropriate material and who then will be regretting it ALL THEIR LIFE as it follows them around and limits their options. I already have a professional career which could be easily damaged by such public displays. I may at some stage want to pursue high govt position or even elected office. Do you think photos of me in my baby dress and dummy cavorting in a Subway is going to do anything besides totally destroy that?

The self-absorption and blind ignorance of the consequences of doing this in public is astonishing. Yes, it is unfair and I too wish I could be who I am openly. But I cant. And it will probably never change. I might someday get caught wearing a diaper under my suit while doing a presentation or in the lab. But no one is ever going to ask why because it is a clearly personal issue. But wear baby clothes in the local park? I'd possibly lose my job (for other reasons of course!) or worse

This whole question can really be summed up as CONSEQUENCES. But if some father punches you in the face for dressing like that in front of his kids or your photo is splashed across the media then whose fault is it? YOURS

KEEP IT PRIVATE

I have a professional job that's community based so I'm in the public daily. Part of two local chambers as well. Careful with generalities, because generally they're wrong. I still refuse to be a closet case.

After years of doing what Ive done I've never encountered physical negativity either. Never been threatened or physically accosted.

[Lee B]

So let me share what I've experienced recently. I just started using this dating site and this girl messaged me. We started talking for awhile and then she mentioned diapers at some point during the conversation. I told her that I once wore a diaper as a joke, not sure why I told her this..I guess I wanted to test her reaction. She thought it was funny, and asked me if I had a pic of it. I told her I did, and I sent her a pic I happened to have. She thought it was funny, and has been non stop bringing it up. So tonight I met her for a date, first thing she says is "have your diapers on tonight?". As we had a few drinks, she brought it up maybe 5 more times. Its become our inside joke. I joked with the idea about her wearing one, and she abviously refused jokingly. Now my question is, what do I do? She seems like someone I'd actually like to date. But now I have this guilt, yet excitement build up. Part of me wants to explain it to her eventually, but part of me wants to break the diapers out, in a joking way, when she's over my house, and see what happens. Now I don't feel like I'm using her, but I feel like it would be a waste to not bring it up as we have already broke the ice on the subject. Thoughts?

Sounds like to me she wants to see or get you in diapers.

[sunwutian]

But if some father punches you in the face for dressing like that in front of his kids or your photo is splashed across the media then whose fault is it?

[rosalie.bent]

This topic certainly does come up often and perhaps the underlying reason is because we all hate the idea of hiding something that is more than just a kink but something that powerfully identifies who we are.

[Rachel Emily]

This topic certainly does come up often and perhaps the underlying reason is because we all hate the idea of hiding something that is more than just a kink but something that powerfully identifies who we are.

[Little BabyDoll Christine]

As I have said elsewhere, the condition by which we created a tolerant and peaceable society was "keep your kink at home": and "keep your sex out of the public square". The presumption was accepted that "everybody has their own kink" and "everybody has sex". It becomes an imposition if you put it in peoples" faces and is a mark of being self-absorbed and unable to control yourself. The public square is shared space so you are NOT on "your own time" and, if you are "getting your jollies" surruptitiously, you are wilfully partaking of a distraction whinc is discourteous to persons with whom you are interacting, and therefore disrespectful and demeaning to those persons. Between 47 and 43 years ago, this was stated openly and specifically and the rule was "use good judgement: If it 'scares the horses' do not do it"

Now, if you want to introduce someone to it. You need a reason to think they would think it is all right. Then bring it up in a neutral way that flows from what you are doing. Shock degrades a system

[rosalie.bent]

As I have said elsewhere, the condition by which we created a tolerant and peaceable society was "keep your kink at home": and "keep your sex out of the public square". The presumption was accepted that "everybody has their own kink" and "everybody has sex". It becomes an imposition if you put it in peoples" faces and is a mark of being self-absorbed and unable to control yourself. The public square is shared space so you are NOT on "your own time" and, if you are "getting your jollies" surruptitiously, you are wilfully partaking of a distraction whinc is discourteous to persons with whom you are interacting, and therefore disrespectful and demeaning to those persons. Between 47 and 43 years ago, this was stated openly and specifically and the rule was "use good judgement: If it 'scares the horses' do not do it"

Now, if you want to introduce someone to it. You need a reason to think they would think it is all right. Then bring it up in a neutral way that flows from what you are doing. Shock degrades a system

very well said.

[rosalie.bent]

Every once in a while, I consider going out with my pacifier (haven't done it yet, I should stress) since outside the confines of home is where I really need it (a lot of noise and crowds, both of which make me anxious). Would that also be forcing my kink on others, though?

Thats about as tame a display as you could get. But if you were in the presence of a parent trying to get their toddler to stop using a pacifier, do you think you are helping? And perhaps you should ask yourself WHY you would use your pacifier in public? Other than "I want to" what genuine reasons exist?